TTC after recent MC

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Here we go everyone - a place for the recent MCers to chat and share all our NOT waiting stories!

Ah baby sorry to hear about bfn but as others have said maybe its too early.

Wow woody you certainly have an action plan. Fx this time next month you'll have a bfp that stays.

Lol liking sound of 10 hrs sleep. I unfortunately drink lots of tea as well as coke!!!

Peanut epo is supposed to be very good for regulating your cycle I think but very important to stop taking it when you ovulate.

Betty hold off on those hpt a little while longer lol!!! But understand as I'm an addict also.

littlepink am laughing at your breaking out into song! I often like to imagine I am in a musical. So to all the newcomers 'Consider yourself, at 'ome! Consider yourself, part of the furnitcha!'

Ahem. Woody sounds like you def have an action plan there. I gave up diet coke in my early twenties, but now drink up to 3 cups of tea or coffee a day, which I think is acceptable, though I tend to only have one coffee, as I like the real stuff and it's stronger than instant.

Dachs and Peanut sorry you find yourselves here, and for your losses :( It always makes me sad to read what people have been through, but this is a very positive thread and we are all about the future.

So is anyone on shag week at the mo? I am, and so far so good, but I am not counting CDs this month, and I am DEFINITELY not buying a test in any shape or form for several weeks as I am fed up of giving HPT companies money for nothing! (and chicks for free)
xx

Aah thanks munchin, guess I'll stick that on my list of exciting pills and potions to buy from the health food quack. Mind you, if I took them all at once I'd probably grow an extra uterus or something, there's that many of them...moot point since I may or may not be chegs already so I'm not allowed to play with any of them yet. Bummer.

Incidentally, I've just realised I've written that response whilst literally munching mangos.

Hi Posyplum - I'm on shag week! I'm always on shag week, it's the one good thing about not knowing when to get bouncy . Think I'm going to steal borrow some pregnancy tests from work, can't afford to support my habit any more!

I'm on shag week posy - no idea when I ovulate although KI think probably about day 14 but never get positives on opk so don't really know - today is day 15 and have been on protective shag duty since day 8 just to make sure we cover it if it happens earlier! DH has been told we will need to carry on until at least the weekend and then he can have a break... Not that I'm obsessed with TTC or anything!

Sorry for BFN babyjames but hopefully just too early xxx

betty - i know how you feel about the desire to POAS but try to be patient! (she says hypocritically and has been known to POAS at 6dpo when there was no chance at all of getting a positive at that point...)

Cd 12 for me but no dark line yet on opk. But have mild cramps intermittently since yesterday. Been told on another thread that it may mean I have already ovulated . In that case I've fuckecup and missed the boat. We were hoping to Dtd tonight but now there don't seem much point.

Honestly what do you all think?

littlePink - just dtd tonight! and maybe one more for good measure! Eggs are funny things - never 100% sure when they release and remember they do stick around for a bit....

Always best to did --- means you have something to look forward to in 2 weeks time..eg more peeing on a stick!!

sorry just to be clear I meant 'just do the deed tonight!' :)

Evening everyone - hope you are all ok. Did anyone watch Great British Bake Off last night? Inspired me to bake so I made a chocolate and salted caramel tart today, which went down very well with DH.

The spotting still hasn't ended - I thought it was almost over but it seems to have come back a bit. I know that you aren't supposed to dtd when you're still bleeding after a mc due to the chance of infection but do you think you can if you are just spotting?

It's harder giving up diet coke then I thought it would be - I've had a splitting headache this afternoon and this evening. It makes me think that I must have been drinking more of it then I thought. I don't miss it though.

messtins I really hope that you get your BFN soon. The wait for it is horrible.

yorkshirepeanut I've never taken a digital test apart - I can't believe it's just a strip underneath!

babyjames do you think it might be too early to test?

posy I am going to try and not let myself test until at least the end of October if af hasn't arrived. Although how good I'll be at sticking to this, I've no idea!

According to mumsnet ov calculator, my shag week will be end of next week, going into the following one!

littlepink I think if you feel like it, then dtd. I think it's worth doing it as often as possible.

So, off to the homeopath tomorrow. Hopefully I'll get some useful advice.

Woody where do u find the mn ovulation calculator? Can u use it on phone?
Epo- I heard it helps u produce more cm and also regulate cycle. But as said I only take it till ovulation.
I've just bought myself a take away and a beer and was asked if I am over 25! Could have kissed the girl.

Hi Girls!

Wow a lot of messages in 24 hours! Welcome newbies Peanut, Dasch and Betty (did I miss anyone!).

