Trying to conceive after mc? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Recently graduated from the mosh pit? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake! Part

[Dorita75]

Hi, thought I'd start the new thread. This is a brilliant thread for anyone trying to conceive or who has got a bfp after mc, full of lovely ladies, fab advice and a lovely place to metal, so called because someone said metal instead of mental and the rest is history......

ps not MY dr, my dr is actually lovely - the twatty dr I saw instead of my dr.

still wonder if I should complain about that shitty appt...

I would wilde he sounds like an arse!

12 week scan tomorrow metal metal metal .........

good luck mumtum

i have a scan tomorrow. should be 15 weeks. i am feeling a bit nervous as usual!

Good luck to u to pebs xxxx
Wish I was just a normal happy preggers mum and could look forward to it

good luck tomorrow ladies :)

mumtum even normal preggers mums shit themselves at scans - I know I did with DS. So in that sense you ARE a normal preggers mum!

feeling like i have been dragged through a thousand fields (shivery and knackered) and then had my boobs tramped on today. not complaining though, oh no no nooooo.

Bleeding again and in agony all those hopes it was just a early bleed have gone and probably so has our baby :-( grim what could I possibly have done to deserve 3 mc in ten months life is so unfair sometimes

so sorry scared. Can you get someone to get hold of some serious painkillers for you? Rest up and take care won't you. come here if you need to talk. I hope you get some sick leave organised to re-cuperate.

Maybe have a break for a bit while you go to the drs and get some tests and hopefully your next baby will be the one :) big hugs xxxx

scared so sorry. You most definitely haven't done anything to deserve that, please don't think you have. I know there is nothing to say to fix this or make it better so big hugs to you instead.

Thank you ladies I just feel so awful! I'm better to go back to work as I'm off today and just sat home sulking just need to get on with it if pain gets any worse I'll go back to ward 4 like I did before! Dh2b is struggling with this one says he's never going through this again so no more ttc

So sorry scared. Would DH not consider having any tests to see if there's any treatment that might help? Thinking of you xx

scared sorry to hear that things haven't worked out for you. May be worth buying some diclofenac (voltarol) from the chemist. It's similar to ibuprofen but stronger and may help with your pain.

mumtum good luck for tomorrow. I know what you mean about scans. When pregnant with my daughter I was one of those women who looked forward to her scans and didn't really consider that the scan could show a problem. I really hate that my MCs have taken away this excitement.

In the 2WW - according to my usual cycle I'm 8 DPO, but my clearblue monitor gave a peak at the weekend so may only be 4DPO. I think I'm going to try to hold out and not test for another week. Going to be hard given that I have at least 20 pregnancy tests in the house!

BTW boots have got a 3 for 2 deal on all healthcare products which includes pregnancy tests etc - so may be a good time to stock up!

Hope everyone's ok.

Good luck to Pebs for tomorrow too.

scared, I'm so very sorry love. I hope you are not in too much pain. Mc truly is shit. There is nothing you have done to deserve this. :(

pebs, and mumtum good luck tomorrow. Thinking of you both. Two big milestones.

I also have a scan tomorrow. It's a panicker's late scan. Hoping it will confirm all is well. I'm still struggling with this pg. I'm also very stressed about a lot of other things, mainly house move related. I had a complete hysterical breakdown this pm. BT cancelled our contract, even though we didn't want then to, and now they have sent us s £250 bill for that, (despite someone at BT assuring us all was well). For some reason it was the final straw.

Big hugs to all I haven't name checked.x

hey ladies. Just went to loo and have fresh blood :( is pink atm, but was quite a lot, like I started my period. I have a pad in, in case. Am 9 weeks tomorrow and been feeling so very pregnant. no cramping yet.

I can't don't, won't believe I might be losing another one. I don't know what to do. will anyone care? should I call my GP tomorrow to see about a scan? Or ring MWs - I haven't had my booking-in yet, but am I under their care now?

Oh damnation. am clinging onto the hope that it is around when my period would have been due and I read that spotting at these times can be usual due to hormones. I have been walking a lot too, taking DS to and from childcare (four miles a day).

I am so angry! TMI but I felt my cervix and it is still closed.

sorry, me, me me.

be well chickens x

Wilde - hang in there. Remember lots and lots of women get first trimester bleeding. I'd ring your EPU first thing and see what their referral process is. Maybe book a GP appointment as back up and if no joy with either go to A&E.

