Fantastic 40+ thread - part 7

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Shiny new thread - over here everyone

Miasmummy rest up siege get well your a bit of a saint. Knicks hopeyou good. On my iPhone can't name check v well. Pocket that sound great v exciting. Goth thats where im at too judging ovulation. Right now I'm sitting in our car in a carpark on the rain on my 'holiday' ds asleep in back seat dp checking the cricket on his iPhone me on mumsnet on mine. I also had to get a young waitress to explain how to use the credit card machine. Today's the day I've officially become my parents - both of them, the collective glory of their uk holiday making lives on xxx

Thanks Diege and hopeful. Yous are right I really need to just relax as prob mmc has messed everything up. Whatever is to be will be. Worrying and stressing will not help situation or bring AF on. If I am in menopause well no one else to blame but myself leaving it too late!!!

Pocket glad you got done good responses. Hopefully something will work out soon.

Go it's very possible you are ov'ing earlier. If you followed smep plan you should be covered anyway.

Mia, wow you will be busy. Take it easy on yourself.

Nearly Friday tg!!!

Hi all, mind if I join? I was forty in January, and we have just started ttc again after having DS last year.
After having a very easy and straightforward pregnancy last time, the next one is going to be different - I had a pulmonary embolism at the beginning of the year, and although I was very lucky and have recovered completely, I know that this will have implications for any future pregnancies... I'm really happy that we're trying again, but at the same time apprehensive. Keep telling myself to focus on the immediate issue of getting pg first, then worry about what's next, but that's easier said than done!

Firstly, apologies this will post twice as I'm on a blackberry (reported to MNHQ as a glitch).

Welcome to the thread JBrd. Gosh a pulmonary embolism, that must have been scary. I'm guessing that when the time comes (which I'm sure it will) you'll be well taken care of in your second pregnancy. I hope your stay on this thread is short and that good news is just round the corner.
MAM wonderful to hear things are progressing as they should be. I agree with Italian though, please take it as easy as possible. That Olympic shift rota sounds incredibly tiring. Put your feet up when you can. You deserve lots of TLC.

somewhere ah the joys of a British holiday! I'm feeling sorry for anyone who's holidaying in Britain this year. There'll be a lot of sitting in cars, windscreen wipers on, looking out at near deserted beaches. Surely the weather HAS to get better soon?!
Crossing my fingers for all the ladies on the 2WW. I'm really hoping this will be your month.

AFM, still sore boobs and not prodding them as often after the old man incident earlier this week . According to my dates I'm 4 weeks 5 days. Except from some twinging, I have no other symptoms which is making me anxious. I just hope things are progressing as they should. Hey ho, it's a wait and see. Much love to all xxx

Firstly, apologies this will post twice as I'm on a blackberry (reported to MNHQ as a glitch).

Welcome to the thread JBrd. Gosh a pulmonary embolism, that must have been scary. I'm guessing that when the time comes (which I'm sure it will) you'll be well taken care of in your second pregnancy. I hope your stay on this thread is short and that good news is just round the corner.
MAM wonderful to hear things are progressing as they should be. I agree with Italian though, please take it as easy as possible. That Olympic shift rota sounds incredibly tiring. Put your feet up when you can. You deserve lots of TLC.

somewhere ah the joys of a British holiday! I'm feeling sorry for anyone who's holidaying in Britain this year. There'll be a lot of sitting in cars, windscreen wipers on, looking out at near deserted beaches. Surely the weather HAS to get better soon?!
Crossing my fingers for all the ladies on the 2WW. I'm really hoping this will be your month.

AFM, still sore boobs and not prodding them as often after the old man incident earlier this week . According to my dates I'm 4 weeks 5 days. Except from some twinging, I have no other symptoms which is making me anxious. I just hope things are progressing as they should. Hey ho, it's a wait and see. Much love to all xxx

Pocket that is great news, fingers crossed. Knicky - glad things are going okay.

CD21 for me today, not hopeful though as timing was off this month if ov'd early (though was more or less bang on if didn't). Boobs seem to be slightly tender if I poke them (!) but am probably imagining it.

hi to everyone as well - hit post too quick!

Thanks for all your lovely messages of support. Its early days but I feel very positive about it all now ? wow how the world has changed in a week!

Hopeful very impressive, that sounds physically strenuous! When is otd?

Somewhere i turned into my parents a long time ago. But it still shockes me sometimes!

Welcome JBrd I?m fairly new to this thread but it?s a friendly place with plenty of support.

Knicky I?m with you, the weather must improve soon. Surely! Still smiling at your old man, boob prodding story

Go sorry, but what does CD21 mean?

