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Sixth Form Common Room part V - ttc and pregnancy post mc

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TomboyWife · 25/02/2012 18:57

The old thread be a'full, this thread be a'new!

Does what it says on the tin: if you're TTC or pregnant after miscarriage, this is the place for you!

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TomboyWife · 11/05/2012 22:51

So so sorry MumTum. Sad Sad

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lily06 · 12/05/2012 09:10

mumtum I'm so sorry to hear your news x

Ostrich78 · 14/05/2012 11:53

Really sorry MumTum xxxxxx

Ostrich78 · 14/05/2012 20:39

I called the epau and managed to get a scan on Wednesday. Should be 7/8 weeks. Both MMCs have been after 8 weeks so I feel like I should see a heart beat but I'm really trying not to get my hopes up. Feel so tired and had indigestion today, is that a good sign? Will update on how it goes either way x

Hope everyone is well x

MumTumWanted · 15/05/2012 11:51

Thanks ladies x

Still waiting til Friday for the ominous scan what's really hard to handle is my symptoms have rocked back up nausea sore boobs and strangely this most awful taste in my mouth not the metallically one most people have heard this is a truely awful sour horrible taste I googled it it's not uncommon WHEN PREGNANT but knowing I've likely mmc it's an awful constant reminder. The only thing which makes if go away is eating. Anything. But the nausea means I don't want to do that either. If it was all in a good cause so to speak I could deal with it but knowing what I know it's just like another smack in the face Sad

Ostrich good luck for the scan tomorrow do let us know would live to hear you have seen that wonderful heart beating Smile

Hey to lily and the other ladies hope u are all ok today xxxx

HettyTurner · 15/05/2012 14:41

Sorry Mumtum, shit isn't it x x

MumTumWanted · 15/05/2012 14:57

Your so right there Hetty Sad

How's things with you??

HettyTurner · 16/05/2012 09:15

I'm ok, just ov'd and feeling depressed rather than hopeful. I can't get pregnant this month because that would be 3 times in a row and surely that can't be possible???... and I really wanted a Feb baby!

MumTumWanted · 16/05/2012 09:26

Hetty Hang in there hun anything is possible with this ttc lark. For months I was poas for ov and pg and nothing.
I go away on honeymoon for 3 weeks take no sticks to pee on and drink cocktails like they going out of fashion not forgetting eating more seafood than u would think is possible and forgot my conception multivitamins and low and behold I came home to find a bfp Smile now obviously chances are things have gone tits up this time so i dont advocate the drinking and seafood constantly blame myself as this is the reason why im mc though really ? Who knows??? but I guess what I'm trying to say is that I think there may be something in it when people say to try to relax about things . easier said than done I know Smile though I highly recommend 3 weeks in the sun to help u relax SmileSmile

MumTumWanted · 16/05/2012 11:54

Just poppin back in to see if ostrich is about ...... How did the scan go hun Hmm

Ostrich78 · 16/05/2012 14:45

Bloody computer turned itself off just as I'd finished my depressing post.
Scan was too early to date even though I should be 8 weeks tomorrow. I had a positive poas 20th April so I should be 6 and a half weeks at least. Got to go back for another scan next friday - they wanted me to come back in 2 weeks too MT! It's fucking shit. I'm convinced it's a mmc but on the up side I feel it's some how better that I wasn't 10/12 weeks this time and as it's my 3rd I should get some answers - it better not be "just bad luck" though. I want to be able to do something differently next time that will help.
I'm eating cake and drinking decaff tea (just in case) to cheer myself up.

MumTumWanted · 16/05/2012 16:51

Oh hun I do know how you feel I really really do and the waiting is just so tough on us to . I found the best thing to do was keep busy but that's easier said than done especially if like me you are a natural worrier and sleep doesn't come easy

Did they measure the sac etc and give you any idea if there was a yolk sack or foetal pole???

So sorry u are going through this to Sad

Ostrich78 · 16/05/2012 19:26

Hey MumTum, they didn't say much other than it looked normal but was too early to date or to see a heart beat. But, like you, I think the dates don't work out for it to be that early. Maybe I'm just expecting the worst but that was my first reaction.
But maybe..... I can't help thinking there's still a chance though.

