Just Shagging Part 10; No science or skill, JS at will!

[AWomanCalledHorse]

Welcome to the lazy way to make a baby, part 10!!

Just Shagging (JS) is ttc using ye olde shagging & crossing fingers methods, our tools are your body, OH?s body..urm some wine & lots of finger crossing.

All are welcome, most leave happy & upduffed! The last two threads have been very successful; thread 8 had 5 BFP?s, thread 9 had 6 BFP?s....so we?re due 7 BFP?s here, which means we all need to get shagging.

We don?t ?do?; OPKS, taking temp or harcore charting...although it is nice to know when ERTD is due.
Which brings us to acronyms & slang;
AF=ERTD (Evil Red Tide Of Doom).
EWCM=Pant Snot
Getting a BFP soon after joining thread= Doing a kitten
You=Are a viroid, no idea why but it goes long back to the dawn of time.
DTD=JS or donning the Shag cape.
POAS=Sometimes referred to as PIAR (Pissing In A Ramekin), as we?re such classy ladies

Here is last thread for proof that it works, and that you can't shut us up

Here is the Graduates thread!

notso nope my DH is not in the well preserved relic gang - I have me a toyboy! ;) not a massive age gap though, only 2 years (.....and 3 months and 7 days - not that I'm counting!). That said, he is definitely the "grown up" in our relationship - I do tease him about having been born 40 yrs old. Love him.

wing i am sure that there is absolutely no issue with JSing in the xWW....I would find you some evidence but I'm at work and I'm not sure that having "can you shag in the 2ww" on my search history would do me many career favours!

guinea boo to ertd showing up, but hurrah for her sodding off so quickly - dust off that shag cape and get on it (literally!)

Fx for top and the gushing pant snot - nearly spat my weetabix out when I read that!

Well I am supposedly 4dpo today. Maaan are the days dragging! Feeling a bit bloated today but I think that probably has more to do with 3 weetabix for breakfast than anything else!

I was just having a browse through this thread and had to quietly dab my eyes at my desk :( and I don't even have kids yet! Big wimp I am.

Oh and I have a confession to make. I had a glass of wine last night . It's DH's fault, honest.

Well just back from the Dr, he said it will take a year for my period to come back, so a year to get pregnant.

He doesn't think it will happen before then. Kinda feel sad

A year Frying??? That's mad! Was that ever in any of the advice they gave you before you had the implant, because I'd say that's a bloody big factor in choosing it for contraception! :(

If I were you I'd call NHS direct or call or visit your local family planning centre for a 2nd opinion. Oh and Keep on JSing of course :)

I know wing a year. No one ever said, I was told 48 hours. If nothing has happened in 8 months, I'm to go in and they'll are what they can do.

I called nhs direct, they agreed with the Dr. :(

Shit frying thats a shock :( You seem to have been given bad advice somewhere along the line

Frying I'm so sorry about your bad news. :( They really should have told you about that before.

At least doctors don't always know everything (esp about fertility) so there is a small chance that you could get pregnant before then.

I would make some special couple time, like having a romantic weekend away, to help you not focus on this.

I am due ERTD today (day 35) and am getting typical cramps. Feeling sad again, even though it's really no surprise.

All the best to everyone in the 2WW.

Thanks everyone.

I'm actually gutted, and annoyed, and frustrated. I text DH to tell him, and he asked if I was happy with it. It's not like I can do anything about it. I'll just have to keep having sex and see what happens. Now I don't know whether I should stay on this thread now

omg frying that's awful I can't believe you were so badly misinformed :( they definitely didn't say up to a year?

and if we go by the opening post on this thread, then I say you should definitely stay....

Just Shagging (JS) is ttc using ye olde shagging & crossing fingers methods, our tools are your body, OH?s body..urm some wine & lots of finger crossing.

Thank you all so much. I'm actually in tears about it. it took such a long time, and so much heartache, to have Ethan that we thought we'd best start trying now. So to hear this, it's really made me sad. I'm just hoping they, the hcp, are wrong.

No wonder you're sad about it. Bloody doctors.

Saying that, they got some things wrong with my pregnancy and even bigger things with my friends' that I really don't think the medical profession has a detailed clue about what goes on with our bodies. They told my aunt she was barren so she adopted and then went on to have three children naturally!

"Just keep shagging, just keep shagging" to be sung like Dory in Finding Nemo
:)

Will do! Will do!

frying what a heap of shite... here's hoping that you are the small exception where it may come back quicker and there's no harm in keeping that shag cape in use on a regular basis - even if its just for the 'happy' endorphins from lots of sex and orgasms...

