Trying to conceive after mc? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Recently graduated from the mosh pit? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake! Part

[Dorita75]

Hi, thought I'd start the new thread. This is a brilliant thread for anyone trying to conceive or who has got a bfp after mc, full of lovely ladies, fab advice and a lovely place to metal, so called because someone said metal instead of mental and the rest is history......

sorry, that was a real rambling mess

aw snork :( Here, and I don't know what to say. I was a total mess after my mmc for a good couple of months so am no good at saying chin up or anything. Time and cuddles will see you through in the end... (sorry, bit lame)

martha and tas thanks for looking out for me :) Have been constantly cramping all day, gave in an hour ago and got some paracetemol cause although it is mild it is doing my head in. Am miserable tbh and DH is being so patient and tells me it is just because of the mc I am making 2+2 add 5.

TMI alert! but tas I am completely bunged up this pg and I have NEVER had constipation in my whole life. I am going to see a dr tomorrow and might ask about something to help and maybe that will ease the cramping? It definitely feels like it is in my womb area but my whole abdo is pretty unhappy atm. I have tried dried apricots, peppermint tea, drinking lots of water, eating loads of fibre. No good! Did you feel crampy in your womble area from it? Am very embarrassed but have to ask!

hope you ok martha chuck x

wilde - lactulose is your friend voice of experience

thanks possom :) where do i get that from please? can I get LOADS and still be ok for pg?!

You can get it from a chemist (maybe in big supermarkets - not sure, we don't have any huge ones here!) - it's def safe to use in pregnancy and you can get it on prescription, so free. It's a softener, rather than laxative. Fabulous stuff

martha you are truly inspiring in the way you've dealt with yesterday, you do sound peaceful and calm and I wish you so much luck for the future xx

you are a complete star, thank you possom. Am going to, ahem, begger off with my minor wafflings now. the paracetemol has killed off the cramping pain so I have stopped mentalling and can do some work.

Martha - have been thinking of you all weekend. Hope you're managing to get some rest.

Snorkmaiden - welcome. You'll be in very safe hands here!

Wilde - get the lactulose. Syrup of figs worked for me too. Constipation must be tackled ASAP. I suffered the consequences after DD's birth and it was not pleasant.

wilde try not to worry about the cramps. I had loads of aches (still get them about once a week) and I was worrying but then I thought I am not going to get through pg without aches and pains

Martha I am nine weeks. I have had three scans already and the midwife/consultants appointments are just starting now.

the midwife service is called caseload midwife and the sound brilliant just like a private midwife but free! I am getting it our to the late mc. it was first offered when a mw came to see me after late mc

martha I'm do glad yesterday is over for you, take each day as it comes

wilde I really hope that you're ok and not metalling too hard, thought and hugs.

AFM well The witch turned up today just when surrounded by pregnant people and babies, dh was so great when I phoned him, but I just do wish it was our turn soon!!

wilde I am very entertained by the thought of my "womble" area , I'm having a good giggle!! Seriously though constipation gave me cramps in "womble" area around 4 wks, so it's probably just that. Lactulose or fibogel should do the trick. That and loads of water.

Polka, hope it is your turn soon!

it will be your turn soon polka x

I know you are right pebs (i hope) but I thought cramps were just aches and pains last time and went to the GP happy as larry and she told me it wasn't right and cramping meant I was probably going to lose the baby. And i did. Cramping is my metal trigger iykwim.

anyway. tomorrow is a new day. sleep well all and thanks for the hand holding today I am so so grateful x

through my tears of grief i am PMSL at tas' 'womble' area

having a shitty evening tonight, not helped by neighbours son shagging his GF for frickin hours tonight followed by some post coital drum and bass his parents must be at the caravan this weekend

do you think i can mitigate diminished responsibility if i go over and rip his face off?

wilde how is your constipation doing tonight then eh?

Can I sneak in please? Had a mc in July at 13 weeks- all quite traumatic needing blood transfusions etc . But have come out the other side but desperate to get preg again. So hard. AF due tues bit did an early response test this afternoon -bfn. But have really sore boo s which I have only got before when preg. This is 2nd cycle after mc so maybe my body has just changed. Just wish I had seen those 2 pink lines

welcome littlepinkfizz and so sorry for your loss. your experience sounds rather traumatic but glad to see you are looking forward. Hang in there, it could be a little early to be testing, especially if your cycles are still getting back to normal. If it is not to be this month then your time will come - i promise!

In the meantime help yourselves to some delightful chocolate truffles my kind neighbour dropped round with earlier (not the shagging ones!! )

Hi all, I've not been on mn much this week as it's been my first week back at work (teacher) and I've been so exhausted...just been reading through the thread now though to catch up. I can't namecheck everyone as there are so many stories, but I wanted to say that martha I'm so very sorry to hear about your little boy and I hope the tests give you the answers you need.

I'm glad so many pregnancies seem to be toddling along nicely (pebs, state and backward). I have no idea if mine is or not, as I'm 8 weeks exactly today and although I still feel pregnant, I did last time when I had the mmc. Two more weeks until my next scan, which seems an eternity away right now.

