Fantastic 40+ thread - part 7

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Shiny new thread - over here everyone

That's so beautiful miasmummy xxx

Miasmummy, It is lovely to hear you say that. She is so loved by you.

Kiwibabe, I know this journey is HARD,hard,hard, and waiting so long after your miscarriage is hell, but if you don't want to miss a chance, then forget about contraception. Continue, and you may well be surprised. HAve you tried acupuncture? I think it's great for fertility, but mostly it's great for helping me relax.

It's great news about Miasmummy's friend. Was she ttc for long?

I recently read an article in a magazine by Nicki Gemmel, about having a baby at 44/45. She talked about how she tried for a long time,had two miscarriages,and pretty well gave up, then got pregnant without actually trying. After her article there were loads of letters from older parents about having a baby in their forties. One woman was 46, had had three miscarriages,then her healthy baby.

I do believe that we can get pregnant and have a baby at this age,but it requires an amazing amount of patience and requires an attitude of,"it will all be alright in the end, either way", if we aren't to go mad trying.

As for me, it seems I was right when I had ovulation pain on day 7 of my cycle, because I've just got AF, which would be 12 DPO. I'm a bit , but then again, not entirely surprised as I know being peri menopausal, these anomalies will occur. I should have listened to my body. I did try to DTD but DH wasn't "performing" all that well, he must have sensed that I was ovulating. So it looks like I'll have to start opks a little earlier now.

I'm not really that bothered. I'm getting right into exercising more and have been sticking to my diet and losing weight, in I know all that will disappear if I get pregnant, so I'm glad I can do it for longer,and perhaps get down to a more ideal weight before getting pregnant. Then again, if I don't get pregnant it won't be the end of the world, I seem to be coming to terms with it more and more.

Italian, it is so nice to hear from you, I'm so happy to hear that you'll be getting the adoption ball rolling soon.Exciting!

My youngest DD is off on school camp today for 5 days. It feels strange, I shall miss her, but she is so excited. I know it will be great fun for her.It's nice to see her so excited.

How was your weekend Deige? I'd love to hear all about it.

Italian I'm also looking forward to hearing your story as it develops - I hope that doesn't sound too presumptious, but I'm really interested

hopeful I think your attitude is great - good combo hopeful intent plus realism; am trying to emulate

Miasmummy bloody excellent! Havn't picked up what you do in rl - how have you fitted all this in?

I'm on cd19 now and despite plenty ewcm and ovulatory pain, no temp shift so looks like I'm anovulatory this month - so it's me that failed to come up wth the goods after slagging off DH! This is only my third cycle; DS 2, still breastfeeding and suddenly gone mad at night for boob as last molars coming through, so we're all tired and fretful. Thing's are bound to be a bit screwy I suppose, but now I'm going to have to learn how to wait patiently till next month. Advice please!

Hi all, not been on over the weekend, doing loads house stuff. Hugs to Miaalexandersmummy - great what you are doing - and excellent news about your friend.

Gum - yes I am in the 2ww, I am 7DPO (I think) and still running warm according to DH . Not getting my hopes up though, apart from anything else this happened when I was in the WTF cycle after my mc and there was nothing doing then although AF was a bit later than I expected it. Also no other symptoms as such. Not going to be on here much over next few days as packing for 2 week hol so will just need to see what happens.

Sorry, hugs to everyone else as well!

Hey hopeful I really agree with your attitude - that it can be ok either way and keep on going. it's so imponderable but it can and does happen, quite a lot. glad you're still trying.
goth it sounds good - i'm rooting for you. I'm still not clear if you've had any tests, did you not want any?
kiwi i've not taken in your story properly I'm sorry but i'm wishing you luck.

AFM I am in the Les Dawson boob-feeling stage (TM knickynocks) and knicker checking. think i'm feeling sick but could be imagining it ie not really feeling sick, just want to. but did eat a cheese and onion pasty for breakfast which i don't normally do. went all the way to tesco to get it specially. found myself giving the contents of the aisles a very 'hard stare' as in do i want that in my body or not?

hugs to all xxx

Miasmummy, what a beautiful post and what encouraging news about your friend.

Italian, the best of luck with your adoption plans.

Hopeful, are you convinced you ovulated on day 7? Looking at your chart I think it's highly unlikely (even if you are 'perimenopausal'). I would trust the temperature shift and EWCM before I trusted any 'ovulation pain' you may have felt. The lines on your chart were blue so it looks like you've used the 'manual override' function to alter ovulation day. The EWCM on day 11 and the big temp shift on day 12 are far bigger indicators of ovulation than anything else (and I think fertilityfriend would agree). Are any of your friends on here willing to help you with your chart if you're unwilling to listen to unsolicited advice from me (two heads are better than one and all that)? Because, if you carry on like this it's unlikely you're going to get pregnant - especially as you aren't able to have plenty of sex at the right time. It seems to me you ovulated on day 11 and had only a 7 day luteal phase (which has its own set of problems). I'm sorry if my opinion nettles you - I really am only trying to help - maybe your friends on here would be willing to take a look at your chart?

Somewhere, knicker-checking is the pits - I'm not looking forward to that next time around

Somewhere - tests for what? Do you mean post MC? Nothing was offered, I had a meeting with a consultant and was basically told (nicely) to go away and keep trying and it had probably been a random chromosome problem. Also that it was likely I had had a very early undiagnosed mc a few months previous to my diagnosed 7 week mc (I had put it down to late AF but now I know I've been pg and discussed with doc i am pretty sure it was a very early mc) Went through all the usual investigations 2 1/2 years ago up to and including lap and dye and was told there was nothing wrong.

Good luck with les dawson and the pasty!

