Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake overindulgence

[WhyAlwaysBoris]

Continuation of the last thread.

There's cake for scoffing, backs for patting, and screeching death metal for all your metalling moments. All welcome so come on in and get settled into the plush sofas!

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So settle into the mosh pit, we have special VIP area's for those on the 2WW, the new bumps metalling with segregated areas for the first/second/third trimesters and the club class cocktail bar for those who have just got AF and can get-pissed let loose for the first two weeks!

hoooraaaay! Fingers crossed martha

martha congrats on the BFP excellent news

This thread seems to have a preggo chair hidden in it

Ok so I am pregnant and weird but martha that just made me cry. and then for the crying bit. There will be a comfy place reserved for you in the VIP area.

mumtum having had as many natural miscarriages as ERPC's I would say... Natural is best for your body and the least risky physically. However saying that I have found it can be a right painful dragged out bastard of an experience and I have also got infection after (3 months of vileness).

ERPC for me is the kindest and most gentle on your mental health. My hospital really look after you if you have MC (own recovery area and extra packets of tissues and kindness). So I always choose ERPC now. Only problem is I have now had 4 of the swines and that has risks in itself. Still I am always happier with ERPC. For me my mental health has to be protected. Hope you don't have to choose but that is my experience of it.

I am still spotting. Not metalling about it but wish it would bugger off.

Marthaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

Congrats on the bfp, I am keeping EVERYTHING crossed that this the sticky one! I'm glad I still lurk otherwise would have missed the news! :) :) :) Did you do anything differently this time around?

mumtum thinking of you sweetie and hope you are looking after yourself today. My mc sounds similar in that it really really dragged out and the bleeding took 6-8 weeks to stop, followed by another 2 weeks till I got a bfn then ages for AF to begin. They say that acupuncture can help bring on AF quickly after a MC (not sure exactly it might have been far that mentioned it). I had acupuncuture after my mc and I swear it did amazing things for me. It relaxed me no end and it really helped to have an impartial person listen to me. He helped warm up my womb and other fertility related bit and sorted out my ovulation as it was all screwed up post mc (CD19!) and he got it forward to CD14.
xx

Yay Martha !!!! That's lovely news

martha that is sooooo wonderful. A cautious but hearty congratulations!

mumtum i had a mmc at 12 weeks, pg ended about 5-6 weeks. I thought I had endured a natural mc between the two scans. The second scan showed that I had passed less than half the pg. So I had the ERPC. It was quick, painless after. I had a BFN after 5 days, and light on/off bleeding for about 2 weeks. AF then arrived after 27 days. I believe that I ovulated that cycle too. I started taking manda's B6 soon after the ERPC which I really feel sorted my cycles out, bringing ov forward. Anyway, for me the ERPC was the only option. I had one day in bed and then after that was physically well enough to get on with day to day things, including looking after toddler DS. I only work Wednesday and Thursday. The ERPC was on a Thursday and I went back to work the following Wednesday.

Hooray for martha :) Congratulations

I think it is so sweet that your dh thinks it was the night of passion last week that must be responsible!

Mumtum I had labour and delivery for my mc so can't advise, but i'm thinking of you and so sorry you have to spend your weekend thinking about stuff like this.

oh thank you everyone you are all soooo amazing. pie good to hear from you, i am glad you lurk too how you doing me old mucker?

we are dazed, i am mooching about as if nothings changed then i pass the CB digi and i

i dont think we did anything different this time round, just tried to SWI at the 'right' time but this month i couldnt feel my OV which i usually do

we are making plans and then stopping ourselves as i am still only 3+5, but then i start squealing and saying 'how can i not get excited' of course of course i know that it could all go wrong in a heartbeat (i am frantically knicker checking) but still, i am pregnant

aaaiiiieeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

Martha what fab news

mumtum I've not had a natural mc, I had a erpc for both, and I would do that - i think it must be easier to deal with as it less "dragged out" and I had a couple of days bleeding and then light spotting for a week or so. Af came back pretty much 28 days later.

martha I'm so pleased for you! One day at time...but do wallow in the rushes of joy. I found it didn't make my losses any easier to know I squelched my happiness when I had it. Here's hoping this is the sticky one for you!

whyalwaysboris thanks so much for the metalling commiseration and the sore-boob wishes. I have settled down a little and managed to (mostly) regain my 'what will be, will be' approach. At 10 weeks, I gather my Bean is the size of a strawberry, so I'm just sending love down to said strawberry and hoping for the best.

mumtum thinking of you - hope you found something nice and distracting and spoiling to do today. Hang in there.

Matha < gentle squishes > congratulations! I'm chuffed to bits for you.

marff! marff, marff, marff!

Yes, one day at a time. But today you ARE pregnant!

Poor DH, though. He won't get shagged senseless this month after all

martha OMG that is excellent! Fingers x for you.

Evening all. I found out on Tuesday I'd had a mmc (was 9 weeks and baby measured 7, no heartbeat). Have since had a medically managed miscarriage and am now waiting for the bleeding to stop so we can start trying again. I think the only thing that will get me through this is being pregnant again very soon... but even then I'll be terrified. Hopefully I'll have news like martha's(congrats!) before too long...

Welcome to the new ladies - i wish none of has to be here but here we are!

Mumtum i am so sorry about your news. I have had natural mcs both time. The first one was really manageable but the second one was,sorry to be graphic here, a bloodbath. My poor two year old was trying to help clean up the mess and "helped me" in to the bath, bless him. If i had the choice then i would have gone for the op.

Martha Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Today you are pregnant!!!!!!!

Hope others are all as well can be.

Question: should i stop being an ostrich about deep seated pain in my right hip joint? I have got a doctors appointment on Monday.

