Trying to conceive after mc? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Recently graduated from the mosh pit? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake! Part

[Dorita75]

Hi, thought I'd start the new thread. This is a brilliant thread for anyone trying to conceive or who has got a bfp after mc, full of lovely ladies, fab advice and a lovely place to metal, so called because someone said metal instead of mental and the rest is history......

Sorry dorita x posted. Sorry this isn't your month hope you can enjoy a Monday

dorita it's definitely not my month either - beginning to spot. Roll on November.

buzzy I am feeling a bit better today thanks. I so agree with you about needing to relax and appreciate what I have.

Sorry to hear AF is has hunted you down Jolly & Dorita Fingers crossed next month it's your time.

wilder glad you & DH have reached a decision regarding your friends coming to stay. I'm sure your sensitive & caring approach is the right one.

Also wanted to say thanks for listening to my metalling yesterday - was really struggling & couldn't think positively at all. Today is much better; I've less than 48 hours to my next scan & feeling a lot more in control.

Wilde - everyone has given you great advice. I too would tell them. Some good friends of ours told us - they had had a previous mc and knew I had. I still cried, but in a happy for them (little bit sad for me), she cried too, but it was all fine and I think we felt much closer for it somehow.

I did test this morning, bfn, although I am only day 25. Pretty sure that is me out, I have the hairs on my chin all sprouting which is a sure sign AF is imminent - also I've been crying at the drop of a hat!

So sorry Jolly, but I look forward to celebrating in Nov with you

dorita jolly and mrsh am sorry this doesn't seem to be your months :( seems you have taken a solid, sensible path there buzzy which will result in an ironic bfp asap :)

Thanks ladies. Dh called his friend last night and said about us and how we were worried due to the previous mc's so not even told his mum etc, and that if they didn't want to come up any more we would totally understand. The friend told his wife and texted saying they would think about it and let us know today. So we did absolutely the right thing letting them know now, thank goodness. And it was a very muted conversation with 'tentative congratulations' - as only two couples who have suffered mc's can have, really. No flag waving 'hurrah we are expecting a bundle of joy!' here. But for today, I am pregnant.

Although i did have some spotting at 4.15 am. dark pink again, quite a bit but only the once. Am not freaking out getting bizarrely used to it but do wonder why this has happened at 6+6, 8+6 and now 10+4. is almost exactly every two weeks! could it be cyclical in some way?!

glad you better today cheese :)

you definatley did the right thing wilde glad you dh got it sorted. it would have been awful to tell them when they arrived or tried to keep it a secret and it got out.

not sure whats going on with your spotting. maybe ask the midwife next time you see one.

i had a panic last night - loads of blood. but it was coming from a different place better not have piles !!

thanks pebs. it would have been dreadful, you are right. and they had to know sometime.

hope you are ok with the bleeding pebs. will you go to the GP?

i wasn't going to bother going to gp's. got my scan on friday so i might see what the epu nurse says.

it looked like a lot of blood but maybe thats just because my blood will be thinner than normal with the aspirin and injections.

freaked my out a bit at first until i realised where it came from.

Pebs I had a similar experience when I was 6 months preg with dd. it scared the crap out of me, particularly as I had placenta P. I practically covered the bathroom floor with blood, eurgh! Turned out I had weak veins or something. Hope you're okay.

cheese I'll be thinking of you tomorrow, good luck.

Well done Wilde - it must have been difficult, but at least out in the open.

Just want AF to arrive now so that I can get on with next month...

Thanks ladies, am thinking positively and looking forward to November maybe being the month.....

Had a blood test this morning, to be compared to one I had last week. Have only asked Doc about tests as I was there anyway to see about these stupid menstrual migraines that have begun (though thankfully okay this month, maybe they were blips the last 2) but my 2 close friends in work (with kids) persuaded me to ask about tests too. Not too sure exactly what these blood tests show, that I'm ovulating I think...Doc wasn't going to send me for them as I'd 'been pregnant' within the last year but when I pointed out I'd be 38 in Feb she changed her mind!! Finally being old older gets you somewhere....! DH just got to book his sperm test now....anyone else had tests like this??

