12 months on and most people on my TTC thread are pregnant so I'm starting a new one! Come and join me if you've been TTC a while or are TTC after pregnancy loss... we've been through it all!

[iloveberries]

iloveberries Age 31, DH 32, DS 2 yrs. Been TTC #2 for a year, 1 m/c, 1 ectopic, 1 tube removed. Will be starting TTC again after my next AF.

Still following the ladies on my original TTC thread but most of them are now pregnant so whilst I'm delighted for them I wanted to start a new place for those who have been TTC for a while and are still awaiting a healthy, sticky bean in the right place.

All welcome..... nothing if off limits, nothing is TMI, no 'babydust' though please

Count that is wonderful news! Hope you get to see the little hb soon, when is your next scan?

Moo that's annoying with opks. But I've now read that they are only an indicator for Lh surge and that you may ovulate but doesn't guarantee ovulation. Also that woman could see a couple of Lh surges in a cycle. This I think has happened to me as I got positive opks two weeks apart. I don't temp and this seems to be the best marker to confirm you have ovulated. So for you I'd go by your temps and you seem to know your own body signals pretty well. No harm to keep going with the dtd every other day for a few more days. That way you'll be covered.

Mezza its still hopeful for you when AF has not shown up. I can understand this is torture for you and you just want to know either way.

Count congrats on the scan results. That's great that baby is in the right place.

Hope disco berries Irish are all doing ok.

I have nothing to report. Still no AF, no symptoms othet than i think i had a tiny bit of creamy ewcm earlier today. Never tried for position of cervix before so maybe might try that. T

Thanks Munchin I've just tested......again and test line seems to be getting lighter (not much but definitely not as dark as the control line) so I think I must have caught my LH at the beginning, middle and end of its surge.

Good news that AF is still a no show though!! And no symptoms can be a symptom!! Some women need to be very of before anything happens. My DH's cousins wife only had an inkling she was pg because of random dizzy spells, but had no other signs!!

Count fab news on the scan. So pleased for you

Hi everyone, I am still here! Friends are busy updating their facebooks with their scan pictures. God it's torture. Anyone know how I can hide their updates?

My AF is due tomorrow. I haven't had the cramping or sore boobs I usually get so I was feeling quite hopeful today but I have just had a lot of cm which usually means AF is a couple of days away so probably just be late this month to torture me! I want to test so badly but I only want a positive!! So I think I'll just leave it.

moo how annoying for you. I have no advice though - sorry!
count great news for you-well done honey!

Sorry,posted too soon... mezza fingers crossed for a bfp for you tomorrow. Are you gonna test?
This business is so f* frustrating.... Gggrr! Guess we just have to believe it will happen. X

Berries it's so frustrating that AF and pg signs are similar if not identical. Really hope the increase in cm is for your BFP rather than AF though. God you deserve this

Moo I'm glad tests seem to be going in right direction!

Munchin sorry that you are still stuck in that frustrating limbo. Hope it turns one way or the other soon, this waiting game is no good.

Berries fx the witch won't show up! And it should be fairly easy to block them from your fb feed, I have done that, think it's in settings.

Think I probably shouldn't test tomorrow, too much pointless poas this week. Going to try my best to leave it till Thurs, if AF hasn't shown up by then. Need to go hunt for some willpower and sanity somewhere, I almost wonder if my stressed out mind is what's delaying AF.

Remind me when you're due on mezza x

Hi everyone!
There are some bizarre things going on with AFs and ovulation, it's not an exact science is it? Very frustrating,but hope there are some more BFPs on the way.

berries,I know how you feel,I stopped going on facebook much after my first miscarriage as I found it too difficult ,I now only check for messages very occasionally.

count, glad your scan went well! The EPAU have said they will give me an early scan but they want to leave it a few weeks so they can see more, I'm booked for Aug 6th so I'll be just over 8 weeks then (I just hope and pray I'll get that far).

