Emmsy's ladies lets roll into spring together! Bring on some sunshine!

[4everhopeful]

About time I start a thread! Pom poms still shaking, bumps growing, babies and toddlers talk a plenty, while the support, laughs, hand holds and weebling continues...

Hello! I'm here, have been lurking occasionally, too busy to post but I will explain why once I've done some long overdue personals....

cupcake I got all excited when I thought you meant you were at your due date (and thought I'd lost a few weeks!) Having a sweep every few days does not sound like fun, but fear not, it may well work first time. You've given birth before and it might just kick things off again this time. I'm going boy, 9lbs 1oz (sorry!) on 10th May. (10/5 has a nice ring about it). Hope you are having some nice warm baths to help your back. Must be tough carrying DS around. barbie is down 'int west country probably being washed away. I'm guessing internet access is a bit sporadic. Poor love, she's had shocking weather ever since she's been back here.

mls poor DD2 Hope she doesn't need an op, just what you don't need at the moment. How are you feeling (apart from having a lovely big bump and a bad back)?? Are the girls excited about their new sibling?

neeko get writing and get off MN . Must be tough to be writing essays as well as working and looking after your DDs. I take my hat off to you. Hope work gets less stressful soon.

LBM summer?? summer?? I've given up hope that we might have one. Am so fed up of feeling cold and damp...Yes tis exciting with new babies imminent and moon WILL be next. Have you got holiday plans this summer?

vjay what are you trying to get sorted for cjay?? How is your last module going? We are thinking about telling I (and therefore L) about his ASD. L is getting more aware and we are starting to have to explain to others that I has SN because his behaviour can be so different. We are also going to disneyland paris in June and we are going to get passes to get to the front of the queues and I know that L is going to ask lots of questions about why. So we are thinking of telling them both in the next month. Apparently there is a book aimed at 5 year olds, just need to find out what its called!

moon I'm sorry I didn't post when you found out that it hadn't worked first time . If we could will you to get pg we would. It will happen, just praying that it doesn't take much longer. We're all here when you want to offload and we will all be here going ballistic when you get that bfp.

blue how are you? I was thinking the other day (rather randomly) that I don't know any Isaac's with blonde hair. Admittedly, I don't know many Isaac's but I wondered if it was one of those names you associate with dark hair

Where is 4ever - its not like her to be so quiet. Is there something going on in the 4ever household that we should know about?

curlywiththeneatbump how are you doing? Must have been lovely to meet up with all the other emmsys. We went to my mums that day which is why we couldn't come. I will meet up with some of you some day...

Right, going to post this and then will update with my news.

And in loueyland...

Back from a nice but not very restful holiday where Oscar learnt to crawl. Thankfully not until 2 days before we were going to leave as otherwise it would have been a nightmare. He is into EVERYTHING. I knew he would be but blimey he just can see things that he is not supposed to have and makes a beeline for them. He is now trying frantically to pull up and getting cross because he can nearly do it but seems to get stuck halfway. He now has 5 teeth but still no respite from the teething and we've had a lot of rough evenings where he drinks milk by the gallon. I'm hoping that once tooth number 6 comes through we might have a break for a while . He doesn't sleep much during the day and I can't take my eyes off him for very long so I don't get much time to just sit and MN during the daytime.

Since we came back, I have started a course which I've been on the waiting list for a while, called Earlybird Plus where they teach you stuff about dealing with children with autism. Oscar is going to the childminder for the morning when its on. Bizarrely, one of the other parents there has a child with ASD who is in L's class. (I didn't know there was a child with ASD in his class.) I'm hoping its going to give me some ideas about how to deal with Isaac. He is very hard work at the moment, and we are struggling to deal with him as he doesn't respond to most things that you would try with normal children. We started football training and swimming lessons (again) with them both at the weekends. Football isn't going too badly but I is an utter nightmare at swimming, not listening to the teachers, keeps throwing himself under the water and semi-drowning himself deliberately. L is then playing up because he can see I getting attention. We look like bad parents The weird thing is that I loves water and normally loves going swimming. I'm not sure if its a new pool or something else.

I'm not sure if I said that I enrolled Oscar in a study looking at the development of siblings of children with autism. So now we have a person coming once a week to do various activities with me and O. Its filmed, and then we watch it back to analyse his behaviour. Its really interesting and you see loads more when you watch it. Its so obvious that Oscar's behaviour is totally different from Isaac's at this age. He's clapping and waving, and I think Isaac didn't do either until he was at least 2.5.

