June BFP thread! come join us!

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Thought I would take the plunge and start the June thread! I won't be getting my May BFP as my cycles are sooooooo long. Who's. With me?

Congratulations wishful!

Wishful - amazing! Congras! Remember taking one of those digi tests when I was pg with DS and not being able to believe it, such a great feeling!! Good luck w/ everything for next 36 weeks :) :) (and the 18 years that follow ha ha)

Kylie - sorry u are also going thru long cycle hell, its such a pain for planning things like holidays cos u never know when ur going to OV, when AF is arriving etc. feel your pain!!

Going to eat a ttc, Zita West approved diet this.month as soon as AF buggers off so last couple of days of being on the and chips coming up hee x

Wishful Well done you! Congratulations.

Girls I went to see my friends and their 1 year old yesterday. Very hard :(

But I told my friend about TTC and if she had any tips. She said to dtd every day around OV - she said she dtd every day for a week. What do you think about that tactic?

She told me she got preg first month of trying, then had a miscarriage, waited 2 months and then got preg again first month of trying after mc. Pleased for her but hard to hear!

We had a few glasses of wine and I confessed to hubby that I feel like I'm never going to have my own baby. I just can't picture it in my mind at the moment :(

Oh wishful, that sounds so hard :-( (((hugs)))

I think that obviously dtd everyday around OV worked for her. However I've realised, since starting this ttc business, is that nothing is for sure. Anecdotally 1 of my close friends is convinced she OV-ed on day 6 (she wasn't temping or using opks or anything. And another who was temping says that, according to her calculations, she couldn't possibly have gotten pregnant that month. Yet her 6 year old son suggests otherwise!!!

Was it last month when you had your smileys quite clearly on day 16 etc but then, from when AF arrived you simple must have OV-later than you thought?

Not that im an expert- am sure more knowledgable people than me will post too, but I think if you just concentrate your dtd efforts when you think you ov (even if you're fairly certain) then you really narrow your window if OV doesn't happen exactly as predicted. I think far more likely if you take a scatter-gun approach and try to dtd from as early as you can eod until AF arrives. Yes, you'll be exhausted but you'll always have some swimmers waiting when ever the egg makes an appearance.

I'm sorry you be had such a hard day xx

Congrats wishful (batman) now sprinkle some of that baby dust our way please

Wishful were you ttc for long?

Yay wishful lovely lovely news. Congratulations.

Oh winkle I think you and I are having the same day. I am not feeling positive either. Sometimes the time seems to fly, and other days like today, it is dragging. still having AF which just serves to remind me that it didn't work out in may.

Your friend has her story and you will have yours. I was going to post some cheer up kind of guff. but do you know what, a bit of moping today is allowed. I do feel a bit of a grieving process when AF turns up. Is that how you all feel a bit too??

But I know that once AF buggers off, I will get down to DTD with energy and enthusiasm.

I think there will be quite a few of us dtd EOD at the same time. I feel the need to start some kind of training program. Sit ups anyone??

Thanks wishful.

Last month we dtd cd 8, 10, 12, 14, 16, 17 and 18. Maybe we stopped too early (although you think you'd be covered if you'd got your smiley on cd16 wouldnt you?).

Congratulations wishful you've given us some hope!

Oh big hug winkle :(
not sure abt dtd every day I read somewhere this reduces the quality of the sperm. And you seem to be doing everything right but seems like ovulation is a tricky one to nail.
Have you been to see the GP?

I know of a friend who was ttc for 2 years before it happened for her. Don't loose hope xx

Thanks strawberry and ted.

Cd7 here so should be gearing myself up to dtd but just feel hopeless! Had another cry with hubs earlier, told him I couldn't picture myself with a baby and he said that he could picture it and all these years we've been talking about having our own babies so I should stop the negative thoughts.

Feeling a bit better after talking to him.

winkle

So sorry you are feeling bad at the moment. I felt the same first time round (ttc). Got so fed up we gave up ttc one month. Only had sex on what I think was cd11 (normally ovulate on cd16) and that was the month we got pregnant.

No idea why that one act of dtd worked whereas previous months of dtd everyother day did nothing. I think maybe I was more relaxed that month.

It will happen when it happens. Sending you a big hug.

Ah congrats wishful!

Winkle snap, I spent yesterday looking after my two nieces (2 and 4) and a friend came over with her 2 year old, even though it was a really nice day, it was a bit hard - struggling to feel positive too. I've also had those awful moments when I don't think it will happen for me and can't see myself actually doing it, but DH tells me he thinks I'll be a great mum and it will happen, he says it took a long while for a couple of his friends whereas my friends with babies were really relaxed and got pg straight away. About dtd every day though, I've also heard it can reduce quality of swimmers x

I must be hormonal today cause I feel like crying at all your messages and saying sod it and getting drunk!!!!

Someone at work was telling me the other day that if you are early in the cycle it's fine to , especially as it relaxes you. It's only later in the cycle it's best to give up, my gp near enough said the same!

So hard isn't it - but it will happen for all of us x

Congrats wishful hope it all goes well for you!

The May thread has finished (I don't think you can put more than 1000 messages on it) so I'm migrating over here to June also, although not completely giving up on May yet...

Incidentally my DH was giving me daggers for drinking coffee this morning - he read its the one thing (not alcohol!) thats associated with recurrent MCs... no more lattes for me then! Quite sweet that he's reading stuff though!

winkle (hugs) I think we all get like that at times just keep at it and think positive, know how you feel with family and friends all around having babies!

