Just Shagging - the lazy way to make a baby! Part, um, 8?

[MuddyWellyNelly]

Over the last year or two we've had a thread for those who are Just Shagging. Confused by OPKs, too lazy to temp, can't read a chart to save your life? Not quite ready to forgo the Wine? Well stick with us!

Of course it's been SO successful that we're down to a tiny handful of regular posters, as everyone else has graduated and we'll ignore the fact that those of us that are left are probably way beyond Just Shagging. But it's an ethos rather than a strict rule. Come and join the fun .

No rules here, other than EWCM is hereafter known as Pant Snot. AF is known as the Evil Red Tide of Doom (ERTD). Viroids is our name of choice, the reason is long since lost in the annals of time. If you really feel the need to take a test, Gu Ramekins are what all the classy birds are using. And of course, drinking is essential. Sometimes, we even remember to have sex

So don your shag capes and throw your legs in the air caution to the wind :)

Old thread here if you want proof it works!

This sounds like the thread for me!

We've just started TTC #1. It's good to know that I'm not the only slightly older poster (I'm almost 36, DH is 39) who can't be faffed with opks etc. It may come to that, but fingers crossed the just shagging approach works for us.

Humph. Moan alert!
Jsing must commence tonight if we're to take this business seriously but I have developed a sore throat and achiness over the day ( typical holidayitis). Have warned dp we're doing it anyway but not quite as much fun when you're poorly. Meh.

thankyou woman hes nearly 11 weeks. crazy i know to be thinking about no.2 but me and DP have thought it through and decided we want them close together. ive seen how close close together siblings are and even though it will be hard work its lovely seeing that sibling relationship.

in terms of JSing DP is now on the night shift so not alot is going to happen this week but did it fit in this mornig while the baby slept ERTD is due in 4 days roughly so if it does come it wont effect us to much with DP being on nights

hope you get better soon lolly

Thank you awoman I'm feeling much better, unfortunately fortunately that means I can no longer con myself that I'm already pregnant. On the plus side that means nice wine, nice cheese and lots of JSing!

Welcome soupqueen! While I was waiting to ttc I read all the different threads, and this is the only thing I think I could get on with. I'd get much too stressed charting, temping, opking and the like.

Sorry you're feeling rubbish lolly JSing may be a good way to forget the yuckiness (but if it's going to make you feel worse Then don't make yourself feel guilty about it.

something I now need to know how old you are...

[bugrin]

im nervous about being the baby of the group lol. might just have to spit it out......

Helloooo SoupQueen (I typed soupdragon at first, Clangers on the brain), I'm the same as you all the ttc science-y stuff sounds a bit faffy for me!

something, our DS is 15wks so I know how crazy you are
It will be tough for a few years at first (fingers x-ed we have dc asap) but I think it will be nice for them in the future to be so close. Plus DH is 35 and he wants to get his 'baby' years out of the way before 40, and to a less extent I feel the same about 30 (I'm 24).

Lolly, sorry you're feeling so crappy.

Persuasion, wine, cheese & JS sounds like a decent commiserations prize!

DH is working early shifts all this week, so not holding out for lots of JS....grump.

woman glad im not the only crazy one [grins] okay then ladies im 18. DS was unplanned at 17 but wouldnt change it for the world. me and DP are recently engaged and are going to look at a house that we cant afford to hopefully start our own home together.

i know im young but it just feels right IYKIM?

woman were also FX for dc asap

DD was unplanned too. So do you still live with your parents something? I was about a fortnight away from heading off to university and DP was supposed to be going to a university at the other end of the country when we got the BFP. In some ways we look back on it now and say "It was fate" - if DD hadn't come along, we probably wouldn't still be together as we were kidding ourselves into thinking we could cope with the distance. We can't even spend 24 hours apart, let alone weeks or months on end. And like you, we wouldn't change it for the world now of course, she's a beautiful, amazing little girl.