Oh and wilde, yes yes to lactulose! I also found prune juice to be a big help

martha thank you do much for the welcome. Have only now just read through the posts and realised what you have been through- puts my episode I to perspective. You are so brave coming on here and offering genuine wordsd of kindness to everyone. < hugs> wrap yourself in love and take every second minute and hour as it comes.
You ladies seem a great bunch Am glad I've joined

This is a great thread littlepinkfizz - it's a really good source of support. I hope you get your bfp soon - I know the wait to be pregnant again after mc is horrible.

Martha give me your address and I will go round there and belly slap the little shag machine for you. So good to hear you and DH have found some peace from the horror of this week - this is an outstanding outcome from such a shit heap of an experience. I always find some comfort from still being in the game - it is in the giving up where I always thought I would begin to loose it though of course we are all different. For you to be thinking along these lines shows such strength. Still wish I could cuddle you though - could do it just before I bitch slap your neighbors. I also had scans every 2 weeks and could request additional ones whenever I wanted (Actually had them weekly for a wee bit). Quite frankly this is the least you should get. I've also had them every 3-4 weeks in the last trimester too to monitor the placenta function. The midwife service Pebs gets sounds amazing and I have also heard of this in other places so should be widely available. Not sure what tests you and DH have had already re chromosomes but hope you can find some answers or at least some more peace.

Lurcher sounds like the dog weeks are dragging for you - hang in there.

welcome Littlepinkfizz listen to Martha for she is wise. Don't test yet and have a truffle.

Wilde Hope the cramps pass. I am also a big fan of the fybrogel and lactulose although I thought I would try a more natural solution today and absent mindedly ate rather too many prunes - I am now fearing the consequences. I was on this very board freaking out about cramps in my first trimester and it was just indeed the normal pregnancy twinges, and a lot of trapped wine . So difficult for us metallers to not see the bogey man in every corner - sometimes of course he is there but sometimes it is just us a metalling. I have no idea where my womble area is anymore. I last saw it about 2 months ago. Jollyb what were the consequences of constipation? I am terrified at that statement as already imagining all sorts of horrible consequences myself before I have even gone into labour.

Polka It will be your turn soon, this thread seems to get us all in the end.

Right I have to go. 33 weeks, baby quiet today - still metalling. Still thinking every time I talk about names or tell DD about her brother I am tempting fate and jinxing myself. Still got bugger all ready but also still thankful that I have got as far as I have. So basically I am still a messed up metaller. Praise the lord for this thread and you lovely ladies. Night all. I lick you.

Martha, lots of love. I'm thinking of you and your DH tonight. So sorry about the fuckwits next door.

Welcome snorks and littlepink. Take a seat. So sorry you have been through what you have.

I've had an odd day. Went shopping for baby things. At nearly 32 weeks, it is overdue. But I found it so very very hard. I didn't enjoy it. I'm so sad and scared. Even now I feel like I'm tempting fate. I was thinking about how excited I was getting ready for DD1. Now I'm just doing it because I'm running of time. I am so desperate that she will be ok, not that interested in buying stuff...can't explain how strange I feel.

midget, can I just come and panic next to you please... Reread the end of you post this morning. I think you understand.

Morning all,

Ladies, can I please join?

So my last MC (at 5 weeks) was at the end of July. So I've had one complete cycle (that came exactly 4 weeks after the MC) and I'm ready to try again.

I know Martha from when our darling DCs were conceived/born! They were born within 2 weeks of each other and Martha and I went through everything together from beginning to end.

Martha, I FBd you last night and you know who I am. I'm so so sorry hun, words can't express the pain you must be feeling.

I'm very very nervous about TTC again. This is my second MC. The first one was before I was PG with DD, literally about 6 weeks before. So again, one cycle then I was PG again with DD. I'm hoping I will be as lucky this time. But at 38 I know things won't be easy.

My PG was a nightmare with DD. High Downs risk (1:59), followed by a failed CVS and then finally a successful Amnio. But then diagnosed with GD at 28 weeks. Induced at 38 weeks because of the GD, horrendous labour (contractions 72 hours with little progress) finally had an Epidural that only numbed half of my body and DD born finally using Ventouse which damaged her eye.

So, hence very nervous about trying again... But I guess at least I can be prepared and expect all the bits that come with it. But MCs are much much harder to overcome and you can never prepare your feelings in advance .

I think we're all very very brave to be doing this.

So, HELLO!!

Hi Martha glad everything went ok, it always feels wrong writing that but I think you know what I mean. Sorry your neighbour is being a pita! Take each day as it comes x

Hello snorkmaiden kat and littlepink sorry you have all found yourselves here

pebs glad it seems they will be keeing a close eye on you

midgetm not long to go know and if your worried at all about littles ones movements ring the hospital, that's what they are for. Even if its just to put your mind at rest for a while xx

I've decided I'm going to ring the mw to see if I can be booked in for. Scan on my cervix, if that doesn't work will ring the private place. I'm driving myself up the wall here metalling.

Just checking in. No more spotting, brown gunk has cleared up. I'm going to ring my midwife today anyway, just to set my mind at ease (if that is possible). I felt somewhat dismissed by the on-call midwife on Saturday.

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