I swing from feeling pessimistic, to starting to think of dates and make plans, from feeling sick ,to worrying that I'm not feeling sick and I'm frantically checking the loo roll every time I go to the toilet. I have a clearblue digital test so am wondering if I should do it tomorrow as last weeks was 2-3 weeks from conception, but if doesn't say 3 weeks + I don't know what I'd do!
Just wish I could fast forward the next few weeks/months!
Anyway my jeans are too tight so I hope that's a good sign.

I'm going to a cheese and wine evening shortly so that will be a distraction but I don't like cheese and can't drink wine ! I've offered to drive a few friends(even though it's technically walking distance!) so I have an excuse for not drinking.Does mean I can't leave early so just hope I can stay awake,I'm feeling really tired.

oh irish i remember that stressing well!!!

the thing is (and i don't know if this is helpful) there is absolutely NOTHING you can do which will make a blind bit of difference to the outcome of your pregnancy. I mean, of course you can give up booze and fags and try and eat healthily but aside from that what will be, will be. The time does DRAG though. Do you have a hobby you can throw yourself into? - a preggo friendly one that is?!

Just remember that despite what you've been through, odds are you'll be taking home a baby in 8 months. Wow, how lovely :) just focus on that :)

Count that is AMAZING news, what a relief! That's a major one to tick off the worry list, I'm so pleased for you. Are you going for extra scans or will the next be the 12 week one?

Berries if you hover over the top of a persons update on FB over on the right hand side a little cross appears I think. You can change settings there. I've hidden a lot of old school classmates after getting fed up with their passive aggressive updates/competitive parenting. I really hope AF is a no-show tomorrow for you.

Moo, no advice from me either. I gave up on OPKs they just didn't do it for me. I rely on regular sex and temping to let me know when I've ovved.

Hope your evening goes well Irish, worrying is natural...you've got to hang on in there and try not to get too down. Being pregnant is better than not being pregnant, yes it doesn't always go right but at least you're over one major hurdle on the way to taking a baby home.

Mezza, sounds like you need a nice long bath and a good book to take your mind off things!

Muchin hope something happens soon!

AF just arrived.
Think I need some time out.
It honestly feels like I've been singled out for something I did in a previous life or something :(

Ah Berries soo sorry the witch has showed up. I can appreciate you needing a break. It can be soul destroying month after month. I do believe it will happen but you need time to recharge. Pamper yourself and take it easy.

Aw berries I'm so sorry

Totally get the timeout, I think I'm gonna need one soon.
Take care of yourself, get some quality time with your family and take it easy for a while. xx

Oh berries sweetie so so sorry. God this sucks! You go be kind to yourself and take as much time as you need. We will be here for when you are ready to return!

Thanks. I just hate this stupid fucking TTC shit so much. I just feel like such a failure when it is so easy for everyone else around me. I should be six months pregnant now - not going out to buy more super absorbent tampons.

I never thought it would be this hard :(

Ilove - im so sorry that AF got you, i remember feeling like it was happening to everyone else and gave the threads a bit of a break! i guess seeing it happen for others and not you must feel like a kick in the teeth- trust me i know that was me!!!! i feel like we have been through so much its crazy - i would of had a 6 month old by now or would be 18 weeks pregnant so its hard! but will get better you never now you may get hit super fertile and have twins!!!!! whoop!!!!
Munchin- so sorry that you have no clear idea what is happening with your body right now being in limbo is a nightmare! have all crossed for you.
irish - that was me but the ongoing ms, and sore boobs made me feel better and also seeing the pregnant 3+ took a picture and put in my secret diary1 as after 24 hrs it goes off! i have everything crossed for you irish, big hugs to you.
disco - i have another scan in 3 weeks - for heartbeat and growth!
Mezza- i respect your will power- when i POAS i just knew was feeling strange and the backache, cramping and sick feeling!
MooWoo- yeh that makes sense that you catched the Lh surge on the tests have everything crossed for you also- no pressure, we have been though so much together i cant imagine being on this journey without you!

woke with the MS and the waking up to go toilet 3 times last night! not complaining!!!!!!

Hello again ladies!

