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TTC after a miscarriage - Wishing everyone shed loads of love, luck and babydust xxxx

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Coathanger · 22/01/2006 17:57

Ahhhhh, thats better!

A nice, shiney new thread! All fast and efficient!

Heres hoping this thread brings more BFPs, keep everything crossed it does (except legs...don't be crossing your legs ladies!!)

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HellKat · 23/02/2006 08:14

Morning all.
Nicola- You'll find great comfort here hun. x
Nikki- Here's hoping you can get some answesr to my love.
{{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}} to you both.

diddle · 23/02/2006 08:19

morning all

nicola - i think you should take some time off, you need to let your body recover, it has had a major trauma. I am amazed you managed the wedding after the last one, good on you. but please look after yourself, in the long run it will be well worth it

pepperpots · 23/02/2006 09:08

Sorry i havent been on been feeling v v sorry for myself tuesday night i was carrying boxes from the bedroom and i missed the last few stairs, thought i had broke my arm so went to a&e. After waiting ages they took me to xray where they asked if i was or could be pg? So i said i had a faint pos on a test, she re done a test and you can imagine my and when she said it was neg Anyway turns out i didnt break my arm but it is still very sore , I retested this morning and it is a bfn so i am just waiting for af to arrive. I will now be bowing out of this thread, but i want to say good look to all thoses still ttc i wish you all the luck in the world thank you to all that have kept me sane in the last eight months i dont know what i would have done without you xx

mygirllolipop · 23/02/2006 10:36

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Coathanger · 23/02/2006 10:37

Pepper, hunni, this is the worst time for you to go away. You need the support that is on this thread more than ever. Don't see it as a TTC thread but a thread for friends to talk and help each other out. Please don't go or at least not yet, you need support. Think about it but don't make any rash decisions. {{{{{hugs}}}}} xxxx

And Nicola - Sorry I wasn't about yesterday to welcome you - I go to college 3 ays a week so my MNtime has been restricted This thread is so supportive and friendly. We all try to help each other as much as possible, even if its only just chatting or even having a giggle. You don't realise how much you depend on it until its gone. I have gone and come back so many times, but I always come skulking back If you ever, ever need a few words of kindness, a shoulder to cry on or just want to let rip, we are the people you want.
Take your time with what you are going through right now. Take time off work and make sure you look after yourself, taking the time to grieve and recovery from the physical side of things. Don't rush anything and don't fight any feelings. We are always here for you to talk to or scream at {{{{hugs}}}} xxxx

Everyone else, hello! xxxx

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Coathanger · 23/02/2006 10:37

Oh Nikki - did you get my email?

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Nicola63 · 23/02/2006 10:40

Hi, feeling better this morning, stayed at home, and the cat and I are watching the snow flying past the window. Pain has died down and I am feeling more positive.

Last time...yes, well I had no choice, the m/c happened while I was in another country, in a hotel, on a business trip (luckily husband was with me), and so had to go to a strange hospital and everything, then be discharged back to an impersonal hotel room, quite a nasty experience. (And I just disappeared without warning or explanation from the work function I had flown literally halfway round the world to attend, which did my reputation no good).

Then, a day later, had to fly twelve hours to get to another country where we were getting married, the wedding was all arranged, family all there and everything, and so just had to get on with it. I drank so much champagne that night I can't remember much of it! It was so surreal, I was so happy to be marrying my darling, but there was so much else going on in my mind (and body!)

Well, I am looking on the positive side now, the obstetrician has done a whole battery of tests and I am hoping for an answer to why. (I am a scientist, and am trying now to think in a scientific and logical way about this, it will feel much better if there is some clarity on what is going on).

Thanks for letting me babble, this is really helpful. I have a friend who went through 2 m/c's befor having a successful pregnancy, and it was very good to talk to her yesterday about this, but I can't carry on to her all day!!

Thnaks. Best wishes to everyone else.

mygirllolipop · 23/02/2006 10:54

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FirstNikki · 23/02/2006 11:22

just a quick one until lunch,

CH yes got email..sorry not replied sooner I have been slack and thanks so for your email too - I have replied.xxx

FirstNikki · 23/02/2006 12:41

Pepper sorry about tests and hope your arm is feeling better. Enjoy the move hun and keep popping in your input is valued. x

Nicola - what an ordeal for you just before your wedding I am so sorry. hope you are not too bad today. And yes the waiting is driving me mad but then I think there's an absolute minute chance it could have grown by then but then logic and sense comes in and says don't be stupid it will just be confirmed mc if nothing happens before the scan date. Having groin pains as we speak so maybe something is happening or its this bloody chair I am sitting on! I have gone through a wave of emotions anger, frustration, fear, anxiety, worry I can't carry and how I feel about it if this was the case, concern for the fibroids. I have even had a thought about surrogate mothers I know but all the options are crossing my mind. God my body is just a gynae haven at the moment, all was well until 1999 and then I have had a string of problems since. Oh Joy!

