2 DPO - 2WW, Who's with me?? :D

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.. Hi guys, So i'm 2DPO. Had Realllly awful cramping when i ov'd not sure if this is normal. Never been that bad before, lasted about 2 hours then i was fine. Anyway, worst part of ttc.. the dreaded 2ww!!

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Didn't DTD last night. Too tired!!

CD 19 of a potential 29 day cycle.

Started dtd - one down lots more to go
Gosh kicking you've done so well! Fx for you again.

I'm in awe of your efforts kicking

Glad af has finally left you red and that you can get on with dtd this cycle.

I'm pretty sure that I've already OV this month, I'm now CD22 of 30 - will keep dtd but only when we feel like it and because we want to, romance isn't dead!!

I am on CD20 of a potencial 29 day cycle. I have erred on side of a 30 day cycle and late OV.

We are going to DTD EOD from now on.

We DTD on CD19 so managed it the whole month. Still going just in case.

Got more stuff for next month

Feeling a bit down today. SIL also announced she's pregnant. They have been trying for long so happy for them. But had a private cry later. MIL is ecstatic and going to be a grandma for the first time. I wish it was us announcing the news... Feel so selfish and rotten...just having a pretty rubbish day

I wish I didn't feel this way and could put a mask on with a big smile. Just need to pull myself together. Could handle my friends as they live away but this is going to be so close to home. I need a slap to bring me around!

Oh red sorry to hear that you're feeling down. Its only natural to feel envious when it seems like everyone around you has the one thing that you want, its not selfish of you at all. It just shows how much you want this. And it WILL happen, it just takes a little bit longer for some people thats all. But that means that when it does happen you'll appreciate it all the more. HTH. x

Yeh red don't beat yourself up for feeling envious. its normal and no matter what you feel, you can't fight it. its not worth it to add guilt onto your list of already conflicted and sad emotions.

i think the shit thing now is seeing all the bfps but your time will come. you are still very early days and honestly the more you stress about it, the more your body won't let you fall pregnant to try protect you.

focus on being with your husband and on living life . DTD whe and you fancy it (just at least eod) and try take the focus off it.

Thanks ladies...feeling better this morning. Got to go see SIL and MIL n close family tomorrow for a celebratory dinner. Going to be strong and take a deep breath.

I know it's too early for me and naively stupid of me to expect it would have happened in the first cycle of ttc. But it's so difficult to keep a smile on when everyone around you is gushing with symptoms.

Anyway sensible head on now. Shutting out the envious emotions and flooding myself with positive thoughts. I think we are just going to dtd when we fancy it and enjoy it while we are ttc rather than turning it into one sort of race to get pregnant.

Awww, red, I know how I'd feel in your situation...hope you manage your brave face OK.

And how you are feeling is totally and utterly normal / understandable.

I am not sure if I am in the 2ww yet.

If it's started or finished or near the end

I could do a dance actually

Hi Ladies im so sorry ive been rather ignorant this month, been keeping extra busy and its actualy worked, i think im past obsessing :). just looked and AF is due in 7days. omg that came round quickly:o

Been quite naughty and had a few drinks this month! But what will be will be :)

Good luck this cycle ladies. hope ure all holding up, will read everyones comments proply, just got on writting this real quick haha!!

Did see the comments about being abit jelous of others announcing their pregnancy, I think its normal. a close-ish friend of mine announced hers in March, this sounds really silly but she was 1 of the few i told about my MC in Jan and i got this feeling over me that she had tried just because she had heard about me + new id be trying again :/ am pretty sure she didn't do it to get 1 over though. ahh the things r emotions do to us! i get a lump in my throat everytime someone announces it, even ppl i dont no very well!!

ALL of are times will come :):)

Hi everything nice to see you back here. I'm impressed with how relaxed you sound! I'm sure a couple of drinks will do you no harm so don't worry. It's not like you're caning it every night is it?!

red how did the family meal go? Hope you're feeling better

I think it's funny hearing people say how they want to "control" everything and it's go-go-go and I just think like...I wish you all the very best but you have a long way to fall.

It's a heartbreaking journey. We watch our mates fall pregnant - and soon enough they will watch us fall pregnant.

I really do believe that everything that is conventional knowledge is a load of shit. It's all lies to make us believe that we can control our bodies and we have an idea of what it is doing.

The only thing you can do is DTD as early on in the cycle as possible and carry on throughout the cycle until AF is due. And if your DH isn't into that, then he probably doesn't want a baby as much as you do. I was chatting to mine last night after a session and he said "how else do you make a baby apart from a lot of sex".

That's what I think will get us pregnant. Not spending a ton of money. Just good old plain fashioned humping. Like every generation before us did.

