A concerned other half needs advice

[paolocee]

My girlfriend, just turned 39, been TTC (see, I know some of the lingo) for 5 years.

Had one unsuccessful IVF cycle.

Yesterday she had a positive ClearBlue Conception Indicator at around 5pm. It was the day her period was due. It said conception had been 1-2 weeks ago which would have been spot on. She'd been suffering from bad cramps for the past few days. Very grumpy too (no change there, then ;)). Had odd food cravings. Higher than average temperature. Experienced apparent implantation cramps and a little spotting a week ago. All looked good. We were very excited. Very.

Then she retested again last night at 8pm. A BFN. Not to worry we thought, she'd drunk a gallon of water - the HCG must've been diluted.

We'll leave it until morning and a FMU (is that right? I may be straying from my comfort zone now). Another BFN. Utter gloom. Total and utter gloom.

She's on the sofa now watching a week's worth of Corrie. She still hasn't come on, although, as she's felt for the last few days she feels like she's about to.

My guess is that it was a chemical pregnancy. But is there still hope? Any words of wisdom much appreciated. I feel so helpless.

Go give her a hug :)

Good luck to both of you xx

KickTheGuru
A hug? Do you want me to lose an arm?

Prod her then and throw a rotten tomato in her corner

My husband does that to me often and I don't really get too upset.

Best of luck tomorrow, paolo.

Remember - we must be the very first people you tell :o

AThinginYourLife

Well, at least the second people after my mum. Soooo nervous. Don't know how the hell we'll sleep tonight.

I've got everything crossed for you. Makes typing tricky

Thanks fruitpastille.

And so to bed. Thanks everyone for all your support.

Another anonymous lurker rooting for you - fingers crossed

Very best wishes, I hope you get some good news.

Omg just skipped to the end of the thread........no test yet! Now I'm so excited its not a forgone conclusion
Good luck!
I will be checking back in the am

I can't believe I've just read all this and still no test has been taken! Must check back in the morning. Good luck, everything's crossed for you!

Wake up wake up wake up wake up wake up!

test time!

FX for you. I honestly thought I was having an early menopause. DD is 11 and sleeping upstairs.
I should say I don't normally come into this area. My family is complete but just wanted to wish you all the luck in the world. You sound like a very caring man.

Good luck!!

Just checking in saying I hope you both got some sleep and good luck

Just read your thread and wish you the best of luck. Fingers and toes crossed...!

Wee wee wee!!!!!!!

Tuesday morning. Still no AF. Test. BFN. Baffled.

Am sure someone far more knowledgeable than me will be along in a minute but did you say the tests were in Swedish? Just wondering whether they're not particularly sensitive? So for example when I got my BFP with my daughter it was on an extra sensitive test. A more 'standard' test didn't pick it up for another few days....

Oh dear. Well there are still two options - you may be looking at a chemical pregnancy/early loss. If the pregnancy has failed, it does usually take a few days for the body to be sure of this and for the bleeding to start, so at this very early stage you'd expect to see negative tests before the bleeding probably. But the other possibility is that you are still testing pretty early and your new test is not very sensitive. Is there any info about its sensitivity in the packaging?

Sorry this is being such a roller coaster.

Thanks CamelKnees.
She still has sore belly, still has sore throat, still has headache and STILL has sore gums. I've known her 14 years - she's NEVER had sore gums. She prides herself on having the finest gnashers in town. We're just baffled.

I think that either she has had a very early loss/chemical pregnancy or you are still testing too early. How sensitive are the tests you are using? It should tell u on the packet I think how early they can detect. Any chance you could pop to the dr for a blood test and/or some medical advice? This must be awful for you both, I'm sorry.

Hey you two.
According to Google Translate the stick has a sensitivity of 25 IU/I.

If there's still no AF then there's still no conclusion yet. I did a load of negative tests early in with dd.

Is it a clockwork cycle?