Sixth Form Common Room part V - ttc and pregnancy post mc

[TomboyWife]

The old thread be a'full, this thread be a'new!

Does what it says on the tin: if you're TTC or pregnant after miscarriage, this is the place for you!

So sorry Hetty. :-(

Morning ladies feeling today scan showed a perfectly formed gestation sac but it was empty that said this could go either way. Havin googled it seems that by 5 weeks 4 days u would always see a yolk sac within . I'm devastated. They've rebooked me for another scan in 2 weeks but said if I get any bleeding to call them straight back why oh why is this so hard

MumTum Sending big hugs your way.

to send mumtum huge hugs, have everything crossed for you that it's not what you think x x

Oh Mumtum, that's what happened to me last time. It is such a difficult time waiting for the next scan. You can be hopeful because it often turns out that it was just too early; lots of people go back or forward by up to a week and at this early stage that can mean the difference between a yolk sack, embyo and heartbeat. I know though that it is difficult to stay positive when you want to be prepared for the worst.

I found that I just carried on being pregnant just for that day. I could do that, one day at a time. x

Big hug MumTum I have everything crossed for you too xx

I'm just popping in to offer some words of hope to Mumtum.

I had several scans early on, because there was uncertainty over whether I was had a viable pregnancy, had already miscarried, or whether it could be ectopic. At what turned out (going on my dating scan) to be 5+4, I went for a scan, and the sonographer couldn't see anything, not even a gestational sac. She just said that my uterus lining was thickened, and there were possible 'retained products of conception'. I went back 8 days later, and there was the gestational sac, yolk sac, and 4.8mm embryo with heartbeat. They put me at 6 weeks exactly. At my dating scan, they actually put my dates forward a week. Am now 19 + 4, and just come back from a good anomaly scan. So please don't lose hope, of course only a repeat scan will tell you for sure. But early scans can be very inaccurate at this stage. All the best. x

After a bit of surreptitious surfing (who decided open plan offices were a Good Thing?), I've landed on this thread as the new one for me so "hello" to everyone. I need some positive vibes and there seem to be plenty coming from the posters here. I found out I was pregnant on 14 Feb (a lovely if temporary surprise for DH) but an early scan showed an empty sac which led to an ERPC on 19 March. No AF since then but I think I'm just about to ovulate so TTC is back on the cards. How do others feel post-MC? I feel quite positive most of the time but every now and then have a panic about the prospect of mc, stillbirth etc. It's weird, but when I was pregnant with DD (15 months now), I was never worried that anything would go wrong. I guess the worry is the legacy of a MC. Terrific...

Thanks ostrich x I have needed so many hugs this weekend

Moomin thank u also for your encouraging words I realistically know that I've a 50/50 shot still . I'm trying to treat these 2 weeks like the dreaded 2 ww but u just feel so helpless! I've got pg symptoms bug I almost don't want to admit to them in case I , I dunno like make a fool if myself cos I'm not actually carrying a viable pregnancy any longer but until I start bleeding or have that next scan I don't know. I guess I am still pregnant it's such a difficult time not knowing

I will try to be positive but I also don't want to be to hopeful after the scan I was certain I would mc within a day or 2 constantly checking for bleeding etc now as I haven't I'm beginning to be hopeful again and I'm angry at myself for feeling like that cos if I do mc now I feel like I should have known better .... Eurgh this ttc and pg stuff really messes with a girl no wonder men don't go through it!

Still one day at a time. Today I am pregnant.

resipsa welcome to the thread please ignore my ramblings .... Ttc after mc is always a roller coaster and ax these lively ladies will tell you this is a lively safe place to air anything in relation to that with other ladies who know what you've been through and what your feeling ! They also have a wealth of knowledge which beats sr google!!!! So pull up a bean bag get comfy and have a or

Can only log on for a few mins but just wanted to say MumTum thinking of you and hoping the next two weeks pass as quickly as possible for you. I really, really hope it is just a case of being a little too early to see anything. Keeping everything crossed for you.

