After m/c - the wine and shagging thread: no 2!

[wilderumpus]

Hello ladies!

So we have had our mc's... and are moving on and thinking about making new babies :) Hurray, hurray!

I have been lurking but feeling to crap to post much. Sorry I have been keeping an eye on you all and keeping fingers crossed :) I'm also going slightly out of my mind with worry and am getting very stressed about work. I've got a mw appointment on thursday so I was going to unload it all on her (poor woman).
How is everyone today?

worry sheldon? about the pg or work? hope you ok x

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hello ladies, how are we all?

had a lengthy leave of absence but hopefully am welcome back into the fold? Am ready to get on with it now :)

What news?

hallo foo are you ttc again? hope you are well.

we are all more pg than not these days!

one have you done any other jillian micheals workout dvds? I just did banish those trouble zones and am absolutely shattered! is harder than 30 day shred :( I actually want to go to sleep!

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Hello all!! Feel like I have been away for ever . How are we all?!? Have just been reunited with laptop and am looking forward to catching up with all your news. Hope everyone is well and having lots of nice baby making nookie!! I have missed you all lots!!!

We had a lovely holiday and everything seems to be in order with the little person (fingers crossed). My calculations make me 6+4 today and I phoned to make my first midwife appointment today which was scary. I phoned my GP this morning too so I could grovel for an early scan and they said no - how will I get through the next 6 weeks?!?!?

Right, not typing any more incase this message vanishes too. Off to read through thread and see what I have been missing!

Have just read about your CP wilde - thats beyond shit . I want to promise to stop you testing early in future but I know I might not be able to keep that promise (I just love the POASing) so I promise I will try!!! Yay for Septmeber hols though, and big yay for your peeps coming home tonight!!

yo chuckle, welcome back!

Aw, thanks. Am totally fine about it now, I have put it down top just having a run of bad luck that will RUN OUT :)

don't let me test early chuckle! At the moment if I think about testing early I immediately go NOOOOOOO... so is ok. but who knows, I am always much more sanguine at cd10 than I am at 10dpo :) Have got it into my head I won't get pg for a few months now anyway, no idea why, I just keep thinking I hope to be pg for xmas now.

glad you had a lovely time off and your pregnancy feels a-ok. Sorry you won't get a scan, I doubt I will either and plan to have one privately at 9 weeks. Would you get a private one? I got a dvd of my DS, at 7 weeks when we had a private one (had no idea when he was concieved as he was a surprise so went for a scan to see)! hehe. I just really hope my symptoms will help me know I am ok though, you know? hmm.

I think I actually have to go out and buy snaffles. Am working hard but on edge that I am missing olympic stuff!

DS is home later. I honestly can't remember how I had the energy to look after a toddler, after four days off am quite frightened!

chuckle I know it's a bit devious but if you really want an early scan you could always say you have cramps/heavy spotting/ other undesirable symptoms, and they can't refuse an early scan then. It might feel wrong but at least it will put your mind at rest sometimes you have to play the system

but cheese what if someone in the waiting room really needed a scan and really was in danger of losing their baby? Having been on that side of things could you really fake it for a free scan? I know what you mean about playing the system buuuut... I think I might worry about jinxing myself, personally.

HOWEVER, chuckle can you self refer direct to your EPU, thereby missing out your GP? I don't actually know what I am talking about, but I hear a lot of people doing it! depends on your EPU apparently as to whether they will see you or not :)

wilde that's true

aw don't feel bad! here, :)

Hi wilde. Worrying about everything really, feel a bit overwhelmed by it all. I just don't feel like I can enjoy it until I've had a scan but at the same time too scared to go for a scan! I'm sure mw will talk some sense into me.

I would worry about the jinx thing too I think, I see the midwife on Monday for the first time so I will ask her, otherwise we may disucss private. TBH, I really wanted an early scan before I got pg and now the thought of going to the EPU makes me feel sick, so many horrid memories. I still think I would like an early scan but I wont push really hard for it as I am a bit undecided now.

I feel like I have a terrible hangover that will never go away and the only thing I want to eat is green pot noodles (i dont even want chips - what is wrong with me) and my boobs are really sore so I feel very pregnant (which I didnt with either mc) so am feeling quite positive at the moment.

