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New thread..... let's get going!!

A teeny bit of spotting but still no AF for me. Dammit.

I'd like to join too.

Hubby and I have been sort of trying for the past 3 months but have decided to go for it properly from now.

All hubby and I have talked about is how great Christmas and new year will be next year with a new baby!!

Hi,

First post on here. My last pill pack finishes in a few days, and then we'll be trying. I've heard you should wait until you have one "natural" period and use other contraception until then. Any opinions on that? Googling doesn't seem to come up with anything conclusive.

Good luck to everybody here. Fingers crossed for smooth and successful times for all.

Hi to all the newbies!

marshmallow the reason they say to allow yourself a "natural" period is so that it is easier to work out when you conceived. Of course with scans these days it can all get worked out at a later date, so it's up to you if you want to get cracking or not

I don't want to be the boring "harbinger of doom" around here, but I will say to all the newbies, please don't put too much pressure on yourselves to conceive right away. A perfectly healthy couple with no fertility issues will usually conceive within 6 months to 1 year, but you have to bare in mind that it can often take longer. I know what it feels like to put pressure on yourself to get pregnant right away, after all we have it drummed into us that any unprotected sex = pregnancy, but please do take the time to be kind to yourselves.

I read something in one of my many conception books that refers to the "missing 3 months" of pregnancy. This is the three months you should take before you conceive to get yourself healthy, give up any naughty habits and generally prepare your body for pregnancy. It is definitely worth baring in mind.

Also, don't forget to start taking your folio acid NOW - they recommend you take it as soon as you think about ttc.

Just call me Headmistress Cave

Thanks for the info Headmistress Cave!

I don't think you're being a harbinger of doom, and think you're making some very good points. I'm hoping that I'll conceive sometime this year and hopefully won't be too disappointed if it doesn't happen immediately. As for my own health, I've had it vaguely in mind for the last few months so have been taking folic acid, cutting down on booze a bit and trying to eat a bit more healthily. Fingers crossed I'm in the best possible shape.

What would we do without you cave?! You are quite right though, don't expect too much too soon newbies, it can be a long road but lets hope it's not. By the way, I do not advocate drunken handstands..it's a miracle I didn't break my neck! I'll let you know if it works though. then you'll all be doing it! Haha!

Thanks for the early advice cave! :) after trying not to get pregnant for such a long time I know it will be easy to get carried away and expect it to happen straight away! Just going to try and have fun and see what happens.

Like marshmallow the idea of ttc has been on the horizon for us so have been taking multivitamin/folic acid, exercising a little and maintaining healthy weight. Was trying to wait for a good time work wise but i dont think that will ever come along, so decided to take the plunge!

Cave. I hear you on the missing 3 months. Exactly why I got off the pill several months before trying to try and get my body back in a rythem. My cycles coming of the pill have thankfully been fairly normal. 30/28/28/32. Currently on cd 21. Been taking vits 4 months now. I have a nephew with spinabifida so didn't want to take chances. Also had my folate blood levels tested and they are all good too. My weight is good so no worries there. It did take my mom 6 years and several mc before she got me though soo I'm trying not to get my hopes up.

I agree that it's hard not to imagine having a little one next christmas!

I should show this to my dp we have been trying for a few weeks and he keeps talking to my belly. im like my food really appreciates it but its just weird
is anyone elses dp getting a little over excited? i love that he is so into it but i think it will make it more disappointing when af comes

Oh and Good Morning all have a lovely day

Morning nearly, it is lovely when the other hands get excited - its nice to know we have the support.

It might be worth you sitting down with him and making sure he understands the biology behind getting pregnant. When we decided to start ttc, DH was shocked when I explained the window of opportunity was 18 hours a month at best! Because they never really learn about periods at school, many men seem to think it is just a question of having sex! The What To Expect Before You're Exoecting book is very good on this front.

"other hands" = "other halves" obviously

i bought him a man book which he is reading and have told him that its not as easy as it sounds but he is just so excited he cant help himself. it really is lovely to have him so excited at the same time tho. off to work now arg.