MumTum I so hope that it's good news for you on Friday xxxxxx

MumTumWanted · 17/05/2012 08:15

Ostrich I think imagining the worse is a coping mechanism us ladies who have previously mc automatically fall into. I know I have. One another thread just a week ago one of the other ladies posted advice for me it said

think the worst hope for the best

I think that about summed it up for me. My mum also works at the hosp in the gynae unit she spoke to an early preg consultant who reminded her that if the dates don't seem accurate to get the very latest date you could have implanted ( so gestational age of your bean which is what the sonographer will be looking at) go 7 days back from your positive preg test this really would be the latest date as u need at least 7 days worth of growth for enough Hcg to register on a home preg test. Now if I do this the dates the scan show are possible. BUT I don't like the idea of this false hope myself as I would rather convince myself it's bad news to protect myself I guessConfused ttc one endless roller coaster and I never did like them Sad

Ostrich78 · 17/05/2012 09:18

MumTum thanks for that x If I work it out using that logic I think I'd be 6.5 which case they should have been able to see something to date.

MumTumWanted · 17/05/2012 13:12

Sorry ostrich I was trying to be helpful Sad on the other hand however the sonographer really hadn't given u much info at all so I think you have every hope still Smile try not to think the worse and I will have everything crossed for you that it's a strong sticky bean ... And am hear for u during this horrible waiting bit I know how u feel Sad

Ostrich78 · 17/05/2012 13:53

Will be thinking of you tomorrow MT What time is your appointment?

MumTumWanted · 17/05/2012 14:27

Thanks ostrich luckily it's at 9.20 so at least I don't have to hang around all day

Im thinking maybe i didnt explain the working out latest implantation date properly so instead see if this makes sense....
Looking at your dates if u tested positive on 20th april that could be the end of week 1 of your gestational age then 27th April week 2 then 4 th may week 3 , 11th may week 4 and tomorrow u would be coming to the end of gestational week 5 for you. Consider a gp using the date of ur last period usually adds 2 weeks to your dates so that would make a sonographer seeing what she did looks good for you and a gp would date you at 7 weeks tomorrow. When U had ur scan Wednesday they literally would only have seen a gestational sac with nothing yet in it looking at it from that point of view I'd say you can have loads of hope Smile

Ostrich78 · 17/05/2012 21:09

Thanks MT x Glad that your scan is early so that you wont have too much time to worry about it in the morning.

HettyTurner · 17/05/2012 21:38

Will be thinking of you Mumtum, and sorry *Ostrich that your scan didn't go as you hoped. I remember doing all those calculations for me too, I spent ages searching on the internet for hope and there are a lot of people who have early scans and their dates just didn't match the scan dates and a week later all was well.

Surely we can't be so unlucky to all have another mc?

As for me, still not sure I've ov'd. CM has dried up, but cervix hasn't gone low yet and that is my certain sign. Oh well, will just keep looking out for fertile signs just in case.

MumTumWanted · 18/05/2012 12:48

Wasn't good for me no further growth so waiting to be told when next week they can fit me in to erpc Sad Thanks for ur kind words and support xxx

HettyTurner · 18/05/2012 19:59

Sorry MT take it easy x x

Ostrich78 · 19/05/2012 12:16

I'm so very sorry MumTum xxx hope they can fit you in as soon as possible xxx

MumTumWanted · 20/05/2012 21:37

I'm booked in wednesday for erpc and dreading it physically but emotionally I do feel like its a definitive end so I can try to move on .

Ostrich hope u ok I will be thinking if u on Friday what time is your scan?

Hetty hope your weekend was a good one how's things with you xx

Ostrich78 · 21/05/2012 16:08

Hi all,

I've been having small amounts of blood all day which is bright red and brown - nice (sorry) and a dull ache in my right side, I'm assuming this could be the beginning of another mc.
On the bright side I should be referred for tests if it is, so with this in mind is there anything that I should ask (I'm very forgetful at the moment so want to take a list of questions and be as prepared as possible).
I really was hoping for the best on Friday but the blood has really deflated me today.

MT Glad it's sooner rather than later for you x Will be thinking of you Wednesday x