Well.........I am pretty confident that I have ov'd. Second high temp this morning and they are definitely in the post 'O' range. CP is also much firmer and almost closed too and there is almost no CM to report :)

Now in the dreaded 2WW. Am trying to think of things to do to take my mind off it. FF wants me to test on 2nd August (1 day after AF) but that seems sooooooooo long away. Think I will try and leave it as long as possible, but might have a sneaky POAS around 13/14 (I have a 15 day LP).

How is everyone else getting on?

Gutted.

Good thing is - mystery solved. Went by my GPs surgery today, couldn't understand how I could have BFN yesterday and still no AF if I ovulated prior to last Monday, which is what I thought were the results from the day 21 progresterone test. Turns out the idiot person I spoke to on the phone last week didn't understand what the test was for. Got a print out today - prog level 1 last Monday, which means I hadn't ovulated by then after all, and probably did sometime last week, when there was minimal dtd and so chances this cycle pretty much blown.
So it's basically just s freak cycle, possibly because of that flu I had just on those days where I normally ovulate, and there is still a few days to go before AF shows up. Bugger

Almost a year now since my first MMC was discovered. What kept me going back then was thinking "by this time next year you'll probably be very pregnant or have had a baby already". I had no clue what was coming. Finding it hard to believe that we could possibly be lucky enough to have a third member of the family by this time next year.

Sorry about all my cycle/symptom-spotting/poas madness the past week. I'll lay off it all for a bit now. Should probably go do some yoga or something.

How is everybody doing? In need of some good news - you better get a sticky one moo!

Mezza glad you got the test results explained to you. What ever will be will be this month. Remember it only takes one dtd so you may still be in with a shout. But I suppose it's best to think there is no hope and get pleasantly surprised.

Mezza & berries I will be around for a while to come so chin up. We have to believe our time will happen.

Count, Irish & Disco I'm glad all symptoms ate kicking in for yous. Long may it continue.

Moo, yeah to ov'ing. You've done all you can this month and fx it's a sticky bean.

Me??? Same old same old. Nothing to report. I have started walking in the evening in a bid to shift some pounds, but stood on scales this morning and nothing has moved. But I will keep it up as sometimes when you start excercising you gain a bit as you retain water and muscle weighs heavier!! Well I'm clutching to that theory.

hi everyone, After a duvet day i am feeling a bit less sorry for myself. Well, not really but i have stopped crying (finally).

mezza - that is really annoying about the test results isn't it.

munch let's believe! It's much more enjoyable than not believing!

moo - well done! Now the 2ww commences. I've got my fingers crossed for you. It is time us long timers joined disco and count. I'm ready to stop discussing CM and start discussing baby names with you.

I was all geared up to get super positive this month about getting a super positive but have just realised that DH will be away on day CD10, 11 and 12 this month. Post ectopic I ov on day 15. I suppose it's still possible if we go for it on CD13, 14, 15 isn't it.... I just planned on getting in a bit more than that this month!!!

Decided I can't leave the thread - you guys keep me sane :) xxxx

must learn my emoticons better!

Berries so so glad that you are feeling a bit better and that you are hanging around!! This thread just would not be the same without you!!!! And we will both be discussing baby names very soon!!

I think that as long as you have sex the day before and day of ov (and maybe the day after) then you should really have done enough! Maybe monitor all the signs so you know exactly when ov will occur and just do it as much as physically possible!! Sometime the months where it seems the most unlikely is when it happens

Hi and glad your feeling abit better and not going anywhere it wouldn't be the same without you!
I have looked on my old logs and I only done the deed 3 times when I fell pregnant!
2 days after my AF finished.
Day before oving.
1 day after oving.

I'm def not saying that the formula but it worked and I was not using any TTC aids at all just simple maths and tada!!!!

Ilove I really wished I could erase the mad mind games as after a ectopic/ MMC it's not easy, but I know with looking forwards to a baby can overcome every doubt!!!!

In that case that's it - I'm gonna get pregnant this cycle. 1 (or 2!) baby (s) in the right place please who I can take home in April to be part of my family.

I'm pissed off with waiting now. I've done my time and I'd like a bfp in the right place in August please.

I'd also request the same for moo, Munch and mezz.

Apparently it only takes one well timed bonk so that's what I'll do.