Hello to everyone ? hope you have nice weekends planned.

hello southsearocks - hope your stay is short in the best way - and monsterchild you are a great good news story i hope you are feeling alright - being pregnant is quite tough at times.
hello jbrd how is the pulmonary embolism going to affect things if you get pg again? i like your cup half full attitude to TTC2 in your 40s - I need to see it like that
hopeful you must be on the 2ww - how's it going? lovely about your 19yo - and also your 3-yo brave little sausage. my dp and I are wanting to do lots of walks (to shed some poundage) but not sure my 3yo is into it. if you made yours walk up a mountain then maybe its ok to make mine walk 9 miles across london (with a few pram rests when needed)?
diege how's the marking going? hope your health is better. Any progress on the 'table discussion' or is that old news now. My DP does tidy stuff up but only after SOME YEARS of me being the breadwinner IFYWIM. Got the night-owl thing too. It is desperate stuff - how do they get away with it? How do we make sure our sons are a bit more enlightened? PS so nice that you are returning graduate, an independent advisor with nothing at stake personally - thats a nice thing to have on here
sparkly good luck with your next cycle - do let us know if the SWI is on and happening!
goth good luck this month - have you had any tests?
pocket the tests are simply the gamut of fertility tests. I don't know what they are - my sis had them but i find it all confusing. Ovarian reserve? that's the only one i can think of. but anything else the docs suggest. What tests are you having? I have no money but being 40 will have to go private i guess. well that's what credit cards are for eh.
knicky so glad to get your update, must be hard keeping your hands of your boobs but well done. Our holiday was ok enlivened by the MIL's old friends - the most eccentric arty couple you ever met - they stayed with us and were so sweet. Holidays are different with young kids though aren't they - you can't just go off and read. Was astonished by the hedgerows in Devon - heard the background noise about hedgerows but never really noticed them before - they were just dripping with flowers - foxgloves, really scented honeysuckle, random roses, the usual queen annes lace etc etc. just beautiful.

As for me i'm in the downhill slope towards ovulation. about to start on some epic SWI - this egg meets sperm business. also gonna splash out on opk sticks and test every day until ovulation which would normally be on CD17. Yep, CD17 is looking mighty ee-ro-tick for me .

anyone have any recommendations on a good basal thermometer for temping?

on my to do list - go to gp/explore private fertility tests.

I am planning a holiday for october and it was october last year that we started trying. momentary sadness when i realised that. But life is good.

pocket CD21 means it's the 21st day of cycle. Lovely to hear you're feeling more positive and brilliant about the positive responses re eggs. I'm crossing fingers that your new donor is just round the corner.
somewhere you're right holidays with kids is completely different. No sneaking 5 mins to read a book. We stayed at a place called Willowfield Lake cottages in Devon a couple of years ago and it was perfect for us all. Loads to do for DD and lovely surroundings for us - you're right the sound of the hedgerows in the morning and evening is something else. Very relaxing. BTW definitely worth popping to the GP's just to have initial blood tests which will confirm you're ovulating, plus hubby can have his sperm tested. Nothing untoward came back from our tests, and it put my mind at ease somewhat to know at the very least I was ovulating and hubby's sperm was going in the right direction!

Nothing new to report though still knicker checking, I suspect that even if things go as smoothly as possible, it's not going to be the most relaxing of pregnancies. A mixture of my track record when it comes to holding onto beans and my age (sorry ladies ....) But, for today I am pregnant and holding tight. Much love XX

Hello all. Pleased to report that my Olympic role has been finally sorted out, which has been a huge relief. I also realised that the 1.5 hour commute was stressing me, so will be staying a lot with friends nearby, and DH will drive down to join me some evenings. Silly to become so worked up, but feel much happier now.

19 weeks now. Mia would be 22 months old today.

MAM there are a few things in life which make me want to scream 'It's so unfair' at the top of my lungs. Your recent past is one of them. I thank god for your smooth pregnancy, but simply can't imagine how hard it must be with your differing emotions. You're growing a wonderful person inside you who will have many amazing attributes of you and your DH, just like your darling Mia had. I just so wish Mia were here to meet them when they arrive. . We're here holding your hand.

Miasmummy, sending love your way. I'm just so sorry for your loss, I know that having another baby will not replace your darling girl but I hope your baby will bring joy to your family.

Knicky - for today you are pregnant. Hang in there honey, I know how difficult it is in those early weeks when you've had previous miscarriages. Try to remember that there's every reason why this baby will make it this time. And if you are feeling very anxious, try to get some help with it. I had planned to have hypnotism to help me through. Perhaps I'll get a chance to try it in the near future.