Posy I am in shag week! We managed to DTD the day before and after the . Couldnt do it on the day as I was away for work so I hope that was enough. Going to try again tomorrow and then I reckon thats covered it. My goodness though the romance has completely gone from DTD!! Anyone else feel like that?

Kitty sorry for getting confused, how could I forget your BFP!!

Baby fx that the BFN is just too early!

So...whose poas a stick around 11th October then? I need some allies and symptom spotters!! I am trying not to poas until the 11th (although I have about 40 ready...)!

Woody that sounds like a very positive plan of action! I'd be really interested to hear what direction they give you. I am a real stress eater and with everything that has been going on and work I have completely lost control of my eating. We also got married in May and since then (with mc and generally not going to the gym) I have put on a bit over a half a stone. Might not sound like much but I am noticing it!! Just need some motivation to loose it or be consistent in exercising/healthy eating!

So...we accepted the offer on the house! Just got to find somewhere now. Woody we are going back for a 2nd viewing on the one with the bungalow in the garden. The 'smaller' garden is still enough for us but it was more the concern of living next to a building site and how it will overlook the place. Anyhow we are meeting the person selling/building so we will see what he has to say!

Finally - I am still having the odd glass of wine as my philosophy is that I cant drink for 9 months so I may as well not deny myself completely now! But avoiding getting smashed....

littlepink I seem to get cramps a few days before ovulation, so definitely keep dtding every other day. I find that I drive myself a bit mad wondering when and whether I have ovulated, so the dtd every other day approach suits me. I have even decided to stop measuring EWCM. Well, that's been the plan this month so far anyway

Woody I love the bake off!! It's such a joy to watch. I am well into baking at the mo. Just basic things like scones and sponge cakes but it is inspiring me to be more adventurous!

Dachs am laughing at you being on protective shag duty!

Peanut am laughing at 'chegs'. Love it.

Almond I have put on half a stone since mc too. It's annoying as I'd just got down to a nice manageable weight too. I can't seem to stop eating biscuits and cakes though (not helped by the bake off!). Think maybe it's also a bit of stress eating. That's my excuse anyway, ha ha. Def have the odd glass of wine. We can't all live like monks til BFP! Congrats on selling the house by the way! So is the person building a house in the garden? It won't be a building site forever of course, and maybe you can get a knock down price for the inconvenience?!

peanut forgot to say before, we've had a few really long post-mc cycles on here. Mine was at least a week longer than usual, but some waited ages. Am sure you're not broken! Hope AF or a BFP preferably arrive soon - 6ww sounds painful!

ps, when I said earlier that I am stopping measuring EWCM, I don't mean I was actually measuring it, like with a ruler or measuring jug, just stopping digging around to see if it's there. Just to clarify

Oops so sorry Betty and Messins I seem to have missed a page - welcome and sorry you find yourselves here . Betty I also have a two year old - we are currently potty training, so that is helping to take my mind off another baby!

Suzy can't believe your friend said that. What on earth does she think it's got to do with her?! I think that age gap will be lovely, and your DD will love having a little baby to help look after.

Sorry if I have missed anyone else, but I'll stop writing ps's now!

Posy no worries - have felt very welcome here. A shame we are all in the same boat but it helps not to be the only one. You've made me chuckle with the "measuring" EWCM so you are forgiven!

lol you go to the main page and it's down on the right. If you're on the mobile site, you need to click on the 'conception' tab and then there is a link on the page. Hope that makes sense!

Can I just ask a question because I've been getting myself a bit confused - does ewcm show that ov has happened or is going to happen? Should you dtd before you get ewcm or is the ewcm a sign that you need to dtd asap!?

Congratulations on selling your house almond. Hope the second viewing goes well and you get all the answers that you need to be able to make a decision.

I know what you mean about the extra half a stone almond - I think that I'm probably the same. I notice it because although I can still fit into everything, it all feels a bit snug! And I think that's going to be my attitude to alcohol - the odd glass of wine is fine but I'm not going to get smashed!

Hope everyone else is ok.

So, off to the homeopath this afternoon - they want to see me for 2 hours! Not quite sure what will happen in that time though. Anyway, I'll let you know how I get on.

Day 2 of no diet coke and my headache is continuing Have been very tempted to just get a can out of the fridge but trying to resist!

Thanks Mess! I realised my living like monks thing was also a bit of a daft thing to say - don't think monks would be dtd every day, and also they brewed beer didn't they? Anyway...

Sorry to read you've had 2 mcs btw . Fingers crossed the next one will be sticky. With hindsight, I might have tried to wait til my first cycle too, as I am not sure my body has been quite right for two cycles and it has been a bit frustrating. But on the other hand I also found that trying straight away helped me to move forward and think positively. Hope the doctor sheds some light on what's happening with your HCG levels. I didn't test again after my mc as I thought it would be too much stress, but I took the last day of bleeding as a sign it was OK to dtd without risking infection.