Morning ladies,

Moomin I remember you from either from this thread or the freak out room x that's so nice to hear that you're 19+5 now!!

Welcome Resipsa Sorry that you find yourself here but glad that you found this thread! I too had a very uneventful first pregnancy (ds almost 3) so this pregnancy (which will go full term!!!) will be so different. 2 mmc at 8 and 10 weeks has made me expect the worst but I'm still hopeful - currently 5+5 and growing x

MumTum hopefully we can help you keep occupied for the next few weeks and hope you got lots of rl hugs xxxxxx

I'm still not feeling sick but I stood next to a man on the train platform this morning who really stank of stale smoke, I had to move away and was thinking - hooray to my nose for finding him repulsive!!

Ox

Went to the doctors today to make it official and forgot to ask about aspirin!
Hopeful due date 27th Dec.
MumTum hope you're doing ok xx and everyone else too x

Ostrich how are you feeling? Any sickness yet? Funny how we can't wait fir the horrible symptoms to start! So a Christmas baby for you then, what better present could you ask for.

Mumtum have been thinking of you lots, and hoping everything will be ok, early scans are so difficult and almost everyone ends up losing days and then gaining them again later on. Will be keeping everything crossed for you. Do come on here and rant, moan or just pass the time, we're all here for you.

moomin glad to hear all is well with you, I recognise you from some of the other threads.

No news here, off to see consultant on tues, guess the cocktail of tablets hasn't worked it's magic. Last time she suggested lap and dye, but I wanted to try meds instead first, just can't bear the thought of another operation. Feeling a bit down, it's been nearly 3 years up to this point. Sorry for the moan.

resipsa sorry I forgot to say hello and welcome. You've found the right place so I hope you'll stay, the ladies here are very supportive. I think feelings of panic are the norm ttc after mc, it's only natural to be scared as you're so aware of the potential problems. That said, have a look at the pg post mc grads thread, many of them started on this thread and now have their babies or healthy growing bumps, it gives us all hope.

Just checking in. Been thinking of you Mumtum, hope you're doing OK.

We've just got back from camping, was freezing at night but lovely during the day. My CBFM gave me high yesterday, but there was no way we were going to do the baby dance, besides I have no other fertile signs yet so I'm not bothered. I just wondered why it went to high on CD9 - I have long cycles and not ov'd before CD20 ever. Just seems like a waste of pee sticks to me!

Sorry you're feeling down at the moment lily. I don't know your story, but 3 years is so long to be trying for I know how you feel as it took 2 years for DD, and it's been 14 months this time. At least you are seeing the consultant and getting treatment, is it NHS? I know that before I had DD my appointments were 3-4 months apart and everything just took so long, it was so frustrating. I'm glad that I've been able to get some treatment from my GP this time for my PCOS, but will be referred in September if no sticky beans by then.

Welcome resipsa! I know exactly what you mean about not worrying first time round. I just knew everything was fine. But last time I was so worried that it was different from before. Also I know a lot of people in RL that have had miscarriages now, whereas I didn't know anyone who had even been pregnant before.

Take care x

Lily good luck at the consultant tomorrow x wishing you a bfp in no time xxxx

Hetty Camping in this weather! Sounds like you had fun x

Mumtum hope you're holding up ok x

I had a very small amount of bright red blood on Sunday morning, I stupidly thought I'd cut my finger or my foof - no idea how - it took a few seconds for my brain to compute that it could be the start of mc. It only happened the once and it was such a tiny amount but it's not a good sign. I should be 7 weeks on Thursday and I will be calling the epau for an early scan. Not feeling quite so optimistic now though. RUBBISH!

Oh no ostrich, I hope that it's nothing. Everywhere says spotting / bleeding is really common in early pregnancy and the fact that it was just the once is a really good sign that it is nothing. When can you get a scan?

I just heard from a lady that thought her IVF had failed last week, but her pregnancy tests were still coming up positive. Blood tests showed HCG is doubling; she's still pregnant after having bright red flow for 2 days!