I think in going to do what one of the girlies said and allow myself 10 minutes a day (if that) to feel sad, I've started cycling and it's helping me sleep better and the my mind off things, cd7 for me too but based on my lengthy cycle I gave another 3 weeks before I think I ov and we're at a wedding that weekend!! In thinking the night before and the morning after for dtd that weekend

Thanks all for your lovely messages :)

I'm having a couple of drinks with hubs and we looked back over the last few months where we've really upped our game with TTC and think that we stop dtd too early. Thats because we use the ov sticks, think we're covered and then stop!!

So we're going to change our tactic and ditch the sticks and dtd every other day from cd 10 to way into the 20s.

Wish me luck!

Winkle - That does sound like a hard day ((hugs)) Glad you were able to tell your friend that you are ttc, I think it's a lot harder for you when you aren't able to tell friends cos they kind of sense it but they can't say anything and you feel devastated being around them and their kids A good friend of mine told me in Jan that her and her DH had been trying for 10 months, she finally got pg and then she lost the baby over xmas. And she delivers babies for a living (obstetrician) so she's literally surrounded by babies and pregnant ladies day in day out and colleagues asking when she's going to have one etc. But I know she hasn't told a lot of our other friends and so they are wondering what's wrong, why she's feeling down etc. I second what others have said, everyone has their own ttc story and everyone's is diff - there's no magic formula that works for everyone. However, having loads of sex all around OV time has got to be a tried and tested method At the same time, tho, that's a lot of pressure so just keep doing it as often as u and DH have time for / feel comfortable with and it will happen...hopefully this month!

Squeaky - DH bought me a coffee machine after I had DS and I love my morning latte but similarly he is now pointedly offering me cups of TEA only lol

We had a nice, windy, rainy day at the seaside today, lovely drive, chips and icecream - DS was furious it was too rainy for him to go to the playpark but other than that he had a ball and DH was delighted to get listening to the bloody boring football on the drive. Nice way to take my mind of AF / mc and good way to indulge in a lot of bad foods before I hit up the Zita West diet this week

Oh how awful for your friend littlemisssnowshine :(

Doing the winkle!
quote from Dh earlier "I am not a machine, but lately feel one!"

I am keeping my fingers crossed and praying one of his soldiers is going to meet my egg.

Evening - I can see plenty of familiar faces here, glad to see you iyswim It was getting rather lonely quiet over there.

wishful - congratulations - what a great weekend you must have had!!

It would seem the May BPF is full as squeaky has pointed out - had typed out my message and then wasn't allowed to post it. So have copied and pasted. Hope that's ok?

Oh lou - was thinking of you - and thinking of testing too. I didn't - but will be tempted by the end of the week if AF hasn't arrived. How's the symptom spotting going?! You asked a few days ago about lp? Well I'm not sure when to start counting my WTF month from as the mc took so long to get going, but if I take the day that I bled the heaviest and believe everything came out, I think my WTF lasted about 21 days, with plenty of EWCM around day 10, so 1 week shorter than my usual cycles which have been like clockwork since I can remember. Will be intrigued to see what happens this time. Haven't noticed any EWCM at all.

Rue - think I'm about 6 DPO. Now officially in the 1ww... and winding myself up something chronic.

BTW used the remains of home-made chocolate brownie whipped up on Friday night to create a white chocolate and brownie cheesecake today - mmmmmmmmmmmmm. Mary Berry does a jolly good recipe - LittleMiss and Squeaky - would go very well with a latte

Wow, can see I'm going to stuggle to keep up with this thread, so many posts! Congratulations Wishful, great news! Sorry you're having a tough few days Winkle.

We've had a lovely day at a Christing today. Many, many babies there. I seemed to start a trend in our group with our first DC, so all the babies were at least a year younger than mine and of course looked very cute and tiny. My DS was so cute with them too - lots of pointing and exclamation of 'Babie' at the top of his voice, and wanting to kiss and cuddle them all.

Well, I have some SWI to fit in before DH trundles off for his weekly visit to London on Tuesday. Shall be trying out this 'winkleing' of which you all speak - think DH will think I'm loony!

Morning everyone

Hello to new faces. yeah .. June is where it's at now. May was sooooooo last month.

CD7 for me and did intend to start DTD tonight or tomorrow but I am still having a rather awful AF. I won't OV while still on my AF will I??

I have always been a lucky cow with short light periods, but the last 2 since the mc have been vicious. I hope they go back to normal again soon. or ideally no more for years as I will be pg and breast feeding... Dream....

redstrawberry good girl yourself giving us live winkle updates. Did you go for the full out cycle legs?? this is the point where DH just shakes his head at me. Step too far.

I am very in the middle. AF was due yesterday. Apart from some cramping that I've had since Friday (twinges, sharp pains etc - nothing like normal AF cramping as that just carries on and increases in intensity) and sudden appearance yesterday of sore breasts and worse today...NOTHING

On an interesting note (and I posted this on another thread - sorry):

How early can pregnancy be detected depends onthe pregnancy hormone hcG which can be detected in the blood about three to four days after implantation. Urine hCG can be detected about two to three days after blood hCG can first be seen. Detection of hCG depends on timing of implantation, so hCG can normally be detected in the blood between nine and 16 days after ovulation (HPT: 12-19 days after ovulation).

A positive test is observed on average 13.5 days after ovulation.

So I am on the June thread because I've not had a BFN
But I am still not really on the June thread because I have not had my AF yet