TTC after recent mc - Thread 2

[woody17]

Hi everyone - I've started the new thread as our original one is nearly full.

I really hope that this is the one where we all get our BFPs and don't have to experience any more heartache.

lol that's excellent value [hgrin] I ran out of opk sticks and cbf travelling 40 odd miles to get them am not paying 20 quid for 5!!!!

lol the opk says ovulation happens 24 to 36 hours after you've seen the . I read and re-read that bit.

Thanks Suzy will keep at it till Sunday then [hwink]. What happens if you get more than 1 day of ?

babyjames since I love to poas I keep doing it from the moment I got my smiley --- just out of curiosity to see how long it lasted. The smiley lasted about 24 hours, which I suppose showed when the LH surge was happening. I think i ovulated soon after that.

Last week I tested in the afternoon and got a smiley and there was no smiley the next day. worth looking at the colored line on the test - the darker the better.

However I'm not pregnant yet so no expert yet.

The line was dark when got the Smiley this morning. I got pregnant last 2 cycles using it but lost both

Room for another?
In the middle of mc (7wks pg) & looking forward to getting back to trying for DC2. Have a DS, 10 months & we've been trying for #2 since Feb, 'glad' that this mc has confirmed I can get pg (had been busy googling secondary infertility).

Have got internet cheapy pg & opk's on the way.

Sorry to see you on here horse after seeing you on November bus

Morning all! Finally a day off...

Hi horse, sorry you've had to join us x

Anyone know what time it is?

Am feeling a bit pants at the moment ladies. I was so excited when flipping AF showed, but now I wish I hadn't bought those CB ov sticks. When I started using them on what I think was cd10 the test line was fainter than the control line, but not much...they got progressively fainter and now cd15 they're hardly showing. Does that mean I could have ovulated before I even started testing? In which case I totally missed the boat. Or of course I could have not ovulated yet and am sulking for no reason. Am already panicking about having another 3-month wtf cycle..am so quick to think the worst

Anyway. Have decided to try and inject a bit of romance back into the babymaking proceedings, have booked a very swanky room at a hotel on Tues night (random but we're both off that night) so taking him to see James Bond, dinner, then surprising him with hotel and raunchy knickers! Who knows if there'll be any eggs knocking about to fertilize, but at least it'll be a change of scenery. Doing the baby jig is not all that romantic when your bedroom's got knickers drying on the radiators and the dog pops in to watch halfway through!

I've lost track of who's where, anyone waiting to POAS at the moment?

Hello Horse sorry you are joining us but you are most welcome!

Yorkshire at your night away. Enjoy!

I had a day yesterday - went on a church away day and ended up totally dumping on one of the women there, turned out she had 2 MC back in the day. Spent a while in floods of tears, but maybe it was a good thing. I feel like I got over it all much quicker this time round but have just got stuck feeling really flat, grumpy with everything and very unsure about what comes next and whether I even want to be TTC (though we are, or at least not preventing). Maybe a good bawl will let me move on a bit?

Oh mess I hope u feel better today.
Has anyone seen woody since her bfp?!
I'm feeling ok. Had a good weekend laden with alcohol and have a busy week ahead of me. Still ages until ov time

Hi ladies. I am almost ready to come back and join you. [hgrin]
I had the erpc last week, so back to square one again. We have been advised to wait a month until we can start to try again, am wondering how many people actually do this though?!
Trying to keep busy in the meantime, and booking in lots of fun things to do.
I just feel quite impatient to start again. Not that I am not upset about the mc, or that I feel it not important, I just feel like I want to make the most of this supposedly extra fertile time! Is that crazy?
Anyone got any ideas on how to make the time between now and starting to TTC again pass? It's gonna drive me nuts, all this waiting!!!

Thanks for the welcome Yorkshire & messtins!

messtins, sorry you had a :( day, but talking about it all sounds like a good thiing.

Yorkshire, I don't ovulate until day 19 the earliest so you could just be testing at completely the wrong time?
Sounds like a lovely evening you've planned! Don't know why you'd want to remove a panting dog from the atmosphere of the baby jig (we've got house rabbits & I always make sure they can't see us...would hate for them to get ideas).

lol, sounds like you had a good weekend!

IBelieve, I've not had a erpc, but we're hoping to get back down to business when the bleeding stops, like you it feels like a waste of time waiting.
I guess if you're really not wanting to do it this month, you could spend the month doing whatever turns you both on (relaxing the ttc atmosphere?).

Hope everyone has a good week!

