Just Shagging - the lazy way to make a baby! Part, um, 8?

[MuddyWellyNelly]

Over the last year or two we've had a thread for those who are Just Shagging. Confused by OPKs, too lazy to temp, can't read a chart to save your life? Not quite ready to forgo the Wine? Well stick with us!

Of course it's been SO successful that we're down to a tiny handful of regular posters, as everyone else has graduated and we'll ignore the fact that those of us that are left are probably way beyond Just Shagging. But it's an ethos rather than a strict rule. Come and join the fun .

No rules here, other than EWCM is hereafter known as Pant Snot. AF is known as the Evil Red Tide of Doom (ERTD). Viroids is our name of choice, the reason is long since lost in the annals of time. If you really feel the need to take a test, Gu Ramekins are what all the classy birds are using. And of course, drinking is essential. Sometimes, we even remember to have sex

So don your shag capes and throw your legs in the air caution to the wind :)

Old thread here if you want proof it works!

Hi everyone, welcome to all the fabulous newbies, and massive congrats to Cup!!

My test was negative unfortunately so last weekend was quite hard, but we're moving forward - changing clinics to one that will try a different IVF protocol with the aim of a better response to stims, so fingers crossed this will be the one. If not, hopefully the one after

Hope you are all well, sorry for ERTDs

FVP would require me actually shagging despite the fact it's probably futile (for those who don't know me, I have a DS, 7.5 months, who was the result of IVF - a true JSger! ). Still no ERTD (stopped BF about a month ago) and no shagging since NYD....yes, 1 Jan. I have tried to instigate it twice ( yes, I am rubbish too!) and DH firstly refuses (!) he was tired or something and the second time he was too pissed Bodes well....

Vallinna I've JSed three times since I started IVF 8 weeks ago, and the first two were within the first three weeks, the third time was last week! Wasn't very enjoyable due to all the medication I've been taking, but I'm starting to feel the urge

Pinkie, oh sorry you're part of the UTI club! I get lots of problems with the plumbing and it's normally down to toiletries/or giving in & wearing jeans (I can't wear tight clothes/tights etc because of it).

tired, yay! Sounds like a fantastic weekend!

vallinna, he does know it's a good way to make babies right? Hope you get JS soon!

Josie, sorry to here it wasn't successful, sending lots of positive fertility making vibes.

Decided we'll (DS & I) will go stay over at a mates fri/sat night, to give DH a chance to recover from a crap work week. He WILL repay me with JS, oh yes, he will.

Josie that's rubbish, sorry to hear that. Can I ask a really blindingly obvious question though - has ERTD arrived, or just the BFN? Fingers crossed for the new plan of attack though, I hope it works out for you very very much :)

Hello val sorry to hear about the complete lack of action in the the Pod house. You can still hang out with us though - if it makes you feel better there is not much shagging going on here either!

FVP lovely to see you. Just join the thread anyway . Hope all is well with your two.

tiredteddy and others with exciting social things planned, that sounds like a lot of fun. I should perhaps consider going out more than once a year. I do love our country life, but it does rather put paid to many social situations.

Hello everyone - I only manage to check in every few days and then I read back since my last bookmark to catch up with everyone's new.

Wow - 13!!! We would struggle to fit that into a month right now what with the way our 2DDs seem to be trying to prevent any JSing happening in this house! I think the going back to school after the Easter break has messed things up so they are all over the place, tired already and then overtired by bedtime. Right now DD1 is in my space in my bed so I either have to move her when i go up or else just leave her there and sleep in her bed. It is like musical beds in this house... I guess that is what comes of co-sleeping.

We aim to fit in DTD every other day or so but DP is an early morning riser (!) and I am a night owl. He generally leaves the house to head off to work before the rest of us are up - and we have to be up at 6.30am to leave the house by half seven.

It did cross my mind in the middle of a Weetabix meltdown with DD2 yesterday how I would manage getting 3DCs ready before work each morning but we can figure that out if and when it happens.