Hi Everything good to see you back. I know what you mean and you are not alone in feeling that way. I thought the same about why SIL got pregnant the same month we started TTC. But I felt better when I spoke to DH and told him how I felt and somehow it felt better letting it all out and him reassuring me that I was not evil or insane for feeling this way.

Meal with the family went okay queen- I had a lot of to block out MIL gushing. SIL has been really nice and sensitive as she knows we are ttc.
Its MILs reactions that make me sad as I felt it would have been me announcing the news and her getting excited about our pregnancy. Anyway moving on.. we may not be the first to announce, but at the end of the day we will have our own moment of happiness and glory albeit not the same as the first grandchild, but it doesn't matter to me anymore.

red I have a family member who fell pregnant and another family member who fell pregnant two weeks later. Family member first-to-fall wouldn't even ACKNOWLEDGE that family-member-second had fallen pregnant. The rest of the family or the marital family weren't told, friends weren't told and we weren't allowed to let on if we did know that family member two was pregnant. I got yelled at because I had a Facebook conversation with family member two and I had to delete the trail because first-to-fall couldn't know that I knew that second family member was pregnant.

How is that for stupid, nasty, inconsiderate, spoilt rubbish?

They are siblings

Espcially when you know how hard it is to fall pregnant in the first place. It's not like you decide to try and steal someone else's thunder. You just decide to start trying, knowing it takes about 6 - 12 months.

You don't do it to SPITE anyone else. And I certainly wouldn't put on hold my TTC efforts for anyone else

Thanks kicking its like you read my mind sometimes.

Thats exactly how I feel that when we announce we are pregnant people might think we are trying to steal the thunder !

That sibling rivalry sounds very petty indeed - although I didn't understand why the first wouldn't acknowledge the second's pregnancy? weird!

Then they don't know you and they probably don't deserve you

Anyone who stoops low enough to think that someone decent would go out and "have a quick baby" to spite someone else needs a head check. Don't bring in your concerns about how others will think into the already mangled fray.

You concentrate on yourself and your DH and you make a quick baby. It's got sweet FA to do with anyone else.

Oh and I felt that way for the first few months as well. Now that I think back. I was too embarrassed to tell anyone we were trying in case they would still see me as the "youngest grandchild and therefore too young" or the "baby of the family" or "only just married".

After last month, my brother found out that we are definitely trying and he rings us know wanting to know how our "baby-making is coming along"

Not at ALL weird discussing baby making with my older brother but he said he doesn't need ALL the details :)

People are surprisingly happy for you when it comes down to it. I think sometimes there are people in the world who really do think of others first and who do have a lot of empathy and they try to include how other people would feel into their lives. At some point, those people need to try and think that the world will just support them. And the only two people who count are you and your DH. Right now

I think the only reason im glad no1 nos, is because its been like 6months now, and u would get the comments "rnt u knocked up yet" etc. couldn't be doing with it, even though ino they don't mean it in a nasty way!!

and ino that my friend most likely didn't get pregnant to spite me, as i asked if it was planned and she told me she hadnt used contraception since she last gave birth

6 days to go for me, i really can't believe how relaxed i have been, havent used anything at all this month, opk's etc. no early testing. not going to buy anything until AF is late, weather that is this month or not :).

Same here everything

I think I have 7 days until AF should arrive. I think it's 7 days?

checks dates

I have copious amounts of EWCM - lots of clear stringy stretchy stuff.
Last month when I tried to find it - there was none. This month when DH is away I am getting tons of it! Cruel, Cruel Joke :(

Hoping the soldiers from the deed on Tuesday are still swimming to victory.

I think the weather is getting me gloomy. Where is the sun???

Haha you've been busy kicking :o

Hope them little swimmers r holding out red its good if u have the ewcm, its meant to help keep them going :)

• i was thinking the same. Would cheer me up if it came back out!!

This is so random haha, but wanted to share it :) i was looking at scans measurement etc last night from DS and it showed the EDD( estimated due date) Gestational age by EDD, and the actual gestational age, and going by that i conceived him on CD8, i was on a 28 day cycle at that point to!! thought that was really early. but just goes to show anything can happen :) xx

Hello ladies
Been lurking but not posted since my last post of taking things easy. I have been and not POAS or anything, same like you everything only to realise that AF turned up today 3 days early. Should be due on Sunday. I am sad but not as sad as I was last month which is ok.
Red, like everyone?s said, it is perfectly normal. Only one of my other friend is TTC and I despair at the thought of her announcing her pregnancy whilst I?m still trying plus she is TTC # 3 while I?m TTC #1.
Anyone had any experience with Vit B? Heard it regulates the cycle and Im considering taking them because I don?t know why AF has arrived so early.

I havent heard of that sorry joyful cant be much help. Atleast u arnt waiting around now, take it easy, and u can start a fresh cycle in a few days. xxx