Fantastic 40+ thread - part 7

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Shiny new thread - over here everyone

Hi all, just for anyone who remembers me, we are through the first bit, the initial visit and we are going to do training in January, still a long way to go in our adoption journey but we are finally on the bus!

Hugs to all.

Goog morning ladies....glad you popped in tracy :)
So I'm now on day 21 and cbfm still showing highs...started on cd16. Wish my body would behave. Raaaa...off to work to be grumpy hmphhhh......

Fab news Italian all the best xxx

Lovely news Italian, I hope this time passes quickly and you'll soon have your longed-for child.

Thanks for your kind words everyone. I did have a shit day yesterday, but today was a lot better. I stayed home, rearranged the furniture and did a big clean up.The house looks mostly lovely (still need to tidy the bathroom, but who cares?).I baked a massive big baked cheesecake for the party tomorrow night. I hope it tastes as yummy as it looks. I also spent too much time staring at a first response test hoping it would turn pink.Alas, it didn't.But my temperature is still high, so haven't lost all hope, but am realistically expecting AF Sunday or Monday(I'm 11 dpo today).

I went for a walk this evening in the crisp cold air, and I'm so glad I did,as it was so good for me. It was so quiet and I walked through the bush and didn't see another soul. I realised that a baby will come, if it does, when the time is right for him/her, not me. As long as I am open to him/her, there's a chance we'll find each other.

I second what Golden says - there's nothing more important,nor as good,as love.And there's plenty of that in my life.So,yes, I am grateful for all I have.I just want a tiny bit more...

Hippy, if there are eggwhites, then go for it.It doesn't matter what CD it is, if there's EWCM, it is time for lurvin...

I smell burning - better check what's in the oven...

Hello, Tracy, and welcome . Good idea to go to the GP. Five years is a long time, huh? May I ask if you're charting your temps? Is this how you know for sure you're ovulating each month? Have you and DP had all the tests? Good luck on your journey - you'll get lots of support and understanding here

Irish! Hi love, nice to hear from you. Great news about your body starting to behave after your miscarriage. I hope your baby-making hormones fall into line very soon. Yes, Little Ted can be fun but mostly he is the anti-Christ. All other creatures recoil in his presence. Including me

Italian, it's lovely to hear the ball is rolling....I hope time flies for you and your husband x

Calibee, hang on in there, kid. How's your cervical mucus looking? When does your fella go off to the army?

Gum,you mad bird...walking alone in the bush? Is that recommended? What about disgruntled Aborigines? Or wild emus? Possums? The cheesecake sounds divine - I love 'em baked. Please stop pissing on sticks, you're giving me indigestion with the stress. P.s..did you have really well-timed intercourse this month? Only asking..

MiasMummy, how are you coping with the imminent inquest and Mia's anniversary? I'm thinking of you x

Eirehead, thinking of you, too. Let us know how you are?

Well, it's 3DPO for me and, true to my word, I have packed away my thermometer and will not be charting again until 10DPO. Aren't I good? This morning I have been to Manchester with my friend from the gym to a huge Chinese supermarket called Ring-Sting (or something like that). I never knew these places existed, largely due to the fact that I can buy beans and bread locally, thank you very much. Anyway, I nearly wretched at some of the food in the freezers: chicken feet (who the fuck chews on these? They even had toenails. Filthy bastards); clam meat; burdock root(?); paw-paws at £4 each!!; and myriad assorted body parts which have no business being served up to other human beings. I really was astonished. I mean, what the feck would you do with a kilo of clam meat? Over to you, Gum...

Tracy, scroll back to the previous page and you will find a link from Hippychick detailing conception stories for the over-40s (including the well over-40s!)

Gum - glad you are feeling a bit better. Enjoy the cheesecake!

Irish - sending hugs. Italian - good luck with it all.

Hippychick - any chance of pg?

Golden - now you have explained about the kitten it makes sense. Crossing fingers for you for this month.

As to me the EWCM has stopped so think probably ov today. (There are people who get that for a week? The last 2 months are the first times I have ever got it on more than one day. And I didn't get it at all until I had been off the pill for about a year).