Dogeared we may originate from the same place but I am now on the Isle of Wight and just get spoken to in Welsh by my mum - and then speak to my own DDs in Welsh too!

And as for choosing the ideal time to have a due date - I do have the usual teacher's preference for autumn/spring even though I know so many summer borns who do fabulously well in school. But then, D1 was due in November and arrived at the beginning of September (yes, my first thought was that at least she would be in the 'right' school year!) and DD2 was due at the end of January and arrived on Christmas Eve so, TBH, we will take what we get!

sorry to hear that josie

well the daily JSing is going well [wink[ DP even initiated another session at 1am and then the twunt woke me up at 4 when he was gettting ready for work

DS slept till 7 though so cant really complain!

3 days late now and supposed to be drinking tonight...

It may be worth testing again, babylann if it would set your mind at rest and then be able to enjoy your night out?

I have a question ladies- what do you say to the "so when are you having another?" or for those ttc their first the "when will you have kids?"
What I want to say is "non of your f-ing business" what I usually say is " we'll see"

It annoys me that so many people assume it's information they should know. What do they want me to say "well we're shagging eachother's brains out in hope and just waiting to see if my period will show up, you'll be the first to know when my boobs start hurting"?

I know people mean well and aren't really thinking about what they're saying blah blah blah but it does get to me sometimes.

Rant over!

What will you do babylann?

Dysgu How cool! I've always wanted to go to the Isle of Wight. I am well impressed with you speaking Welsh with your DDs in another country, my sister lives in Brittany and is doing the same. We speak Welsh at home, too. :)
I've also had the moment when things are stressful with the children and thought "Oh my, what would I be like with 3?!"

Going away this weekend, and then JSing shall commence next week.

lollypopsicle I know what you mean. I don't mind usually, but when I'd been trying for DC2 for a long while, it was difficult. I usually just say "We're thinking about it." I'm not telling anyone at all we're ttc, not even close friends, because it took so long last time and I can't stand the "how's it going?"

lollypopsicle that bugs the hell outta me! People don't realise how rude they are being! We're forever getting 'shouldn't you two have a baby by now?' I know it's only month 3 of ttc (top secret too) it's still a sensitive subject! I feel like saying to them it's not as easy as laying back and thinking of England for everyone! x

Dysgu, what's it like raising children on the Isle of Wight? I know a couple ttc who have just moved there & the DH is having a wibble over it not being as fantastic as living in London (his words not mine)!

something we can swap sons if you want? Mine is lovely but doesn't realise 2 bottles a night should be stopping by now. We've upped the amount of milk in his night feeds but he won't take more during the day (but is still hungry 2hrs later)!!

babylann, I'd only just started drinking again (major health kick) and had 5-6 glasses of cava in the 5 weeks I didn't know I was pg, you know ERTD will pop up tomorrow morning to make your hangover even more fun!

lolly what we're saying is 'if it happens it happens' (which is true, but I don't want people to know how much JS is going on).
I made the mistake of telling someone we were trying & she asks me every time I see her.

Yeah it's a tough one. I already got a bfn the other day so in a weird way I'm gonna be embarrassed to ask dp to pick one up for me when he goes supermarket on his way home, especially as I'm positive we didn't JS before or during OV (mind tricking me now though). I do want to be 100 percent though.

I tested for DD the day after a bottle of wine and when I had a painful cramp session a few weeks later and thought it might be mc, the first thing that came to my mind was that bottle of wine...