It's not a judgemental thread, I don't think anyone will think you're too young. I think it's a "biological clock" thing anyway, you don't actively decide to have a baby, it's just an urge inside of you that says "It's time now" and you can get that at any age and, if the circumstances are right, you can't talk yourself out of it.

I went through a phase last year (the reason I stopped JSing) of realising I wasn't ready for another baby, going through a lot of stuff, and again it was probably fate as we went through a really tough time at the end of last year that would have been horrible if I was pregnant or had a newborn. Basically had to move out of our last house at a second's notice (dangerous and scary situation - not eviction) and then had to go back to my parents' house until we could find somewhere new to live. "Fate" again though, our new house is 50x better than our last one, we have a big dining kitchen and a huge backgarden, a perfect family home and now we're definitely ready to have another one. :)

But I think I'm a JSer for life now, evaluating pant snot and taking temps isn't the kind of thing I'm into. Me and DP get very carried away... We are already discussing baby names, despite very little JSing actually happened (weekend away at the in-laws ) and our previous JSing attempts (must have been about 7 months?) not yielding any babies!

were staying with my DPs parents at the mo. its okay for now i guess deffo doesnt stop us JSing lol been on the council list for ten months now and even registerd in DPs borough. have found a 3 bed house though wich we could just afford but we do need to get out the inlaws!

me and DP are very organised got baby names and dicided were not finding out the sex

See I'm still dithery about número 2. So JS means if it happens it happens and if it doesn't it doesn't. At the moment though JSing isn't happening because DH and I need to do some work on our relationship and DS is very attached (which is what one might expect from attachment parenting...) but that cramps our style a bit, as does having someone living in.

I now feel old am 25 and was the baby of the last thread!

Babylann you put it very well when you said it is like an urge telling you it's time now. Even at 25, the thought of being pregnant horrified me. Yet by 27, I was yearning for a baby. I'm 31 now, by the way and trying to make dc2.

Thanks for all the sympathy, btw. Feeling alright today, must be the effect of an early night

sorry fraktal

Waving hello, kind of shy smile - and holding and cake - can I join you!
Used to be on the Waiting to Concieve threads, but as we have been JS'ing (plus drinking!) for the last month I think this may be the place for me!

The ERTD is due tomorrow and as we are back from some extended hols now, DP is very aware there will be lots of JSing after that makes its appearance!

I'm in the older camp at 36, and this is first attempt at making a dc1. On a previous page someone mentioned how weird it was to not be 'safe' and that rings so true - we reverted back to some of our safe methods after the 1st attempt!

(We also have a boys name and a girls name that we use to refer to future offspring. They're kind of a joke, because they refer to places we have just been on holiday, but I'm kind of thinking they could be middle names that could be an 'in joke' for me and DP)

Anyway hello all! And wanders off to find a comfy seat and place on this thread

Hello StuckInTheFens, share the cake & we'll get along fine , here's to a short ERTD!
Our 'names' became the names we gave DS when he was a foetus...then he came out and didn't suit the boys name we both loved, awkward baby.

Babylann, you make much sense...can't put my finger on what changed but this time 2 years ago we were NEVER HAVING CHILDREN and now I'm trying to work out if I'll be happy with 'just' two.

Fraktal, how do you find attachment parenting? Do you get judged for it? DH thinks most things I do/want to do (reuseable nappies, cosleeping, babywearing etc) as weirdo hippy drippy stuff so I doubt he'd/PIL would be onboard for AP.

stuck welcome! im the baby of the thread and JSing my way to dc no.2!

were baby led here

Oh dear, I feel I may not really belong here after all. Not only am I still trying for my first, but I'm also over twice the age of our youngest member!! I also refuse to think of baby names, google baby items, or learn any of those obtuse parenting references you mention. I MIGHT think about those things if I ever get a BFP, but until then I will only think of what colour is being opened next .

stuck welcome - well done for bringing wine and cake! I remember the feeling of first coming off contraception. However, 20 months in, as I mentioned to OH the other day a) the worry does ease off rather and b) I wonder why I ever bothered .

frak hope you and DH sort out the things you need to sort out. Relationships do sometimes take a ridiculous amount of work, but they're worth it in the end I suppose . Mind you, could happily have annihilated my OH at least twice over the weekend.