That's great news italian

golden Dtd last night and it was lovely!tmi! Still no s,Isley this morning but definite ewcm. Hoping to Dtd again fri or sat but due to price of a shag, it may or may not happen. Do t know if yesterday's will do the trick but I have to hope.feel free anyone to dash these hopes as I'd rather know now than after the 2ww.

Thanks for welcome irish look after yourself after your mc.

calibee I'm on cd 15 no smiley but plenty of ewcm. Hoping Dtd last night may result in BFP. A bit optimistic though I know.

• no smiley, not no s,isley

Hooray for EWCM! As I dance around the kitchen- a fertility dance of course! Must be some primal instinct!

Evening ladies! Just wanted to share a happy ending with you all. Today I met a very good friend, who is a month short of her 44th birthday.

She had her wonderful, beautiful 3-week old DS with her. He was a long time in the making, but worth waiting for.

Aww thats a nice ending cheese.
Ewcm seems to be there one minute gone the next golden....maybe I'm imagining it. OH leaves on 27th October...time is flying by far too fast.
Good luck to goth. :)

Oh Golden, you silly mare, of course it is safe to walk through the bush, unless of course you are scared of kangaroo ticks(which are tiny and harmless). When it gets hot I need to be on the lookout for snakes, but there are many tracks (especially made for walkers) around where I live,and I assure you there are no emus, the possums hide until it is dark,and the 'roos keep their distance.

As for the "well-timed" sex, I think the day before ovulation is reasonably well-timed. Had I been ten years younger I'd definitely be pregnant. I say that in all seriousness. My Dh and I have a proven track-record. In my 20's and 30's I got pregnant first try every time we wanted a baby. It was as simple as having sex when I felt O pain and had EWCM. I know I'm old now, but I still believe that having sex the day before ovulation might be a good chance.

You will be pleased to know I did not pee on a stick this morning. I may have peed on sticks early at 10 and 11 DPO, but that's done and dusted now.It's out of my system, no more sore boobs, temperature starting to drop, I no longer hold out any hope.

Goth, it's great that you have Egg whites, don't worry if it isn't for a week. I don't have them at all anymore, but I know it hasn't stopped me getting pregnant. The last three pregnancies I didn't have any but still managed to conceive (unfortunately they weren't sticky babies).

Cheese, that is a lovely happy ending. You will get yours too.

Gum - definitely not worried about not having egg whites for a week - usually only have them on one day so anything else is a bonus!! I've no idea whether I would have got more if younger, was on the pill for best part of 20 years (which in hindsight has probably not helped in terms of trying to get pg at 40ish)

I'm off on holiday for a week and unlikely to be online, so positive thoughts to everyone for the week and fingers crossed for good news all round :)

Oh and Gum forgot to say sorry about the temp/ boobs :(

Pink, so glad you managed to have a good experience DTD the other night. Would you say the tablets helped? If you're still awaiting a positive OPK try to have sex when it appears - it's worth the cost of the shag if you end up preggo. Next month you can look into buying your Viagra off t'internet.

Goth, have a great holiday, love.

Cheese, thanks for bringing those glad tidings. I think it's really kind of you to bring us encouragement

Calibee, you can't 'imagine' EWCM. It's there in thick, clear, stretchy smears across your toilet paper when you wipe after a wee. Have you had a positive OPK yet? If not, DTD every other day until you get one and then DTD that night and the next. That should cover ovulation. This is very do-able if you are horny for your other half/have only recently started TTC. The rest of us would rather have a these days

Gum, my love. I fear I patronised you in my last post (this often happens when folk don't know me well and I am attempting humour or being genuinely interested in them). I am sorry. Of course you have well-timed sex. In fact, you sound like a baby-making machine to me...I am so very sorry your last three little ones didn't make it. I swear I will sream with joy when you get a big FAT positive. Meanwhile, have a super time tonight and remember to waft around fabulously. Enjoy your x

I am off to my fabulous mother's for the weekend. The absolute darling has bought me JK Rowling's new book, The Casual Vacancy, which I am thrilled about. I go to stay with mum every three weeks and we have just the best time. She is demented (she doesn't have Altzeimer's, she is simply cuckoo and always has been. In fact, if she does develop any form of senility we simply wouldn't be able to tell the difference) and she loves me with a fever and knows me better than I know myself. She has sensory neuropathy and her mobility is declining and her pain is getting worse. It is tragic to watch but she is an utter star. So, yes, I'm looking forward to my weekend and any opportunity to escape Little Ted and his stress poos is welcome. I have been weight training and running this morning (please tell me this couldn't possibly harm a fertilised egg making its slow journey to my womb lining. Please?) in my determination to get a life during the agony of this bastard two week wait.

