Hoping for a July BFP?

[winkle2]

Come join me :)

Hello, can I join you all on here too? I'm testing on June 30th but June thread seems a lot quieter than this one so I thought I'd do as some others and straddle both.

resipsa, as I can see your post I couldn't ignore it.... I'm sorry you're feeling down, I can't imagine how hard it must be to experience a m/c, and I don't know how long it's been for you but I'm sure time will eventually be a great healer - make sure you're very kind to yourself in the meantime though. You obviously need to grieve and you shouldn't feel bad about that, but also try and treat yourself, even if it's something like a glass of wine and some music in a bubble bath when dd is in bed.

Jokes.... hmmm, I'll have a think...

I'll join you with the tonight too I think.

Hi everyone.

Wow, I look away for a couple of days and miss so much :)

resipsa I am going to seek out your thread now. I'm sure you YWNBU. Also nothing bad about putting DD in nursery. I hope you feel better this afternoon. Here, have some

Well, CD12 for me, have DTD yesterday and will tomorrow. No sign of positive OPK yet but will keep taking the EPO and B6.

Anyway can't post much as supposed to be working. And my bathroom is being smashed up too.

Have a nice day all! :)

Oh resipsa, poor you. You are beating yourself up terribly! You must try and let the horrid thread go - though I can just imagine how dreadful you'd feel if you were given a roasting by the AIBU regulars. Truly, it is too easy to be nasty and judgmental when you are behind the safety of your computer screen and I think that some make a sport of it. Try to shake it off - and in the future steer well clear of asking advice from a bunch of people who enjoy a good bun fight! I didn't see your post and won't bother searching for it as it is yesterday's chip paper - in a virtual sense :o

Plus I bet your DD loves her nursery and friends, and you're being a fabulous mother - mummy guilt is waiting behind every corner isn't it?!

Smashing up a bathroom? Now that would be a good stress-reliever!

resipsa just read your post. I am feeling very down about last month and that was just a late period / chem preg thing.

I can't imagine how you are feeling, you have had a shocking loss and it will take you time to get over it but you will feel better one day, hopefully soon.

I know what you mean about leaving your dd, don't beat yourself up I bet 2 minutes after you left she was just fine. You are a mum of course you will feel guilty everyday of your life, it's only natural.

Lastly re AIBU. You are being completely unreasonable listening to the opinions of those in AIBU - I have had some pretty harsh comments myself from AIBU. I only ever post there when feeling v mentally strong.

Resipsa .. You are not alone in always comparing where you should be in the pregnancy. I am getting closer and closer to my due date and I know it is going to be a painful experience if I get there with no Bfp. Please don't worry about talking about the mc. It is such a huge part of TTc when you have had one.

And as for the nursery guilt.... I am a firm believer that kids are fine with whatever the situation is. SAHM or working mum or a part-time SAHM are all valid, acceptable solutions and I am sure the mum suffers much more than the kiddies. I bet she is not crying within about 30seconds of you leaving!

Sunshine .. Yes the June thread has gone quiet and sady the early month BFPs have stopped and evil AF has taken over on there. I will be dpo13 on the 30th and realistically I know there is no way I will wait longer than that to test. I just have a plain old Boots brand in the cupboard. That should work day before AF due shouldn't it?

Ahh recipia, ignore that post and don't look again! I've not seen it but better best forgotten as step would say,
For fear of being berated I find alcohol a great healer, we all have bad days so just embrace the sadness and eat lots of chocolate, when you get that bfp you will be all the more grateful for it!
As for ted, ok ok with the dpo6 but in my defence it was cd30!! It has been an unfeasonably long cycle!!!

Hey all

On way home from work early. Throat is worse and air con in office doesn't help. Need to rest up I think.

CD10 here. General consensus with CBFM is DTD EOD on high and every day on peak so hopefully will feel better tomorrow to dtd. The peak days are the most important so I have a few days left to get better.

Hi all.

Im here! AF got me Sunday teatime. Absolutely gutted, I would have been due on 28th June, if hadnt had mmc. I had it in my head that I wouldnt have to deal with that because id be pregnant by now and it wouldnt matter. Oh bollocks. Got really upset last night. DP tries bless him, but hes not good with emotion and stuff - just patted me and said dont worry, he's enjoying the trying, bless him. But you do worry, after 18m of it and im 38 next month. I feel like im gonna be picking kids up from school and everyone wondering if im their nan.

So im making my place for this months lucky thread, I think theres a few of us that have endured enough shit and waiting. Er this month for us please!!

ribs I remember you from Junes thread. In the nicest way I hoped you wouldn't be coming on this thread. I love your dh's way of making you feel better, letting you know he is liking all the dtd.

Think there are a lot of us at the moment having a tough time ttc.

I think kitty has the right idea and a huge glass of will help. Am righting off this Monday as a shitty shitty day. Tomorrow will be better.

Wow, lot of posts. Caused many giggles but my addled brain has already forgotten just what. WhenSheWas, my DS sonds like the twin of your little one! I could count on one hand the number of times he slpet through before 18 months plus until very recently he would not go to sleep unless I staid in the room and going to sleep took him about an hour so was a pretty dull afair for me. Thankfully he is now vastly improved at 22 months. Though still ended up in bed with us the last 3 nights becuase he's got a cold and is wheezy and I'm too soft

Hope the ill peeps are eeling better, I've caught DS cold and sound liek a man, with my very snotty red nose I think I am the picture of aluring!

