After m/c - the wine and shagging thread: no 2!

[wilderumpus]

Hello ladies!

So we have had our mc's... and are moving on and thinking about making new babies :) Hurray, hurray!

Congrats Wilde! That's awesome news! Each day etc etc

Wilde!!!

Def get a digi test - superdrug are meant to be mega accurate... And CB picked up mine at 9dpo...

Morning to everyone else too - this news has made my morning. (currently on mobile so can't name check- sorry). Home later so will cat h up thoroughly then.

Xxxx

Morning ladies, hope you are all well. wilde I think I got a positive on a digi test at 12dpo. Would probably have worked before that too but I was too scared to try :)

Congratulations Wilde!!! I have everything crossed that this pg is successful for you even though I am extremely jealous

thanks peeps you are kind :) However had started spotting a day early and test this morning BFN :( Shortest pregnancy in history!

Am really very sad as this is my second CP, I suspect I had one in Dec, and my third failed pg in a row. it seems we can make a baby very easily but my shitty body doesn't keep 'em safe.

Ho hum! always next month, at least there were no hospital procedures this time!

sorry not to namecheck, just popping in.

how will I tell DH? I should never have told him, that is the worst thing :(

Oh wilde I'm so sorry. That is so shit and I'm sorry I was jealous earlier as I know this feeling too. I had a cp the month before I conceived dd2 and I was gutted (especially as I didn't know when my body would next ovulate of have an af due to the pcos). I think my timings were about the same as yours too, tested just before af was due (possibly, not sure, don't reliably know when af is ever due) got very faint line, them af started 2 days later. It's horrible. Hope you are ok. xxx

I'm sorry wilde :(

Thanks dudes. I rang DH at work and let him know and he was very practical and rational about it and said we wouldn't even have known I was ever pg if I hadn't done the test and so will treat it as one of those things. We will get a bit healthier and he reassured me am not a loser but we are a team and I shouldn't have to take all the responsibility (as I am wont to do). Lovely chap that one.

Feel better now and well... shiny new cycle on its way and next month will be OURS. At least I only thought I was pg for a day instead of getting to 10 fucking weeks!

and NO ONE is allowed to let me test early again! Whatever I say, however much I beg, you must say NO, WILDE! NO! PUT THE STICK DOWN ON THE GROUND AND STEP AWAY SLOWLY, HANDS WHERE WE CAN SEE THEM.

thanks friends

Wilde am so sorry, that is really shitty.

Really sorry to hear that wilde

ps good don't worry about your comment! hehe, silly monkey. am sorry to hear about your cp too. these things happen incredibly often, reading around is in a way reassuring to know it happens all the time (not that I want others to have it! is just another aspect of 'normality' isn't it).

Anyway my new H and M delivery has come and I look pretty nifty in my new leggings from all my shredding. I have another month to get fit and look even more wonderful in pregnancy! AND another month to get closer to finishing my PhD and can spend that lovely time lounging around being all pg instead of working like I would have if I got pg this month. so nerr CP, nerr.

AND i have to book our beachside accommodation in eetaly now.

My life is reet nice, I have so much to be thankful for :)

gosh. I have actually succeeded in cheering myself up!

Shit.

I was thinking maybe it was good you told your OH so that he can understand a little of where you're at at the moment and provide some support?

And yes it sounds like you do have a nice life and a lot to be thankful for lovely.

When are you off on holiday?

oh yes, definitely good I told DH, he has been smashing and sorted me right out. I was feeling all 'miscarriage-y' and he brought me right back down and said it was one of those things and now, let us move on and not dwell. good idea Mr wilde. just another cycle down.

off on hols 13 sept for two weeks! amazing. 'malfi coast innit :)

Ooooh, sounds lovely (the holiday!) an dyour OH too!