MARF WHOOP WHOOP! I am so chuffed for you. I'm sticking around here, there's something in the water. It's our time to be lucky, my turn to sit on the preggo chair! In my last place of work, about 6 of us got pregnant about the same time, we used to joke about a preggo chair!

I'm in the 2ww and having a proper metal. Every twinge between my armpit and my knees and I'm convinced it's another ectopic. This TTC lark isn't much fun anymore.

ah sass that's sweet, here's to your little strawberry!

hi to backward possum, yes I felt the same after my mmc, just wanted to be pg again.

hi to everyone else x

Morning ladies

Thank h for all your advice I was swaying towards erpc as like many of u I now want it over so we can try again. I told my mum yesterday it was such a relief to talk to someone in rl that wasn't dh I think he was received to. Mum works in the op theatres at the hosp in the gynae team so it would be her team performing the erpc do I know I'd be very well looked after which did somewhat allay my fears about butchery job being done so I'm sure that's what I will do - quick question though if I start to naturally mc in this week would they still do an erpc for me or would I have to complete a natural mc once it's started? Sorry I feel so naive .

I did keep busy I took dd to a horse show and she won all 3 of her classes it really took my mind off things and cheered me up no end seeing her so happy . Mum came for all the heavy work like hitching the horse box etc so it was easy on me. Needless to say spent some time worrying I would start bleeding but I put a pad in and thought if I do there's is nothing I can do to stop it. I can't tell you how amazed I was when I got home and I wasn't bleeding..... Same for this morning tbh too....

Hope everyone has a good day. Dh waking up so I'm off hope we find something nice to do today.....

But very quickly first and on a much much brighter night eyay go Martha e I am beyond pleased for you honey so so happy biggest congrats to u and dh today you are pregnant

Martha I am on a liitle island off the coast of Cornwall (not kirrin, it has holiday cottages), with terrible reception, but I am cheering and cheering! Can you hear me crackling through the ether?Congratulations! I know it is early... all the caveats... But you are pregnant! Wonderful news! X
Over and out!

congrats martha!!! am so happy for you. got my fingers crossed thats this is the one!!

i had two erpc's mumtum and i think they are a good way of dealing with things as it seems very controlled and you are asleep for it. i have bled lightly for a few of weeks afterwards and had no pain. i just don't like the general anaesthetic but last time i asked for a premed and it was much better i cant even remember getting the GA. there is a risk of them causing scarring though but i think it's a small risk.

i am feeling a bit down at the moment. i really wanted to ttc now but i need to wait until i have the referral to liverpool and have the hysteroscopy etc. i don't know how long it will all take. i wouldn't forgive myself if i ttc and it went wrong before i have all these tests.

i am also having some strange spotting which is worrying me. i bled for about 5 weeks after my last erpc then had 16 days with no bleeding then AF came 10 days ago and i am still spotting now. my afs only last three to four days usually so it's worrying me. apart from those 16 days i have been spotting everyday since begining of february. who can i ring about it? should i go to gp or try the consultant at the hospital? i didnt mention it to raj rai as i thought it was just the end of af but it still hasn't stopped.

Thank you ladies for the welcome.

Wishing all you ladies that are pg a h& h pregnancy and you give us all hope. Don't know all names yet but congrats to Jaffa, sass , Martha ( sorry if left someone out)

To mumtum hope you get closure soon at this horrible time. To possum take it easy.

I'm just trying to look forward now to getting AF and maybe ttc again. Dh thinks we should try again. So we leave it in the hands of mother nature for a little while. Have house to myself for a couple of hours so nice to have some me time. Going out for a family meal later so life goes on.

pebs I had weird spotting after my first 2 AFs after the ERPC. I did mention it to my GP after my first AF, as I had gone for a chat as I was feeling so low.She said as There was no pain and no (ahem) smell there was no need to worry, and it did sort itself out.

thanks bonzo. i will just keep an eye on it then.

i will be ringing my consultant this week anyway to try and get my referral for liverpool. might mention it if i get to speak to anyone other than the secretary.

Amazing news, Martha!

Mumtum, so sorry. I partially miscarried naturally the day I had my "bad" scan, and then because I started bleeding again the next day went back to the hospital where they did an ERPC as I hadn't passed everything.

oh everyone you are soooo lovley

i know a lot of you know how long this has taken us, and the trials and tribulations that have ensued, DH is still anxious but i told him what sassmonkey said about enjoying every day while we can, and it doesnt make any loss any easier if we wallow in panic. He liked that advice so thank you (and welcome) sass

tas dont even joke about it, i have just moved seats and am sitting in the chair of someone who went on mat leave 3 weeks ago i am dreading the inevitable comments!!

manda DH is gutted about the shagging - he said 'so sex in pregnancy - good thing or bad thing' i replied 'it depends on my mood'

mumtum thank you for your wonderful message, you have so much going on at the moment i am humbled by all your grinning emoticons for the record i am still holding out for you, the mc may happen but, i dont know, remind me - what is the next step, do you have a scan this week? i am keeping everything crossed for you

jaffa i am getting you loud and clear! thank you for your wishes (and cheers )

i am tentatively off to update the stats thread, i am almost scared to but i have to embrace this, DH said he is proud of how i am being so optimistic about it. However tomorrow is Monday, some of you will know that i have a phobia of Mondays, as all three of my MC's occurred on a Monday, totally bonkers i know but you are all gonna have to hold my hand to get through tomorrow, i promise i will only metal on the first Monday!

Last week i lugged bags and bags of earth to the tip along with some bricks, dear god if anything was going to happen it should have happened then, that and all the wine i have consumed this month oh and i have had brie too..

Anyway i am going to get some shut eye so i can begin another day, that is two days now when i am preggy... please let this continue