Hope everyone's having a lovely Thursday. I am just about awake now. Coffee and toast... mmmm.

Woody hang in there, the headaches will cease in a few days! (she says sipping coffee)

I have recently learned that EWCM means that you are soon going to ovulate, so to dtd as soon as is practical - apparently ovulation happens the day after EWCM stops. (this has been gleaned from internet research, I am not an expert!)

Morning everyone!

Well been to the medicine man this morning. General consensus seems to be that there is nothing wrong with me other than slightly dodgy ovaries meaning wonky cycles, and he fully expects me to be back with a BFP in a couple of months but to go back in a year if no joy in the babymaking stakes. Which is good because nothing is wrong, but bloody crap because I was hoping he'd wave a magic wand and POOF! - I'd be producing BFPs left right and centre. Oh well. I suppose at least he has no concerns. Just have to settle myself in for a bit more waiting

woody at salted caramel chocolate tart. I'm attempting to drop the 3/4 stone I've put on since starting my post-MC 'I'm sad so there's no calories in it' diet (woody, almond, I'm with you on the tight trousers) but DAMN I would break in an instant for that!

posyplum have practically wet myself at the thought of measuring EWCM with a ruler! Is 'chegs' not standard vocab ? Certainly is round my neck of the woods!!

fizz did you DTD?

lol I've not been ID'd since I was about 16. Jealous of your youthful good looks..

Congrats on day 2 woody, I think you'll find it's the caffeine withdrawal that causes headaches, I'm over a week but realised this stupid asparitine is in lots of things I like and dh really wants me to avoid it too, I'm going to be living on water
I've just had abit of a panic freak out just seen 2 little dots of a pale brown in pants, I think it might be old from last mc ( pants are very white and sometimes the stain doesn't wash out that well first time) gross I know but I can't tell for sure I don't know how I've missed it and feel really angry with myself! There's nothing on wiping etc or anything else in the 2 hrs since I spotted it but I'm so scared of being this frightened all the time, also going to Egypt in 2 wks and now frightened what if something happens while I'm there etc

Oh and ment to add- don't know if you girls agree but hate that If it's brown it's ok, both my mc started off brown they just eventually went to red !

Hi to all caffeine addicts! Giggling at ruler strapped to knickers to measure cm!posy

Dtd last night hooray but no smiley this morning though definite ewcm and no , I did not get the ruler out...

woody get handing that tart out, we're starving!

lol are you old enough to be on this site...? Moderator?..!

mmmm.... salted caramel choc tart - hope there's plenty for all of us! :)

Day 17 now - given that I got my BFP on day 21 last month is it safe to stop DTD, or should I carry on for a day or two to make sure I get the best chance of a BFP if I ov on day 14?

Hope caffeine withdrawal doesn't last too long xxx

Kitty - I hate the 'brown is ok, only worry if it's red' thing too - my early mc and my late mc both started with brown spotting, and when I had red bleeding in my successful pg with no brown at all everything was fine! All bleeding is worrying when pg, even if brown spotting is sometimes nothing to worry about...

Peanut - sorry the doc wasn't more helpful - I prescribe chocolate and wine...

laughing at people measuring ewcm with rulers :)

Dachs I think I would possibly carry on dtd a while longer unless you know you've ovd? My cycles have been atleast a week out after mc
Thanks for concurring the brown is fine nonsence, nothing since, I'm going to bleach my dam pants later!!
That tart does sound very very good!!

Great to see everyone is in upbeat mood today. And lots of dtd going on. Bring on the Bfps's!!!!

Peanut lol at you munching mangos. Sorry but what is chegs? Sorry doctor couldn't be of more help to you.

Almond congrats on accepting house offer. Have yous decided about house yous were looking at. Moving house is one of the most stressful things you go through so take it easy on yourself.

Kitty I agree how can you not worry about any colour of spotting!! Same stain is hard to remove from said underwear. So fx it's old stain.

Posy at thought of measuring ewcm with a ruler!!!

Woody hope your appoint went well this afternoon and I am liking the Caramel choc tart. Although I'm with the rest of yous clothes are now too tight, haven't got around to shedding pounds I gained after mc.

I got lovely cuddles today with a 5 month old baby today. I'll never forget this baby's birthday as they were born the day I had my scan and learnt that I had a mmc. But all the same I felt ok today and hope that I will have the chance again of our own.

Hello to everyone else I haven't named. But struggling here on phone.