Fantastic 40+ thread - part 7

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Shiny new thread - over here everyone

somewhere you are fully welcome for the full 9 months and more - I can't think of anyone who disappeared after a bfp, so don't you go wandering
cuckoo sounds like you timed things very nicely - are you an early tester?
Washing machine has arrived . I now feel in a state of atrophy - there is a roomfull of washing (I mean roomful) and all I can do it look at it with a glazed expression. I must go and introduce myself to the new Mr. Indesit in my life (Mr. Bosch sadly wheeled away).

pocket so sorry it's taken me so long to respond - thanks v much for the advice re best things to do before donor ivf, I appreciate it!

somewhere yahoo congratulations, really pleased for you, take care of yourself

welcome to pinkfizz and hello to everyone else. I don't have anything new to report, haven't received the phone call from the clinic yet to say a donor is ready but I feel remarkably relaxed about it all now. I think the Hypnotherapy did the trick!

Personally feeling veru sad however today as someone I used to work with - a lovely lady who was only 49 died suddenly of a brain haemmorhage on holiday, I can't stop thinking about her as she just only a few years older than me, especially as I had a major fit whilst on holiday last year and was rushed into hospital for all manner of scans etc. luckily it was just a blip but it's frightened me as it could so easily have been me :-(

she didn't have any kids but was everyone's mum she was so warm and lovely, at least you can say it was quick and she must have been having afab time but even so it's terrible news

anyway have a day off tomorrow and am hoping to spend it with by dd - I haven't spent much time with her lately and when we have seen each other we seem to spend our time arguing about little things so I thought it would be nice to have some quality time! Have a great weekend everyone!

Quick hello from me. Hope everyone's okay. I need to catch up properly! X

Congratulations Somewhere. What wonderful news.

Tina - so sorry to hear about your colleague. It's so sad, 49 is very young. I think when this sort of thing happens, it shakes us up a bit and has us thinking about our own mortality(as well as the loss), I know it always helps me appreciate all the wonderful things in my life (especially people) and what is actually important. I hope you have a lovely time with your daughter. It's nice to hear you are feeling relaxed about the donor. I have a feeling things will turn out well for you.

Deige, I can really relate to the "room" full of laundry. It happens here alot! But when you don't have a washing machine for a few days, it's complete anarchy. Last time it happened to me I had to resort to hand washing. I wasn't working at the time,which helped, but never-the-less, still had piles and piles of dirty laundry to catch up on.

lol, it is lovely to hear from you. I hope all is well with babylol.

I'm really not sure about the ovulation thingy here. I am still dubious that I did ovulate - I just don't feel like it has happened, and temps aren't that high.But,although I feel puzzled,I'm not stressing about it. If I haven't Oed, then maybe I'll still catch an egg, I'm still doing opk's,and they're still very,very negative. Time will tell, and there are plenty of other distractions around me.

I can't quite understand myself...I'm supposed to be working hard at paying off my credit card, so I went to my favourite boutique yesterday and bought two new items from my favourite label,and spent over $500!!I know it won't help me pay off the card, but I was hopeless at resistance. I may need an intervention!I do love what I bought though: both summery items(and it's really cold and wet here).Oh dear....

hopeful waggling my finger at you tsk tsk tsk! you need rehab! I find my triggerhappy spending is all over the internet these days.
tina I'm so sorry for your sad news - she does sound like she was a great lady and had a good life but it's not fair when someone goes early.

I am well aware i've a long way to go but am immediately losing the ground i've gained with low-carbing. mad hunger. need to find a good 'stay slim in pregnancy' thread If this isn't going to be a sticky one there's no point in piling on weight. If it is, I need to get on top of the cravings now as it'll escalate. Last time I was PG walking became painful i was so fat - it was an actual disability.

also drinking coffee cause just can't cope with the feeling that i'm melting like butter into sleep. which is risky for MC but i have so much work to do. going to make one cup of fresh brew last all day is my plan.