(Its easy to feel positive when you are tucked up in bed at 6pm with a big bang theory box set while your MIL takes care of your DDs bedtime routine downstairs )

Hi Foo, welcome back! (Makes a welcome back cake)

Wild, no excercise videos here, must have been someone else??? I'm the one who refuses to excercise!!!

Welcome back Chukle, grrr on your behalf re the scan. Faking symptoms or going privately or waiting 6 more weeks, whatever you decide to do I'm sure all our f's are x for you!

Man, that took me ages to write! Chuckle, you cannot jinx away your lovely pregnancy! If that worked then I'd jinx myself pg... (rushes off to see if that works)

one I am SURE you sid you did 30 day shred! If it wasn't you then whoever it was, reveal yourself and save poor one from my unwanted attentions :)

do you really not think that if you got pg after a mc, and then started pretending you were going to mc so you could get a scan then it might happen?! I don't believe in jinxing either but oooh that would worry me!

anyway, off with my ridiculous superstitions.

sheldon I would feel just the same!

chuckle I will say I want my baby at a different hospital next time am pg so never have to go back to the EPU where I mc'ed :( UG. your symptoms sound grand!

Wild, I know I cannot jinx myself in or out of pregnancy, there are no gods decreeing what I get to do, and I don't have to appease them by keeping my fingers crossed and stepping over cracks. It's biology, dna (re chromosomal abnormalities), I cannot lose a baby for having bad thoughts and I don't get to have one for having good thoughts, that would imply I had some control, and I don't - at least not in that way. I've never been religious. (worries sounds like guru and has therefore lost face MN stylee so slinks off to make burger and chips)

Hello all!!! Hope you're ok? I haven't caught up on the thread, what news? Lots of lovely PG I hope!!!

Thought i'd find out how you all are & update you. My WTF conception is going well (touch wood!) I am 19 weeks and have my 20 week scan on Friday..... Starting to feel lots of lovely wriggles and pokes & have a definite bump now!!

Baby due very late dec / very early Jan.

Hope you are all well & getting the poas results you want. Quick conceptions & safe pregnancies to you all,

Much love to the oldies and the newbies!
Xxxxxxxx

ooh no one I am not like that either.

yay cake how lovely! My DS was due on 1 jan, born on 15 dec in the end and is a lovely, lovely time for a birthday :) everyone is in such a good mood! 20 weeks eh? fabulous! Makes me feel like a right old timer though [confused}.

sex week starting imminently in this house, though am getting pre-performance anxiety! wonder if really do want to make a baby this month. we are pretty stressy, I want to have more of my PhD done before I do get pg and have also talked myself into thinking maybe I am just too stressed with work to get a happy pregnancy at the mo. I will just keep mc'ing until I finish uni. silly eh? or not. stress does play a big part in ttc doesn't it?

Wilde, I also start my final semester this sept and have just started a new job of which I have been put forward for promotion, however, if you really want it why put it Off? I know I'll be ill for two weeks with severe HG but it's something I gotta do!
I'm not sure if stress does play a part as like I've said before dd1 was surprise and only got pg once after that resulting in recent mc.
Sex week for us starts tomorrow :-) am I being daft thinking I really could get pg on first cycle after mc, cuz TBH I will be pissed off if I don't! Bad yeah?? :-/

Sex week nearly over here, am already stressing about whether I'm pregnant or not. Gut feeling says probably not. And am not even in the 2ww yet. This is going to be a long hard slog

What's 2ww mean :-/

2ww = 2 week wait hayle! the dreaded time between ov and AF... erk.

I am not sure whether to go for it because I have a lot on at the mo hayle, so if I get on the 2ww am worried I shall take my concentration off work. I really want to finish my course soon, the mc put me back 6 months... I am doubting if I can do a pregnancy, look after DS and finish a full time PhD course.

cheese you'll be fine!

Ah yes, had a feeling it might be! Fortunately my recent mc didn't really interfere with uni cyz it was end of June and I had already broke up but going into my last semester it's definitely something I dobt want happening again!
Phd, oof I'm only doing a degree so reckon its hard going for you! only thing you can do is what feels right :-)

I don't have semesters :( just constant drudge. nearly finished your degree though, well done!