After m/c - the wine and shagging thread: no 2!

[wilderumpus]

Hello ladies!

So we have had our mc's... and are moving on and thinking about making new babies :) Hurray, hurray!

hollar ladies!

Am back from da lakes, though am mardy to not be on holiday any more, brief tho it was :) Had a brilliant, wonderful, excellent time with my best bud and her husband and baby in a beautiful cottage in a gorgeous part of the world.

hello ice, so happy to read about your scan :) congrats!

have a lovely trip chuckle!

woody welcome and sorry about your mc. You could certainly be fertile now, if you have EWCM and want to make a baby then DTD immediately!

glad you feeling rubbish sheldon in the NICEST possible way of course. Hope you doing ok in the heat, being sick and hot and sweaty is not a nice combo

Am 9dpo today and still not poas :) And being away made me completely forget about it all which was marvellous! The idea I could be pg was completely surreal. Coming back yesterday though I started getting crampy and sicky which generally is the onset of pmt. Am gutted but also am trying to be rational and think that there is always next month and the month after etc etc. Quite grumpy this morning though not sure how much of that is pmt and how much my shouty toddler, an early morning and post holiday blues.

meant to be testing tomorrow but don't know if I can face the bad news! I don't mind knowing in my head that we aren't pg, but I don't want the empty strip to confirm it :(

am going to shred now and get some happy hormones going!

Thanks Ice, that's reassuring. And 13+6 YAY!!! I was very moved by your description of the scan. So glad for you.

Woody and Hayle, I also heard someone say that once, having got pg means we know our bodies can at least do that.

And Woody, I think most things are possible!

Welcome back Wild, sounds like you had a great time! Hope it isn't AF, how are you feeling generally, any potential symptoms (knee ache, wet mouth...???). Am in awe at your ability to refrain from poasing!

Hello all, this thread moves fast! Can't keep up! Got my first af since m/c today which is bit wierd as I thought I had ewcm this morning glad in a way af is here as it means can get back to ttc soon.

Posting on phone so will read thread later and try to get to know you all a bit better.

Hi everyone

Just wondering if I could have some advice. I did a pg test today (first since mc) and it was positive. It is too soon to be a new pg (as we've only been dtd again since the mc since Saturday) so I assume it's from the mc. Does this mean that it's impossible for me to get pg until it goes negative or could I still get pg? I am definitely having a lot of cm and it keeps being ewcm. I feel absolutely gutted as I think the thought of being able to get pg in these next few weeks was helping me.

glad your AF is here and you can start ttc soon cheese!

yo one. am not aware of any symptoms that can't be attributed to pms still get the nasty watery mouth, it was so awful the other night I thought i might be sick. don't know what is up with that, hormonal stuff probably!

Am going to poas tomorrow, yeah man. will be utterly meaningless as if it is a bfn obviously it could be too early so just being silly but still... just fancy it now (having spent a WHOLE day ALONE in a house with the fecking sticks calling to me!)

who knows.

woody you can certainly ttc with a positive test from your mc. However, do be aware that you might not ov until it is very faint, (but I did ov normally despite bfps) and that if you DO get pg you might not know if a bfp heralds a new pg or is still from the mc. This can be a massive headfuck! that's all though so hope is the news you want to hear :)

Thank you wilderumpus that is exactly what I wanted to hear! I am going to just keep dtd every other day and seeing what happens. Thank you! I needed some positivity!

Hope you get a bfp when you poas tomorrow!

This confuses me :-/
I really hope you get a bfp relating to a new pregnancy woody... But
If you still produce a bfp after mc then surely your hcg levels are high enough and your body still thinks your pregnant. Therefore you don't ovulate?
Aside from that did you not get a follow up from hosp?
I had an appt for 3 weeks after my 12wk scan at which point told I had mc at 9wk. At this appt I fortunately produced a BFN but Had I produced a bfp would have had to have a scan to ensure all product had been removed.
And it's too hot to be dtd at the mo!
Need some air con!

Hi hayleybop basically at the scan I had last Wednesday, everything was gone - there was no product left and all the linings of the uterus had gone back to normal. That's why I was a bit confused when I got a positive pg test.

I think that I'm going to just keep dtd and seeing what happens...

hayley it is strange but true! I still got bfps from my mc until 3 days before my WTF cycle AF! and I had all my usual ov signs at the usual time so assume I did ov. (having a mc only put my cycles out a couple of days :))

Oh I see! Sorry about that :-/
I thinking same as you just get on with it and not to over think it :-)

Hi guys,

Woody, I got bfp's for about two weeks but then had the all clear. I understand the wish to get on with things. Hopefully things will pick up for you soon. It's just a matter of days until your body resets from the mc, you just don't know yet how many days that'll be, but it will be soon. If you feel ready to dtd then go for it.

How're things Wild, did you poas?

I've had another shift in mc related depression, when I woke up this morning I did the usual "today would have been..." and then literally thought "oh, just get on with it", my own mind counteracted the moody "poor me" stuff!

Has anyone else been moved to tears over the para-olympics ad? When it pauses to show all the reasons a person might become disabled I just burst into tears and their ability to overcome such major obstacles! I feel hormonal at cd 19/20 and as my shortest cycles are 24 days am thinking I'm pms'ing.

