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josie that's great that your appointment went well and you have a start date. It sounds like you are being very strong right now. That's lovely that your dad was supportive.

mrsmellow what a nightmare with the thermometer! Can you not order a digital one over the internet? If they don't deliver to where you are then I'm sure one of us could order one and post it to you. They aren't expensive and you need a nice safe 2 decimal place one that you can stick in your mouth when you're groggy and just woke up - not a glass one that might shatter and cover you in mercury

CEDR I have a friend a bit like that, who also should know better cos it took her two years!

I'm currently trying to stay realistic but got a faint positive this morning. Period is a little irregular so could come any time between today and Monday (though most likely sat or sun). I don't normally do early testing for fear of a CP, but at this point (7 months in) even if it is a CP it is at least a bit reassuring to know I can get pregnant. Am quietly hopeful but only time will tell. Good luck to everyone else waiting x

Hey josie glad your app went well.

Thing seem to a bit busier on here recently i may start checking more :)

We seem to be finding swi a little bit harder this month,
dp is working so hard (farmer so early starts and late finishes)so he is shattered all the time

And sil just announced she is pg so we feel like if we did get pg now we would be stealing their thunder.
We were both totally gutted when we found out they were expecting.
it feels a bit like they took something away from us iyswim.
They were always saying they were going to wait a few years till they ttc so dp and i always thought we would be first.
we are happy for them but just wish we had a bit of warning, it came from nowhere like a punch in the face.
Iv never felt like this when someone has been pg before im usually ooooh a baby woooo now dp and i are like mutley grumbling quietly behind their backs and it makes me feel awful because we were all real close b4 christmas (sil attitude changed towards me) ((still dont know why))

This is turning into an essay even though iv deleted half of it sorry

Pearl. Fingers crossed! Hope your faint bfp get darker and sticks around!

Amaze

Maybe you will get preggo and you can be baby buddies! Maybe she was already preg at christmas, hence the mood change. Try and stay suppportive of her even though it's hard.

I got an urge to test today and I think my mind is playing tricks on me. I'm pretty sure it's a bfn but I want to see something so bad i'm imagining a really faint line... Why didn't I wait until tomorrow like I said I would?

pearl fingers crossed it turns into a proper BFP - and I know exactly what you mean about just being able to get pregnant... I've started using the OPK's and even a line there would be a start

amaze Sorry to hear that - I have a similar relationship with my SIL who got pregnant within about 3 minutes of trying... somehow friends are different aren't they. When the idea settles down you'll feel a bit better - as beeble says, if you get pregnant, it will be really nice to have little babies at the same time and really don't worry about stealing their thunder - the cousins will be super close which will be great. She might have felt bad about being pregnant, just hang in there

My MIL is coming to visit next week, maybe I'll get her to bring a thermometer (man, I can just imagine that conversation... think I'm going to play the - we're struggling to get pregnant, please can we just not talk about it - card)

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retested with an ept - not hard to miss this one!

Evening girls,
Thanks for all your messages, feeling a lot better now although completely knackered from a couple of weeks of stress and lack of sleep so wine then bed tonight!

Pearl fingers very tightly crossed for you! Keep us updated :) Perhaps test again Sunday and hopefully the line will be stronger. In the meantime crack open the

hope the MIL visit goes well MrsMellow - do you think she will start asking loads of questions about it all if you tell her you are struggling? We have told my mum so far and she has been completely amazing but we haven't said to MIL yet, I just don't think that she would understand to be honest.

Ummmmmm BEEBLE that is a BFP if ever I saw one! That's a proper line an all - not just a 'faint' one! Congratulations preggers

Amaze I can understand how you feel. Unless it's close friends who get pg I tend to feel a bit 'oh sod off' about any that I hear about and that includes family. Hope SIL isn't too annoying or insensitive

CEDR your colleague sounds really insensitive, I think if it was someone who knew I was struggling and was going through it to I would be tempted to tell her to back off a bit, grumpy mare that I am :)

cave congrats on the ovulation - you did say you managed to SWI plenty didnt you in which case I have everything crossed for you this month!

hippolyta I wouldn't worry too much about lack of AF, maybe give it a few more weeks, it can take a little while if you've been on/off the pill or on it for a long time. It's bound to really I suppose, hope it comes soon as you can get officially TTC!

