2 DPO - 2WW, Who's with me?? :D

[everythinghappensforareason]

.. Hi guys, So i'm 2DPO. Had Realllly awful cramping when i ov'd not sure if this is normal. Never been that bad before, lasted about 2 hours then i was fine. Anyway, worst part of ttc.. the dreaded 2ww!!

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I would have a c-sec. I have had the surgery and I found it fairly painless.

I've got some very severe mental and emotional issues about natural birth. I don't care how many women think it's "abnormal" for me to not want someone fiddling "down there" when I am at my most vulnerable. Not a chance.

queen dare you to book a cheeky hotel if you do OV near DH's work. Then he can meet you there for a clandestine lunchtime meeting :D

Hi kicking - have changed my name from rodeo to drama - think it suits me better

I LOVE the idea of getting DH to meet me at a hotel, unfortunately though he doesn't work in just one place, he travels all over the north west so wouldn't really work. It'd be easier asking him to pop home during the day but thats unlikely too really. I've had a bit of a moment of clarity where I'm thinking this ttc lark is taking so long not because theres anything wrong with either of us, mainly just because if we're working opposite shifts when I'm ovulating then we're just missing it completely! At least after today I have a few days off then back to day shifts so theres some hope at least! CD10 today

I completely understand why you wouldn't want someone fiddling about. The whole idea of childbirth terrifies me actually. I have an irrational fear of tearing really badly and having problems for life, silly I know!

Like the new name!

We thought the same thing actually

We have just been very busy and this month will be the first month that we're both actually on the same page for the whole month and will have the ability to DTD EOD and to really concentrate on it properly. So even though we've been trying for 9 months, we've only really been trying to catch ovulation. Instead of DTD rampantly EOD for the better part of three weeks. I think if you can only focus on catching ovulation, then you may more than likely whittle down the time frame. Whereas DTD EOD means that you hit every fertile day and then some :)

I agree. I am worried about the tearing. I hate the fact that it stretches the inner muscles and DTD for HIM will never be the same again. I hate that the chance of your muscles collapsing increases with time. I hate that they shove a finger up there - you become less than human. I don't want people peering up my bits. I don't want people touching me. No thanks. Nope. I get short of breath just thinking about it.

C-Sec for me. I am pulling the previous surgery card and the psychological card.

You're right kicking - if we're not lucky this month then the dtd eod strategy will be ours too next month, luckily I'm doing a lot of day shifts throughout June so shouldn't be a problem. I want my BFP NOW though!

I don't think I could ask for a c-sec - first time mother and never had previous surgery, wouldn't they expect me to try for a natural birth?

Talk to your doctor and go with the fear. The thing is that it DOES effect your body long term and they can't deny it. You can push for it and they will send you for counselling and stuff but if you really want it and they can see that it would effect your ability during child birth, they have no other option but to offer it

C-Sec costs them more. That's why they don't want too many people going for it.

I haven't had a kiddie before either but the surgery I've had. I hope the scar excludes me. But I am also going for the "nutter who is not pushing ANYTHING out of ANYWHERE" angle

Haha too posh too push kicking?? :o

feels like i haven't been on here in ages haha, been keeping busy. infact i don't even no what CD i am on

• im not going to look actually :) got such a busy month ahead, i think its going to be quite easy not to obsess, just hope its not to busy im tired and don't dtd enough

Hows everyone been? done anything nice? had really nice weather last two days here :) funny how the sunny can slightly lift your mood

Morning everyone - how we holding up here?
12dpo today - a day to go....
I can hear Eye of the Tiger tune coming on in my head

Too posh to push is what I would tell everyone.

But in reality, I have a really deep imbedded fear about what will happen when my legs are in the air. I just can't do it. They can send me to psychologists but it's all as a result of childhood abuse. Can't do it

And I have a jolly great cut along my bikini line so I have a medical and a nutter reason.

I am not good at keeping track of CD. I just know the date I came on so I have to check it every day because I have a very short attention span

red your hilarious :o

kicking i understand, i'm the same i would love to beable to say i done it naturally but i just couldn't face it, i had a real bad time we can be scar buddies :)
I just laugh it off though and tell people im too posh too push, if victoria beckham didn't have to do it, why should i :o

think im about CD5, really not stressing at all upto now :)

Got a scan date through already so im pleased, but a little anxious.