I've also been busy trying to sort out this extension, we have now finally decided to go ahead and they are coming to draw up the formal plans on Thursday. Planning will take a while but we've got loads to sort out before then as we need a new boiler and we have to sort out the kitchen plans too.

I'm not entirely sure how I'm going to cope with going back to work and dealing with everything!! I have told DH he is going to have a shock!

Better go, I'm supposed to be doing a budget DH is out tonight and I thought I would try and catch up with you all while I can!

Oh yes forgot barbie was heading to sw I'm guessing she's being kept v busy by family then.. or hopefully getting a nice rest!!

No need to apologise louey I'm fully expecting a 9lb-er, but also secretly hoping for a dainty 7lb girl (never gonna happen with bump this size!!)
Good luck with telling the dts about the asd, must be a daunting prospect but sure they will surprise u with their reaction (in a good way!)

X post louey great to read your news.. hooray for the extension!

Hugs to louey, it's so bloody hard at times, but you're not bad parents and you know that so nuts to any judgy pants out there!!!
I never did the early bird course, I couldn't get a babysitter and now I think it been too long since dx. Let me know how you get on.
Cjay is starting his group swimming lessons tomorrow, he did 2 years of 1-1, and now I'm getting him to learn in a group, he's really keen but its taken me ages to get him to want to go.
I don't know what I's autism is like but cjay seemed to settle down a lot around five and a half, I remember as that was when we decided to try for Ajay, he was still hard work but his behaviour has got gradually easier since then. Other difficulties arise but he's easier to reason with now.
As for stuff I'm sorting out, it's mainly his bed wetting and dyslexia. neeko I'm looking into getting him tested for
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Sorry pressed send!! neeko I'm looking into getting him tested for his coloured overlay, thanks for telling me about it

vjay 2 years of 1-1 must have cost you a fortune! Hope he likes the lessons, I'm so desperate for them both to learn to swim. Hope you get some answers re the dyslexia. I know the coloured overlays can really help some people. We are having fun with bed wedding too so you have my sympathies on that one. Doesn't help with the mountain of washing.

I live in hope that he will settle down, so many people have told me that their kids did get easier at 6/7 but of course you don't know that it will until it does. One of the things we are having the most difficulty with is his fascination with cars. He will literally try and get into every car in his reach. Its amazing how many people leave their cars unlocked, he can find one everytime! He will also climb into the drivers seat in our cars given half a chance, and he's really quick. DH thought he was doing the right thing by allowing him to sit in the drivers seat as a treat when he had been good but it has backfired big time.

cupcake I could be totally wrong on the weight! At the end of the day, all you want is a healthy little baby

louey I definatley agree 6/7 is when I really noticed a marked change in cjays behaviour .
I'm up just now because of another wet bed , but he's got himself in the shower and is ready for school , he just jumps in the shower automatically now. It's my fault though, we did have things in place to stop the wet beds and they do work most of the time, no drinks past six etc, but I stopped all that as I wanted to see if at nine years old he had grown out of it, but he hasn't, his brain and bladder just don't communicate. This is another thing I'm trying to sort for him.
Right I'm going back to bed for half an hour

Hello ladies! I'm here and been lurking when poss, just loads on recently! Hands full with my little lightning legs and life in general, busy planning her party, and our hols, cant believe she is 2 in just over 3 weeks! The tantrums are here, had to leave a friends DDs 4th birthday party early cos one was so bad, though to be fair, it was cos my little jumping bean couldnt understand why no-one was allowed out into the garden onto the bouncy castle that had been hired, not grasping the concept of torrential rain and gales! Talk about dangling a carrot! We also had to give up on a photoshoot session to try and get a few of the 3 of us, and Summer on her own, not through tantrums, but she just took a dislike to the lady who seemed to spook her, and cried her eyes out the poor sausage!

Anyway, Show Me Show Me is providing a moment of entertainment so will attempt a quick catch up!

Vjay and Loeuy, as usual I'm in awe at your coping mechanisms, especially with little ones to look after as well, it must be so hard, the courses sound brilliant, and at least there is support for you. I watched the Louis Theroux thing on autism which was so harrowing, and I know was mainly the very extreme ends of the spectrum, I was ashamed to admit that my Great Uncle and Aunt in New Zealand had an autistic DD in the 50's, and she spent alot of her time in care, which I found hard to fathom, but after seeing the documentary and how hard the very extreme end of the spectrum is, I felt alot less judgemental about it, obviously no one can understand what its like unless they go through it. However the level of support and aid in the US shown in this documentary were truly brilliant...