RIBS - you're a spring chicken! Had DD at 40. One of the best things was meeting other new parents who were in their 20s and early 30s and thought I was too (30s, obv, they're not blind!). In the end, if you've got a new baby, you're all equally knackered. It's great now cause we go on clubbing nights etc which my 40s friends don't really get around to these days...
So sorry there're so many of us with impending should-have-been-due-date. No words can describe, it's just a feeling.
Apologies for the earlier whinge. Now firmly over myself but thanks for the replies!

Hi all-
Big hugs to everyone feeling down in the dumps today, it's just so hard, isn't it!
Nothing to report- its cd p16, we've Dtd 8, 12 and 14- df was far too hungover last night, but I'm afraid he'll have to man up tonight and step up to the figurative plate!!

Question re: ov pain- I think I get it, I get quite a bad pain in my right side about the time I would ov. Does that mean I only ever ov from my right ovary? I'm sure I never get this pain on my left side. Might post this question on general conception board too as its starting to bother me!

Xxxx

I think most of us alternate ovaries. But if you get ov pain from same ovary every month maybe you do just do it from one ovary, this wouldn't be a cause for concern though, maybe worth mentioning next time you're at the doc.

Sorry for those feeling down. My turn today colleague has announced she's 17 weeks. Will hear nothing but baby talk then till November. Am genuinely happy for her however am annoyed that blatantly she has not been stressed about this at all and fell pg very quickly. She is a lot younger than me but still

Cd 9 here and trying to DTD eod this week until cd 19 or so at least. Really don't see how others can DTD every day for days on end, we just don't have the energy! Also dh doesnt have great swimmers so doc suggested eod would give time for numbers of good swimmers to "build up"

Incidentally AF part two went away, but was still a long, protracted and especially painful AF.

Incidentally colleague had NO symptoms prior to missed period and didn't have any at all until quite recently.

Oops, realised that in my catching up I'd missed the last page so posted somehting about giggling at silly comments, when the page I missed was everyone feeling down. How insensative (and careless), sorry! DO hope people feel better this evening.

Winkle, I remember you having a job interview on the June thread, and see you have another (good luck!). Do you mind me asking, will you stop TTC if you get a job offer, just for a month or two, to ensure you at least qualify for SMP, or are you keeping right at it? I'm trying to work out what to do job wise - I started a new job 5 months ago and am really not enjoying it. Think I've now given it long enough to settle in etc. and still not happy so can't see it getting better but am basically sticking with it because of ttc. Am hoping that I get pregnant pretty pronto (well who doesn't) since I did with DS, but not sure how long I can stick it if I don't have up coming mat leave to keep me going. If I leave though it makes mat leave difficult, and is a bit awkward anouncing to an employer your pregnant within a few months.

I'm not going to give up TTC I'm just going to see what happens. I get rubbish mat pay where I'm at now so financially it wouldn't work out better / worse it's just the awkwardness of being preg and starting a new job.

My sis did it and it turned out ok for her so I'm sure it'll be fine!

Might have to cancel my interview on weds though as no way I can go in like this, coughing and spluttering all over the place!

Also I've stuck at this job for the past 2 years because of wedding and then TTC so sick to the back teeth with it and just want out. I'd prefer to get pregnant than get a new job and then hope they make me redundant whilst on mat leave!

Ha, know about this one! Started new job on 10 May 2010 (slightly complicated team transfer that wasn't TUPE, I didn't want to move but really had no choice) and found out I was 6 weeks on 23 May. Oops! Felt like an 18 year old and kept quiet until early Oct as a result but by then too big not to be noticed. They were good though, got full occupational maternity package and a "family is more important than work" speech from the departmental head.

Hello, can I join please?

CD1

One in, one out mrsrigby - just had my bfp!

Not at all surprised - symptoms have been there for a few days (nasty mouth taste, dizzy spells, super hungry, a bit burpy & v warm).

Got to say, it is a different feeling from the first time - which took 8 months to conceive. This time is a happy surprise but one that changes our lives... Thankfully we move house (fx) in early July & have another bedroom.

Anyway, early days but the sun is shining and I have much to contemplate. DS had a bad night so I am tired and a bit scared about the tiredness getting worse - but I know we are lucky :)

I hope this starts the thread in a positive way & that I see you over in the March antenatal thread before too long!

Tonnes of luck to everyone :o

Yeay tiddley!! I'm doing a little dance of joy for you
In my head obviously or I'd look crazy too x

Yay, happy news! Congratulations Tiddley!!!!

Congrats!

Mrs R sorry to hear that! I have been there month after month and know it's shit. Give it a few days and you will be looking ahead again, promise.

Congrats tiddley! That's great news!

Ok so am cd 14 and got a smiley on CB digital opk this morning and also dtd this morning so.... Since the next few days are going to be super busy am not sure we will have another chance to dtd until after the weekend!!! Will it be enough???!

Congrats tiddly!!!!

Butter - have you been dtd up to OV as well? If yes u stand a good chance but also remember it only takes once!

CD11 here, monitor says high but I'm STILL sick :(