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TTC after recent mc - Thread 2

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woody17 · 08/10/2012 08:28

Hi everyone - I've started the new thread as our original one is nearly full.

I really hope that this is the one where we all get our BFPs and don't have to experience any more heartache.

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BrieMonster · 04/11/2012 10:48

Thanks Lemonlime! Obviously I don't wish the experience on anyone.. but so nice to share and see how many people are in the same boat. Especially with regard to 'what not to say'! Even before it happened to me common sense meant I'd never try to belittle someone else's pain, which is what so many of those responses does.
I got over caring about that though and am being positive now!

BrieMonster · 04/11/2012 10:52

Oh the irony.. as soon as I posted that I thought positive.. "positive positive positive" what movie is that from? And a minute later I realised. It was the annoying sister on Knocked Up!

Does anyone else have a clue what I'm on about?

messtins · 04/11/2012 14:16

Nope, not a clue, but Brie you are v welcome anyway. I MC in September too, and would have been 16 weeks now. From last time I MC I know that I was hyper aware of what stage I would have been at until my EDD, it got a little easier after that.
Hope some of this positivity results in some more positive tests very soon.

BrieMonster · 04/11/2012 19:37

Thanks messtins.. So would be April for you then? Really hope by then you are well into a healthy happy pregnancy!

AWomanCalledHorse · 05/11/2012 07:38

Hi Kittybump & BrieMonster.
Good luck Betty!

Hope everyone had a great weekend?

KittyBump · 05/11/2012 13:08

Hello brie messtins lol and womancalledhorse not sure how to abbrev that! Hope all is good with everyone, I'm feeling a bit sad today - but trying to rationalise it as a hormone crash which would be a good thing! Positive positive positive :)

messtins · 05/11/2012 13:27

Kittybump it's ok to be sad. I think it's healthier to give in to feeling sad and process the emotions a bit rather than bottling it up. I'm sure we are all still having good days and bad days along the way. This is one place you don't need to pretend to be positive if that's not how you are feeling.

HannahJayne · 05/11/2012 15:06

Hello! Can I reserve a place for when all this is over? I miscarried on Saturday/Sunday at 5+5 so really very early. Guess we'll start trying again as soon as the bleeding's over. Was referred to the EPU this morning as GP wasn't sure whether it was threatened or actual, and have to go back on Wednesday to make sure the hcg levels are going down.

I just wanted to say thanks, as well. I was on holiday when the mc started, and threads like this one stopped me going into meltdown mode, got me through the flight, and got me home. So thank you. A lot xx

KittyBump · 05/11/2012 15:14

Hi hannah sorry for your loss - must have been crap being away from home :(
messtins thanks for your message - I'm at work so don't want to be upset here - only my manager knows which is exactly the way I want it. Will allow myself to be sad at home, I probably have been bottling up so far :(

HannahJayne · 05/11/2012 15:30

Kittybump the only useful advice my mum has given me is to talk about it. She had a mc before my brother was born 18 years ago and she bottled it up and has never really talked about it. Take care of yourself.

Yep, being away from home with no sanitary protection and no shops to buy anything wasn't best pleasant!

BraveLilBear · 05/11/2012 15:37

Hi everyone I'm so humbled reading back over this thread - everyone seems so contained despite all the craziness.

I had an early mc/cp at 5+2. Ironically on Oct 15th, which I later learned was international babyloss awareness day. First pregnancy. Never expected it - who does? Huge shock!

We're now TTC again, and I think I'm looking forward to POAS on Nov 18.

So hi to all the Kittys, James's, monsters, animals and tins... and everyone else. Happy hand-holding!

AWomanCalledHorse · 05/11/2012 16:32

Kittybump, just let it all out, even if it's only on here & not in RL, I've been having a cry most nights this week, doesn't help that everything we're watching in the evening has featured a pregnant woman of some sorts!!

Welcome HannahJayne (I mc a few weeks ago, bled for 10 days so hope you've not got long left) & Brave, fingers crossed for your bfp on the 18th!

BraveLilBear · 05/11/2012 16:43

Thanks for the welcome horse...

Sorry you're having a weepy week Sad

I made the mortal error of watching Toy Story 3 again last night. My poor OH's t-shirt was soaking wet by the end. Which he found hilarious Blush

Clairey2012 · 05/11/2012 17:57

Hi Hannah and bravelilbear soooo sorry for your loss its sooo pants!!!!, I mc over a week ago and still feel rubbish, frustrated and jst wana cry 24/7. this is the best place to let it all out cos atleast everyone understands. I do keep wondering when am I actualy feel happy again cos i really hate feeling depressed, atleast the bleeding has stopped. Gona try and persuade the hubby to ttc every night just to put a smile on my face, dnt rekon he'l go for it though.lol xx

Clairey2012 · 05/11/2012 19:25

Oh can I just ask, has any1 else experienced really sore boobs, mine are killing me and the lower part of my back was really aching last night, its like pregnancy symptoms all over again!