Hope you all have a spiffing weekend xxx

Diege, we need to have a serious chat - just me and you - about white chocolate confectionary.

If your bistro is open tonight I'll be interested in anything off the sweet trolley which incorporates a couple dozen of Maltesers sitting on the top [greedy bitch emoticon].

Thanks golden yes the tablets definitely helped but don't want to make DP feel he is under pressure to perform as this will only make things worse. Afraid to buy them off Internet in case we get dodgy ones... It's not Viagra but begins with a c - don't know the whole name!
No smiley yet but will be Dtd anyway I hope this weekend so just hoping that will do the trick although a very long shot, I know .

Have a wonderful restful time with your mum She sounds wonderful, can I join you??! X

hi ladies - sorry I've been awaol for a while but a lot going off here! Just to let you know I will be going in for my embryo transfer tomorrow, all has gone very well in our journey, we had 5 eggs kindly donated 4 of which fertilised (1 also actually got fertilised twice by 2 very enthusiastic sperm so it was not viable) as the cells were dividing well the clinic allowed them to go to the blastocyst stage as they have a better rate of implantation.

We're hoping to implant 2 and freeze 2 just in case but I feel very positive about this working, at least for one of the embryos! I'm very excited but very nervous too!

hope everyone else is ok Italian glad to hear things are moving along for you

I hope to have some good news for you all in two weeks although I'm not sure how I'm going to cope with this 2 week wait its going to be worse than with my IUI's!!

italian keep us posted - all sounds very exciting. Can you see if you can get a BOGOF offer and get me a little cute one too. sorry don't mean to be flippant - i know how much this means to you and how much you've been through. can't wait for the post when you tell us you have your new son or daughter - i am gonna put a good few and [grins] for you, mrs.

Interesting that a couple of you say could i be pregnant. i very much doubt it cos on the very few occasions i have taken my waking temp recently it has been low and that doesn't go with pregnancy at all. i honestly think that i have been thinking about darling little Jem so much recently that my poor old knackered ovaries have gone, "Oh go on then have a bleedin' egg!" i have ensured the troops are in place just incase

ps. forgot to say - fab results tina - all sounding promising. And a couple of little frosties for another go as well - brilliant!

Oh! Tina! How bloody marvellous! The very, very best of luck tomorrow and in the next fortnight. I can't tell you how excited I am for you. Will you know for sure fourteen days from tomorrow or are you allowed to test before then? You must be delirious with hope and excitement. My heart is racing just thinking about tomorrow! x

Hippy, where are you with the cervical mucus situation?

Pink, yes my mum is someone very special. Good luck DTD this weekend.

Tina, that is fabulous news.I'm so pleased for you.I hope this two week wait isn't too long.

Hippy, I hope you catch a lovely big juicy egg ready for those swimmers. Wouldn't it be lovely to get a BFP?

Goth have a lovely holiday.

Pink, as long as there are sperm in your fallopian tubes, there is a chance. I know one lady who got pregnant a couple of times by having sex 5 days before ovulation.She was pretty sure of it as she was charting and using a fertility monitor. Your approach of not stressing out your DH is a good one.The pressure can be so hard on the OH when ttc.

Golden, enjoy your visit with your mum.

My little soiree went well. Food was lovely, everyone enjoyed the mega-cheesecake. One lovely bloke from work said it was one of the best desserts he'd ever had. What a sweetie.

My DS was very over-excited having visitors here and had to be part of the action, which was a bit annoying. Eventually I took him to bed and fell asleep beside him! Great hostess 'eh? Luckily my DH kept their glasses topped up and they had a good time.

Now I have two weeks of spring break. No back-chatting, smug,smarmy,slutty,macho bullshit from year 8's. A whole two weeks of not having to practice crowd control and spend every 30 seconds asking them to pay attention, or get on with their work. Can you tell I need this break?

In a weeks time we'll be off to the island and I know I will turn back into lovely,relaxed,happy Gum, instead of the antsy,slightly manic girl I am right now...