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After m/c - the wine and shagging thread: no 2!

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wilderumpus · 03/07/2012 11:19

Hello ladies!

So we have had our mc's... and are moving on and thinking about making new babies :) Hurray, hurray!

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ChuckleMonster · 19/07/2012 18:25

I'm so glad you are all here, I don't know how I'd cope without!!!

I have sore boobs and feel crampy. Have also had headaches on and off for a few days (which I had with dd) and have been feeling very gassy and bloated. Have also been feeling a bit queasy (but that could be nerves!!) the cruellest thing about mc (in my opinion) is that it robs you of the pleasure of pregnancy. With dd I knew mc was possible but sailed through loving every minute. I can't imagine doing that ever again. Hopefully as things progress it will become easier. Hearing about your friend makes me happy one, its good to be reminded that other people have been here and come out the other side.

Off to check out this new ttc thread (and maybe look for some calming whale song online)

onemoreforgoodmeasure · 19/07/2012 20:13

Oh ffs, we were midway through when there was a knock at the door, I stole a peak out of the window to see OH's friend, who had said he might pop by, we forgot! We pretended to be waking up from a nap but I wanted to blurt out "we're ttc, go away!"

ChuckleMonster · 19/07/2012 20:32

Boo one,BOO. You should have ignored the door. I hope you get to pick up where you left off when he leaves :)

booboomonster · 19/07/2012 20:58

OMG one that tops it! I had DD2 wake up mid shag once recently and start crying - and DH told me he couldn't concentrate until she had gone back to sleep. (WTF?!!) And it was around ov time... I was so pissed off! I hope you get to finish the deed later too!

onemoreforgoodmeasure · 19/07/2012 22:42

Boo, these guys spook like horses! Anyway, we did get back to it but, ugh, worst ttc sex ever!!! What are your worst ttc sex stories guys?

joberg · 19/07/2012 22:52

Anytime I mention ttc or ovulation DH gets spooked!!! So have to do all monitoring and planning on quiet!!! Gets a bit boring, having to pretend to be randy all the time, but just lying back and thinking of the baby that will hopefully come! :)

Just had d/c on Friday, no action for another week. Hopefully cycle will not be disrupted....

Haylebop12 · 19/07/2012 23:12

I'd like to join this one :-)
First natural mmc on 22/6 at 9wk, all clear from hosp and wishing my AF would make an appearance. Im eager to get going, and dh is but not sure if for same reason! this one was planned to the day! a lot of plans been changed such as returning to uni next year in sept for masters as I was due 27/12!
Although admitted to hosp with extreme hyperemesis with this pregnancy and my dd (3.5 yrs) I can't wait to be Pg
:-)

cheeseandmushroomtoastie · 19/07/2012 23:35

Can I join too? Quick question though, how long after your mc's did your period return? Am still waiting for mine and I want to hurry up and get going with ttc Confused

Will read thread and post properly when on laptop and not on phone

Haylebop12 · 19/07/2012 23:52

I mc on 22/6 and still waiting. An feeling like it will be soon though. Very irritable and moody :-)

GoodButNotOutstanding · 19/07/2012 23:58

Congratulations Chuckle! I've got my fingers crossed that everything goes well for you this time.

wilde definitely nc to WildeOverLord and post inflammatory comments all over the conception board. I may not be here officially yet but I do keep lurking.

cheese my af came back 33 days after my mc. I think some people have to wait longer though.

Haylebop12 · 20/07/2012 00:08

So how many AFs did you have before you were actively TTC? I've heard 1 is ok, doc said 2, something I read said 3...

GoodButNotOutstanding · 20/07/2012 00:16

I'm not actively ttc as dp won't agree to it, but if he had been up for it I wouldn't have waited at all. I think it's a personal choice but the doctors like at least one af so they can date the pg more easily. Some people think you should wait so you are properly 'over' the mc before starting ttc again. I don't think I'll ever be properly 'over' the mc so it would make no difference to me how long I waited.

Haylebop12 · 20/07/2012 00:21

Mentally I'll never be over it... Was biggest shock and most difficult thing in my life to date. One reason I ask is that dh and I got a little carried away this morning. I've stopped beefing from my mc but not had my AF. I was worried that if I got caught it could result in another mc because my body hasn't "recovered" as the docs like to say and was wondering if I should get the MAP? Confused!