Thanks onemoreforgoodmeasure I'll keep testing every few days until I get a negative! It feels like the right thing to do for us to try again... I just want to go back to being relaxed about it all!

Have you poas yet wild

aw one maybe you are being all pg :) I burst into tears in the car on Monday when DH was teasing me saying I had mouth scabies (yes, he is that childish! and no, I don't have mouth scabies or anything nasty in my mouth for that matter). And am glad you feel a bit better today. Is a really good sign.

me, me, me alert

i did po several sticks! And I have four extremely, crazily faint lines. VERY faint. These are lines that only i would be able to see, every other bugger would see a negative test! However, I have seen enough BFNs in my time to be brave enough to know it when I see it... so think I can't be making up FOUR lines?! On IC and FRER... Or can I?!!! I probably can

So will go for 'mmm, maybe I am maybe I am not' for now tho think I am. BUT, this morning I have had really bad AF cramps :( So bad I have gone and got paracetemol because if I am losing another baby then I don't want to know about it and just want to get on with things. My last pg was very crampy and I was told I might lose it, and I did. So might be having NO baby, or a CP, or another shitty blighted ovum. So no, not hanging out the bunting or even telling DH, certainly until I have a line I haven't made up he might be able to see!

All the fun of the early testing headfuck fair.

ho hum.

wilderumpus I've always been told that a line is a line! Maybe test again in a few days and hopefully the line will have got stronger.

wilde I have had some nasty cramps at the beginning of this pregnancy and everything is still going well at the moment. I even when to the docs about horrible pains in my back and she told me it was all normal.

well, woody I think you would even chuckle if I tried to show you my 'lines' :) However, if I think I see something, again and again, I am sure there has to be something... because I honestly do know a BFN when I see one. But until you know for sure and have a proper BFP then you could just be being completely crackers.

did you sheldon? I feel so much better now I have given in and let my bloated tum out of my horrible jeans! Just it was the cramping I had last pg that the dr thought might be ectopic and then it was a BO :( So now any cramping means it's all fuckitty fucked. We'll see, prob just bad AF cramps!

will test again tomorrow probably and then have no more tests! eek!

nips over to ebay quicksmart

ps. I have been very queasy on and off and had to have a nap yesterday aft and slept a clear 8 hours last night! (lots for me) sooooo tired. and bbs are starting to seriously tingle on and off but mostly ok. and No AF grumpiness at all :)

so, sorry to bang on about this but...

I just did another IC (my last! I couldn't help myself, will have to fork out proper money for proper tests at the pharmacy for tomorrow now. grr) and I can see a thick, very faint line. There really is a line; I can see it right now as I type as it sits on my desk. Unless it is a faulty batch (one of them was weird) I am very early days pg.

for some reason I always get better pg results mid morning, rather than FMU. what is with that?!

I have a BFP?!?!

:)

OMG!!! I just had to pause live tv! WILD!!! WOOHOO!!! Aw, that's sooooo lovely. Wish I could send you loads of sticks so you could poas to your hearts content! Sleep is a very good sign! Aw , , .

This is fast becoming a thread for pg ladies!

haha, thanks one! I can't believe it me'sen!

I don't really believe it yet, not till I see a clear line on a FRER or miss AF... In my world I am pg at the mo, but might still get AF! And then ttc again! Hasn't sunk in I don't think. Well, I just don't believe it.

I chucked the sticks cause I know IC can look funny when they get old and that would make me think it was all bollocks so now think I made it up/dreamt it. However, I am really bloated (jeans undone bloated) and my boobs have been getting sorer all day (when normally would be getting less sore this time in my cycle) and nausea comes and goes :) NO more cramping since getting up! Yay! And I have had no pmt moodiness at all. completely calm. which is most unlike me.

Will still get AF though, but is nice while it lasts!

Wild! CONGRATS! A line is a line!!! Great news, really pleased for you! I am just quickly posting on phone at work so can't stay but really fab news!

wilde congratulations - i definitely think that a line is a line! All the things you have been saying (slewing lots, sore boobs, nausea) sound like very good signs to me! Congratulations!

You should get one of the digital tests - when they come up with 'pregnant', you can't really argue/doubt them any more!

thanks peeps . Am in total shock. have decided I will tell DH as am so sure I am pg (was going to keep it secret till I have a good and proper line), and we will live by the mantra 'today we are pg'. And if AF comes then so be it!

I can't believe I am being one of those whinging ninnies who ponders about their faint line. whenever I see a post like that I think they must obviously see a line or what are they talking about? An invisible line?! And yet here I am... twonk. I have done 6 tests - SIX - and each has had a line though mega faint. At some point I have to take the plunge and start to believe, eh?! am scared to believe though, and fall in love all over again...

terrified of a digi test woody as am sure it will say not pg! am only 10dpo and they aren't that sensitive so will wait till fri/sat methinks.

Wild your last post made me giggle! You know, when I was tttc last time I wasn't on MN so didn't know the rule about a line being a line. I kept testing for a week getting stronger but still not clear lines until finally getting two strong reassuring lines. I then joined MN and learned the rules of poas!

It is early days, but you are pg right this very moment and that is wonderful.

God, those fears, you're another brave one joining those ranks!

Honestly wilde I know what you mean about faint lines that are almost invisible! That's how mine started - I don't think that anyone else would have seen it but I knew it was there!

Congratulations again!