Hoping for a July BFP Part Two

[redstrawberry]

Hoping the luck continues here.....

Sorry for the AF. I know how rubbish it is and I know it sounds like I am being a downer, but getting all excited because you are sure you're pregnant is hard work when TTC. I am just trying to minimise the hurt.

Repisa - how old are you?

I feel the same but I definitely still have a little bit of time. I don't have any kids though and I really want to have more than one child. Although, limited. People keep saying I need to wait another year before I start trying again and my overwhelming response to that is "f* that". I've already been trying nearly a year, I have no definite date when I can start again and they want me to put it off to "accept" my Type 1-edness?? The more I put off TTC, the less I accept my situation and the more useless and depressed I feel.

Sorry to resipsa. It is hard to not think that different feelings and twinges are related to pg when you are trying. I wasn't on any BC (just condoms) before TTC so all the feelings of ov and AF shouldn't be unusual to me but I never paid as much attention as I do now. It's easy to get them mixed up.

Well we are hoping for no rain red but you just don't know at the moment. Will take the brolly anyway!

chimp

It clouds all of our judgements. I was so sure that the symptoms I had were pregnancy. I watched them grow for 2 months. I went from mildly drinking water to downing 6L a day. I went to tired and unable to breathe - easily out of breath. Hungry! EFFING hungry! And thirsty! Then up ALL night peeing every 45mins and drinking more at night. Oh and then goodie - I got a cold and a sore throat! Then I started CRAVING fruit and fruit juice. I never crave fruit and fruit juice! Then the nausea hit! And then - oh GOD I started to vomit! What FUN - I must be pregnant!!

I pushed on because I was so sure it would have something to do with pregnancy. I pushed on to the point where they said I had about 5 hours left of my body before I would be in a coma or dead.

I know about clouded judgement :)

And now, people are telling me to be "rational" and wait another year before TTC again.

I'm sorry - what part of "I nearly killed myself trying to be pregnant" do they think I can walk away from and just "concentrate on my health"

Wow kick, they can't say you didn't want it enough! What a crazy journey!

resipsa I know how you feel, and am sorry AF got you. That sucks. :0(
I'm due a visit by her in the next few days too - trying not to get my hopes up.

kick loving your science and practical advice - true of course and we all know it but it doesn't stop us! I don't see why you have to wait a year personally - I would be inclined to think that if your body wasn't healthy enough to conceive then it wouldn't... But thne in hindsight that could set you up for a year of heartbreaking TTCing.. What will you do? (Sorry if I missed that answer somewhere I don't get chance to read everything on my quick MN visits!)

I think because you may also be DTD at the wrong time of the month. Fertility drugs aren't necessarily the right route to take - there could be something else going wrong that you don't know about it.

I agree with the year wait. Only because we've been TTC for about 11 months and we've just found out why we haven't conceived. I could have gone down the fertility route but I would have potentially damaged my baby if we'd fallen pregnant when I was so ill.

Or miscarried, which would have been awful.

Thanks for the support. Feeling a little less sorry for myself after reading the posts below!
Kick, God, I truly wish you all the best when you restart the TTC business. I'm 41. The maternal urge didn't really hit me until I was 38, nearly 39. DD was born when I was 40 with no problems thru'out the 9 months so I think I've kidded myself that I can defy nature, until now. Had MMC in March so the body still knows what to do, it's just not producing the goods to do it properly!
I think you're right that we all kid ourselves re symptoms but that said, when I got pregnant this year, I did know before I took the test cause I got the same "feeling" as the first time. Can't really describe it but it's like I'm wrapped in cling film and the world is at arm's length. Weirdo, eh? I had that same feeling this week but obviously fabricated it as no pregnancy. Double weirdo!
God, sorry, more self-indulgence.

My nurses said they were successfully helping a lady in her fifties through a pregnancy so I see no reason why you can't have a successful pregnancy too.

Random question but do you think they can reduce the risk of age-related complications (i.e. downs syndrome) with babies now?

I only ask because a few years ago, it was such a hoo-har to try fall pregnant after 35 and nowadays, there seems a lot less panic around it?

Would be nice to know I had more than 4 years left :)

Ha! Yes, I remember it well. On my 35th birthday, the main news story on Today was that to have children after 35 was "against nature". Can't remember whose learned opinion it was but it was clearly bo**ks. I just thought it was funny back then, though...

red ? longest cycle has been 35 days, but that was only last month and cycle before that was 34 so maybe they are just getting longer? I also do the reverse psychology thing. I don't ever think I'm pregnant :( I never FEEL pregnant

I'm so sorry she got you resipsa :(

jeez kick what a journey!

Don't think they can reduce the age-related risks, though. There's no way (save freezing) to slow down the ageing of the eggs. I was so naive (stupid?), I didn't even have any tests for DS.