But not this month. I'm 12 DPO and have had a BFN. Some would say it's early to test, but the latest I've had a bfp has been 10 DPO. I usually get a hint of a line at 9 DPO, so I'm pretty sure I'm not pregnant. A bit disappointed because I really felt I could have been pregnant this time - so many symptoms-and thought maybe my fertility was enhanced after the early miscarriage. Oh well, perhaps next time?

I had a really lovely couple of days away. I caught up with friends, shopped(spent way too much!), went out for dinner, saw a movie and went out for breakfast with friends I haven't seen in ages. It was lovely. My LO missed me terribly and was so delighted to see me, it was almost worth going away for that! Home now, and have got another week of term break.Lovely.

Hello to everyone on the thread.

just flitting in and out - hello to all the newbies on the thread and a big welcome, as always hope you're not on here for too long and graduate soon!

Gum sorry about the bfn, have a relaxing break and hope you get that bfp soon :-)

Italian how are you doing? Hope the adoption process is going well

Mia your olympics role sounds very exciting, good luck!

Not much happening for me at the mo - had my CMV virus blood test which showed I was negative, which is a bit of a pain as now my dh has to have one too which means extra messing around, if he's negative too we can automatically go for a donor who's also negative or we can sign some form to say we don't mind a positive or negative donor. After that we're all systems go, still crossing our fingers we get to do this by october-ish - as the waiting list is now 2 months it all sounds good :-)

I finished off my hynotherapy too which seemed to really help although i'm still not sure if I was properly under or not! Might go back for some acupuncture when the time comes for the embryo transfer (all being well and they fertilise!)

have a great week everyone

Hi all, been away for a few days, a nice weekend break.

Knicky glad things seem to be progressing normally. Gum sorry to hear about the BFN.

I am now on CD26 and feel as though AF is coming on which is a bit early (due Friday), so looks as though no joy this month. Had thought I had some boob soreness a few days ago and had some stomach flutters (? only way I can think of describing it) when would have been about 7DPO so got my hopes up temporarily but must have been imagining it :(

Hello all

Struggling to keep up with you at the moment. DS now 25 days old. Awww. Spent whole day yest feeding. Of course, today Daddy's working from home so he can see how difficult it is and LO is fast asleep in his Moses basket....

Anyone know how long you have to wait after a CS before sensibly having another? We have a frostie waiting for us too. WWYD? Keep it in reserve and have it as a back-up, in the hope that we can manage another spontaneous conception, or go for it sooner rather than later?

Welcome jBrd, Southsea and all other newbies.

MAM so good to hear how you?re getting along. Nearly half way! Hope you?re feeling ok?

Knicky Hope the good signs are continuing.

Goth CD21 = cycle day 21.

Lol how are you and LO doing?

Hi to everyone else. Dashing off this post before LO wakes up again, though he continues to be positively angelic, ie fast asleep while DH is here?.
FF xx

Well CD26 has turned into CD1 as the witch is here. I am not surprised given how I felt yesterday but am baffled as I never have short cycles (I have a set your watch by it 28 days)

Can only conclude it must still be down to post MC weirdness and ov'd early or something. I suppose there is always next month but feel very flat.

Hi I was on another thread for a while but wanted to join this one. I am 44 have one child (nearly 6) and have 3 msc in the last 4 years last one in nov 2011 I had tests and they couldn't find anything wrong with me. I am getting a bit despondent with it all to be honest anyone got any positive news for someone my age?

Goth - so sorry about AF turning up early. Don't give up hope, you can get pregnant, it's just a matter of time. I know how hard it is to be patient.

Paula, welcome, and sorry about your miscarriages. I can relate. I had my last baby at 41, almost 42, and since have had three mcs. I'm now heading toward my 46th birthday (gasp!). But still trying. Lolfactor had her wee boy recently at the ripe age of 45, so I'm not throwing in the towel just yet.

As for me, weirdness is happening here. I'm 14 DPO, and never have a luteal phase this long. I'd be excited except the boob tenderness is almost all gone,and my temp is has dropped to only hovering above the coverline and I had a BFN yesterday at 13 DPO. I (delusionally) hope that my temperature will shoot up tomorrow and I'll get a late BFP. But I think perhaps AF will turn up instead. It would be a massive miracle if I get BFP.

Mystic Deige, what are your thoughts???