Moon I'm not sure if I posted to you recently lovely, but onwards and upwards and keep that positive vibe, I'm hoping you are all ready for succesful sperminating any day now!

LBM indeed how terrible is all this wet weather?!? Huff! We finally managed to tacke our overgrown jungle of a garden on Monday, the first dry day in goodness knows when, its now pristeen and lovely, but just want to get out there and let Summer play on her recently purchased trampoline, slide and playhouse! Whats your plans for babybelles birthday? Where have these last 2 years gone?!?

Cupcake you must be so excited! Bless all the countdown plans of date night, waxing and the like! I predict a boy on the 11th May, 8lb 2oz!! I'm sure we must have already discussed, but DH and I anniversary of getting together is the 25th May as well! It will be 7 years for us, Summers birthday the next day, and our hols 2 days later! Quite a time of it!

MLS bellycast sounds fab! I'm thinking another girl on the 27th May! Or even the 26th and our DDs can share a birthday! Crap about your poor DD2 though, I do hope it resolves itself without an op like last time..

Neeko my lovely, sorry I wasnt around to assist with your essay writing! Not long til the hols now, next month isnt it? Are you off anywhere nice, or are you just going to collapse into your sofa for 7weeks!?

Waves to the lurkers, Blue Curly Sabs* Barbie where you at ladies? Hope all is well?

xxxxxx

Hi 4ever there are so many significant dates in May! Loads of our friends & family have birthdays this month & all hoping to share with baby! Dh's grandad turns 80 on 26th so mil is hoping baby comes then but I don't wanna hang on that long!! (doubt they would let me anyway)
Oh and tantrums are fun hey!! Ds is in a phase of just pushing other children for no reason..quite embarrassing but I'm just glad he's not hitting or biting them!

I bet you were so excited to turn the calendar over yesterday Cupcake! May will forever be such a special month for us, and it will be for you too!

Yea gotta love this newfound strong willed independence our littluns are asserting on us eh?! When its indoors its almost funny and I stifle a laugh as I leave her to strop it out and she's over it very quickly, but why is it the worst (& loudest) strops are always when you're out and about?!

Had a momentous moment earlier, booked a walkaround visit to the pre school we want her to go to next year my baaaaabby!!!! Dh went there and her 3 cousins go there, and its on our road, but I felt all of a dither when I got off the phone!

Hey All Been lurking on phone but have had a house full of lurgy aso not been able to/too knackered to boot up the old PC.. Everyone well again (croup/fever/coughing and that was just DH ).

cupcake and 4ever I too am a May bebe (29th) great month to be born all summery and in my case end of the month after pay day esq = everyone always up for a party!

cupcake - hmmm I'm thinking a boy too but am almost always wrong so big health girl it will be - 8lb 4oz on 16th May.

Not had any tantrums with B, his big brother was quite chilled too so the teenage years will by the rule of sod be hellish. B's vocabulary is amazing, has wee nuances in his speech and says things like "oh, dear Mummy, my cough is sore".

4ever - pre-school? I can imagine you were a bit emoitonal about that phonecall, exciting nonetheless and how lovely its the same pre-school as her Daddy and cousins.. We don't start pre-school til 4 up in Scotland but our wee ones don't start school until they're 5.. What theme are you doing for S's party? Is it this year you're going caravaning? We love ours, although its a small space, children just love a caravan for some reasons and if you get one with decking outside it gives them more roaming around room..

Louey - other than your Isaac I've never met another one, let alone a blonde haired one . Sir Isaac Newtwon always wore I wig I think but he may have been blonde underneath

louey - man,, you have a lot going on just now... I'm so glad Vjay is here, a few years down the road with Cjay to give advice and just be there as someone who 'knows'. You are your boys best advocate and will instinctively know when is the right time to tell L and I and how to take it from there. I think your amazing Hope Oscar's teeth come through soon too! your photos of him on FB are just delicious!

