TTC first baby #3

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So here is another thread. Good luck everyone! baby dust everywhere!

It could be. It could be that you shouldn't proceed. But 1k is a lot to lose and would reduce the budget for the one you then move on to.

Only you really know how you feel about it and whether you can live there.

At least you can do the work in the house, and once it's done you may find you love it as it has then become yours.

It sounds like you're quite down hugs Hope you get your BFP soon.

I'd pull out if I was you. We nearly bought a 70s house but held out and now have a lovely 20s property. Has needed a fair bit of work but they did build them better in those days. Don't regret it for a second. I think it's normal to have slight doubts as it is so much money it sounds to me like you have genuine concerns.

I'd pull out too, I think, but I'm wary of advising that as it is a lot of money to lose.

Thanks ladies for your help. It's really hard to explain but I just have a wave of emotion that is pulling me down this week. When I try and imagine all the nice things we can do to improve the house I get excited. The location of the house could not be better. I'll be able to push the pram into the village and when the baby is older I'll be able to walk it to the local park. In a odd way those things seem more important to me right now. Nicola I think you're totally right when you say I will love it more when it becomes how I want it to look. Perhaps now I'm just struggling to see the fresh and clean space I'm craving. I think the problem is I'm thinking 10 years down the line rather then 5 years. If I look at it just for 5 years then that is not very long at all!

My cramps have left this morning. Woohoo! Very happy about that. I now have bad heartburn/indigestion (can live with that). When walking back from town (not carrying heavy shopping this time!) it suddenly felt like I had weed a bit. Turns out it was just a fair bit of cm, weird.

I really hope you're on the way to your BFP.

Maybe with the emotions of TTC it is just harder to think with the head not heart about the house. Does your DH love it? Difficult to be rational sometimes, I know.

I'm sad and happy when others get a BFP. It's bloody ridiculous. It's only cycle 2 and I'm not even at ovulation yet, so can't be pregnant this month! Would be easier - if a strain on the sewer systems - if we shared a cycle and could all POAS at the same time!

Newbie another thing to remember is that you literally could go on for ever looking for the perfect house- it doesn't exist unless you have have an unlimited budget. It took my friends 3 years to agree on a house by which time they were almost divorcing over it! You will always have to compromise somewhere- our house is perfect but the location isn't (on a very busy road) so that was our compromise. You need to think about what is most important to you, sounds like the location of it is very good and that would carry a lot of weight.

DH likes the house a lot. He was sad when I told him last night that I wasn't sure.

Know what you mean about hearing the news of other pregnancies. I'm going to a baby shower soon where everyone else is either pregnant or is bringing their child along...can't wait :)

Sounds like you're in a tough position newbie but like was said, only you know how you feel. It's a massive purchase but it's not forever and by the time you get in a out your stamp in it you will hopefully love it! Sounds like a lovely location!

Just saw the BFPs on the July thread too nicola. In happy for them, especially those that have been at it for ages. But I understand how you feel. Just want mine this month!

On that note, pretty horrible question but I have to ask - how do you keep the swimmers in?! My experience of TTC so far is its messy! Worried we are losing half of it after the deed!

In other news, I found the zita west book in a charity shop yesterday and got it. She was in a live chat here a while ago and people spoke highly of her. It's called "guide to getting pregnant".

Christelle the compromising is so hard isn't it! I really thought we too would choose house over location but when we saw lovely houses on a busy road I just couldn't adjust to the idea in my head. Compromise compromise compromise :)

Dulcet I stick a pillow under my hips and keep my legs up for about 20-30min when I can...highly glamourous and boring!

Thanks newbie. That's what I tried today so will keep that up.

I don't do anything in particular to keep the swimmers in...I think it's Zita West who says it is OK to just stay horizontal for about 20 minutes or so. For morning sex I make sure I stay in bed for a while after. For night sex I get about 7 hours of horizontal. I'm hoping that's enough!

I know it's silly / pointless being envious, but can't help it. Doesn't help that at 35 I'm heading towards it being harder to conceive anyway. I need to relax more!

Hi guys

newbie house buying is such a stressful thing, we have had ours on the market since Easter and nothing yet. It is hard to look at someone else's home with their bits in there and seeing your stuff in the place. I'm sure you'll make the right decision for you.

So happy days for me, this has been the first month of using opks, I'd convinced
Myself that being 36 I wasn't going to be working properly, but got a 2nd line last night, wasn't as strong as the top line but was a definitive line, so I piagp (peed in a glass pot) again this morning and it was a bfp for the opks

Also dtd last night so fx this is the month. Am going to try and convince dh we need another session today and maybe tomorrow to maximise our chances

That's encouraging, Lisa, as I am 35. What CD are you?

We are DTD every day for a fortnight, from CD 5.

Just been depressing myself reading about egg quality over 35. Have stopped now as I was stressing already!

dulcet I also do the pillow and legs in the air or wriggle round and rest them on wall at head of bed. like nicola once we are done at night I don't get back up. if its any other time I wait at least 45 mins!

I'm still waiting for af to come, waiting waiting, waiting! hope when I test in morning it shows something or a clear nothing! I'm not even bothered if its a yes or no anymore I just want to know!!
I'm so not patient!

We are ALL impatient ladies here, Puppy!

if this is some horrible 'af is really late ha ha mother nature trick' ill be cross!!
also if I get a random 25/26 cycle my dates for ov will be all wrong!
honestly men have such the easiest job in this baby making business.

You mean getting to have loads of sex and that's it?!

Oh, and I meant every other day earlier...I can't do a shagathon like some!

yes! that's exactly what I meant! my oh has been very good at doing it on the 'right' days and is loving all the sex.

but they are that bit more detached from the emotional and impatient side! oh clearly thought I was mad poas x3 yesterday. he was just like 'why don't u just wait to c if ur period comes...'

aarrrgghh! cos the waiting is terrible and I wanted to know if I could have a drink!! - which I obviously didn't have so I put my lovely prosecco bak on the rack and had lemonade while he had beer... !!

I'm not telling my H2B about my POAS habit...I even hide the wrappers so he doesn't find out I'm an addict!

I also don't mention 'right' days, just initiate sex more than I did. Which he doesn't turn down!

You can still drink for a while, just don't go mad!

My hubby knows about my poas addiction but he thinks it because I need to stop taking epo. I told him this morn that I'm working properly as I am ov'ing, which I'm relieved to know, just got to make sure we dtd on the right days.

I'm on cd16 today nicola so 15 when we got the positive opk.

I just want this to happen now, I'm fed up of seeing adverts for clear blue pregnancy tests or baby milk and pregnant women walking down the street, especially those who are still smoking .

I'm no longer looking forward to POAS tomorrow morning. I've got way too excited and built the 2ww up too much. Not feeling like its going to be a BFP anymore...feeling more like AF. I'll have to pick myself up fast :(

I know...pregnant people everywhere! :-(

And I think I was around CD15 or 16 last month. We shall see what my sticks say this month! CD12 today. Haven't pissed on a stick today though, will do it again tomorrow.

I'll keep my fingers firmly crossed for you, Newbie.

Thanks Nicola