Trying to conceive after mc? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Recently graduated from the mosh pit? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake! Part

[Dorita75]

Hi, thought I'd start the new thread. This is a brilliant thread for anyone trying to conceive or who has got a bfp after mc, full of lovely ladies, fab advice and a lovely place to metal, so called because someone said metal instead of mental and the rest is history......

Martha & Woody my cycles were back to normal straight away with the 1st m/c (at 7 weeks, treated with ERCP) but were distinctly WTF?! after the 2nd (mmc, had surgery at 11.5 weeks).

The 1st cycle was 31 days, I bled for half of that. The 2nd & 3rd cycles were 22 & 17 days -had bleeding on fertile days & am pretty sure didn't OV these cycles. 4th cycle I got pregnant - think I OV'd on cd 13.

I used Amazon cheapy OV sticks & found they helped. Am now 7 weeks (I hope) some days are better than others.

It's funny how I was so focused on getting pg after the m/c without really thinking how much I'd struggle psychologically bring pg.....

Good luck to you both

martha the people on the train/tram are the worst kind of people i had to tell about mc. i really wished i hadn't told them anything about the pg. i wasn't really showing so i could have got away without saying anything. telling people you hardly know about something so personal was awful.

this time i will not be telling any randomers until it is so blindingly obvious i am pg they just see for themselves and even then i don't want to talk to them about it.

i am keeping a very low profile at the moment and very few people know about this pg. two friends know as i had to pull out of a wedding abroad but they don't know how far i am etc. our mums know and my boss. thats it. i am really trying to keep out of peoples way as much as i can. i haven't arranged anything for ages and i have managed to get out of a few invitations which would involve drinking i have gone to non drinking things but no-one would know if i didn't tell them. i think everyone in my office knows but they wouldn't dare to mention it i have been off for appointments almost every week so far so they must know something is up.

Aw pebs bless you . Sounds like your having a hard time. < hugs>
I was 13 weeks ando so so sick and thought it was a good sign. Had old loads of people and then mmc at 13 weeks... If I get lucky again, I'll tell no one until bubba born safely

i am in a grumpy mood today fizz probbaly shows in my rant above!

i was stomping around the office until someone told me to chill out lol!

think i am just knackered.

What a day - I'm such a twat. I had my midwife appointment today, and I had it in my head it was at 12pm. My car is in to get MOT'd today so had to catch the bus. Buses only run through the village once an hour on the hour, so got DS out of nursery early to catch the 11am bus. £5.10 for an adult return to the next village, WTF?! It's 4 miles away at the most! Anyway, get to the doctor's to discover my appointment isn't until 1:30pm. Had lunch in a wee cafe, back for my appointment, back to bus stop by 2pm, bus isn't until half past... Not having the car sucks big time!

On a positive note though, appointment was fine and got to hear the heartbeat! Sounded much slower than DS's did! Next appointment is the 20 week scan (I'll be almost 22 weeks though) on the 31st of October.

Hi everyone, Internet has been down again thankyou all for thinking of us Friday and for all the hugs. The day was ok, dps family forgot and on Sunday when mil sent a text asking how ds is dp reminded her. We haven't heard anything since which has upset dp even more.

Anyway had the scan yesterday with a trainee sonographer, not really what I wanted. Was in there for 30 mins as she couldn't get a good view of the heart, which caused me no end of stress. Someone checked it all at the end though and all is fine. There is no sign of funnelling of the cervix.

Will not be seeing the consultant for another 7 weeks though! 21 weeks tomorrow and the baby is measuring a good size, between 21 and 22 + 5 so should be a good weight if he comes early.

pebs, I had 'degrees' of who I told. My parents and my brother knew early on, and a few close friends at about 15 weeks, but everyone else was after 17 weeks when I mc last time, most after 20, and only when I met them. It got to the point when it was obvious, and I had to talk about it, but no big announcements. Lots of 'really, you're due in Nov?!' type comments, but I think that's because people were finding out at about 6 months... It's nobody else's business. It's your body, your news, and your sanity you have to protect. And because most people knew about the late mc, they understood why I hadnt trumpeted it from the rooftops, and were very sweet when they did find out.

My sister, ds1 and 3 friends are the only people we've told, was hoping to wait until 24 weeks but I'm not sure if I'll be able to hide it much longer

Evening ladies how are you all??

In need of hugs today - someone at work made a pregnancy/maternity leave joke at work today and I had to lock myself in the toilet :(

Finally met AF after my mmc in July and now nervously wondering if I should try again?? 2 mc's this year already should I wait a little while??

Am so torn - so want to be preggers but really don't know if I can go through all this again!?!

Hugs and lots of them pixie

You will know when you are ready to try again. There is no right or wrong time and if you do try and don't feel right about it,then give yourself another wee while. X

Good news for wilde, backward and new bfps - congratulations!

Pebs, I know how you feel - I really don't want to tell people. But I show really really early and now at 12.5 weeks there isn't much point trying to hide it. I haven't "told" people and they're too discreet to ask, but I know they're wondering.

Hugs for pixie - have you tried asking for any referrals? Officially you have to have 3 mcs first I know, but some drs will run tests after 2. Apparently the odds of mc are no different whether you try sooner or wait, so do whatever will be easier to cope with. It's horrible though I know.

