TTC after recent MC

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Here we go everyone - a place for the recent MCers to chat and share all our NOT waiting stories!

littlepink we DTD the day before smiley (lucky, but also I suspected because of ewcm and cramps) and then the day of smiley, then that was it.

Thanks again for the congrats. Being very weary after what already been through but feels a big step in the right direction.
Kitty sorry to hear that you have noticed a blood spot. Great news that the CBD has gone up and you don't have that bad feeling. That sounds positive. Do you think you were maybe due a period around now? (Passes some chocolate back to share.)
Pink we DTD day 27 Thurs Pm, day 29 Sat am :) sat pm so DTD again (twice in one day, get us!!!) :0 sun am DTD sun pm. Hope that makes sense?!

Well that does it then mrs but may be just the day of smiley and day after. But that seems to be the way forward,. Just a bit worried though as normally a 28 day cycle. Now 3rd after mmc. Cycle1 was 29 days from 1st day of bleeding from mc and cycle 2 was 30 days. Now cd 16 and still no smiley. Have no idea when it will appear , if at all. Thought I would have had one already [ sad]

But thanks so much for your replies x

Anyone for sticky toffee pudding and custard??

Can I have mine without the custard please :) yum yum

Thanks baby, I think I'm trying to stay calm because there's nothing I can do but also because it doesn't even look blood ish just a few tiny specks of pale brown but I just feel apprehensive, I'm not sure it's the type of thing others would notice bar us die hard knicker checkers and there's been nothing on wiping at all so we will see
< breaks off a square, itl be a long 10 days though>

Almond I'll be you testing buddy if you like. I am 5dpo today. Where are you at? This 2ww is tough, and even if I do get a bfp I'm going to be a nervous wreck the first trimester.

Posy I am potty training too but it's not quite going to plan. We'll save that discussion for another thread, but yep already having a toddler helps to keep me very busy and keep me smiling too.

I have read a bit about cm and it does change depending on the time of the month.

I have my fingers crossed for you Kitty Mrs and Baby. I really hope you get through your pregnancies this time. X
(hope I haven't missed any more bfps Im so sleep deprived my head is full of cotton wool!)

No it's not going to plan here either Betty. We are doing the chocolate buttons method, and basically I am eating them all...

Hello Jessie glad you're OK, if terrified - I really hope this one's your keeper xx

Really want some pudding and custard now!

Morning!

Having a crisis of conscience this morning, went out with a friend for her birthday last night, got a bit squiffy and now feel ever so guilty in case by some miracle there is actually a beansprout in there. Didn't drink loads but not a big drinker so 3 glasses of wine and I'm under the table! And now I just want to comfort eat through the hangover, but got on the scales this morning and they practically shrieked at me. A whole stone on since MC - oh dear! I am a bad, bad TTC-er!

Baby congrats!!!! V pleased for u!!

Betty brilliant! I need some hand holding. We did our last shag today (need a rest)! I'm on DPO3. I'm going to really try and hold out and not poas early...

Peanut don't beat yourself up. You prob needed the relaxing vino and chat with your friend. If you are pg it's only very early days and I don't think it will do any harm. As for the scales I'm your twin sister lol!!! Maybe go for a walk later and clear the head and burn up so calories do you can indulge later.

Almond fx for you. Yes I know the feeling you be glad when the dtdaton is over!!

Thanks munchin. I think it's highly unlikely I'm pg anyway so probably didn't have a bean to pickle, is just getting to me being on constant 2ww and having to be good all the time so I turned into a bit of a rebel last night! Going to take the mutt out for a good yomp in a minute, and DH taking me for greasy hangover food lunch later. Going to have a chat with him and see if he minds having a break from TTC just for a couple of weeks, I can't take much more of being 'maybe pregnant' constantly! All signs of AF totally disappeared again sigh

betty and almond, fingers crossed for you, not long to wait now!

Hi I'm after a bit of support me and my partner have lost 2 babies since xmas one mc and one silent resulting in d&c!

We decided we will wait till next year not being able to deal with the heart ache again so soon but its happened and I've just found out yest I am about 4 and a half weeks pregnant its so sad that the first thing we should have done was jump for joy but don't feel like we can its just dread and oh my god I can't do another mc I'm not strong. Enough thaus why we were booked in for the rod next week :-/

Really want a baby but can't face another mc don't wanna tell anyone or go doctors too scared to have a scan the thought of not seeing a heartbeat on the screen again makes me feel physically sick :-( help anyone xx

Hi all I've not checked in for ages, just wanted to say congrats to baby and scared I really hope it all goes well for you.

kitty spotting sounds minimal so I am sure it will all be fine. Fx for you all.

Hi I'm after a bit of support me and my partner have lost 2 babies since xmas one mc and one silent resulting in d&c!

We decided we will wait till next year not being able to deal with the heart ache again so soon but its happened and I've just found out yest I am about 4 and a half weeks pregnant its so sad that the first thing we should have done was jump for joy but don't feel like we can its just dread and oh my god I can't do another mc I'm not strong. Enough thaus why we were booked in for the rod next week :-/

Really want a baby but can't face another mc don't wanna tell anyone or go doctors too scared to have a scan the thought of not seeing a heartbeat on the screen again makes me feel physically sick :-( help anyone xx

Thanks hun x

Hello everyone, sorry to hear of all the sad news but fx for all those new BFPs. I've come over to join you from the April 2013 thread unfortunately (if that doesn't sound too rude!) for a bit of support.

My history is that I have two DDs of 9 and 6 and thought we were all done, until I found myself pregnant again at the age of 41 (DH is even older at 52). After the initial shock, we were really looking forward to the new baby but it wasn't to be and I discovered on Wed after some bleeding that at nearly 11 weeks the baby had no heartbeat. Since then have gone on to bleed very heavily and painfully though I'm hoping I'm over the worst.