Fingers crossed for you xxx

wilde, do you know the number of your Epu? Maybe if you rang the main switchboard number of your maternity hospital, they would be able to direct you.

I know this is all anecdotal, but my good friend, who has 3 children, and is pregnant with her 4th, has bled in every pregnancy apart from this one. And they were fine. It is not always bad news, even though it is always very very scary. Hoping the same for you. X

wilde I have 3 very pink wipes at 9 weeks, ring first thing and see about a scan, take care. Xx

Lots of love to scared you've done nothing wrong at all xx

thanks ladies . EPU is referral only. Will call MWs tomorrow but expect to be stonewalled and told to wait it out. Please be kind MW's!

I went to the loo again and there was only a teeny bit this time. Am just hoping I have irritated something with all the walking.

go away spotting you are RUBBISH!

jolly can't do a and e as will be home alone with toddler DS tomorrow four hour wait would be soooo stressful! I wish we lived with friends and family nearby, then I would.

scared you cannot possibly think you did something wrong. You did NOT. x

Still worth trying your EPU - you may get through to a sympathetic soul who says that you can come in directly x

scared hugs hugs and more hugs. Your experience is Truely awful. You are without doubt traumatised . You need to take care of yourself mentally and have time out for yourself. DP will come round. He will feel helpless and probably useless . But you have done nothing at all to cause this. Mother Nature can be a bitch.

wilde fingers x but know you will worry yourself into a frenzy anyhow but thinking of you x

Good luck with the scans tomorrow jaffa pebs and mumtum.

AF due on sat but been spotting v v lightly since Sunday past. Smiley on opk at cd17. Bfn this morning . So gutted. It's cycle 3 after mmc. Last 2 cycles were normal as we're cycles after my 2 previous mc. Don't know wtf is happening. Foolishly convinced that it was implantation bleeding ( does anyone ever actually get this?) so don't even know what day on my cycle I'm at or what is going on in my old body .

wilderumpus I'm sorry this is happening. But it's a good thing if your cervix is closed & the spotting has stopped. And absence of pain plus still having pregnancy symptoms....

I know none of that probably helps & you're understandably terribly worried.

I hope you can be seen quickly at EPU. Mine have a 48 hour policy (ie won't see you till 48hours after onset of symptoms) but I've been seen quicker than that.

I really hope that things work out xx

Thinking of you wilde, I hope you can get a scan soon and that the news is good.

scared, just big hugs.

Good luck with the scans tomorrow, pebs, mumtum and jaffa!

thanks ladies. I shall call MW tomorrow and explan about 3 consecutive mc's, one protracted which fucked me up, and that this is my second bout of spotting this pg and hope they take pity on me. If no go then I shall call my local EPUs direct, thanks for the heads up jolly. Then ring the GP.

DH is taking tomorrow off so I can rest up a bit. Seems dramatic to me really but he thinks I am overdoing it and obviously whatever it is my body is trying to tell me to chill out more. This does make sense and I won't say no to a lie in!

Our dear friends have lost their first baby at 11 weeks this week, we found out this evening. Am completely devastated for them. they were so kind to us over our mc, actually acknowledged it as a death rather than 'just' a mc, or not mentioning it at all. Ah man. Life is a total fuckwit sometimes. It seems even more poignant that our babies would have been due in the same month, which would have been amazing as we are moving down near them next year.

And if all is well with us our baby will cause them a lot of pain, I know because I can't hang around with my friend due in Nov because I can't bear to see her bump, it just reminds me of my mc.

sad evening. It makes me so grateful for what I do have. I don't know if that is perverse or not.

be well ladies x

Good luck scan ladies!

wild my friend had a mc, then on second pregnancy bled loads but now has a naughty 2yr old....fingers crossed for you

scared sounds like it's not definately mc, you may be ok, I'm keeping everything crossed for you and sending hugs

Thanks for link jollyb will have a proper look at that...went to my doc today as looks like I'm having menstrual migraines...that could also be stress related, I don't feel it but this ttc must take it's toll somewhere. Doc is sending me for blood tests to check ovulation after I asked about tests. Was only when I reminded her I'm 38 soon that she realised I can go now rather than wait for year after mc. DP going for sperm test too. All this while trying to stay stress free and make ourselves feel horny for ttc!