Hi goth yes just the usual investigations - i wasn't sure how long you were trying, most people on here talk about their test results.
rooting for you on your 2ww
xxx

wow just been told we have a donor - we accepted so I'll be starting on my injections when my next af arrives (I think) which is at the end of the week! I'm so excited!!!!!

brilliant news tina! xxxx

Lovely news Tina, I'm so pleased for you
Weekend away was great . Spent too much, ate too much, didn't sleep enough; the usual...Now I am rueing it after a total of just 3hrs sleep last night as a result of poor ds2 getting his second tooth through. So tired I have had to 'work from home'
Love to all xxx

Great news Tina!

Thanks for the clarification somewhere.

Feel odd - as though AF is about to start (have had some mild cramps today and feel a bit weird). Only on CD 21 so if it is AF then the MC has truly mucked up my cycle good and proper. :(

Great news Tina.

tina such fab news, can't wait to hear what happens next!

somewhere ooh, Les Dawson boob-feeling, lovely!!

hopeful my friend can't have been trying too long, she only met her partner last year, and I am guessing that they have been trying for about six months.

cuckoo I am self-employed "officially", but I was only just starting to develop my consultancy properly when Mia died, so I have been very slow to pick it up again. I did want to do the Olympic stuff too, which also hasn't really helped the work, but a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity.

Great news Tina - very exciting.

Goth, I get those cramps and weird feelings around implantation time when I've got a BFP. It is a possibility

Deige, glad your weekend away was good, sounds wonderful actually, just what a hard-working mama needs I think. Sorry about the teething, that is hard.I hope you can get some rest.

Thanks gum - had wondered about that but I have no boob tenderness, mind you didn't get that noticeably until AF was actually late when I was pg earlier this year. We will just have to see, in the meantime not going to get my hopes up.

diege - glad you had a good weekend.

Thanks Gum . Better night last night with ds2, although it was ds1's turn last night to wake up and annouce it was 'morning time' at 2.15am Not long till your knitting weekend now!
Goth oddly I only get sore boobs when af is due, and for a few days after its started. When I've been pregnant, like you it's been when af was a week or two late (by which time I had of course known from obsessive testing for a while, and got into regular panics when they seemed less sore.) Oddly, the time when they were really sore (no other symptoms) was when I had my mmc at 10 weeks.
Throwing it down again today - just rescued washing off line. I need to think of something very cheap to do with the dds today as having buyer's remorse over my weekend splurge

Hello all
Goth I hope it is good news xxx
Hello diege omg your kids do that? mine slept terribly last night actually i don't know why i'm surprised. it is gods revenge for you enjoying yourself so much!
mam you are very dynamic! consultancy eh? do you have staff?!

xxx

Hi somewhere! Marginally better night's sleep for me, with only one 'disruption' from ds1 . How are you doing?
Very quiet on here! Hope all is well with everyone xxx

Hi, not posted for a while as we've been away and have just been busy since coming back. DD1 was 13 yesterday so became a teenager(though she's been acting like one for a while!).
I'm trying to catch up with the thread. I've read a bit from just after i went away, then the last page so I just need to catch up with the middle!
I noticed my stats weren't on the list so just to refresh;
I'm 44, have DS 19 DD1 13 DD2 8 ,had an unplanned but not unwelcome pregnancy earlier this year that resulted in a MC at 11 wks, realized how much we wanted another baby, tried again and had a MC at 6 weeks in June, tried again without waiting for AF and am now 8.5 weeks pregnant.
I had a scan this Monday which showed a strong heartbeat and little one is measuring normally for dates, I know it's early days yet but at least so far so good.

Somewhere, congratulations!

Tina, great news about your donor,hope it all works out for you

Miasmum, well done on volunteering at the Olympics! We've just watched little bits on tv, I'd imagine being there is a once in a lifetime experience. You have an amazing attitude to life,Mia will always be in your heart and never forgotten.

Right, sorry not to namecheck everyone but I've got to sort out early lunch and getting the kids out somewhere while the sun is shining!

hey irish good news (or did you already tell us that? I thought I already heard that) anyway, really good news, lovely and inspiring.

Today I saw the doctor. There's not much to say - it's such a transitional moment where anything could happen. I'm 4+6 - it's nothing. This is what gets me about early PG - it's sort of inconclusive IYSWIM.

xxx

Hi Irish thats lovely news, I didn't know your story, I fleet in and out as find it all very hard, I'm 43 and been tryng since a mc 20 months ago, so its lovely to hear your news. I'm only using opk sticks and tried day before positive, day off, day after as much as hubby can manage which after 20 months is becoming less often!! Were you on any meds etc, I also tried acupuncture but stopped afte 6 moths couldn't afford it. I have never done the temp thing did you?

somewhere hope you don't mind me saying congratulations so late in the day - it's taken me hours catch up with the thread! Also well done to Tine and Italian - how EXCITING!

Diege gum had a similar splurge. £180 on 2 pairs of jeans (in the sale - honest) then I hit Zara. Just wanted to celebrate the decrease in size of my porn star to allow me to buy Medium tops. I've just finished breast feeding (babylol now 6 weeks) as he BIT me. Yes, readers, he BIT ME!!! He's said he's sorry but I don't trust him. He's now downing bottles every 3 hours, the size of which horrify me. I'm a shadow of my former self. No wonder! Other than that, all fine. He's gorgeous and I love him to bits - yes, even the baby rage and the Neil Kinnock hair-do (his ginger hair has fallen out everywhere but grown long at the back and sides).

But he's sleeping 6 hours at night, so what's not to to love?

Hippy bet you're loving the holidays. Waves to all - going to get some sleep while I can.