Wilde, sorry to hear your news... Glad your doing a good job of cheering yourself up. Sometimes that's the only person that can. Your oh sounds lovely!
Jealous about your hol! At least it will be two weeks away from sane shit different day,..
Just checking in anyhow, no af yet but bad cramps yesterday. I'm now 32 post mc. DM worries and would like Me to wait for an af but I'm trying not to think too much and just do what I want to!!
Hope everyone is well :-)

Oh NO wild I am very very sorry to hear this. What crushing disappointment. I totally expected to come on tonight to read about (& share in) your digi BFP excitement.
I think you are right, though, to see it as something that could (and does) happen to anyone, often without them knowing it, and not signalling any problem that you might have. It certainly is an argument against early testing. I am really sorry, I feel disappointed myself - so I can't imagine how you must be feeling. I hope you are feeling ok - it will happen, we all just have to be patient, however frustrating that is. One day in the future we will only vaguely remember how these months dragged when we were ttc DCX.
Anyway, yes - holiday, shredding, lots of shagging. We will all be pregnant again!

boo thanks so much for that optimism :) I feel really fucking glum and shit about it all today and like it will never happen. Never happen. I really don't want to start feeling desperate and worried or it will definitely not happen!

bit mardy, but doing a-ok with a lovely toddler to keep me occupied! may have to take him out later for a last minute hunt for ice cream to stuff myself with once he is in bed. had some cider last night to soothe my wounds.

hope everyone is well, good luck hayle!

hey wild just wanted to say was thinking about you yesterday and now... hope you are feeling ok. It's such a rollercoaster ttc isn't it? I think you were the same as me and got pg straight away previously - so this whole swi then 2ww is a bit new, and just such a headf*ck! And that's without the added complications - the horrors of CP, MC, late AF for no reason, temping, OPKs, SS etc etc. On reading the conception thread I am amazed, impressed and humbled how so many women manage to carry on trying for so long - months or years, but many (most?) do seem to get pregnant eventually. We just have to keep the faith, and know that when our baby comes it will be the right time (and baby) for us and our family will be the better for it. xx

Wild, I stand by Boo and what she said (well said Boo).

well said boo. Yes, DS was a pill accident AND was conceived days after we actually dtd, so all in all rather a tenacious, unlikely being! :) Def made me think we could concieve easily and all this ttc is such blooming hard work!

I had a really confuddling day in my head yesterday and realised I was starting to feel too blue again. Overwhelmed, hopeless, trapped etc. So decided that we needed to move asap and get away from here! Then realised actually we need to stay, I need to finish work while I have an office and easy, lovely childcare, and I need to stop ttc for Aug.

SO I am being an actual grown up and putting what needs to be done before what I want to do, for probably the first time in my life! Is only August, but still feels like a Big Deal! then in Sept I am fertile when we are on holiday which is perfect, would be around 10dpo when we get back so my 2ww will be spent in italian splendour! I have even told DH and he agrees, so that is that!

And I have AF today, very painful as I expected with a near miss, but anyway, is here bang on time I am incredibly grateful for that. I can move on now.

I will still pop in over the next 6 weeks but will try not to as is addictive! Hopefully when I come back proper you'll all have buggered off to AN threads :)

x

Wild, I'm not surprised to hear this experience has put you through it a bit, it's real roller coaster stuff. I had a chemical pg once but as I'd never been pg before and hadn't had an mc yet it didn't phase me much. I can imagine it's very different to have a chemicial pg on this side of an mc. It sounds like you have a good plan and have got some control over the situation for the time being. Hope we do see you around here still from time to time.

Well don't make any snap decisions, wild, but that does sound like it might be a good plan. Holiday for baby making always a good idea! I hope AF isn't too much of a b*tch.

We'll certainly miss you if you do stay away, but you gotta do what's right for you. And def come back and see us!

Hope you're well one! [waves]

(waves back at Boo) I'm well enough thanks. I'm a mere day or 4 from AF and have my premenstrual spot heralding her arrival. I have no symptoms like knee ache or water mouth to keep me hopeful. Cruelly I did wake in the night to wee and in my half wake/sleep I did somehow decide I must be pg, the "facts" all lined up, how could I not see it. When I woke this morning I realised I must have been dreaming but I poas'ed anyway, cd 24 / dpo 8. Bfn. It's what I've expected all month since I had to had that section of my cervix removed!

How are you?

How's everyone getting on this weekend??

Hello, newbie here!!!

Had 4th m/c recently. D&c on 13th so Currently waiting for AF to arrive and see what's happening with my cycle. Have two kids, DS (who we waited a long time for) aged 3 and DD (who popped up when DS was 5 m old) aged 2. But thrown by recent mc as all others were before kids so thought my body knew what to do now, ESP as DD was a surprise. This baby had Tri 16 and was a little boy. Hormones all over place, last night I thought my marriage was over, today I am obsessed with conceiving twins? Hopefully won't last too long....poor DH!