I'm from a country where we pay for medical insurance so most people get c-sections anyway. It's more common.

Plus, I have spoken to a lot of new mums and the labour side is hectic! It's even worse if you labour for hours and hours and then get a c-section anyway.

I think it's potentially easier when you pop into a hospital, get a snip, pop out with a baby. Job done

Like picking up your baby from MacDonald's drive through :D

Hi ladies, yes it does sound much easier having a pre-planned c-sec. On the other side of the coin, just been speaking to a recent new mum friend of mine about the same thing - her contractions were manageable enough for her to stay at home for almost the whole thing (which was only a few hours) and by the time she got to hospital she was ready to push before they could any internals. She had the tiniest of grazes, no tearing whatsoever, and is now completely back to normal as if it never happened! Obviously I get that she was really lucky but I wonder how common it is to get through a natural birth with no problems at all?

Can't wait for more news tomorrow red fx

i think its pretty common too have a good labour, ino a few people who have. i had a 24hour labour that ended with c-sec. defiantly like picking up a maccies through the drive through kicking haha!

We have to be pregnant before we even bother about how we're going to get them out.

I feel quite relaxed this month to be honest. I keep wanting to go online and buy bits and bobs and then I realise that I can't buy anything or look at anything because I've promised myself that I won't and I feel better.

I have no idea when I'm going to OV though. Strange not to POAS for the first time in what...10 or 11 months now

I think it takes a lot more out of you to labour and then have a c-sec. I've seen some pretty tired mums out there.

My SIL said the labour bit was horrible and that they don't tell you that. She said someone just said "It's horrible, isn't it?" and she just said..."yes"

And if you're in labour for 24 hours, you just stop sleeping. I think then, you have even more chance of just being shattered with a new born and that's even harder to deal with.

Drive-through is much easier

haha agree with you there :o

• id say if you have been ttc for 11months with opk's and not up the duff. then u can't do no harm not using them. just regular good old sex haha!!

I don't no why i wasted all that money now on them, silly really. never used anything the last two pregnancies, it only gives us false hope that we MUST have concieved because weve had positive opk's and dtd. thats what i was like anyways :) atleast this way ino when around i ov but not exacly so if im not pg by the end of the month ill just assume i missed the boat this time :) haha

Agreed everything - although I only ever used cheapo OPKs I'm still much preferring this month not using anything like that and just dtd with fx

And the lower stress levels because of this can only be a good thing surely?

I only used 1s from amazon, really cheap but then i wonder if u get what u pay for? and there not so reliable? ive found the same style tests but the pregnancy 1s rnt to good, only give very faint positives in my experience :)

im finding this month so much easier with not using them. around now is when things will start happening :) im staying calm and just enjoying the sun and dtd :o

Hi Ladies, How are we all holding up? any news anyone?

Hope your all enjoying the sun :o

Hi everything I'm trying to work out whether I'm pregnant or not
Had 3 bfns this month including one this morning.
I'm over 2 days late with some very mild brown discharge now and then.

I think I have given up hope after today's bfn on 15dpo.

Anyone know how reliable first response tests are?

I've never used first response tests red so can't really say but I've read that they're meant to be quite reliable I think? Is that what you've been using?

Sorry to hear about the bfn, but hopefully you just ovulated late.

Loving the sun everything - don't want to go back to work tomorrow!!

go try a superdrug one but you may have ovulated later than you thought

first response is quite reliable to be honest. to like 98% of the population by the day af is due.

i would book a blood test to make sure.

red

Any news?

Hope you're ok red?

Oh red :( hope you are okay! id say that 1st response r 1 of the best if not the best, pick up small amounts of HGC, pink dye(no evaps). i had a positive the day B4 AF was due in March, rang my GP straight away panicking because of previous MC, an hour b4 my app i started bleeding :(
guess ill never no for sure, but think i could have had a CP or VERY early MC!
hope you get an answer soon hun (hugss)))

How is everyone doing? this thread is so much quieter this month :) think weve all calmed down abit, hope ur all enjoying the sun!!!

Hi everything yes it has been quieter but I think we've all been getting on with dtd haven't we! For me the 2ww starts from tomorrow so there'll be plenty of frantic posting coming up from me I'm sure!

How are you getting on?