I guess I'll have to test one way or another or i'd be being irresponsible despite knowing it's 99% likely to be a BFN and waste of time and money! :(

DH has the day off work today but has has had a tooth taken out this morning so is no use for anything (apart from watching Bargain Hunt!) In any case I have laughed so much at him as he sounds like a very poor ventriloquist ("gottle og geer!") I can't see him being particularly up for it, even if he wasn't dribbling like a baby :o

Lolly our DS is 7 so I simply deflect any questions with "Well I guess we should have got round to it earlier, we kind of enjoy having our life back" In one single sentance denying the fact we have not managed it yet, I spend the end of every month in a fever of "am I aren't I?", not to mention that I should have shares in Clear Blue by now. I get lots of knowing smiles and sometimes wonder, should the unthinkable actually happen and we actually manage to co-ordinate my eggs and DH's troops, how I will pass of a pregnancy as anything other than a foolish mistake after too much wine one evening

woman you can borrow my DS for a night and gets a night sleep thrown in to? has been known to get up at 5 though and then goes back to sleep till seven

sometimes has even slept till nine

well we will JS tonight but depends on what time we get back from dinner at my brothers. DP is off for the weekend so hoping i get my favourite kind of JSing!

to all the people worrying about drink, i drunk 2.5l of vodka when i was pregnant with DS before i found out!

I think ERTD is on its way, eating everything in the house the last two days!

baby, hope you have a great night, and don't dwell on the BFP, have you asked DP to pick one up for you?

topbanana, hope DH is recovered soon! I think about it more & more, and (seeing how things are in ten or so years) I think I would like another kid when DS is a teen...although I've not mentioned it to 10yr older DH, so I think it's just a pipe dream. Big age gaps are great, my mum taught my 5yr old brother to change my nappy & do one of my feeds.
Has DS asked why he doesn't have a sibling?

something, we had a few weeks of sleeping until 9, but he's normally alseep 1900-1930, 2300feed, sleep until 0300, feed. Wakes up at 0530 for a cuddle & sleeps on the bed with me until 0730. Although the nights I've properly coslept with him, he sleeps much longer.
My foof is feeling better today so I think the UTI is passing, hurrah (and NOTHING is too much information for this thread)!

Another BFN. Well I guess at least I can have a guilt free bottle of wine or two tonight. Decided to have the friends over at mine for dinner and drinks instead of going out to save a bit of money anyway. :)

WomanCalledHorse you asked about bike a couple of pages back - I can't ride on my own but love being behind DP, and I think its a Triumph Tiger. One of my jobs is to sort out a CBT as we've got a scooter I can use to start with and then see how it goes if I want a proper bike. Bad luck on the ERTD symptoms...

Wishing everyone a good weekend of whatever you're doing, JSing, drinking or sleeping!

awomancalledhorse DS has mentioned on very few occasions our complete inability to supply him with a sibling. Thankfully it tends to be a passing comment and the only BIG conversation I remember involved him nearly dying of shock when he realised it would arrive in baby form rather than a useful size and age. I recall the words "ooh I couldn't be doing with that!" were used. He is completely dedicated to his career as an only child :o

Hope you all have a great weekend, we have a trip to a small local art gallery and to buy some lettuce seeds planned. I'm not sure how a baby would impinge upon such a hectic social life :o

I would aim for the two in one drink and JS in one night! But my friend was just sick all over the place in my bathroom and dunno now if I can get in the mood

its flat mesuring day today! and then celebration JSing later!

morning ladies, totally missed out on a good js opportunity this morning due to me being far too hangover. i think the motion would have made me throw up!

ERTD is due on Monday anyway so its not the end of the world. not particularly hopeful this month, we didn't really put much effort in to it.

i think beans on toast is required to cure my delicate state of health this morning.

I've been very lucky and completely skipped the hangover, was just slightly dizzy when I first sat up in bed and thought "Uh oh" but nope, I'm fine! Even went and stood in the front garden to support DP while he mowed the lawn in the pouring rain and hail (our landlord received a complaint about our overgrown grass )

I had a lovely night but there was LOTS of talk about babies. Friend1 has two children so whenever we meet we always swap anecdotes and "mum talk", and Friend2 doesn't have children but is planning a family after her wedding. So Friend2 wants me to have a baby now and then for me and Friend1 to be ready to TTC again as soon as she's married so she's got friends at the same stage as her! Not too sure DP would be up for having a third child, especially not when it's purely so my friend has someone else to be pregnant with hehe.