Glad the scan went well Evil and I know what you mean about the wobble, it's all so hard isn't it. The whole looking at the screen during the ultrasound brought out the same emotions in me and I just was wishing that he'd say 'oh,ummm, there's a baby in this womb!'. Didn't happen though :(

Sorry AF got you ratata and I did chuckle at your poor rat needing a poo. I had something similar a year ago I had bad pains and convinced myself it was my appendix so I rang the nurse and she told me I probably needed a big poo. Anyway, a couple of hours later it got worse and I did indeed to a mahoosive poo and it went away.

to picklestar, nongodess and chocolate

Special thank you to Josie xx

Woohoo beeble congrats on the bfp - I've never even seen a photo of one before!! Here's to more bfp's all round

Thanks raspberry - I'm actually very fond of my MIL, I think I'll wait and see whether she starts 'hinting subtly' and then decide what to do, but I think if I said I didn't want to talk about it quite explicitly that she would be supportive and leave it. She is less good at picking up hints, so I would have to spell it out!

Congrats Beeble and fingers crossed for you Pearl

Josie, so glad your appt was ok, I really hope it works out for you. How is horsey these days?

Raspberry, hope you're feeling a bit better. It's so easy to get bogged down in this ttc malarkey.

Beeble! Fantastic news, congratulations Let us know how you tell Mr Beeble!

Thanks everyone for the encouragement. Unfortunately I can't wait until Sunday as I'm staying over with friends (only got cheap dippy tests and not sure the whole pee-pot performance is good guest etiquette, lol!)

So, I tested this morning, even though I shouldn't have, especially cos I had to wee in the night ( it was exactly in the middle so figured I might as well test in the morning rather than 3am). Very ghostly faint line, much weaker than yesterday :(

I dunno if this to be expected given it was a weaker sample? Was sort of hoping that there would have been sufficient HCG increase to account for this. Anyway, my temp is still up and the witch has not yet arrived. What will be will be

When was your AF due pearl? If it is. Very early days and it was a less concentrated wee that may account for the weak line? Maybe test again on Monday now?

Thanks raspberry. Since I've been charting I've had between 29 and 32 day cycles, average of 30 days but the last two have been 31 days. Today is CD30.

If I'm being sensible I should indeed wait until Monday trouble is I have a bag of cheap piss-sticks that go off in march

huge congratulations beeble!! :) so exciting. best wishes for a happy and healthy pregnancy!!

Ha I just checked and they go off march 2013 - totally seeing what I want to see to justify POAS!

Am going to try and focus on fun things for the rest of the weekend...

Wishing everyone a good weekend and luck to all waiting x

Pearl. I used the cheapies and had a vvvvv faint line. The picked up an exoensive 5 day early one and it was very clear. Did another cheapy today and nothing.... so i think you should go out and get a good one!

Will copy my telling dh story over from another thread....

Ok well its not letting me copy so....

I made a tshirt with an iron on decal that says baby bump with an arrow pointing down. Asked dh if he wanted to see my new shirt. He did so i showed him. He stares and went ok.,.. and about 30 Seconds later wheni kept looking at him funny he blurts out YOURE PREGNANT! like we were playing a difficult game of charades. Too funny.

Oh wow CONGRATULATIONS Beeble i love how you told your dp.

Pearl i hope we get to see a BFP photo from you next week :)

Possibly tmi ahead....
I think im due to ov in the next few days but today i started to bleed but not like a normal af. Its really bright red like from a cut but its not from a cut iyswim. No pains or anything and its as heavy as day 2 of normal af. Its crap had a romantic (swi with candles ) night in planned with dp as its his bday tomorrow. I do spoil him

Things wit sil will be grand i will love talking baby with her and when my day comes she can give me advice. Oh i dont doubt that she was weird because she was pg at christmas im sure her hormones were probably all over the place and then having to keep the secret on top of that would make anyone weird :)

amaze - hope bleeding settled and your candles were romantic Good PMA (positive mental attitude- am I showing my child of the 80s' thing there..)

