Trying to conceive after mc? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Recently graduated from the mosh pit? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake! Part

[Dorita75]

Hi, thought I'd start the new thread. This is a brilliant thread for anyone trying to conceive or who has got a bfp after mc, full of lovely ladies, fab advice and a lovely place to metal, so called because someone said metal instead of mental and the rest is history......

Cross posts, I'm sorry about your friends wilde try and stay positive. Sounds like you're doing the right thing having a rest tomorrow too, take care xx

Well my fears have been confirmed and I'm probably going to need another d&c 2nd one in 5 months how shit

Oh scared so sorry. Surprised they haven't given you the option to pass naturally given the pregnancy was quite early. Xx

sorry to hear your news scared hope the erpc goes well and you can move on from this.

wilde bleeding can be normal. the first time I had a bleed I rang nhs direct and they got a doctor to ring me and he booked me into epu. try that. I am on first name terms with everyone at my epu now not a good place to be making friends!

todays scan was fine. another couple of weeks done. got another scan in two weeks

I have history of hemerage jolly so they don't advise letting it pass naturally as my body is not very good at stopping bleeding by itself! Its needed help every time :-/ but gotta wait another week for a re scan to make sure even though I know its gone

I'm so sorry scared. It's so unfair :( and the waiting is tough too.

pebs, glad you had good news today.

My news was ok, but complicated. My baby is fine, which is the main thing, but, she's breech, at 36w 3 days. I'm waiting to see someone to discuss treatment, but it will be an attempt to manually turn her first, then planned c-sec if unsucessful. This discovery is the only good thing to come from my horrible history. If I wasn't a metaller, this would not be have been found, and I would be going for my MW led delivery, with undiagnosed breech.

so sorry scared. Look after yourself over the coming week, limbo is a shittest of shit places to be (hugs) x

jaffa is there not time for her to turn naturally? am sorry to hear you might have to have interventions :( let us know what happens won't you?

I have a scan on tues. so am in a kind of limbo but trying to be positive as no more bleeding. However much anyone says it is 'normal' to have spotting I can't hear that or make sense of it. cried my EYES out at the drs, she must think am a super duper drama queen. which I am, but I am a metaller... what do people expect?!

yay for scan pebs :)

Pebs and Jaffa yay for good news and earli spotting of the breech !

Scared I'm so very sorry for Hun take plenty of time to rest and allow both u and dh2b time to grieve before making any big decisions.

My scan was good. Except they've put me forward by a 8 days ... Thats over a week is that normal ? Particularly being at my 6 week scan I was spot on?!?!
Downs risk from the scan said to be low so that's cool too as I was metalling loads over that ( at 34 years young and my last successful preg 13 years ago I was worried ) just got to wait for the combined now....... Still metalling though .... Does it ever end ?!?

I'm not sure how much grace they'll give me. I went into labour at 38 weeks 2 days last time. And my labours are fast, under 3 hrs, so don't think they'll let me mess about too long.

But, still waiting, and the lady who was just seen has been here since 11.30. Fills me hope...

Hope you're feeling ok scared

Great news on the scans mumtum and pebs.

jaffa a topsy turvy little one hey! A couple of my friends had successful ECVs so there is hope you won't have to have a section.

wilde - no shame in crying on your doctor and as I've discovered it can be an effective way of getting thing's moving. Hope ypu've ok xxx

good luck jaffa

yay on your scan mumtum! a week ahead?! woah!

thanks jolly

mumtum they put me about 9 days ahead of where I thought I was! Glad all was ok though for all three of the scan ladies! x

scared, thinking of you

How are you doing, wilde?

mumtum they put me a week ahead at a scan at 11 weeks - but then at 13 weeks they put me back by 3 days, so I don't know how much of an exact science it is!

scared, I'm so sorry. Hope they get the erpc done quickly and don't keep you waiting about.

wilde, hope you're OK tonight. I had spotting when I was pregnant with ds and it was fine, just a cervical ectropion which is very common in pregnancy. It can have many many normal causes. I know it's no comfort when you don't know what's causing yours though. Bubble bath, hot choc and a magazine for you

Well done to the scan ladies! Great to hear all went well.

am fine this evening thanks :) No spotting all day, or anything off for that matter. I have been feeling really nauseous and shattered all afternoon so am in bed now, going to watch something on iplayer and zonk! I hope the nausea etc all points to all being well. I dunno, the curveballs of spotting etc keep me on my toes and keep me firmly unable to really 'bond' or believe this is real yet (altho it seems insanely real when I think it is over).

DS was put back by a week at our scan, which meant he would have been concieved 6 days after dtd and he was ickle when he was born so think we just have little babies that are sized up as younger than they are at the scan!

thanks for your support today ladies, really appreciate it.

thinking of you scared x

Well done to our scan ladies! Lovely news.