Ahh Gum I think we must have been separated at birth - I also had a shop-fest the other day, about the same £ as you, and feel very guilty .
somewhere if you are serious about minimising weight gain in pregnancy, in a healthy way, then Slimming World might be the thing for you. It's approved by the Royal College of Midwives and does leave you feeling quite stuffed iirc. Don;t stress about the coffee - I think you can have up to 3 cups a day (small-ish). Obviously take into account caffeine in tea/coke etc. I swtiched to decaff tea and coffee, though always had one caffeinated tea and one costa caffeinated americano a day. Would have dissolved in a pile at my desk otherwise! How are you feeling in yourself?
Off to playbarn hell today with friend and her children. Will have all 5 with me, which is fine for me, though yesterday (first time in a long time) I lost count of the number of times I was stopped and asked 'are they all yours?'. 'you must be mad!!!', 'are any of them twins'??? I don't mind the odd comment etc, as people are just chatting, but some of the comments were a bit borderline rude and quite wearing after a while! I bet Angelina and Brad don't get this

somewhere wonderful wonderful news . I'm crossing everything that it's a sticky one for you. I'm still allowing myself a half shot coffee every now and again - and loving flat pepsi max.
tina awful news. Far far too young. Just tragic. Hope you had a lovely time with your DD. News like that makes you realise how lucky many of us are.
hopeful over $500 on 2 items?? Bet they look fab though - hoping that weather changes for you soon so you can wear them as soon as poss (on the other hand you could make a lunchtime meet up in a restaurant indoors somewhere to show them off.....)
diege a new washing machine I was terribly excited when we got a new tumble drier. Makes such a difference to your life! Though I do feel decidedly old when I get excited about new white goods - not exactly how things were for me 20 years ago......

AFM I'm doing OK, though been having some terribly nauseous days. I'm 8 weeks with the scan booked in for the first week of September. Crossing fingers everything continues to go smoothly. Thinking of you all on this thread too though. You have all been such a wonderful support to me, thank you xxxx

diege bosoms are agony. Feeling just a little fluttery/almost sick. this could be a good thing i hope. but its a bit early for nausea which might mean i'm going to be bedridden with that hyperemenesis thing.

Concerned about my work - i am a freelancer and i don't do such good work when i'm pg. i wish i could just say 'i'm in early pregnancy and totally off form' but you can't.

also concerned about money - we got a shot of money from my DP last week, but it's not going to last for long.

Anyway DP has been rather extravagantly following his dreams - if I get to 13 week's he might have to rethink that. Well he will have to. So that's on my mind.

thanks all for cheer on the caffeine front - i need it right now. Fantastic news .

i don't have time right now for slimming clubs but if i get to 13 weeks safely i prob should make time. it's not a joke when you're so fat your feet get inflamed!

knicky thanks hon! have to wait and see of course but nice to know it's basically in working order. good luck with your scan! pleased to hear you feel horribly sick IYSWIM. its a bummer isn't it cause only carbs will help.

xxxx

Just dropping in briefly as wanted to say congrats to somewhere. Knicky good to hear things are progressing well.

Gum I know what you mean, I need to get a grip on my credit card as well, not easy though!

Roll on the weekend, I am knackered at the moment and seem to be running warm at night (at least according to DH) so not sleeping great.

Hi haven't been on for ages and looks like there has been some good news around the place, thats great. I'm trying not check in so much as not feeling positive practically every major stressful life event other than a new baby seems to have hit us, so just feeling like its not meant to be.But still can't get rid of the little niggle at the back of my mind that it might happen and if I give up it never will, anyway good luck to all and coming on here occasionally always gives me a boost, thanks

Good evening ladies

Have read your stories and I'm not sure how to express how moved I've been without sounding patronising or pretentious - what is this thing that drives us on; do you think men feel it the same way? I hope I can get to know you all better.