I'm really irritated and a bit disappointed. I have my appointment with the gynaecologist booked for tomorrow for mid-morning and have been coordinating a meeting with work for a group who are visiting from overseas for 2pm - this time has been set for quite a while and I would have had plenty of time to go to appointment even if several hours late - and just had email to say they can only come at 12... which means I think I have to cancel...nobody else can look after this group and I'm really pissed off!!! I will ring the gynae office in the morning to see if they have another time, but I can't bear it! I'm CD14 as well, so I had this secret hope they'll do a scan and see functioning ovaries .... (although OPK's are resolutely negative... disappointing little sticks..)
aarrrgghh

Anyway, just typing that made me feel better!

Probably happened for a reason and the changed appointment will be at the right time in my cycle to see something useful?! [optimistic emoticon]

sorry amaze - the PMA thing was about your SIL and her pregnancy - that wasn't clear from my post, I got distracted trying to remember what P M A was from!

evilgiraffe I totally know what you mean about the ultrasound. In Dec I had to get an ultrasound because if some pains I was having and I was thinking that I should be there for other reasons! Just felt weird having ultrasound without being pregnant. I hope all goes well with your rescan x

hippolyta I took 6 weeks to get my period after coming off pill, I was on Cilest. Hope yours comes soon, it's a pain having to wait for it!

mrsmellow fun with mercury thermometers! I think my brother put one on a light bulb when he was wee and broke it lol. I know what you mean about Facebook, so many folk on mine are either pregnant or just had a baby! Typical Thats crap about your meeting, your appointment should come first, tell them to bugger off lol.

josie glad to hear that things are going as well as they can and you do have every right to be feeling snappy! It's a stressful time and you need to have things your own way and be supported. Your pg friend should also maybe be a bit more sensitive if she knows about your situation. Hugs hugs hugs x

pearlfisher I very much hope that congratulations are in order!

amazeballs I think with your SIL being pregnant you will find it brings you closer together. And you can talk to her and get advice about all things pregnancy related :) I'm like that with my SIL who is due in a couple of weeks. It's nice to have someone in the family to talk to about it all and can't wait to meet my niece or nephew. Also sorry to hear about your AF or bleed :(

beeblebear big congratulations to you! Fantastic news! An awesome way to tell your other half :)

raspberry glad you are feeling better. My rat went and did the exact same thing again and was fine next day again. I'm gonna stop giving him oatcakes I think.

Things are ok here although my stupid lower abdominal pains have returned. Hoping I'm just like my rat and need a big poo. I actually think that's what it is. Will wait and see! Was out on Friday night and got rather drunk and then next day had the lower abdo pains. Not sure if alcohol related. I had cider and cider sometimes seems to give me cystitis. Although this isnt a cystitis feeling. TMI! My period just finished on Saturday so we are back to SWI and ov sticks. Happy to be back to trying!

Well I think it might be the real deal

Had to wait until we got back from friend's house this evening to test again, but got a clear BFP! Not as dark as the control line, but absolutely definitely there. This was on an internet cheapy as the only 'proper' test I've managed to get my hands on is a CB digital, and I've heard they aren't sensitive so didn't want to waste it. Gonna use the CB with FMU tomorrow. Not sure it will actually sink in unless I see the word 'pregnant'.

Beeble that's such a funny way to tell your DH, love it! No surprises for mine unfortunately as I've been weebling away to him through the whole process, poor chap!

Amaze hope the mystery bleed cleared up in time for your romantic night with DP. Any idea what it was?

MrsMellow, that's so shit about the work group rearranging on you :( Hope you get something sorted.

Ratata hope your pain resolves as simply as your rat's did, and you get to enjoy some SWI :)

Congratulations pearlfisher awesome news! How long have you been TTC if you don't mind me asking?

Thanks Ratata :)
I don't mind the question at all, this is cycle 7, been trying since July last year.
Not an especially long time, but long enough to get freaked out, so I feel v v grateful.

Yay pearl! Congrats :)

I convinced the CB digi It guesses 2-3 weeks Might have trouble concentrating at work today...

Thanks everyone for the support, got my fingers crossed for you all x

Congrats Pearl that's great news!

BFPs seem to come all at once on this thread, once 1person gets lucky several people seem to follow! We've had quite a dry spell of late so I'm glad we've turned a corner! Anyone else on the verge of testing?'