Despite being unplanned, I'm finding this all really difficult as it seemed like a last chance we had been given. I have managed to persuade DH to try again as it seems the only way I can get through this, but aware that my clock is ticking and don't think will DH will want to try indefinitely. Having had a little glimpse of the future it's hard to close the door on it and go back to the way we were before this happened. I had a previous miscarriage between my two DDs at about 6 wks and it was the thought of trying again that kept me positive.

So, still very early days for me but planning on getting better physically first then trying again. Have ordered vitamins, ovulation sticks, pregnancy tests and an organic veg box already! Would love to be pregnant again by Xmas...

Hi everyone - lots seems to have happened since I was last on here!

posy and kitty the headaches have now started to subside! I can't believe that it has taken so long for it to happen though. Even though I loved diet coke, I don't miss it at all - I think it'd become more of a habit to get one out of the fridge.

posy Thank you for the advice on ewcm. Sometimes, I just seem to get a bit confused.

YorkshirePeanut I'm glad that the dr is confident that you'll get a BFP soon. It is annoying that drs seem to think that ttc for at least a year (if not more) is fine. It doesn't feel fine at all. You definitely shouldn't worry about having a few drinks either.

kitty I hope that you have a really nice time in Egypt. I agree about the worrying about spotting - I think that it's natural to worry no matter what the colour. It sounds very positive that the CB digital has gone up.

munchinmango That must be a difficult reminder of your mmc when you see the baby? I do find spending time with friends' children quite hard at the moment - I love seeing them but it really makes me realise just how much I want to be a mum.

Congratulations about your BFP babyjames that is fantastic! I really really hope that everything goes well. I can understand the mixed emotions. There is a study recently that has shown that getting pg in first 6 months after a mc means that you are less likely to mc - the mc association have put it in their leaflet.

Messtins I'm glad that you've got your BFN - I remember how relieved I was when mine finally arrived.

Jessie glad everything is going ok.

Hello scaredmummy2b - congratulations on your BFP. I can understand all the worry that you are feeling.

Hello wollywomble I'm sorry that you've had to join us but I hope that you get your BFP soon.

Well, I've seen the homeopath and acupuncturist now. Feel really positive about it all. I've got some homeopathic remedies to take now and will be having weekly acupuncture. The acupuncturist was also talking to me about the things they'll be able to do when I do fall pg again. It's made me feel positive for taking some action. They both were keen for me to have cut out caffeine, so I'm glad that I've done that. They do think I should give my body a rest and time to heal and stop ttc for at least 3 months but I don't want to. That is the last thing I want to do at the moment. I've also ordered some CB Ov sticks - the smiley face ones as they've suggested that I use these. Hopefully all of this will help me get a BFP soon.

Hope everyone is having a good weekend!

Thanks woody yes I like your statistic about mc being jess likely jess than 6 months after mc but unfortunately last time that wasn't the case for me having 2 mc.s in 5 months I'm so scared I'm going to have another only 4 moths after again :-/ how the hell am I to stay sane for the next 8 months? ????????

Being new to all this can you all tell me wat all bpf stuff is I don't understand the abriviations

Hi again scared glad you came across to join us. BFP is big fat positive (on a pregnancy test) so BFN is a negative. Bizarrely pleased to have just got my BFN having tested positive for weeks after my miscarriage. The only other abbreviation I've noticed that seems peculiar to here is FX fingers crossed. Any others eluding you please shout.
Hello to woolywomble I fell off the April 2013 bus too and also had a prev MC between my two children. Hope we can join each other on a later 2013 bus.

Hello scared and wooly, sorry you find yourself here but hope we can help!
I fell off the April bus too, would have had my 12 wk scan by now but hoping this one is sticking, no spotting today so pray it stays away, I've been scaring myself reading about blighted ovums today- why do we do it?!?
Woody those sessions sound really positive! I think if nothing else you will feel more calm and in control and that can only be a good thing when you get pregnant again.

Welcome to scared and peanutdon't worry about a few glasses of wine, many girls drink much more for weeks before they find out with no harmful effects.

woody sounds all great and so positive.

kitty I know how you feel about the spotting. I always worry myself silly and knicker checking so often that the elastic gives. I know if I am lucky to get a BFP I will be asking for an early scan just for reassurance. But so many drs say that it is very common and harmless in early pregnancy , that they can't all be wrong

Hey messtins what's dd and dh?? Sorry new lol

Your all helping already its so hard this year has been such a long winding road we can only hope next year will be better and my baby will be born in may and I won't have to say goodbye before hand I only found out yest cbd said 2to3 my dates say4 weeks 3 days! Both my other mc occurdd just after I told doctor so I'm scared to this time! I don't want early scans either just wanna make it to 12 weeks and cry with joy then! Allover the place today wanna jump for joy and shout it from the rooftops then next min wanna scream and cry that its probably gonna go the same way as the last 2 :-( third time lucky :-/ I do hope so!!!

Kitty I don't why we do it but I do that kind of thing too I'm so glad your not spotting and hope you stick how many mc's have you had ? How far along are you this time? Sorry for sounding nosy it's nice to get comfort from others stories like mine x

Hi little pink thanks for the welcome! I don't want early scans I'm not as brave as you as in my last mc had I ham to have scan after scan week after week for five weeks running to see no heartbeat was so heart breaking I just can't do that again think I'd rather not know till 12 weeks then I'll only need one and if no heartbeat thats that sounds harsh but I just can't do weeks of going back to epu again anyone get me?