MLS - poor Kitty and what a worry for you... How is her neck today? I'm still thinking a girl for you so naturally you will have a boy .

neeko - did you get your homeowkr done ? Stop colour coding your revision schedule and just to it missy . We need to get a Tuesday day in le diary x

Right, better go, cuppa calling waves to LBM, Buddha, curly, Sabs, Moon and Barbie (who is heading back to London and wi-fi tomorrow)

Hi blue :) am jealous of you getting to keep your baby til 4.. they also start preschool the term after turning 3 here in Wales, so Sept 2013 for my boy :( too soon! Though by then I might be grateful of a couple of hours with just one..
You're right May is a lovely month I'm v chuffed it worked out that we're having another one this time of year.
So cute about B's talking. Ds is just getting to the 2 word stage & loves to go round naming who everything belongs to 'daddy's shoes' 'mummy's jumper' so cute :)

May the fourth be with you

The fourth is strong in you vjay

Am knackered. V little sleep due to teething baby and children who get up to go to the toilet in the night and wake me up. Waves to blue, 4ever and cupcake am trying to have 15 mins rest before summoning up the energy for the school run

Louey and Vjay I feel ashamed that some days I can't cope with E when he's having a bad day with tantrums etc so how on earth you cope with everything you two contend with I'll never know! Hats off to you guys and remember they only give the children that need extra support to the best parents
4ever Hope you have a fantastic month of celebrations How are things on ttc front for you?
Cupcake I predict girl 13th May weighing 8lb 12oz
Blue Hows the gardening going today?

I know I've missed at least a hundred people but posting on phone is my excuse!

Barbie Miss your posts lovely

Big fat hello to everyone else

buddha don't feel ashamed, sometimes I don't cope and I'm currently on st johns wort because I do find it tough. Ajay is really tricky at the moment and I swing from oh it just the terrible twos to my god it's autism, but on reflection I just think it is the terrible twos.
I've had a gin so excuse all of that

Lol at the Vjay but sending a hug for you struggling at times

buddha don't feel bad as it's normal to struggle at times. You're a mum, not a saint.

Louey exciting re the extension and I agree that you'll know when time is right to tell the twins

Cupcake Hope date night went well

Moon you hanging in there?

Blue I start my exam marking on Tues which will take a couple of weeks. Would second Tues in June suit you?

Hope the rest of you are ok. Lots of second birthdays coming up

vjay do you find the st johns wort helps? I'm thinking of trying to get dh to take it as his constant moods just drag me down.

neeko marker pens & highlighters at the ready!

cupcake how was date night? Talking about pre-school, my dd2 starts in Jan, she'll be 2 years 3 months!

Damn I knew that would happen! She's just woken up, I'll be back later.

Btw for all those non-fb peeps who are asking about barbie she's in France now.

Hi mls yes the st johns wort is working, it's a mild pick me up for low mood and has really helped.
Is barbie in France house hunting or is that her moved there now? I can't keep up with the woman!!! . Thanks for letting us know mls
Thanks for the hug neeks

Barbie isn't in france yet - but she will be next weekend. She was uber efficient at house hunting the other week and moves out next week, I think - unless I haven't been keeping up on fb!! AT least, I hpe she hasn't gne yet, as I found a bilingual matching game for dolly and was only hoping to pay UK postage

Hello to all - will try and catch up soon. Currently BB is being a very determined little monkey and refuses to go in the buggy - "too big" she told me !! and is too heavy to carry for long. Tantrum city here too - I often carry her under my arm when she is having a paddy and we need to go somewhere - the kicks don't get me then!! Very few plans for the birthday but am teachjing her " Happy Birthday!" Oh and she is learning loads of songs - postman pat theme and Jesse J's Price tag are two fav's. Very funny and I do need to video it.

Ah yes lbm you are right, it's next week she moves, she's in the west country now & I think she's back to London tomorrow.

louey you are such a strong lady, I'm sure you will find just the right words for your chat with your dt's. Are you still feeling broody??? Actually I have a question for both you & lbm, how do you both tackle bedtime with 3 dcs to bathe & manhandle into bed??

4ever where are you at with your cycle now & how's the ttc going?

moon same question to you too, aren't you about to go onto the 2ww?

blue it must be because you are such a chilled mummy that you have chilled dc's. I on the other hand regularly turn into a screaming banshee-type mummy, much to my shame! Dd2 is much better now thanks. She had her scan on fri & it might be her glands that are swollen this time, rather than the cyst. I'm having a hell of a job getting her to take her antibiotics though. I have to pin her down & hold her arms still whilst simultaneously squirting a syringe-full of the stuff down her throat with her kicking & screaming.

Well the belly-cast is done. Just as well as I've been having twinges all day (I'm 37+2) but I'm sure they won't amount to anything just yet. Off to drink a vat of gaviscon now & then bed, night night all.

barbie when you are back in the land of technology, someone on the name threads is asking for advice on the name Devon.