Just Shagging - the lazy way to make a baby! Part, um, 8?

[MuddyWellyNelly]

Over the last year or two we've had a thread for those who are Just Shagging. Confused by OPKs, too lazy to temp, can't read a chart to save your life? Not quite ready to forgo the Wine? Well stick with us!

Of course it's been SO successful that we're down to a tiny handful of regular posters, as everyone else has graduated and we'll ignore the fact that those of us that are left are probably way beyond Just Shagging. But it's an ethos rather than a strict rule. Come and join the fun .

No rules here, other than EWCM is hereafter known as Pant Snot. AF is known as the Evil Red Tide of Doom (ERTD). Viroids is our name of choice, the reason is long since lost in the annals of time. If you really feel the need to take a test, Gu Ramekins are what all the classy birds are using. And of course, drinking is essential. Sometimes, we even remember to have sex

So don your shag capes and throw your legs in the air caution to the wind :)

Old thread here if you want proof it works!

sharp stabbing pains around my section scar and kinda the top of my fanjo. wonder what thats about?

something you has a CS less than 3 months ago and are TTC?! Did your OB/GYN give you the go ahead?

I ignored my doc when he said wait 18 months after emcs, but I'm glad I didn't now. It took a LONG time for my scar to feel completely normal, and probably about a year before it stopped looking fresh and sore. I was adamant I wanted a baby there and then though, but I am glad it didn't work out now in hindsight.

As long as you have another cs next time chances of rupture shouldn't really be much higher, but can't say how the effects of weight gain might affect a cs scar.

Welcome new people :)

So we spent about an hour in bed trying to think of a boys name last night, but no JSing, don't think we really have our priorities in order. But we finally have a couple of names DP is happy with. They're a bit boring and they don't 'match' DDs more interesting name but oh well.

was never told not to and i know several people who have got pregnant like a month after having sections and they all turned out fine. on the outside ive healed up really nicely and my scars faded so much already you can hardly see it! though i might be to fat to see it

i did some reasearch on google though even though i shouldnt google and it seem quite common. i have a low bikini line transverse cut wich is the best kind of cut becuase its on the strongest part of the uterus and gives more chance of a VBAC. obviously i have to do whats best for the baby when it comes to delivery but if it comes to section it will be under GA.

I would really recommend going to see someone just to confirm. There are a lot of risks and google tends to tell you the happy stories of wgich there are many but it's not representative and google isn't medically qualified, nor are most people posting on here/neums/baby centre.The minimum recommendation AFAIK is 6 months because you need to heal all the way through before the uterus stretches again. Plus as your waters went in assuming it was an EMCS?

Remember you'll have had double blood loss too so a higher chance of anaemia which can mean a prem, low weight baby. External appearance of a scar is no indicator of internal healing and whilst postCS rupture is rare it's overwhelmingly more common in births less than a year after a CS.

I don't mean to scare you but I'm shocked noone told you not to. 3 months is far too soon for actively TTC and someone should have pointed that out

yeah thats a good idea. tbh i didnt even think about. yeah no one even mentioned anything to me not the doctors midwifes or health visitor. i was just dicharged and that was it.

ill book a doctors appointment but hes pretty old school. reccomended i ate a blood stake to boost my iron with DS.

Can you request a different doc or contact the supervisor of midwives at the hosp to ask t

Can you request a different doc or contact the supervisor of midwives at the hosp to ask to see an OB?

Steak is better than an iron supplement - more digestible - but not bloody unless the blood's been boiled

only have one doctor unless he has a registra at the time. im not to sure about the whole midwife thing but i can only ask

You're entitled to a debrief but that can take time which I would personally recommend if you're at a single doc practice.

Reminds me I need to request my own notes.

Hope everyone is doing ok. We are mid-cycle/shag fest here and low tummy ache suggests I probably have ov'd which is promising.
I find it really interesting those of you discussing names etc prior to getting a BFP. We both have this fear that it won't happen for us and so we don't talk much past the JSing!

Even though we had problems last time we js'd because of my dodgy cycle (3 months between ertds sometimes...) I don't think it's ever crossed our minds that it might never happen as we already have a child together and are still young. I love talking about it really, helps keep the excitement there!