My partner is also excited and keeps asking me if I "feel pregnant" yet (I am, at the most, 4 dpo!). I have explained about implantation and the odds per month but to no avail . . .

But then he also keeps telling me that he's "sure he's sterile" (for which there is no evidence at all) so I suppose like all of us he is feeling a whole mixture of things.

Actually I do feel quite odd but this is obviously 100% psychosomatic, plus we're moving house on Monday so I think we are both quite on edge.

Hope everyone else is doing OK and coping with being back at work. Central London is v. grim and windy and hardly anyone else is here yet.

We need some more BFPs over on the grads threads please ladies! Sending all my best BFP vibes your way. Wishing you lots of luck and BFPs for 2012 xxx

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We're trying very hard!!!

Good news, my Day 21 bloods came back with a progesterone level of 59. Anything over 30 is good so I've most definitely ovulated - lets just hope all the Christmas shagging has done the trick

Fabulous! What a lovely high level too. I wonder if it being high signifies that there is a bean in there nestling down?! When do you think your period should be due?

Waves to raspberry and all other old timer lurkers and big hello to all the newbies! Glad you are appreciating Headmistress Cave's advice- she is very wise!

AF will be due around 13th Jan. After getting my hopes up last month I'm being very philosophical about it all.

Glad to see your scan went well [stalker]

Well said SantasCave - we are drummed into us that even if a boy cums anywhere near your lady bits you'll get pg! Well I'm proof that it aint true for some of us (and quite a lot of us). It's so easy to get obsessed with TTC & hoping that it will happen quickly - symptom spotting on CD7!!!!

As for DH - I'm fed up of disappointing him every month. When I do try pg tests I do them before he wakes so he doesn't know & if & when I get BFP he'll have a lovey wake up call!

ooh I sound so negative about it all but just been along a very hard bumpy road so a little disillusioned now...

Best of luck to Newbies!

went in to a charity shop today to buy a book for dps bro as a joke present..... came out with 2 pregnancy books ill probably never read. seriously it takes over your brain.

Totally does Nearly

Will i ever think of anything not baby related again

Oh my goodness. Er... we started ttc conceive halfway through December. But I got the dates wrong and so had sex on the wrong days - I thought. Also I am very old, I think, and had endometriosis in the past (had lap and dye recently though). So I was realistic.

But .. this morning I was two days late, so I took a test - I didn't expect anything.

But ...er, the first one - a FirstResponse Early Test - it came up straight away with two red lines! But I had left it in the cup a bit too long so I thought it might be a mistake.

So then I tried with two cheap internet tests - they both had two lines as well, though faint. So I wasn't sure. They were VERY faint. Here are the tests: www.countdowntopregnancy.com/pregnancy-test-gallery/my-pregnancy-test11629

I still didn't believe it so I went into town and got a CLearBlue Digital test with Date Of Conception thing. And that came up almost immediately with 'Pregnant!' and then added '2-3' (apparently conceived 2 to 3 weeks ago).
I am not going to get too excited because I know lots of things can go wrong etc, esp in the first few weeks. But ... it is hopefully a good sign I think?

I wish I had some female friends to phone. My mother is dead; my sister lives in a different country and is not reachable, and none of my other friends are into children. I really want to be able to phone people up and tell them, but I have nobody to call. :/

Even though I know I can't get too hopeful or anything quite yet! But it is our very first month trying so even if this one is not sticky it is hopefully a good sign?

I wish my mum were still alive. :/ She always wanted me to give her a grandchild. I feel quite tearful. (She only died a couple years ago).
What is the first thing I should do? I am totally shocked! And have nobody to ask!

One good thing - Headmistress Cave you are so right! I spent a year getting healthy and stuff before we decided to actually do this. Vitamins and things.

Gosh. I wonder if this is going to really happen. I feel like I have to hold my breath for 12 weeks until it's more stable!

It strikes me it might be good if I list the things that might have stopped it working at all-

• my age (39)
• I have had severe endometriosis in the past
• I have never been pregnant

So it's all a bit astonishing!

Wow winter congratulations!