P.S. Forgot to say how nice it s to hear from Fireflies. I'm glad your wee baby is doing well. Sounds like he's a good eater(drinker, feeder?). These early times of constant feeding won't last forever, so snuggle up and enjoy as much as you can.

As for how long to wait before ttc again, it depends on a few things. My sister had C sections, and had two babies (accidentally), 13 months apart. I think the scar held up well. It was her mental health that fell apart, but that's a whole other story and had nothing to do with her gorgeous babies.

Also, some women don't have their fertility return for a while if they are breast-feeding, so that may be a factor. With my babies, I didn't ovulate for ages - with my last baby I was waiting for about 18 months - nearly drove me mad as I wanted to ttc when he was about 10 months old, but couldn't wean him. I tried vitex, but it didn't work, I just had to wait.

As for using your frozen emby, I think I'd give myself a time limit ttc naturally, then go for the assisted. Sometimes having a baby will boost fertility.

Tina, it's great news that you are getting close to finding a donor and starting your treatment. Very exciting.

Hi all xxx.
Fine here all busy Phebs full of cold again damn nursery!!! It's a death trap!!! All suffering much disrupted sleep , no fun when up at 06:00 for work!!!
FF I have heard after a section to wait between 6-12 months however, when we took Phebs to see our consultant last month she thought I was going to see her as I was pg!!! ( that's 8 months after my section!!!)
Hasten to say I m not!!!!
Love to all xxxc

Hi all,
hope you are all holding up well! I'm struggling at the moment, not happy with my new job...which I only started 6 weeks ago, so it's early days still. I think I need to give it longer, but I've never been so dissatisfied with a new job this quickly, which makes me wonder if I made a mistake. It looked so good on paper, but reality is so different. Ah well...

On the positive side, AF has finally returned, I was getting a bit anxious! Came off the mini pill over 3 weeks ago, and nada. I think this is the first time in my life that I'm glad about it! Now the counting and charting can start properly

10000Fireflies - I had a section with DS and was told to wait for at least a year before having another baby. But I guess it depends on the individual and their situation, I've heard of people having a lot less time in between and everything was fine.

Hi all

hopeful thank you lovely lady for your kind words. I promise to keep holding on, things seem to be OK at the mo. I am tempted to go out and buy more sticks to check but think I just need to step away from them! I had a lovely relaxing weekend with DD and think that helped as just didn't have time to think things through too much.
JBrd, it's so tough to starting a new job. I really do hope that things start improving soon. I didn't particularly like my job when I started it 10 years ago, but somehow managed to work it into a job that I did like (that said have recently taken a side move which has brought me back to not liking it again!) Hope things improve. On the brighter side, for once it's lovely news that AF has arrived. Now the charting can begin!
Paula welcome to the thread! As hopeful said, lolfactor gives lots of ladies of hope on here. It clearly can happen at our age and be a smooth pregnancy.
Fireflies so lovely to hear from you. DS 25 days old already? Time already seems to be racing by.

angel, my DD was inundated with illness when she first started nursery. Had to take loads of time off work. It all settled down within about 3 months, and I'm hoping people are right when they say it bolsters their immune system now making them much more hardy when it comes to starting school.

5 weeks and 3 days for me. Not feeling particularly pregnant, though understand it's early. Just hanging on and hoping things are OK.

Much love to all xxxxxx

good to hear from you knicky
Paula hi good luck hon
jbrd i have put a lot of thought into finding good work - it's a bit like trying to find a life partner - not every job is right for you and it's about the people and the culture. if they're not your kind of people then regardless of the actual tasks involved it could be really hard for you and you would blame yourself but it's totally not your fault. It'll probably get better - most cultures can accomodate diversity - but if it remains really awful it's probably a dysfunctional culture in which case get out of there and don't blame yourelf for a minute.

I have DTD once on monday - a sort of warm up as OV isn't till friday i think but then today have cramping and wierd stuff going on. BODY could you just stop giving me all these signs until you actually have something to say?
POAS this morning, the OPK variety, but put it in the wrong way so didn't get a result at all.

have to DTD today and DP is hungover and i didn't sleep well and oh boy. we're going to do a quick perfunctory one if at all - i shall probably be proofing some pages while we do it.

Got to get to that GP - just so busy. In the run up to OV I always feel very relaxed about the whole thing, almost like I don't want another DC. Then once AF comes I have such longing for another DC.

Gum - thanks for the kind words. I know I have to try and be patient. Feel awful physically which isn't helpful - worst AF in a long time and in a fair bit of discomfort. Gah!

Fingers crossed you get some good news. Knicky - glad you had a nice weekend, good that things are okay.