Thanks Hetty x I guess it's good that it was only the once but it just brought everything back. I've spent yet another bank holiday weekend worrying (1st mc was Aug b/h w/e last year). The hospital letter says I can call when I'm 7 weeks for an early scan so not sure how quickly they'll see me.

That's good news for your friend too xx

Ostrich you poor thing, everything is so worrying after a mc, so its perfectly natural for you to assume the worst. Have you spoken to EPAU? Sometimes they will scan a bit earlier if you've had some bleeding. Have you had any more, or just that little bit on Sunday? Hope all is well with you.

Hetty that's great news about your friend. How long are your cycles? Pre-medication mine could be anything up to 90 days and it was so frustrating just not knowing when to expect AF. How do you find using the CBFM? I've been tempted with one but haven't actually bought one yet.

I'm doing ok, consultant appt was fine, they're happy I'm oving based on d21 results for last four months, but still no bfp. They want to do an hsg to check that my remaining tube is working properly. I know I'm just being a big coward but I can't face having it done. It should be next week (assuming Friday AF shows up) but I can't take any days of work, so it should be next month, except that's the week I'm planing to go away on holiday. It would be great if I could just get that elusive bfp before I have to have it done. Has anyone else had one?

For those that don't know, my story so far is as follows: started trying July 09, ectopic with emergency surgery to remove right tube in Jan 10, pcos diagnosed from results, early mc May 10, more tests discovered high prolactin (cue mri scan for possible tumor, negative so cause unknown), started treatment jan 11, bfp May 11 but given 1:20 for downs at 12 week scan/bloods, 3 failed cvs attempts meant waiting for amnio at 16 weeks which then showed downs with likely fatal heart abnormalities so made the hard decision to terminate and gave birth at 17 weeks in Aug 11. ERPC in November 11 due to ongoing issues. Started fertility meds again Jan this year. Longing for another bfp but quite scared too.

Gosh that was a bit of an essay!

Oh wow lily, you really have been through it. I'm not surprised you're feeling scared about a BFP. It's a strange mix of emotions, isn't it, wanting a BFP but being afraid of what could go wrong too. I keep thinking that maybe I should have a break, but I don't want to miss any chances as I have so few o's in a year.

My cycles vary so much. Ov can happen anywhere between CD20 and 45 or never! LP is usually 11 days but has been 9 and 14 days (I assume this is to do with PCOS making it hard to actually pin point ov). Longest cycle ever was 90 days before taking met. Usually it's about 35-45 days now. But at least I am oving and I can tell when I'm fertile so I don't stress out the same as I used to.

I got my monitor second hand on ebay. I reset it so all the saved data was cancelled and it saved me about £60. There's no way I would have bought one new, when it specifically says that it's no good for PCOS sufferers. I really like seeing the little egg symbol, I get super eggcited! Ha!

Hi ladies hank u for your thoughts I've been trying to ignore everything baby related in a bid to stop mentalling not that it has helped but tomorrow is my scan so I guess I will find out if the bean is a sticky one or if as I suspect I've had a mmc...... Having lost all symptoms I know where I'd place my bet sorry for being so gloomy will keep u posted tomorrow ........

mumtum good luck, thinking of you today x

hetty I think I may have a look on eBay then, that's a good saving. I would get excited about the little symbols too!

Think AF is here, due today and little bit of spotting yesterday

Mumtum big squeeze, thinking the best for you today xxxxxx

Oh god oh god oh god oh god I'm not even religious !!!!!! I'm so scared ladies it's usually a nightmare parking at the hospital as in not unusaul to be waiting up to half hour for a space!!! so I've left plenty of time and needless to say I've pulled straight into a space .

Right : must not google loss of symptoms whilst I'm waiting. Must not panic. Must drink lots of water.......

I'm afraid it's all over only measuring 6 weeks max and no heartbeat i simply can't be any less than 7+5 today Cos of when my last period was. Protocol being what it is I have to wait another week for another scan so they can be sure nothing's changed before they can book me in for erpc. I'm devastated gutted sad upset and angry all at once . I so wanted to tell u I'd seen a flicker of a heartbeat and I can't