Wilde you must be relieved, you've done the right thing and I'm sure your friends would've done exactly the same if the situation was reversed.

Good luck tomorrow cheese x

Dorita, no, but was thinking about popping along to GP to ask about such things... I'd be interested to know what they do or don't tell you!

Good luck tomorrow cheese.

cheese, good luck today.

pebs, sort of hurray for piles. Definitely less scary option, but horrid all the same. I've had some bottom bleeds this time, they went away when my constipation went. Talk to your mw?

wilder, I'm glad it worked out well with your friends. In the long run, it will make your friendship stronger.

Weird just posted on this thread and its gone on the old thread?!

Basically ......

Cheese good luck today

Midget how are u getting on?

Wilde Definately telling your friends is a good move, much better to be totally up front with it all, so tricky though as I know you don't want to jinx anything!

Dorita dh and I had all those tests, it's good as you can see if any things actually wrong or just fecking bad bastard luck! Ov bloods are always done day 21 or thereabouts

AFM dtd marathon session month is off to a slow start, after 4 yrs ttc it's hard to get motivated for fun packed passion sessions!!

thanks everyone. Haven't heard back from friends yet. eek.

Good luck today cheese

glad you are getting tests dorita, it is almost certain you will get updiffed while they are going on

polka good luck dtd :) :) make that baby!

no more bleeding has happened so i will just mention it at hospital on friday jaffa

i am starting to really worry about this weeks scan. i don't really get many pg symptoms so i don't feel pg so i just feel like it could go either way each time i go to a scan.

grrrr.. why can't i have loads of symptoms or mc's that just happen and don't need a scan to tell you it's all gone wrong.

i feel like a ticking timebomb.

Hello everyone, can I join you?

I mc'ed on 1st August at 11 weeks and we're ttc again. I swing wildly from being completely calm and accepting to feeling utterly desperate, and when talking about it with my osteopath yesterday made me cry, I realised it was time to find a support network; I feel quite isolated as whilst people around me have been largely sympathetic about the mc (hardly anyone knew we were pg), they seem to assume it's all behind me.

I'm in the 2WW, though I've no idea when AF is due as my cycle's been up the spout since the mc. Not for at least a week, anyway. I've got really bad lower back pain, which I've only ever had once before - during my pregnancy. The osteopath said she can feel it's connected to my uterus, but whether it's from the mc or whether it's a new pregnancy of course she couldn't say. Yesterday and today I couldn't drink my coffee - but it's quite possibly psychological. (And if I am pg, I'm going to be as scared as I am pleased).

It's so comforting to read your posts, though I'm sorry you've all had to go through this. Can I hang out with you for a while?

was it your first pg morien? lot's of women have one mc and go on to have a normal pg next time.

it is pretty scary times being pg after mc. my local epu allowed me to go for early scans on the next pg to help me get reassurance. would you be able to get something like that?

pebspop I'm with you! Very few, if any symptoms. And I only knew through scan that I'd had a mmc last time - never had bleeding in m/c before.

I'll know in an hour or two whether I have a viable pregnancy or not. Feeling ok today, confidence-wise & will be so mad at myself if it's a bad scan. I'm much better being negative - at least it prepares me for the worse!

Away to work on my mindset! Thanks for all your kind wishes, it means a lot to have people who understand xx

pebspop yes, it was my first. And on more optimistic days I know you're absolutely right.

Having extra scans is a good idea - I can see that would be reassuring, and it's something I think I'd be able to do (got to be pg first though ). How many weeks are you?

the chances are you will be just fine this time morien

i am 17 weeks and going for fortnightly scans up to 20 weeks. i had a mmc at 20 weeks last year so i am the most nervous person in the world at the moment. got a scan on fri but i am really scared they are going to give me bad news (saying that i have been like this at every scan!).

this is my fourth pregnancy and i am praying it works out. i have had all the tests and am on treatment for blood clotting this time. not sure what i will be able to do if this doesn't work.

20 weeks - that's tough, pebspop. Fingers crossed for Friday...

Good luck cheese!