Hi everyone, good weekends?
Sorry it?s been a few days since i posted - and been keeping some of you in suspense ;) We were away with friends this weekend and i didn?t get a chance to update!
So I went out with my IPF (insensitive pregnant friend) on Thursday and boy did she lay it on. I said I didn?t think she?d been there for me after my ectopic as she?d always text and say ?i?m here for you? but when I asked for help she was always busy. Her response was that it had only been a few times and she was very busy and had to work unlike me. (nice)
I then said that I was sorry to hear they had had problems as well and that I?d thought she?d conceived easily as I didn?t think from what she?d said that they?d been trying that long. She said that they had got pregnant first month but she?d had bleeding and had to have extra scans so ?we haven?t had it easy either you know?. I was soooo shocked I really did not know what to say. I mean I understand that bleeding in early pregnancy is scary and worrying but she is 14 weeks now and no bleeding and I felt it was thoroughly inappropriate to compare bleeding in a healthy early pregnancy with an ectopic and tube removal to someone who?s still trying to conceive a year later. I was that shocked that all I could say was ?well it?s not really the same is it? to which she replied ?yes, yes, i know, we?re very lucky? in a not-so-nice tone?.
She also said that she?d been talking about me to some friends (???) who had the name of a counsellor if I needed it. Now i know this sort of comment is supposed to be helpful but TBH I am pretty fucked off that she?s talking about my private stuff at all.
Finally when she was apologising for the way she shared her news she said ?sorry i upset you, i?ve never thought about anything in my life as much. I also know people who have had REAL problems...? as if to imply i didn?t have real problems.
So to be honest I was so shocked by her (again) that i didn?t really get to say anything back!! It was just ridiculous. I got home and DH just told me not to see her. I was hugely pissed off about it ? however for some reason I agreed to meet up with her again next week. I think if she mentions anything about my pregnancy and lack of since then I will just tell her that I can?t talk with her about it as she seems to just upset me.
I decided not to go on the night out as I just couldn?t face her after that. Am just so angry with her ? and she just doesn?t get it. All the rest of our group often talk about how insensitive she is and she has said some awful things to other friends so I know it?s about me and not her but I just don?t see how she has made it to our age without someone calling her on it ? and i couldn?t either! I think she just lacks the empathy and emotional intelligence required in life.... 
As for everything else here ? we are on CD6 and as I have said before I have decided this is the MONTH!!!! We can?t try next month (as we?d be in turkey when AF is due and if it was a BFP we would need to see docs immediately and i?d rather do it all in UK) SO ? We are going for it this month!
moo - great news that you Ovved ? kick back and relax now and no early testing please!
rachie glad you?re back. So sorry that docs have told you no hope. That must be extremely tough. BUT as others have said, there are often ?miracle? stories so why shouldn?t it be you? Have hope.
disco brilliant that everything is going well with your pregnancy. And now it?s school hols ? hurrah!! What do you teach? Must be hard being from home ? what part of the country are you in?
count thanks for your kind words. There are quite a few ladies on our EP thread who are pregnant with one tube now aren?t there ? all gives me hope!! Hope you are feeling well.
munchkin holidays sound exciting!! No idea what is going on with OPKs though ? sorry!!
mezza when is Af due? Have you POAS?! ;)
mrsnec Hi and welcome, glad you?ve found a place to chat while you wait for your BFP. Yep, it sounds like DH?s health things might be the issue.... Hard to get someone on 40 a day to quit though. Does he want to give up? Hope you?re doing ok.
irish hope you?re feeling ok too!
3 BFPs so far and some more please this month!
p.s. i've been reading up on 'duofertility'. Has anyone else heard of/thought of this? www.boots.com/en/DuoFertility/?cm_mmc=bmm--google--Boots+Mother+and+Baby-_-Duo+Fertility