So this is my first month of TTC (ever!) - what an odd feeling. Here's the thing; my sleep is up the do-dah as DS teething, temps all over the show, not really sure about the cm interpretation - I'm going for the DTD every other day during the middle of my cycle approach. So is it significant DTD within say 24hrs of ovulation or is my slightly random approach sufficient? Perhaps I need to embark on OPKs?

Anyway, I'm now cd16, try and keep my eyes open long enough tonight to entice DH away from his new i-phone and tablet thingy - what are my chances of competing with IT?? May have to break out the cat suit but don't want to play my trump too early.

If the kitchens are open, I've got major cravings today as (still) trying to shift baby weight - gravadlax please, then a steak, medium rare, all the trimmings (dull I know, but that's what 4 weeks on fish does for you), one of those Gu chocolate things, bottle of merlot, mmmmmmmmm

Ok, bistro open! Welcome catdoctor! I'll get chef on to your rather demanding request straightaway . Re: your timing of dtd, that's the approach I took (every other day around ovulation) and working for me in the end. I think there's 'text book' and then there's 'real life', though tbh a lot of the books do say every other day is pretty much as good as every day around ovulation. Good luck to you x
kiwi nice to see you - sounds like things are tough at the moment, but as you say, that niggle doesn't going away and at least of you are ttc there is indeed lots of hope. I think you need a special dinner, lots of comfort food coming your way missus!
Hi goth, good to see you!
knicky sounds like things are going really well, and scan not too far away too. Really pleased for you xx
Getting excited as away with a friend for the weekend tomorrow (York). We're staying in a hotel sat night, doing lots of shopping, and having losts of meals out. I can't wait!
Love to all xxx

OOh diege your weekend sounds FAB!!! Make sure you buy yourself things when shopping (all too easy to end up buying things for the kids I always find....) a lazy lunch somewhere,more retail therapy and a meal out in the eve sounds divine. Enjoy, you deserve it.

catdoctor sounds like you've got your timing well planned. It may be worth doing OPKs for a couple of months - I found that my ov date was always the same so was able to time DTD to the point of asking for annual leave a few days before (hubby a shiftworker so not always here of an evening).

Right, lovely, the bistro is open....could I have garlic prawns with some crusty bread, followed by rack of lamb with dauphinoise potatoes and green beans. I'd like the cheese board to follow please. Oh and an ice cold cloudy lemonade.

Deige - your weekend sounds amazing - I know you'll have fun.

I've got a girl's weekend coming up at the end of August. Can't wait. Luckily it doesn't involve shopping (since my shopping spree I have been feeling particularly guilty and have decided I WILL NOT purchase anymore clothing for a LONG LONG time!). It's a knitting weekend.I know it sounds dull, but it is very relaxing and a great way to unwind with a bunch of women,good food and wine.

Hi Kiwi.Sorry to hear things haven't been going well for you. I hope you can have your much longed for baby soon.

Welcome to catdoctor (are you a vet?). I second what Deige said. I think every second day is just fine. Some people go twice a day (if only I had that kind of energy!), but you just need some sperm waiting (and they can live for up to 5 days) so every second day should have some in reserve.

Goth - are you in the 2ww? running warm at night is a good sign if you are.Fingers crossed.

Thanks Gum, Knicky, oh yes, will be sure to enjoy myself That's very true knicky about buying things for the kids - I already have a list I've compiled of winter clothes for them...I will force myself to look at things for me too
Gum, planned weekend for you end Aug sounds great too - I got back into knitting a while ago. Got some lovely Debbie Bliss wool and great books (Erica Bloom??) and made a few bits but have sadly lapsed. There's a 'Stitch and Bitch' class in our local bookshop that sounds fun - I can imagine a knitting weekend would be anything but dull.
Right, better go and pack!
Diege xxx

Oh dear - crashed and burned last night as DH didn't come up with the goods (to coin a phrase!) - it's hard I think not to put pressure on our significant others but at the same time I think I've assumed he'll DTD as and whenrequired!