Trying to be in a lighter frame of mind at the moment. Although I am at work today (my choice) I can go if I worsen which is great support from my boss.

So anyway...anyone near their end of cycle??

twocatsonthebed · 23/02/2006 15:27

Hello,

Is it alright if I join in? I had a missed miscarriage at the end of July, and have been ttc since then. In the last couple of weeks I've been through what would have been my due date and my 40th birthday, so frankly I've had better months, but we're still persevering.

Piffle · 23/02/2006 15:41

Nikki glad you're bearing up ok poppet
Dp has banned me from ttc threads and says we must wait a cycle before trying again
He wants me to just wing it and
relax
Men....

HellKat · 23/02/2006 15:49

Pepper- hunny, stay. Even if you're not ttc at least you can get the support you need. Plus you're needed on here .
Twocats- Welcome. You'll find wonderful support here. It's so nice being around others who've been through the same thing.

Nicola63 · 23/02/2006 16:04

I'm not strictly going to be ttc for a bit either: at the very least I need to await all the test results. But hope the time will come soon...thanks for welcoming me here anyway.

FirstNikki · 23/02/2006 17:00

welcome twocats although sadly under these circumstances. Wishing you a better year this year and a successful ttc'g.

Piffle oh bless you I understand about waiting the one cycle to get you in check and then you know your body is getting back to normal ... well as can be iykwim. Its also meant to be better for dating on the next time. look after yourself. x

muppet3 · 23/02/2006 17:21

AF

So here we go again.

Piffle · 23/02/2006 17:26

Went to consultant today to just give him the rundown
He asked had a done another preg test
I said not since Saturday and had all been negative since Thuirsday anyway
So he had me wee in a pot
It's only bloody positive.
He said hcg cna linger but he finds it very odd that they were negative earlier.
So he has booked me in for a scan next week.
Very weird
Am physically shattered all the time though...
m now very confused!

FirstNikki · 23/02/2006 17:30

oh piffle that is confusing isn't it? when is your scan next week? Had you had a scan since your loss? Keep resting this waiting is a pain isn't it.

Muppet sorry about af arriving, so its cd1 today and getting bd'g around ov day and best of luck this time x

Nicola63 · 23/02/2006 17:32

Hi twocats, I also had a missed miscarriage last year, and now another one two days ago. And I am 42, so I know what you mean. I had a horribly depressing day yesterday but am feeling more positive today.

I need to wait a bit before ttc again. First I need test results on this pregnancy, and on my immune status, then I need to go back to the suregeon who was about to treat me for uterine adhesions when I went and got pregnant. I would like to get the adhesions sorted out before I try again, even if they were not the cause of the m/c.

So it's some form of contraception for me I suppose. God I hate condoms, but I suppose its the only way... sorry if that is TMI, but I'm trying to think about nice positive things like sex to cheer me up!

twocatsonthebed · 23/02/2006 17:42

Thanks for the warm welcome everyone- I've been lurking for a while, but somehow the due date coming round affected me more than I expected. Still, upwards and onwards (etc, etc)

Nicola - hope you're feeling a bit better. It's bad enough in itself without all the hormones racing around and making it a thousand times worse. Cats and snow a good combination though...

HellKat · 23/02/2006 19:29

Piffle- Awww hunny. Why can't it all be straight forward? best of luck for the scan. Lets hope they can get you you sorted.
Muppet-{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}} so sorry hun, don't give up.

Night all xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

oinker · 23/02/2006 20:23

Pepper.......CH is right, stay. We are all here to help and support each other.
)))))))))))))))))))HUGS(((((((((((((((((((((((

oinker · 23/02/2006 20:25

My time is here again.......

I will be testing in the morning. (CD28) Did a test yesterday and it was a BFN so am not hopefull. Will test anyhow cos I have to

Arrrrrrrrrrggggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

It makes me so

oinker · 24/02/2006 07:47

BFN

Coathanger · 24/02/2006 07:54

OInker {{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}} Chin up sweetie. Your time will come I promise xxxx

Twocats - welcome hun. I hope you find all the support you need in here. We all understand that TTC is stressful and can all empathise with you through experience, and we all like a good old laugh so hopefully a lot of your therapy will be in the medium of laughter I hope you enjoy chatting on here xxxx

Morning everyone!
HK - are you avoiding me

Hope you all have a fab day. off to college shortly!

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