Anyone got any tips on getting us pregnant please??

[Debbsy]

We have been trying since May 2004 with no joy 2 early mcs.and a bit of a break for me,we have charted,temped,and used persona for 2 mths after that i had to give myself a break after a lot of tears and feelings of emptiness i at last feel ready to try again,so any tips old wives or otherwise will be very gratefully accepted.I have just booked my first appointment to try reflexology.We have both had all the fertility tests and both of us are fine so onwards and upwards for us again.Until our beanie baby makes a long awaited appearance and i at last see the 2 blue lines that dont disappear after a week or so.

If you or your partner smoke, stop. If you are overweight, try to lose weight.

I'm sorry to hear you are having problems and hope you fall pregnant soon.

thanks Expat congratulations by he way.No we dont smoke and im a 5foot 7 and a size 12 so not overweight either.Thanks for good wishes though :)

5ft., 7in and size 12?!

I'm jealous .

lol

I followed some of the dietary advice given on \link{http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk?reverse=1&topicid=1366&threadid=18746&rnd=009533740157053494\this thread}. Twiglett's messages have been withdrawn, but as indicated by a response to her, I think one of the things she recommended was taking evening primrose oil up to ov (but not after). It's supposed to increase your cervical mucous.

Good luck.

Hi Debbsy, in the same boat, well...already have a child, have been trying for a new baby on and off (not actively, just using no contraception) since last August.

It's great news that you are both healty! The baby will come, it's just soooo hard to wait, isn't it?

Recenly got the advice below for trying to concieve, I hope and pray it'll wok for both of us. :)

""Try" every other night starting Day 8.
Buy 10 ovulation predictor kit sticks.
Begin ovulation testing on Day 10.
When test is positive, "try" that night, plus two additional nights in a row.
Skip one night, then do one last "try".
Take a home pregnancy test 15 days after your ovulation test was positive, if your period has not begun.
If your ovulation test never goes positive, continue "trying" every other night until Day 35, then do a pregnancy test if your period has not begun."

Dubliner - great advice. A good simple to follow plan. I like your post.

Are you really, really good at checking your cm? Do you take evening primrose oil, flax seed etc. to help with it? there's also a particular cough syrup that can help too. It's the expectorant kind, you can google cough syrup cervical mucous and get it.

This one may sound a little far out, but there's a book called Spirit Babies that guides you into tapping into your future baby's spirit and communicating on some level. I think this part is important to some extent because your head and heart have to be in the game as well IYKWIM.

It will happen for you both, I'm sure, try taking pregnacare whilst conceiving.
Good luck!

Hi Debbsy,

I am very sorry that you are having and have had such a hard time with regards to ttc.

Have you really had all the tests done, the following tests tend to be omitted (I have listed them for you). People do say that they had all the tests done when it turns out that the opposite is true.

The following tend to be omitted in the course of fertility investigations:-
Adequate x-rays of the uterus which may show abnormalities not seen at laparoscopy in either the tubes or uterine cavity.

Hysteroscopy - telescope inspection of the inside of the uterus which may occasionally show abnormalities not otherwise seen.

Carefully timed post coital testing to see if sperms are surviving in the cervix

Repeated sperm counts over several weeks and months to make certain there is no subtle abnormality

Testing the sperm in special media - such as swim tests or velocity testing. When this is done it can sometimes uncover a hidden cause for the supposed "unexplained" problem.

Thorough hormone tests to detect abnormalities of male hormone or early falls in progesterone.

Scanning of the ovaries to see if follicles really are developing and there is no sign of polycystic ovaries.

If some of the above tests have been done then you have not been investigated properly as a couple. Something is sadly amiss here fertility wise and you are actually well beyond the stage of temp charting and such like.

Any test results over six months old should be discounted.

I would give the reflexology a go (well it won't do you any harm) but would suggest also that you make an appointment with your GP to be re-referred back to another subfertility unit (not the one you previously went to).

HTH

Debbsy

I am so sorry that it is taking a while to get your baby. I agree with expat that you should give your body the best chance - eat healthily, dont' smoke and cut right back on the booze. I think this applies to men as well. Taking zinc is supposed to improve the quality of sperm so pop out to Superdrug and get DP / DH a supply.

It is much easier said than done, but try to to get too stressed as that makes conception more difficult. I am keeping my fingers crossed for you both and hoping you have some good news soon.

thank you everyone for advice im going to see a reflexologist tomorrow at 6.30pm for a consultaton,hope fully that will help meerskat we will also go back to the drs as dh had sperm tests i had blood tests and a hypesterosalpingram but nothing else they just said we were both fine and keep trying.Feel very very down today as yet another one of the girls in the office is pregnant now thst brings the total to 5.Thank god im not office based, as work used to be my safe haven but not anymore its everywhere i bloody go...

Debbsy

One other piece of advice I've been given is 75mg of aspirin a day (you can get these from the chemist, don't need a prescription). Some friends of mine didn't conceive for about 3 years, eventually went to a consultant who recommended this trying this first, and she was pregnant the next month. Too thick blood can be a cause of early miscarriage - and if it isn't, the dose is so low that it can't hurt. The consultant said to them that this is something that should be more widely known as it would save a lot of heartache.

I started on this in Jan, along with a course of reflexology (which is so wonderfully relaxing that it can't but help) and have just got a BFP. Might be coincidence, but who knows.

