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Dorita75 · 03/09/2012 20:28
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wilderumpus ·
08/09/2012 09:23
thinking of you today martha 
. I haven't had personal expericence of this situation but know someone who has, and would like to gently but firmly echo the other ladies' suggestions of taking a camera. Even if you don't want to know, even if you don't want to then, the MWs can take some pics, have a print of you child's footprint and further down the line, when you are able you might be curious... and can open your memory box and see your baby. In time you might want that, and if you don't just never look in the box. I hope it was ok to say that.
pixie I hope you are ok. Is anything bothering you in particular? has the bleeding stopped for a while now? Hope so!
good luck confused I hope it is just one of those things. hope the MW looks after you ok.
jaffa I know what you mean about liking even the tricky side of being pg. I was up three times in the night to go to the loo and up early this morning as I couldn't sleep because of pg insomnia and couldn't be happier about it. I didn't have this with the baby I miscarried but did with DS so it only reassures me. Is weird when peeps on the AN board are whiny about it (or being pg at all!)
MumTumWanted ·
08/09/2012 09:27
Wilde Ive pg insomnia to And constant all day nausea nothing I do makes it go away but oddly it comforts me with dd I had sickness the entire 9 months with my 3 mcs not a lot at all so like u 
in a weird way 
Dorita75 ·
09/09/2012 09:11
Welcome snorkmaiden you're amongst friends here I'm sorry about your story, let's hope the happy ending comes soon x
Martha I hope you're ok lovely x
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MarthasHarbour ·
09/09/2012 11:06
sorry i cannot name check everyone, will catch up soon however:
welcome snorks (can i call you that? i have nicknamed you already 
) thank you for your thoughts, you are not a stranger on here
confused keeping everything crossed for you, it all sounds promising though
holding wildes hand so tightly i am sooo hoping it is not over yet, keeping everything crossed for you too.
Thank you all for your thoughts, wishes, story sharing and most of all love. Manda i appreciate you sharing your story, i can completely understand how you felt, we also had a change of heart yesterday but not on that issue.
Yesterday went ok, as well as could be expected. The morning was hard as i was in floods of tears constantly. I then looked on bloody FB as i was bored and one of my friends had posted a random pic of her with DS2 when he was born with her 2yo son sitting on the bed with her - i sobbed and sobbed - DH confiscated my phone at that point
The contractions were painful but i got two shots in total of pethidine, the first shot was amazing, i managed about an hour and a half sleep, the second shot didnt really touch the sides however my waters broke around 6pm and by 6.30pm i had delivered. The delivery was actually so calm and peaceful.
Despite the MW's best efforts we decided not to look at him (yes him - we have named him too but i wont share in case of upsetting anyone). Our lovely MW's dressed him and surrounded him with flowers in the 'cold room' they have also taken pictures and are storing them in my notes to keep forever. So if i change my mind in 2 yrs time i can look
I was exhausted afterwards but was home by 11pm. I spent the night in my own bed and have felt no pain since my waters broke. We are both feeling ok and a little bit positive for the future.
So for our change of heart - well, seeing that pic on FB, distressing though it was, created a bit of an epiphany for me and DH. We want to TTC again not yet, but maybe next year, i will be 40 then so we wont take as long over it but we want to give it one last go. I will transfer my care to St Mary's Manchester as they have all the Fetal Specialists there, hopefully i would get immediate and more constant care.
So we are going to sign the forms for the Post Mortem with the bereavement midwife tomorrow, and have consented to all testing. We want to go through it with the consultant to discuss any chromosomal anomalies so that we can make an informed decision about any further TTC.
So it looks like i will be on this thread for a long while yet! I want to come back and give you all the support that you have given me. I will do a full catch up next week but i want you all to know that DH and i are feeling a lot more positive for the future. We may never have any more DCs but at least the door is not firmly closed. Those thoughts kept us calm for the rest of the day and i am convinced helped us through it.
Much love to you all
wilderumpus ·
09/09/2012 11:33
your post is so emotional and beautiful. You sound very peaceful and I hope indeed that is how you do feel. But do be careful over the next few weeks and months and take each day is it comes. As we all know too well, grief sneaks up when you least expect it but we are all here for you! Am so happy you will be around for a while yet and that you will ttc again
MarthasHarbour ·
09/09/2012 14:34
pebs that does sound like excellent care, how far along are you now? i was hoping that we would be given extra care if we get PG again but i wasnt expecting anything like that.
wilde we do indeed feel a bit calmer and peaceful now, poor DS is feeling it though, he doesnt know what is going on but knows that something has upset the applecart this week. He is being rather scrunchy at the moment 
How are you both today wilde and confused ?
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tasmaniandevilchaser ·
09/09/2012 14:54
martha glad that it went smoothly. And glad that you'll be around . I know that guilty feeling of how all these horrible situations affect our living DC. I feel like my poor DD hasn't had the best year either . What has helped for me is having my family look after her for a few days at a time and having them babysit so I could go to counselling. Having time and space to properly grieve all you've lost is really important.
hi to snorks (have taken to Martha's nickname for you!)
wilde how are you today? It's not over yet! Cramps and twinges could be anything, I've been a bit constipated and I was convinced I had an ectopic pg!
confused hope all is well with you
and hi to everyone else!
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