Thinking of you scared during this horrible week of waiting, there's not much you can do except come on here to get some extra support and metal when you need to, take care x

They sent me home without seeing anyone because they were too busy. The consultants for that department kept getting dragged into theatre. Every time a 'green' suited person appeared, they'd run out in scrubs beeping about 5 mins later. So, I'm back in on Monday.

My first reaction was just huge relief they found out. Now I'm worried. I really don't want a c sec. I'm supposed to be moving house in next few weeks, and I have a 2 yr old to look after... All will be well in the end, but is going to be a muddle in short term. Obviously the main thing is that she will be safe. I'd go through anything for that. Really hoping the ECV is a success though. Im also a bit annoyed. The sonographer said it's a bad breech, and if she stays as she is, they would never let me try a vaginal birth.

mumtum, glad your scan went well.

Wilde, hang in there. I still have a trace of denial and I'm huge, with someone's head in my ribs :)

scared, I've been thinking about you a lot. X

I'm not really gonna metal coz in my head I'm not waiting to know I'm just waiting for the confirmation I know its an epic fail I just wanna not be in pain anymore and get on with my wedding planning now coz thats what pulled me through last time and its creeping up on me now!

All I hope is I pass it naturally before Friday as I really don't want my 2nd d&c in 5 months

Jaffa I hope all goes well for you thinking of you and your little one xx

Great news wild and mumtum on your scans

Thanks for all your help girls it is a support its not hit my head or my heart yet as you all know that takes a while at the mo I'm still bleeding and in pain and feeling quite poorly x

Just checking in, hope things work out for you jaffa elcs aren't bad at all, I had a 16mo to look after when I had mine and was just fine honestly, I understand a lot of people aren't keen though. Thinking of you scared xxx

As for me 30 weeks today!

Just had my flu jab this morning, whooping cough on tuesday, all fun here!

Hello from me too . Having to fight the temptation to POAS - 4 days til period due but only 6DPO according to my fertility monitor. The symptom spotting continues - heightened sense of smell is the current one.

State can't believe your 30 weeks already. Not long now

scared hope the week passes quickly for you.

jaffa. My EMCS was fine. One of my first thoughts as the took me to theatre was 'I haven't got a changing table'. Didn't need one - was able to bend and lift straight away.

Will keep my fingers crossed for you jolly x

jaffa I also was much more mobile after my EMCS than I expected to be.

Good luck jolly - are you using the clearblue fertility monitor? My readings have been all over the place since my mc earlier in the year. Of course tht makes me paranoid that its not going to happen ever!

jaffa how about trying accupuncuture to move the baby. my accupupuncturist reckons he has done it for lots of women.

anything is worth a try if you want to avoid a cs.

I know there are bigger problems on here at the moment but can you help me with this first world problem. I really want to go to nct classes but the only ones in my area don't cover my due date. the first on is for babies due Feb to mid march and the other is for may. I am early April. the course leader says the first one might be too early for me but a lady is due in mid mar so not too much difference. the other class ffinishes after my due date. see suggested a class in another town but I was hoping to make friends and the other class is 20 miles away. should I go to the first one? the classes are in dec which seems early.

as a metteler I am not sure why I am even worrying about this! I should be keeping my head down and not going to classes like this!

I am going to try everything possible this week Pebs. I am worried about going into labour spontaneously though. My labour with my DD started spontaneously in 9 days time... And my labours are really fast, under 3 hrs for DD, even the mc induction of my little boy last summer surprised them. Feel like I've got a ticking bomb. :( I was thinking quick labours were a thing to be grateful for, but they are not right now...

I'd go for the March nct group. With DD, mine was Jan to early Feb, and I was due late Feb. In the end, I was early, and someone else was late, so my baby wasn't the youngest. It's quite good having a younger baby in the group, (as long as you don't get hung up on comparisons ), because people go through things a bit before you and you can learn from their experiences. The only bad bit is when you are really pregnant and they all keep giving birth and it never seems to be your turn :) Being local is important. When the babies are tiny, 30 min car journeys are a hassle to fit feeds, sleeps, nappies etc around and make meet ups harder for you. I enjoyed remembering this though!

Thank you everyone for making me feel better about the elmc though. It has helped. I'm not as scared of that now, just scared of it getting out of control.

I would agree pebs go for the one in your area even though you're due a bit later than everyone else. I ended up going to one where I was due last by nearly a month as I couldn't go the one that was at a more appropriate time. I ended up having ds 2.5 wks after the last and 2 months after the 1 st in the group and it didn't really matter. Just great having people nearby going through the same as you in those first months. Have stayed really good mates with most of mine.

Hope you're ok scared

Good luck jollyb I'm just at the start of my 2WW, or 3WW if I have a phantom extra long cycle again like last month, gonna make it fun this time!

Pebs I've no experience as no dc yet but from friends who do, I'd say local is best for getting to know local mum's for walks in the park and general post birth metalling and loveliness! that's outweighs the content of classes themselves.