Oh resipsa glad you're feeling a bit better and so sorry AF got you. What a bitch! It's only natural to feel down after bad news- go easy on yourself. Xxx

ted great to see you. Understand the metalling- ill be the same if when I get my BFP. Fx for an uneventful 9 months- let us know how scan goes. Will you go private? I've wondered if you've had a mc you can get an early nhs scan to prevent metalling- I know I'll be a basket case!

winkle whats the betting that now you dont want the job they'll ring up and offer it to you. Are you testing tomorrow? Don't like to be bossy, but early please as Ive got a busy weekend! :-)

Have got a bit of a hendo this weekend- going to see dirty dancing musical in brum with some friends and then night out. We've not booked a honeymoon yet- we're still umming and ahhing. Ive always wanted to go to Thailand. DF not fussed really but agreed as I wanted to go so badly. Then we decided to ttc, got pg straight away and didn't think jungle trekking in chaing mai was best plan when 16 wks pg, so we decided to go to Cornwall. Then obv we had mc, so I wanted to reinstate thailand plan, but DF had got his head into Cornwall. So, no decision made yet!!

kick - great to see you back with practical advice! You're right, there was a time when ttc after 35 was a definite taboo, but it doesn't even get raised eyebrows these days. Perhaps there have been medical advances?

Cd13 - dtd cd 11 and today. Will try to keep up eod if DF can handle it! am hoping the epo helps to do the trick!

Has anyone seen fatas? She emerged from the COD but radio silence ever since! Are you alright lovely?
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wishful hen do sounds great have fun

resipsa gutted about af. I had to look at scan photos 1 week after chem preg. Had a huge smile on my face but when I walked away the tears started falling. Hope you feel better soon (and your not too old).

winkle is af still AWOL.

I am on 14 dpo and she hasn't turned up yet. Poas this evening and bfn. at least my lp is of a decent length (looks for silver lining). Big piss up planned with dh tomorrow night so that should be fun.

sorry resipia, the first day is the hardest though!!!!
you will have a box of goodies soon :)
about the age thing, you really shouldnt get stressed about it, like you said you concieved fine first time and had 9 months problem free and have recently concieved again, mc is terrible but if you look in the threads its affects almost everyone, im 33 and had one, my mum was 26! yes if you left a gap of 10 years then maybe you could classed as nieve but its only a year since you were pg with dd, your body hasnt changed that much in a year and besides, while you are pg and bf you dont release eggs therefore yu still have almost as many as you did when you got pg last time! x

Hello all! Was away on holiday for a while and feel much better now! But cd14 today and no action for the last 8 days so think it unlikely I'm still in this month...
You can really chat can't you?! I will have to sneak off and read through to catch up...

fatas, i dont normally start till then!!
dont worry about us chatterboxes, get off and seduce dh!
p.s I feel guilty every time I write to you, like im calling you a fat ass!!!

Sorry to hear AF has arrived resipsa
Fingers crossed for those still to test.

AF got me today too, was not really a surprise as I had spotting for 3 days and cramps but you do keep holding out a little hope. So starting 3rd round of clomid tomorrow. We are also treating ourselves to an overnight hotel stay just to cheer us up a bit. Plan to have a nice meal and a few and a bit of a chill.

Lol @ kitty it's a kind of silly family saying - to feel as fat as butter (often after eating too much!!) so don't worry I don't mind!

DH is not for the seducing tonight - he is knackered after looking after DS whilst I was away and is quite grumpy too although mil and dil helped for the 6 days I was gorn... Oh well, we shall have to see if we can get a bit of sleep tonight and then see how tomorrow goes...

(still haven't read all messages posted! Chatterboxes!!)

Stupid af has still not arrived 15 dpo. Poas this morning and got a bfn, got my first ever evaportation line (Morrisons test).

winkle has yours shown up yet?

Dh has confirmed there is a stupidly faint 2nd line but has cleared me for a boozy night out.

If Clear blue was cheaper and the only test available just imagine how easier things would be without having to study lines on tests!

Mersea - sorry about AF. Night away sounds like the perfect plan. Enjoy!
Resipsa - totally get what you said about the cling film / world at arms length analogy; that's exactly how I felt when I was pg. Would love to feel like that again.
Wishful - I had exactly the same honeymoon dilemma this year. Was desperate to go to Thailand but then got pg and ended up booking Italy (DH wanted Cornwall!). Then had mc... By then I'd used up my spare holiday babysitting my sister's kids though (!) and it would have been v expensive to change the Italian trip, so we stuck with Italy. Had a great time. But a bit gutted I may never go to Thailand now. Big decision for you. Fx you have a fab hol wherever you go. Lost Gardens of Helligan in Cornwall is one of my fave places ever. But Thailand. Mmmmmmm