Haylebop12 · 20/07/2012 00:21

Bleeding*

GoodButNotOutstanding · 20/07/2012 00:25

I think you'll be fine. There are plenty of people that get pg straight away after a mc and it all goes well. I don't believe there is any medical reason why you would be any more likely to mc if you get pg now than if you get pg in another 6 months. I am sure they only recommend waiting so that they can date the pg more easily. I'm going to say good luck with getting pg this time.

Haylebop12 · 20/07/2012 00:29

I actually can't wait, it's awful. A close friend is due within days of when I was and seeing her starting to get her bump (16/17 weeks) is really hard. It'll be an anxious 9 months but something I know I have to do :-)

cheeseandmushroomtoastie · 20/07/2012 08:46

What's the 'fertile period after mc'? Was mentioned on another thread but never heard of it before. My mc was 25th June, like some of you said most horrific thing I've been through. Going through my diary this morning and each week I had written ( in tiny letters like a little code) how many weeks I would have been. It's tough going. Still feel physically sick when I think about what happened Sad

CarrotWithaTwist · 20/07/2012 10:01

I asked the EPU Dr about how long to wait till ttc.
She said they recommend waiting till after 1st af but that that was just so they could date it easier. She said if you feel like trying sooner then "go for it" as there is no medical reason for not doing so.
I read that there is some research that suggests your more fertile straight after a mc so personally I plan on getting back in the saddle (so to speak) as soon as the bleeding stops :)

Haylebop12 · 20/07/2012 10:34

Oh I am glad about that cyz TBPH I've been really up for it lately! Unlike me so of course dh is pleased but didn't wanna get caught if its puts me in danger of another mc. I read that first 6mo after mc are best for conception :-)
Right I'm off ;-) (oh yeah dh at work!)

ChuckleMonster · 20/07/2012 11:25

Morning all < waves frantically at new faces >. Am on phone so its going to take me a while to read all these posts (and even longer to reply!!) but just wanted to quickly say well done for dtd one and it doesn't have to be pretty it just has to be effective!!!

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wilderumpus · 20/07/2012 13:14

hello all! Turn my back for half a day... ! So sorry to hear about your mc's. Here's to new healthy, happy babies Wine

erm IIRC you are definitely safe to ttc as soon as you stop bleeding, but I don't think anyone should get too hung up on being 'more' fertile after, there isn't any conclusive evidence - but you DO have very high chance of a good antenatal outcome in the first three months after a mc :)

one well done for dtd! i don't have any bad dtd stories really. I can't imagine your mate bought the 'having a nap' story?!!

my child won't nap. he is on hyper overdrive having got up at 5.30. If I hear that falsetto version of london's burning once more I shall have to have a calming cup of tea and some biscuits crack open the uzo Grin

hey chuckle how are you feeling today?

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wilderumpus · 20/07/2012 14:49

hahaha that guru has kicked off in another thread! she has such a thick skin is weird untrue!

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onemoreforgoodmeasure · 20/07/2012 16:00

Hello everyone! Sorry to hear about your MC's. Like you Halley it was the most difficult thing I've been through, I think it's changed me permanantly, but 4 months on things do feel a lot better.

Cheese & Halley, it was 3 months before I stopped bleeding enough to know the difference between the end of my mc and a period. It's different for everyone.

Wild, I don't think he bought the story either, but he stayed for at least 30/45 minutes, I kept thinking "come on, you KNOW what's going on here!!!"

Thanks Chuckle, I will remember that tonight (pos opk today yay!), doesn't have to be pretty... doesn't have to be pretty...doesn't... (wanders off in a preoccupied way to look at the other thread for my daily dose of JK)

onemoreforgoodmeasure · 20/07/2012 16:22

Ahhh, MN. Just read a thread that ended in the wise words "everyone should clean up their own poo". MN should produce "daily words of wisdom".

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wilderumpus · 20/07/2012 16:22

I agree about being changed one and that it was the worst thing I have experienced (bar losing my Dad in a car crash at 11YO) halley. I am in counselling and had to suspend from work it has brought up so much shit! So is absolutely a MUST that a lady looks after herself in these times, particularly I feel because once the mc has been and gone society seems to think we will just get over it. Some maybe, others not so much.

haha your friend will think you two are insatiable with your daytime lovin' one Grin and no it doesn't have to be pretty! BUT, but, but... I done gone read somewhere posh and proper like that if your man is super happy in his sexy time then he produces 50% more swimmers! 50% more! But whatevs, anything is better than nothing because of stress.

Very happy for your pos opk!

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