EchoAlone · 05/11/2012 21:04

Hello! I am TTC after MC in August- had 2 WTF cycles since. The past few days I feel definite twinges/ cramps on lower right side, so I really want to think this is a good sign (although I think sore boobs and lower back pain are a REALLY good sign, Clairey) but fear that maybe it may be something else- I got sick of going to the EPU to have HCG tested, and just stopped going, without having a final scan to confirm all RPOC had gone. Do you think that it is better to think positively and visualise happy outcomes, or less stressful not to build up hopes? My hopes are high, but fear my chances are low...

Clairey2012 · 05/11/2012 21:16

It's prob jst my hormones like still in my system afta mc Bt keep hoping docs made a mistake n I dreamt th whole mc. High hopes for u echo, u never know what mote b around th corner. Xxx

KittyBump · 05/11/2012 22:53

Hi echo and clairey - when are you testing echo ? fingers crossed for you x
clairey no sore boobs or back here but I didn't have them when I was pg either so I'm not much help :)
I'm interested in you all having HCG tests, I've not had one - do you have them if they aren't sure if you are miscarrying or not? I've now been miscarrying for 3 weeks and 2 days! No wonder I am knackered - Surely I will just run out of blood soon?

Clairey2012 · 06/11/2012 08:39

Hey kittybump. Yeh I had an hgc test as soon as I went to hospital n then had to go bak 24hrs later n my hormone had dropped to 900. Im suprised they didnt do one.im wondering wen to test again to get a negative results so I know th hgc is out my system n I can start again. My last test was last mon.xxx

EchoAlone · 06/11/2012 09:22

Yes, same as Clairey- I had the hcg tested while I was in EPU, bleeding heavily- it is a blood test- then I had to go back 24 hours later, (big drop in hcg levels confirmed MC), then go back again 1 week later, then was supposed to go again one week later, but was fed up of sitting waiting with all the happy bumps, so I bought the most expensive HPT I could and tested myself till "not pregnant" :(

Like Kitty, I also bled for around 3 weeks- literally draining your energy

Then I did a sneaky thing- my DH was scared of all the bleeding, and said not to TTC for a while, but he noticed all the time I have reading things on the Internet, so I told him that I read that I would be LESS fertile after an MC, as all my hormones were washed out, so we have not been "using protection" and DTD EOD when the ovulation calender on MN indicated that I was ov, eleven days ago. So I have a couple cheapo HPT calling out to be christened...

messtins · 06/11/2012 09:50

Hi Hannah, Lilbear, Echo and Clairey. Getting busy on the thread! It's so pants that there are so many of us in the same boat, but at the same time nice to have some company. Hope you all get a BFP that sticks very soon.

BraveLilBear · 06/11/2012 10:19

Hello Hannah, Echo and Clairey (nice name Wink) sorry you're here too... Clairey sounds like there may be hormones still running around doing crazy things. Fx you get a BFN soon so you're back to day one, as it were.

KittyBump · 06/11/2012 11:04

Hiya bear sorry I think I missed you before :) very sneaky echo my DH really wants to ttc ASAP and I'm not sure, well I really want to but a bit scared that rushing will mean another mc :( I know there is no evidence for this. Also I've convinced myself I have a thyroid problem as I'm constantly freezing, tired and clumsy - but this is probably due to the mc

Lolcbcblemonlime · 06/11/2012 12:35

Oh god I feel like I'm living in a nightmare at the moment Sad.
One of my best friends (only 24) had been with her boyfriend for just a year when he suddenly dumped her last week. Then yesterday we found out she is 5 weeks pregnant despite being on the pill (doc told her those fuckers are only 92%effective?!)
So now I have to be a good friend to her and support her through a termination. She keeps apologising to me and saying sorry and I'm really worried about her. But my own heart is in pieces with the unfairness of it all.
Sorry it's a selfish post. Feel crap!

BraveLilBear · 06/11/2012 12:40

God lol what a nightmare Sad

Sorry for your situation. I can't honestly think of much worse when you feel like you're fighting mother nature and she's loving someone else who doesn't want it.

Thinking of you Thanks