And I know just what you mean about work - someone brought their new baby in on what would have been my due date had I not miscarried. I couldn't stand it.

this is gonna sounds bonkers but 2 of my friends who were trying to get pregnant,after sex they got their husbands to shake them by their legs. both got pregnant straight away.its supposed to shake the sperm up to the eggs quicker.(or something like that)

thanks 2cats ill give it a go been for reflexology tonight it was lovely.
lol itsdday thanks i will try anything including climbing mount everest if it was an option.

Vodka and red bull worked the first time.

The mirena coil misplacing itself the second time.

OK, I'm not usually into things like this, but after trying for 18 months myself, I tried this "spell" and it worked!

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This spell requires a green candle (an additional blue candle for healing is recommended is there is a medical condition involved), a small square of green cloth and a tie, a small amount of rich soil, and a nut or seed. You'll also need a candleholder and some
matches.

This spell should be performed in the bedroom if possible. Using your projective hand (the one you write with) hold the green candle and charge it with fertile energy. Imagine a healthy pregnancy, a beautiful baby. See it as if it already happened.

(If you use the blue candle, repeat the procedure, this time seeing your problems healed). Place the candle(s) on a table and light them, feeling the fire energize the spell. Then take the soil, charging it with the fertility of the earth, of growth. Sprinkle it around the candle(s). Then let the candle(s) burn down on their own (Never leave a candle burning unattended). When the candles burn down, take the soil and place it in the green cloth. Then take the seed or nut and "plant" it in the soil. Tie up the cloth tightly and carry it with you. Also, place it in your bed when you do YOUR planting! If you get a pretty cloth (I used a small green scarf) and tie it with a pretty green ribbon you can hang it in your bedroom and it just looks like one of those pot pourri things.

thanks ck ill try anything

Ok there's no science involveed in this but bear with me. We tried for our first dd for 9 months using the missionary position which all the books say is one of the best when ttc, then the one time we did it doggy style I fell pregnant. When she was 9 months old we did it doggy style without using contraception, one of those heat of the moment things and i fell pregnant again (unfortunately I mc this baby at 8 weeks). When we decided to come off contraception last March we only actually had sex once that month (we were busy lol) we did it doggy style and I fell pregnant straight away so I don't know if you've tried this position or not when ttc or if you've avoided it because it's generally thought this positon isn't good for conception but I thought i'd let you know it worked for me!

I remember hearing something about a herb called agnus castus that's supposed to help hormone levels. Can't remember how so make sure you research it first before taking any (they sell it in Holland and Barret). Also try taking a month "off" trying and go on holiday or at least away for a weekend - it worked for us after 18 months of trying - I left the thermometer and test kits at home, didn't chart or anything, had a fab holiday and got a BFP ten days later! I think the stress of all the anticipating and calculating can genuinely interefere in the end. Good luck and keeping fingers xd for you.

Debbsy, I was in a similar situation to you, we tried for 2 years before I had ds in 2000. I'm not sure if the procedure you have had (or the one Meerkats suggests)is exactly the same as having a laparoscopy (and dye) procedure, if not then it may be worth pressing to have it done. Could be a coincidence, but as a last resort I had a lap & dye, nothing abnormal was found but the consultant said it may have helped as it gave the tubes a "chimney sweep". 2 months later I was preg.

Also, you should get the book "Taking Charge of your Fertility" by Toni Weschler, it's excellent.

Give up caffeine as well (although I think your partner shouldn't, as I've read caffeine helps the sperm in some way).

wishing you loads of luck, I've been trying for no. 2 for 3 years and am about to start Clomid.

Hi Debbsy,

Okay so to date you've had sperm tests, blood tests and a HSG. If the blood tests and sperm analysis was done over six months ago then these should be discounted. It should be said also that these tests should ideally be done under the subfertility unit's supervision. If the GP looked at your blood test results then these could have been misinterpreted.

You need to be seen again by the subfertility unit rather than your GP doing another lot of tests - you have not been fully investigated properly to my mind. Something has been missed here - I am sure of that. They have not done a lap operation for instance (the one that Jodee has commented on).

Agnus castus can make any underlying hormonal imbalances worse - I would strongly suggest that you do not self medicate with this at all. If you really want to try this I would suggest you seek out advice from a medical herbalist beforehand. Where you are now in terms of ttc, you are well beyond the stage of trying this or doing temp charting anyway.

More medical tests on both of you should be carried out as soon as possible, my guess is that if these are thorough enough then they may determine exactly what the problem is. It could equally be a male factor problem as well as a fertility problem with your good self. Equally you could both be contributing to the subfertility.

Do not give up, would seek medical advice again and be re-referred back to another subfertility unit.

HTH

We were trying for 15 mths before I fell pg with dd. My dh used to have really hot baths, but the dr. suggested he gave them up which he did. After a while I fell pg. (It takes a while for the sperm to develop in testes so hot bath effect would take a few mths to disapear).

This time I got pg very easily, but unfortuately had a m/c. I'm sure the baths were very detrimetal to the sperm and suggest your dh has showers instead!

Wishing you all the best whatever you decide to do.

once you've done the business place a pillow under your bum so the sperm doesn't drip out... then stay like that till morning...

Good luck

of course when you fall pregnant we'll all be fighting over who's advice worked....

Actually enough sperm will get to the cervix from where they won't escape so the legs up under a pillow is not necessary to do. Its just another ttc myth that's been banded about.