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TTC after a miscarriage - Wishing everyone shed loads of love, luck and babydust xxxx

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Coathanger · 22/01/2006 17:57

Ahhhhh, thats better!

A nice, shiney new thread! All fast and efficient!

Heres hoping this thread brings more BFPs, keep everything crossed it does (except legs...don't be crossing your legs ladies!!)

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OP posts:
going4potty · 26/01/2006 21:52

oh there are, but its convincing him and to be fair thats the least of our problems. Im just so confused, i feel sick. Dh is very use to getting his way or people agreeing with him and ive noticed all his friends, family just give in to him. We have a firey but very loving relationship and i hate it whenhe is in a sulk and find him very difficult at times. I just wish his dad would say to him, you cant live with inlaws have a backbone!!

kreamkrackers · 26/01/2006 21:55

it should really be his parents that tell him but seems as it's not looking likely try your parents. if he's used to getting his own way than this is even harder for you but it's your family and i think you need to stay strong with this one. you're in the right.

going4potty · 26/01/2006 21:57

Thanks kk ineed some vindication!

kreamkrackers · 26/01/2006 22:02

sorry, going to bed. really need some sleep tonight dd's over night pump was alarming all night saying occ but it didn't say what occ meant in the book so we just had to keep starting the pump again each time it alarmed not fun

kreamkrackers · 26/01/2006 22:05

that was meant to say the pump was doing that last night! where did the bold go to as well then? anyways hope your dh gets the job, goodnight and try not to worry although i know it's hard. hope you sleep well.

going4potty · 26/01/2006 22:12

night kk

going4potty · 26/01/2006 22:23

Ladies if your out there come tell me im right, or if not how to deal with this.... Toooo stressed to sleep

going4potty · 26/01/2006 23:22

Night all wish us luck

going4potty · 27/01/2006 08:05

morning ladies, well wish us luck its d day for dh!

HellKat · 27/01/2006 08:08

Good luck G4p Hun!!! Fingers crossed xxxxxx
Hi everyone else x

going4potty · 27/01/2006 08:11

Hk hope it goes ok today lovely. I will pray 4 u and dh today

HellKat · 27/01/2006 08:14

{{{{{{hugs}}}}} thanks sweety, will post as soon as I know x

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Coathanger · 27/01/2006 08:47

Morning everyone! Phew !! That took some time to catch up with!! G4P and KK you were really steming last night!!

HK - you okay hun. Will try and ring you later xxx

G4P - I'm really sorry I wasn't about last night to offer my twopenneth But I am here now. In my psychology book it does say that absense of any parent can affect the behaviour of a child. However, you are both loving and caring parents and DS will not miss out in any way if either of you were to work, whether returning every night or other wise. You DH does have a valid point but he can't say he won't take this job to avoid working away and then in the next breath say you would have to work more to help supprt you all. What would be the point of that? I know your DH is a kind caring and loving man and I know he isn't a monster, but he is doing a pretty good job of trying to be one. In my opinion he is being unreasonable. Call me old fashioed but a DH role is to provide and the DW's is to care for and look after the children and home, even if she has to work as well. But DH job should be a bigger role, being the main bread winner. My DH hates being away from home but has to go on a regular basis, but he makes up for it when he returns and the kids don't miss him much, they know he will come home and spoil them.
Anyway, sorry I'm gabbling! To cut a long story short, DH should take the job if he rgets it and relise it is a temporary measure. We all have to make sacrifices once in a while, his will be working away from time to time, yours will be having to do a few more jobs around the house whilst he is away (but no DIY, thats still his job!!) When my DH is away, I do everything - all the routines plus all the house work and its hard but I keep in mind that my DH is away from the family unit and that is worse than having to wash up every night (also DH job!).

God, I'm waffling!! In conclusion (I think I'm taking this essay writing a bit far!!) I think your DH is wrong, but in a nice way. Put your foot down and don't give in. Oh and as far as living with parents is concerned DON'T DO IT!!!!! God there is nothing worse!!