I was going to start an AIBU post and then decided that a) I am not ready to face the responses in that thread and b) I think I know I'm being unreasonable. I'll try to explain my question - and hopefully you can follow!

Are any of you making plans that assume you will get pregnant? We've been talking about next year, work travel and holidays. I do think life should go on, so we are still planning travel/holidays, but I want them to be in Europe so they are either easier to still do while pg or cheap enough that if I don't want to/can't go its not going to be a big expense. My other half can sign up for overseas work and his first choice is Canada. It is the best option, and if not pregnant I can go with him, if early pregnant I can still go with him but if late pregnancy or even already with young baby I will be in UK on my own. That makes me sad - I wish he'd only chosen European places. His reasoning is that he's never got his first choice anyway and we don't know how things will work out and whether I will be pregnant then. Arghhh - I know the Canada option is the best, but if my dream comes true then I will be pregnant and Canada will be the worst option...

So what do my fellow JS's think? And are you making or holding off plans because of wanting to be pregnant?

Goodness stuck I don't fancy your choices much. I suppose its an opportunity for him to go to Canada and theres a chance you will be able to join him. Europe would be easier all round but I suppose by your reasoning that life goes on, Canada it is. Not much help there was I?!
And as for making plans, we have been TTC for so long that life HAS to go on so we have a holiday booked to Southern France for next August. Disregarding a late stage pregnancy in August we could probably manage or we have the option to move further North. Not too sure about the 9 hour drive down though, I would probably veto that and fly but time will tell :o

That's a bit of a dilemma stuck - and there was me fretting about the fact that I've booked standing/mosh pit tickets for a gig in late October!

Well, in the spirit of AIBU......I think YANBU :) To be honest though, I actually think neither of you are being unreasonable - your concerns about Canada and the potential for you to have to be left behind are perfectly valid, but your DH has an equally valid point in saying that you can't live life based on what if's and just in cases. When would it be likely to happen and how long would he/you be gone for?

Great thread. Feel slightly dizzy from scanning through it all, and a bit like I'm butting in but hey, just wishing you all well. And thought you might like to know that JS every 2-3 days is in line with the current draft NICE Fertility guidance. So you could almost rename this Just Following NICE Guidance. JFNG - or maybe not. page 67 if anyone's interested: www.nice.org.uk/nicemedia/live/12157/59278/59278.pdf

And some of those little swimmers can hang around for 7 days, and orgasms do help to suck them up - so no need to deprive yourself. Though NICE is a bit quiet on orgasms for some reason...

Good to know we're going along the right lines. :)

I love the idea of NICE being a bit uptight and blushing slightly when it comes to orgasms :o :o :o

Stuck, for your main question I'd say, yes to a certain extent I'm planning as if I will be pregnant in the next year (God willing!). Some things like holidays etc but last year I didn't actively chase a job lead partly because my current job has better maternity benefits now I've been there 5 years and also the new job would have meant longer hours and more travelling. (Obviously there were lots of other factors in that too.)

But back to your situation, how long would your DH be away for when he goes abroad?are you talking a month or six? Would it be long enough that you'd either visit him or he'd visit you? And is it that long that his company would pay for you to visit etc?

How does he feel about potentially missing the birth, regardless of where he is for work? E.g. With all the best will in the world, he could be in Paris but still not get back to you. If he's in Canada it might be longer before he can be back to you but let's say that you do get pg and he is then due to go away when you're going to be eight months pg, can he turn it down for a nearer role? Or can he say okay then but I may need to come back early or for two weeks straight after the birth?

Only you will know your situation...

Saranza I've never heard of a natural family planning teacher. I'm intrigued!

And Top, I used to audit NICE and did a big professional project based there for a few months. Now I only dealt with Head Office but they were a friendly enough bunch. Never discussed orgasms with them though!

Ertd has arrived!!
Stupid Dr!

Bet you've never been so pleased to see ERTD!

And I did think the doctor's advice was odd, as I was on the injection, and it is said that it can take 'up to' 2 years to return to normal. I'm seemingly ovulating / having ERTD after 4 months (though I was on the pill for 3 of those, so won't know if it could have happened sooner), so it shows how we are all different.

Best get JSing then shortly! :-)

Oh and Nicola I'm coming to Spithpoet today for my DNiece's birthday party. I shall wave in a vague direction at you :)

*Southport, not Spithpoet. Obviously!

Ooh, lovely...and you may not have to swim here as it appears to be dry so far!

I shall have a wave whilst turning in a circle later, so I know I've somehow waved at you! :-)

I've never been as excited to have ertd in my life. DH and I even high fived