Welcome Stuck :) We have a girls name picked out, but not a boys name. DP hates every boys name I've ever come up with. I have suggested the normal things like Jack so it's not like I'm trying to be too "out there" for him , he's just REALLY fussy. To be honest, he's quite intimidated about being a daddy to a little boy but I keep telling him it will be fine... There's a 50% chance it could be a boy so he's got to make his peace with that!

AWomanCalledHorse, I don't think there's ever been a point in my life where I've not wanted children! I was one of those little girls who longed for the day where I would have a baby, and instead of an invisible friend I used to have invisible twin daughters. I used to push my invisible baby on the swings, or an invisible pushchair down the street, etc. I can even remember pushing an invisible pushchair discreetly when going out with a particular ex-boyfriend, who I didn't even start dating until I was 16!!

Nelly, you belong here more than anyone! You're a thread veteran and one of the only people I've known in this thread who has never strayed away from the JSing path to the darker, scarier alleyways of conception methods... (apart from those who come into the thread and get their BFPs a couple of months later )

Veteran??? Now I'm not sure if that's a term I like .

I also fear I should 'fess up that I've just received details of my first hospital referral, it's in 3 weeks time. Which makes me a non-JSer from now on, but the spirit is still with you guys.

That's lovely you always knew you wanted to be a Mum. It took me a long time to come to that conclusion. Some days I still doubt it!

Haha those that come and go within days are referred to as "doing a Kitten". Were you around back then? It was someone who came on for about 3 seconds to join the thread, then got a BFP almost immediately. Jealous, much?

Josie are you lurking? How is the 2ww going?

sorry for making you feel old nelly

well does anyone have any symptoms?

Nelly you are the thread guru! Who else will educate us fledging viroids in the JSing philosophy?

Sorry for using the word "veteran"! Once a JSer, always a JSer in my book! Presumably you will continue JSing despite any treatment you get anyway! Good luck with it, and please update with how it goes :)

I don't think I was around when people were "doing a Kitten"! I remember a few people who came and went relatively quickly. I know BamBam was only here for a couple of months. I wonder how far along she is now, if she isn't a mama yet! I really should start stalking the grads thread, I just only have time in my life for one thread! And whenever I sneak off to the other corners of MN, I come running back with my tail between my legs as soon as I've inadvertently offended someone or said something embarrassing.

I'd also love to hear how you're getting on Josie!

I have plenty of symptoms something, but I always do - every month I JS - and I always get carried away... Last time I was JSing, I must have spent about £20 a month of pregnancy tests (poundland too far away, ebay impossible without paypal which wouldn't let me set up). Which reminds me of that time when I came on my period at the exact same time as I started peeing on a pg stick...

I have very sore boobs and have felt sick on and off for the past few days. Countdown is... 7 days according to my ERTD tracker app, but could be longer or shorter as my cycle is all over the place. And the occasional cramp, which is probably ERTD but is in line with the pains I had when I was first pg with DD. Not very hopeful though, JSed a lot just at the end of last months ERTD but then stopped for a couple of weeks as we were so tired. (That said, I'm quite sure DD was conceived within the first few days of ERTD ending).

I think bambam had been JSing for about 3 years but took some time away from the thread when she got her BFP. She's had DS2 now I think? I know what you mean about other areas of MN being a bit scary though!

No guru needed lolly - just get your shag cape on whenever the mood takes you. Well, maybe applying some discretion, as I'm not sure that doing so in the middle of the office, say, would be a wise move .

Not long till you can PIAR now something. I hope you are the first BFP of the thread :)