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Le BESH est trying to win un petit baybee.

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HaveUrselfAFaithyChristmasBaby · 24/12/2011 09:36

Bring your best Franglais and gin. Newbies always welcome, complete la BESHtionnaire et nous will judge assess vous accordingly.

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KatAndKit · 20/01/2012 13:09

Oh bugs I'm sorry this mc shiz really can wreak havoc in relationships. If it's only for a couple of weeks it won't matter anyway because by the sounds of it those couple of weeks will be outside The Window.

You are right that men don't know how to talk about these things. What sort of things are you arguing about anyway? Obviously arguments are more likely at a time when you have been feeling very fragile and upset so don't read too much into it. everyone argues sometimes anyway. Don't beat yourself up too much about it, I'm sure you haven't been a cow, you've been through a hard time and it is not all that long ago.

I would have a chat with him and say you also want to get things back on track, that the arguing has got to you too and make some plans to do some fun things together - perhaps a weekend away or a holiday if you can afford it. gives you something to look forward together and also something nice to talk about afterwards.

Avoid talking about ttc or the miscarriage for a while as much as possible. come and moan to us instead. The exception to that is that you are allowed to be upset the day your droid turns up. Obviously if he wants to talk about it then let him. It may be that he has done the "strong silent type" thing to help you through it but is now struggling with his own emotions.

It isn't the right thing for everyone but StealthTTC was probably what kept us sane throughout the mess. We rarely talked about it. I knew when the right times were of course. So long as he put the effort in he never had to hear anything about ttc, although he did know I was doing bathroom science. It's probably impossible for you to take a relaxed view of it because understandably, you want to get redifffed asap. but you do have to try to avoid it taking over your relationship.

If the arguing is about stuff totally unrelated to the MC but is happening because you are both feeling crap, then talk about the issue that is causing the argument and work out how to solve it.

BuggerlugsTheFirst · 20/01/2012 13:48

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KatAndKit · 20/01/2012 13:55

That sounds like an excellent plan. It sounds like you have lots of nice things to look forward to and you have talked about how to make things better. It'll all be fine in no time at all :)

Where are you going in Cyprus? I used to live in cyprus a few years ago. It's really nice there in the late spring.

FriendofDorothy · 21/01/2012 00:05

I have received a letter today offering me an appointment to see the fertility specialist - appointment is on 15 February. Of course it would be a day that I am on bloody training!

Other than that I just feel a bit delicate today, really tearful which is horrid :(

BuggerlugsTheFirst · 21/01/2012 09:19

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FriendofDorothy · 21/01/2012 21:28

Wow. Where is everyone today. No comments since just after midnight? Has everyone been raptured?

eurochick · 22/01/2012 00:20

I'm here.

Getting over that news that some friends are pregnant. To rub salt in the wound, they are lesbians. Not a single sperm between them and they can manage to get pg when I cannot.

FriendofDorothy · 22/01/2012 09:13

Oh euro. I laughed not because it is funny but because it is exactly the sort of thing that I would say. It's so hard, and it feels like every time I go on FB someone is announcing their pregnancy with scan pictures or there are pics of cute babies everywhere.

Hang in there hon...

BuggerlugsTheFirst · 22/01/2012 09:15

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eurochick · 22/01/2012 09:32
Northey · 22/01/2012 09:41

That sucks, euro. Lesbian acquaintances of mine managed it in one go with an obliging male friend in the next bedroom and a pot and syringe bought online. One go. Unbelievable.

Pissed on a stick again this morning despite only havig had a couple of (lacklustre) shags in the last month. Negative, obviously. And to add insult to injury I sprayed wee all over the loo seat (incompetent midstream testing for a change) and then had to clean the bog.

PhoenixFromTheFlames · 22/01/2012 09:55

We will!

Northey · 22/01/2012 10:45

Oooooh! Is this a flying visit or a proper resurrection? (hmm, was trying to use appropriate language for a phoenix but the resurrection bit actually sounds a bit creepy). We have missed you!

PhoenixFromTheFlames · 22/01/2012 12:02

And so you're back...from outer space! Yes I'm back :) much less paranoid now. Things have settled down at work and things are much improved with MSB Wink we are cd5 and firmly back on the ttc waggon!
Muchos nekkid dancing for blacktea and lezzer snogs for those who are struggling.

BuggerlugsTheFirst · 22/01/2012 12:47

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Northey · 22/01/2012 16:03

This has cheered me right up!

So pleased you're feeling better and are back on the BESH wagon :)

PhoenixFromTheFlames · 22/01/2012 16:10

Oh dear, have just had a stupid row with MSB :( now have to sit through Man u vs arsenal. What fun.
Anyhoo, I am a new woman. Since new year Je suis doing le Paul Mckenna 'I can make you thin' J'ai lost 7lb in 2 weeks; j'ai taken up running; j'ai doing a 10k in 9 weeks!

Northey · 22/01/2012 18:28

Zut alors, ma skinny amie! Très well done.

I have had the in laws over for lunch and to see our new place. And have spent the last hour in bed (they're gone, obviously), completely knocked out by one lunchtime glass of champagne! Thank God we got a shag in this morning. I'd never manage one now.

eurochick · 22/01/2012 18:56

We had les parents chez nous pour lunch. Nous avons cuisiné salmon en croute avec white wine potatoes and chocolate fondants with homemade honeycomb ice cream for dessert. It was yummerz. And because it was my burfday last week, they came bearing PRESENTS. And then we just watched The King's Speech. It has been a lovely day.

Welcome back Phee.

I am on CD8 and about to start shagweek.

Northey · 22/01/2012 19:02

J'ai massive envie de euro's lunch, particularly la glace à la honeycomb. Comment est-ce que tu as made it?

Good luck for shag week, an' all.

PhoenixFromTheFlames · 22/01/2012 19:09

Oh yes, Bon anniversaire Mon euro ami! Dinner sounds délicieux!
MSB and I have made up :) très bonne.
Ps Je suis réaliser that by using ze français button don ma téléphonique Je suis do bonne français commenter. Zut alors!

PhoenixFromTheFlames · 22/01/2012 19:10

euro avez vous un maker du icecream?

Northey · 22/01/2012 19:36

Is it un iPhone, phee?

PhoenixFromTheFlames · 22/01/2012 19:38

Non, c'est une HTC désire. Dans les langue setting Je suis opt por le français.

Northey · 22/01/2012 20:14

Oh c'est trop difficile pour moi. Je vais manger un cadburys creme egg to recover.

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