Hello everyone, enjoy your weekend Diege. Gum, knitting is never dull in a circle of women, surely? It sounds great. I made a king-size patchwork quilt cover which took me six months to complete. The end result was so rewarding and the eclectic colours literally dominated my bedroom! Friends told me to make more and sell them but I really couldn't price them in any way that would justify the slavish amount of work required.

I'm thrilled this morning (so very easily pleased ) to see that fertilityfriend have come to their senses and moved my ovulation day from 12 to 15. I knew it! This means the Intercourse Timing Analyzer has awarded me a 'high' score (the first I've had since charting)! I can't help feeling really hopeful this month, especially as my temperatures - both pre- and post-ovulation - are the highest they've been since the ERPC. Have a lovely weekend, all. I'm off for an Italian meal tonight with four friends; we haven't seen each other since we worked together seventeen years ago!

Catdoctor, in recent months my DP has turned into a jibbering wreck around ovulation and so this month we have resorted to Viagra. It worked a treat. Knowing he will have no problem ejaculating gave him a huge confidence boost. It means I don't have to utilise the self-insemination kit I received through the post yesterday from India (I kid you not)

Hi cuckoogirl - I've followed your pharmacological exploits with interest but DH has coronary heart disease and suspect this may finish him off! Since when do you need to go to India for a turkey baster, or am I really out of date?!

BUT managed to DTD this afternoon - have ovulatory pain so tomorrows temp will be interesting. Can anyone fill me in - I think I read somewhere that discomfort preceeds ovulation rather than indicating the actual event?

hopeful yes, pussies are my buisness!

kiwiI hope you fing strength to go wherever you want to go

Good evening to all of you and sending calming and energetic vibes depending on your requirements.

littlepinkfizz so sorry for your loss.

Pocket nice to see you here, is this your new home?

Misalexandersmummy did you help at Olympics/are you helping at Olympics? Hope all is well and thinking of you.

Hi Hippy, Angelgeorgie, Gum, TTT, Beatie, Knicky, Diege, Jolly, Shandy, Tina and anyone else who knows me.

I was with my sister this week and commented that it was actually 10 years ago last month we started trying for a family and 7 years ago this month we started trying for a second baby! Very glad to be about to start a whole new roller coaster as we can officially approach social services next month to explore adoption! Any arrow prayers would be welcome! Please! Scared and excited all at once.

Well af arrived as predicted, so although I basically knew this wasn't my month still have a little hope, I know too well the frustration of hubby not coming up with the goods and know I put way too much pressure on him. I just figured out of I was to get pregnant now I would be 44 when bubba arrived. Opinions please 43 and trying to conceive since mc 20 months ago, cycle 28 days and positive opk usually day 11, 12 not been to dr as oh not keen on medical assistance is it too late to try temping, I have never done it before. Just can't face going on pill etc and loosing a very slim last chance

kiwi not too late to try temping. We are generally big fans here, as you might have gathered.

Some wonderful news I have to share, as it is relevant to all the courageous ladies here. Just learnt my 44-year-old friend is 8 weeks pg with her lovely new partner, and baby is due on my birthday!! So, so happy for them, as she has longed for this. Of course, I cried.

italian yes, I am currently volunteering at the Olympics, which is why I am quiet at the moment. Fun, interesting, but also tiring - ever since I made the move to the Athletes' Village last week after my team at the Rowing Village turned out not to need any support. I'm with a tiny team, but it means we are fully immersed with them. It has been a little weird, in that my identity, and Mia, are unknown to everyone here, but not in a bad way. I carry her so proudly in my heart.

Big hug for miasmum. In some ways it must be nice to spend some time with people who don't know what you've been through and therefore don't define you by it. But I do love your statement that you carry her in your heart with pride. Yay - for your friend. Have fun

Miaalexandersmummy huge hugs to you, you deserve a gold meddle for lovliness.