Thanks for all the gift suggestions; fraktal & persuasion, also thanks for talking about Aping fraktal, will have a discussion with DH when he's off work on Friday about what we can/can't agree on...he's happy to babywear!

Hi Tbots!

something, that's really shocking aftercare, hope you get a Drs apt soon!

Dexidoo, I'm a 'don't count your chickens before they've hatched' sort, although we discuss names (did even before we wanted kids) I didn't do anything practical before DS was born, I don't think just because I'm pg means I'll have a baby by the end of it!

We had a similar attitude the first time round dexidoo. You'd think I'd be a bit more relaxed this time but you hear of a lot of couples who find conceiving their second doesn't happen for them. So I'm just as worried it won't happen this time too. I believe I'm very fortunate to have our beautiful DS.

Having said this, ill confess to thinking about names to myself, but just saving the name arguments discussion for after the 12 week mark of pregnancy!... If and when!

Obviously I spend a lot of time thinking it won't happen, given its been so long already! I really try not to tempt fate, although I do admit that when I hear an unusual name I fleetingly consider how it sounds with surname Nelly. I do envy you all the pre-pregnancy excitement and planning, a bit .

All that said I'm still too lazy laissez-faire to stick a thermometer up my arse/foof/armpit

meh were just shagging cant be faffed with all that other malarky unless it doesnt happen.

ERTD due in 2ish days and not even feeling ERTDish yet

If it doesn't happen again for us JS, we'd look at adopting in 5+ years, I couldn't be doing with sex becoming a chore or go through IVF.
Minus one of our 'couple' friends every single couple we know are struggling/have struggled with baby making so we feel lucky to have DS.

woman im adopted. my mum and dad dint fancy IVF either.

Feeling very very sicky tonight! Blurgh and quite tired! DS hasn't wanted to feed now he had his jabs earlier so could be a broken night for me. He normally sleeps through e

Lucky to have him sleeping through so young!

Well I'm starting to take this super seriously Already given up smoking and everything and been investigating all the stuff I SHOULD have investigated last time, like a proper pregnancy diet (want to do everything in my power to avoid all the health problems last pregnancy gave!) And although we've been kind of "yeah if it happens it happens" before, we're now in agreement that we're going to start JSing like horny teens after ERTD.

I would love to adopt... Even if I could have children actually, I always pictured myself adopting a couple when my biological children were older, I feel like it would be such a fulfilling thing to do... But DP says he's not willing, even if we can never have any more children Don't think he'll be up for fostering either which I would be, I'd be scared of getting attached to them but... I just think it would feel so good and right.

I guess you can tell I generally live quite firmly in the future. Always making plans for yeeeears from now.

yeah he did it by himself dropped his night feed and just slept. hes asleep right now

oh i live in the future to!! as in already picked baby names and what hospital im delivering at lol.

ERTD is due tomorrow but no cramps no moods no nothing. last time i had cramps 2 days before ERTD!!!

baby I wanted to adopt over having 'natural' children in the first place but DH wanted to try this way first. Congrats on giving up smoking!
We would never foster (not tarring all foster kids with the same brush) but having seen the worst sort of foster kids through where I used to/DH works (emergency services) it's put us off.
There was a thread on the fostering page started by a woman who used to care for drug addicted babies :( it's a lovely read (she does such a fantastic job), but just reading about them finding homes had me blubbing so can't imagine doing it.

something, v.lucky to have a DS sleeping through! Ours wakes up 2 times a night to feed..having said that he's been on the hungry baby formula since I gave up bf at 2wks, so we've spent most of his life looking forward to the day we can start weaning.

DS is still a bit of a boob monster at night. Note of caution woman - cosleeping isn't recommended with young babies if you aren't BFing as the hormone which keeps you in the lighter states of sleep isn't produced and it can be dangerous.

I need to try to night wean him so we have a realistic chance of conceiving!

I also really want to adopt but we're bad candidates :( maybe in 15 years? Or when DH comes out we could foster.

i remeber when he started sleeping through i woke up and shit i forgot to feed him! looked in his basket and there he was snoring away!