I still haven't told some people... 37 weeks . Sod it, we will tell when we are good and ready!

ah. am so sad to hear the late miscarriage stories, my poor friends :( I have broken ranks and told my four best friends because they were teling me they were going to book train tickets to come and see me and get me drunk! I felt so bad putting them off and like I was lying after the scan. No one else knows tho, no family or owt. Is so hard isn't it, I cannot imagine how protective you would feel with having had a late mc.

thanks for the congrats Still feeling very pregnant, 7+5 today. Stuck in all this week with DS who has chickenpox! so far only very mildly, am wonderinf if tomorrow it will all kick off... eek! Daren't really go anywhere with him since he learned to shout about what he overhears and is VERY proud of his chicken pox on his legs...

lurcher I show early too, glad to know someone else in my boat! All out front me.

pixie big hugs. I still can't see my friend who is due in Nov when my mc baby would have been :( Can't bear her silly jokes about 'sending her bump back' when she frets about coping with two. She should have used fucking contraception thick cow even tho am pg, it doesn't take the sting away from the miscarriage. FWIW after my cp in dec, blighted ovum in April and then cp again in July I was thinking that I didn't want any more of this rollercoaster. I obviously can't keep my babies. But this one has a heartbeat. It might stick... If you want it you have to suck it up, puff your chest out and dive in and we will be here holding your hand. When it is time to stop you will absolutely know, I am sure of it. It will be your turn soon :)

moomin trainee sonographers suck! I had one with my second blighted ovum scan and she took so long and her and her trainer were talking about the sac, but not the baby, so I knew it wasn't there. I hated them for that.

mumtum my booking in is at 10 weeks anyway.

:)

Wilde that's awful! Yes they do suck. Dp was asked to take ds out the room as she couldn't concentrate. Don't know what I'd have done if I'd been on my own with him, asbo toddler. He has taken to chattering in a very loud voice, no idea what he's saying. To be fair hed probably had enough, I had!

Hope ds is ok, both my older ones had only mild symptoms with chickenpox, I remember my sister being quite ill though

i dont' like trainees either. i know they have to learn but i am definately not the right patient to learn on - try the giddy kippers in the waiting room!

i have never had a trainee on their own though. they are usually watching the experienced ones. i never give my permission for them to stay in the room - i am a meanie!

pixie why not have a break for a couple of months if you don't feel like rushing in to another pg. i am sure you will be dying to get pg after a break. i took a six months break after my late mc and it did me good. don't think i could have handled the stress of another pg at that time.

Morning all.

I'm metalling again, I've caught a bug and was really sick all day yesterday, babys been plenty busy enough but I'm worried about not being able to eat and starving the poor thing. I know I know I've officially lost it.

I have 28 wk check this evening with the MW. Fingers crossed I'm well enough to go, really need the reassurance.

This is the first time I've had one on their own, I don't tend to mind having them with experienced staff present as I few years ago it was me! Also I had a trainee mw along side the mw with Jacob and she was lovely.

I really don't think if you have problems and are anxious they should be on their own scanning you though. After not being able to get an extra scan I was a little peed off tbh, I probably should have refused. Of course she hadn't even read my notes.

do they ever read the notes moonmin the sonographer i had last week at my dating scan was trying to tell me i need to believe this baby is coming as it's ok at the dating scan - WTF i have had two mc's after the dating scan. DH and I soon shut her up lol!

She also told me i shouldn't be having the scans at epu. I think i will listen to the recurrent mc experts thanks love!

i really wanted to go to a private clinic for my scans to avoid these rushed nhs appointments but my consultant didn't want me to. i was hoping i could have explained my situation before i attended a private clinic and they would be able to treat me better.

Afternoon ladies
I'm feeling old today it's dd birthday she is 13!!! How did that happen thinks I'm defo bonkers for getting upduffed with that age gap though obviously couldn't be happier that I am

State hope u feel better soon Hun and well enough for your appt later

Pixie I agree with pebs take a break you'll know when your ready to try again the mentalling never stops but u will feel strong enough to deal with it x

Mooning at asbo toddler

Wilde I too have only told a few. My sister and bf. and only then as we were due a boozy night in and obviously I couldn't partake ....

Midget 37 weeks and still haven't told people I hope I can get there as well I'm just so frightened that the every person we tell is tempting fate that little big more

So pleased your scan went well backward roll on the 20/22 week one

Right off to make birthday cake rushes to tesco to buy ready made one lazy minx will return later with party cake leftovers .....

Omg !!!!!!

I do not do mooning at asbo toddlers !!!!!!!!!

That should of course have read moomin!!!!! Oh dear sorry all damn auto correct!

I don't think they do pebs and it seems even when you explain things to them they still don't get it! Abit like when I phoned the mw and said I was worried about my cervix and she offered to listen to the babies heart beat to put my mind at rest. How does that work then?

mumtum ha ha mooning toddlers, we had given up by the time we got to see the consultant and dp took him for a walk, he bumped into a few men and toddlers who had been asked to leave

Hi everyone pls may I hide here for the next 35 months I'm so scared and emotional I don't know what to do or think! I have had 2 mc since xmas and now I am 5 weeks pregnant I'm scared to tell anyone including the doctor coz every time I do I bleed after! Need someone to talk to and vent to coz I'm really struggling it wasn't planned but the baby is obviously very much welcome and wanted but 40 weeks of stress anxiety and worry obviously is not :-( HELP ME GIRLS :-/

Welcome welcome scaredmummy2b we'll look after you here's a big welcome hug.

Martha mooning made me laugh this morning, thank you!

Oh god, now I'm at it! I mean mumtum....doh.

Thanks dorita I just can't relax and I know thats not good for the feotus but its like a vicious circle just can't relax :-/