Trying to conceive after mc? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Recently graduated from the mosh pit? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake! Part

[Dorita75]

Hi, thought I'd start the new thread. This is a brilliant thread for anyone trying to conceive or who has got a bfp after mc, full of lovely ladies, fab advice and a lovely place to metal, so called because someone said metal instead of mental and the rest is history......

Meant to say good luck for next Tuesday too cheese xxxx

Hi jolly I am so scared really don't want an early scan at all but wanna know argh why is this so bloody difficult!

Good luck cheese

Right I'm off out to try forget it all and have a nice meal out night girls

Sending lots of love and stickyNess to all xxx

That's why I don't want a scan I done it all in may had to go back every Monday for 4 weeks to see no heartbeat constantly was awful thats why I just don't want one this time till 12 weeks least it will be a definate scan then no messing about but the waiting is already killing me!

I know what you mean, scaredmummy The 8 week scan will at least be definitive in telling me if it's viable - or not. I would hate to get to 12 weeks & find out I had a blighted ovum/mmc at 6 weeks. I'd rather find out earlier if that's the case. But even if it is viable, it won't be much reassurance as it could still happen. We can't win!!!

I know cheese seems so difficult at least 12 week is a bit more ok it is less chance of mc but I don't think I'll make it that long

I'm trying to think that "what will be, will be". I've dealt with it before & will again if I have to. But it'll still be shite, as miscarriages always are. Wish I could switch my brain off - aargh!!!!

Hi Jolly I can't remember exactly but I do remember the deep joy of someone actually treating me holistically and looking at all my history. I think the first appointment was mainly bloods and a consultation with the specialist midwife (maybe also a scan) and then came back in a couple of weeks for results and consultation with prof Regan. Glad you got your app so quickly

Thanks for your advice yesterday Jollyb and Peps. The link to the RCOG guidelines was particularly useful and its good to know that Lesley Regan and my GP are giving the same advice. The GP phoned back in the end and said she couldn't find any new guidelines about taking it after 2 mcs without a diagnosis and as that seems to fit with what you're all saying i've decided to leave it this time.

Glad to have some near due date budies in Wilde and cheese My dates are a little uncertain at the moment as i didn't have an AF between my last mc and this pg but hopefully we can metal about things together. I've been following the due in May 2013 thread but many are a little 'oh so excited about their first pg 'that i don't quite feel comfortable there at the moment if you know what i mean.

Got another private scan this afternoon - so nervous - and just so hoping that that heartbeat is still there!

p.s. Jollyb glad you've got an appointment through quickly and can start working towards getting some answers.

littlespade good luck for this afternoon - I know how daunting these scans can be.... Will be crossing everything for you. Would be lovely if us 3 ladies due in May had successful pregnancies - but I guess we daren't hope too much xxx

which clinic are you at jolly i went to liverpool and it was loads of blood tests and i had a hysteroscopy operation as i had a late mc.

results came back in about 6 weeks.

they will probably do karyotyping if you havn't had it before - just a blood test for you and dh to rule out chromosome problems.

good luck with the scan spade i know how you feel - i go for scans every couple of weeks and dread to hear the heartbeat has stopped.

got a scan next week praying everything is ok already. nothing bad has happened but i still worry.

good luck spade! Bet it will be fine :)

Ooh in contrast I quite like the May thread though it is a bit shouty and enthusiastic atm, I know what you mean! but also lots of sense. Is not as bad as my old Nov thread (when I mc'ed), they were actually talking prams at 6 weeks! wtf?! They could hardly take a breath to say sorry for my mc problems before rambling on about fricking travel systems scary! In a way i like the easy optimism, can let it carry me along and think 'yeah! most pregnancies just are ok!'.

If am metalling I think like you cheese, what will be will be... and if I mc it is most likely there was something wrong with the baby and will have some investigations after four mc's rather than being left to it.

jolly fab you are being looked after now. fingers crossed your baby is just around the corner!

so sorry if I have left people out. Am home alone with pox'ed DS all day again and starved of adult comversation but am sooo tired and forgetful I can't remember thread info!

Yay everything fine at the scan - measuring 8+3 with a good strong heartbeat - so relieved!

Thanks for your good luck vibes and fingers crossed for everyone else too.

yay little congrats. A HB at 8 weeks lessens the risk of mc drastically too! hope you can relax a bit now :)

Yay littlespade that's brilliant!!!

Little spade - fantastic news.

Pebs - I'm just going to the clinic at my local hospital in Kent. The Consultant runs a big private fertility unit too so I'm hoping that he knows a few things about how to make pregnancies stick.

Congrats littlespade!

How are you doing today, scared?

I'm still tootling along. Getting an alarmingly large bump. Am metalling less every day, but still worry if I haven't felt a wee pop for a while, which is daft as movements are still really erratic at this stage, right? Work is crazy at the moment and I've realised just how much I need to do before February (mat leave). This weekend will be sponsored by the letter z. zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

Brilliant news littlespade!

Ooo congrats littlespade that's fab news!!!

I've made an appointment with doc to have a chat about tests etc...I think they start with checking I'm ovulating but has anyone got experience of what they do and when? It's only been 6 months since mmc and I conceived within 5 months when we did get pregnant, but as I'm 37 (& half!) I want to get the ball rolling just to make sure all's okay.

Hope you're not metalling too much in 2WW jollyb Think we were together in that last time but I went and ended up being 5 days late so am hopefully just hitting fertile time this weekend!

Hi to everyone else all round or if you can

Thats great little spade happy for you great news!

I'm spotting today :-/ so as you can imagine I'm pretty worried I really hope it's not the worst news but lets face it with my history and luck it probably is!!! :-(

Hoping it's not another m/c scaredmummy holding your hand....

Fingers crossed for you, scared x

Thanks guys I'm so pissed off :-( going to bed :-(

fingers crossed scared. hope is gone by the morning x

How are you this morning scared? It doesn't have to mean the worst, plenty of stories out there of spotting being just one of those things. My friend had lots of bleeding when finally pregnant after mc and he's now being potty trained. However I understand the metalling. Really hope it's just old blood or something, hugs to you this morning.