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kreamkrackers · 27/01/2006 09:00

morning all

ch - that's what we need someone who can put it into words like that, fantastic. you really will be top of the class!

hk - hope all goes well with the scan today, i think all is well but you do need to get the bleeding checked out to put your own mind at ease.

g4p - really hoping your dh gets the job, it makes life easier for the both of you and will settle the arguement. oh and sorry i had to go last night but i was just soooooo tired. i was sleeping in as well when the phone rang it was my mum she knew i was planning a lie in (dp off today ) and once i'm awake i find it very hard to get back to sleep.

peepee - have you done another test? i would've by now

morning everyone else hope you're all having a great day

pepperpots · 27/01/2006 09:27

g4p fwiw hun i think you are right, my xp was similar in the sense taht he would run straight back home instead of trying to sort things out. For some reason he thought the perfect job would just fall into his lap, and my career or any hopes i had of a career, were put to the back burner and i had to work as a temp to keep us in the house we were in and put food on the table (b4 children) this lasted for three montsh while he 'looked for work' yet i would come home from a ten hour day and there was no washing up done, no food cooked he would just be sat pi* ed watching the horce racing and on the odd occasion he would clean he would keep telling me and i felt like saying what do you want ffs a medal??!!!!!! Anyway he fell lucky and got a job he liked but by then i had fallen pregnant and was so ill had to give up work about two months after he started, but if i dared sit at home and do nothing i wouldnt hear the end of it! I think they call it double* standards GGRR!!!! Anyway as it happens when we broke up he proved my theory right- so at 33 years old he is currently living with mummy! I will keep everything crossed for him today that he gets the job cos if not you should kick him up the bum xx
HK will be thinking of you today (((((()))))) how do you feel this morning? are you still having pg symptoms? xx
Morning to everyone else hope you are all ok xx
Af still here v v heavy so am spending most of the day eating chocolate and feeling sorry for myself - okay wont be feeling sorry for myself just eating chocolate

mygirllolipop · 27/01/2006 10:19

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FirstNikki · 27/01/2006 10:20

Morning ladies...ok just caught up..

G4P - So sorry you have this added stress. I think you are right I understand that your dh may miss ds if had to work away but you have to do what you can to survive and it sounds like a bit of jealousy of your time at home with ds and is probably feeling vulnerable and sensitive to your time with ds cos of current work situation. Having said that you are ttc'g and you both so want another baby and therefore with this in mind he has to take more responsibility for earning and working more than you at the momeent as you will be on maternity leave soon hopefully and he will need to be supporting his own family being you and ds. I don't think that it will work the other way around. I hope he gets the job today I really do but if he doesn't I think he should be grabbing every opportunity not giving in and retreating to your parents. He is a parent and husband with responsibilites. hope you are feeling a little better this morning xx

PeePee you gonna test ??

HK thinking of you today at scan xx

CH you are doing well with the studies keep up the good work sounds like heavy reading

everyone else...a big hello

FirstNikki · 27/01/2006 10:24

congrats mygirl for your dp's masters acceptance

mygirllolipop · 27/01/2006 11:16

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FirstNikki · 27/01/2006 11:23

Yes he will mygirl but it will be worth it in the end

hope your mum gets her answers soon so she can sort out what she is doing. x Has your dad still not contacted you? if not probably its his guilt?

mygirllolipop · 27/01/2006 11:33

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FirstNikki · 27/01/2006 12:04

oh mygirl that does make it difficult, April is a little way from now and things whould have eased by then with a bit of luck. Maybe send the invites as normal (inc your dad on his own) I am sure he wouldn't want to miss his grandaughters christening. I do hope you can continue with your plans for that event but don't put pressure on yourself right now its too early in the day since they split to start worrying. xx

HellKat · 27/01/2006 12:16

Babba measures 7+1 exactly. Heartbeat loud & clear. Mw was amazed because it has 10 x the thickness surrounding it which means my body's decided to over protect her but the excess is causing the bleeding. Bad news is, I will become severely anaemic if it carries on and it poses high risk to mc. Have to be scanned every 2 weeks to check up on us but for the time being she's buried extra deep (compared to normal) with a vast amount of padding keeping her safe. Yep I do believe it's a girl!

FirstNikki · 27/01/2006 12:24

wow...hk thats great news you are doing fine and bubba is tucked up nicely. The anemia they can treat and the scans will be so reassuring. What makes you think baby is a she??

diddle · 27/01/2006 12:30

Oh Hellkat - thats fantastic news, wonderful!!! i bet you're both thrilled. I knew it would be ok. excellent, make sure you get drinking the guiness top yourself up on iron.