Horse, we have a dog and two cats, and they are all dirty peeping Toms! Have lost count of the amount of times have had a romantic encounter spoilt by looking up to find we're being eyeballed by an unimpressed animal...

Had another go with those ov sticks today, I'm not sure but I think I might have got a positive. It looks about the same colour as the control line. Who knows? Going to be dtd anyway tomorrow so fingers crossed I'm right!

messtins a good crying session is always useful I think! I'm not sure I've felt quite like you have in that I'm rabid about trying again and always have been, but I can understand the flat 'meh' feeling where everything seems a bit pointless, particularly when AF was refusing to show! Hope you're feeling better soon x

lol boozy weekend sounds lovely! I also overindulged and paid the price yesterday morning. Ouch.

Ibelieve waiting sucks! Wish I knew how to make it go faster, I can tell you with certainty that thumb-twiddling doesn't help...

I have such horrible heartburn today. Wish it were a symptom of something exciting but unless you get heartburn with ovulation, I think it's just a leftover from my weekend on the wine! Time to break out the Gaviscon...

Hello all,
welcome Horse and welcome back Ibelieve.
Messtins sorry you had a down day. I also have very up and down days.

I had a night out on Saturday to Comedy club and a hotel with DH. Also drank a bit much letting of steam I think for the 2 MC last cycles. Was a good night but also hard as my friend is 9 weeks pregnant about where I should be :(
Enjoy your night out tomorrow Peanut sounds great.
I'm just starting the dreaded 2 week wait. Anyone else similar?

Assuming all goes well and I haven't been misled by the sticks, I'm tentatively thinking that I'll be starting the 2ww later this week baby, so might join you for a POAS date! My friend had a baby today, the second friend to give birth in a week, so am feeling a bit put out. Fx the hotel does the trick tomorrow...

horse really sorry you are here.

suzy thanks for the post about your recurrent mc appointment. I had a similar appointment but only saw one of the juniors. He didn't have much of a clue, just wanted to sign me up to the promise trial. They give progesterone supplements during early pregnancy. I asked him for more details but he didn't know the details.

Dh and I have had the blood tests for genetic screening. He said he thought they would come back ok as we have a dd together.

Hi, I thought I might join this thread, I was part of the bfp in 2012 thread, then the June 2013 antenatal thread, now back to square one after mc yesterday. I feel pretty low right now, need a bit of hope. We will try again but it all feels risky and worrying right now. I don't even know when cd1 will be, right now I'm still bleeding from the mc, although it's probably tailing off now.

James so sorry to hear about your mc yesterday :( We all understand what you are going through. It's early days yet so go easy on yourself. xx

Horse also sorry you have to join us but welcome!

babyjames I am also in the 2ww - 5dop - here we go again! (sigh)
xxx

Hi James so sorry to hear about your MC. You are very welcome as soon as you are ready to get back in the bus queue.

Peanut have a good night out!

Hi james I'm so very sorry.

Hiya James. I am right there with you, in the scary upsetting bit.
Look after yourself, I was doing okay to begin with, then the last few days have really got me down. I don't mean this will happen to you, just take each day as it comes and get someone to give you lots of hugs. X

Good luck to everyone in the 2ww.
Have a wonderful night tonight Yorkshire!

JamesandGiant, I'm sorry you're having such a rough time of it.

I should be going to the EPU tomorrow, I've just poas and it's a BFN (not even a hint of a line), I haven't bled for about 5 hours, should I still bother going in?

Horse, I'm in a similar situation, supposed to be having a scan on Friday initially to check for a heartbeat but now to check for anything remaining. I am still bleeding but I'm pretty sure it's all out so not sure whether to bother going. I hate being messed with at the best of times and I've had to call in favours to get child care etc

Not very well today, woke up with nausea (ironic as I never had any while pg) and the runs, so I can't tell what pain/aching is what. I can't get warm and the kids are fighting constantly. Oh and my tesco delivery just arrived, I carried all the shopping back and forth, then as the fella left I noticed I'd leaked blood all down the back of my jeans, which he probably saw. (groan)

Bit of a selfish moany post, sorry. Thanks for the welcome x

Pink, how far along were you? I was about 7-8 weeks, so it hasn't been too bad considering what some women go through. I feel a bit of a failure and somehow ashamed to tell people (everyone knew I was pg) even though it makes no sense. I messaged one if my closest friends to tell her, she read the message (it notified me) and never replied.

That is awful James. I'm also in a similar situation. Mc at 7 weeks in July and my best friend of over 20 years who has not kids or desire to have any just did not understand what I went through.