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New thread..... let's get going!!

Just remember to use protection while on those antibiotics!

Will do Beeble bit worried we'll forget after shagging purposely without! Feeling a bit sad about having to use protection, will have to count down the days till I don't again! I'm on steroids, Dr says I shouldn't conceive whilst on them, then wait a week till they're out of my system! :(

Hellllloooo again all.

Thanks for the advice re: urine pains. I have a urine test each time I go to doc since this is a recurring thing and it's normally normal even when I have proper cystitis (with the burning etc but not usually blood in sample weirdly enough). I had antibiotics in my medication box so started myself on them now. Symptoms have subsided a bit but still got the feeling of pressure down there and random pains. Doc tomorrow!

littlemisslemon my periods always take about 6 weeks to return after coming off pill, I was on Cilest. Pain when they take ages x

Glad the HSG went ok evilgiraffe

Welcome picklestar I too was disappointed when not pregnant in first month, but after reading up on things here I am now prepared for it to take a year or more. I have started using ovulation sticks, got a pack on Amazon for a few pounds for 30. I think we have done it on the right days so fingers crossed this month but not expecting anything :)

Sorry about AF raspberry at least you will still have your appointment to go to, and hopefully start getting some answers to put your mind at rest.

Fingers crossed for you cave

Well I think we have done it on the correct days, had a line on ov sticks for 3 days, slightly fainter than control but now gone so I assume I ovulated around 26th. Been feeling twingy feelings in my lower abdomen but assuming that's to do with the problems I've been having lately.

Hi,

I have just come across this post and thought it would be good to talk to people who are going through the same thing as me (especially as all my friends seem to be falling pregenant first try!).

I am 29 and been trying for about 6 mths. I have Polycystic ovaries and havent had a period since coming off the pill : (. Had tests with the doctor which show I am not ovulating at the moment... had a scan...now waiting for a gynie appointment. Doctor has told me putting on some weight might help and doing a bit less excercise...all of which I am doing and still nothing!

Just really frustrating!

I would like to just be able to talk with you all on here : )

Hi Cazbg welcome, its nice to have somewhere to discuss things with people who are going through similar things.

Sounds very frustrating, but keep going :), we'll all support you :)xxx

Hi Cazbg. I was in a similar situation - came off Pill, had one period and then nothing. After 6 months I was referred for a scan which showed Polycystic Ovaries. I had an HSG (where dye is injected into your womb) to check for blockages and then a Laporoscopy under general anaesthetic to have a good look round.

Upshot is I'm now on my third cycle of Clomid to get me ovulating. The first 2 cycles worked and I'm now waiting on blood test results for the current one.

Feel free to ask as many questions as you like!

Haven't posted much since joining you all but slightly disappointed as got period today. We had only been very casually trying but was still hopeful.

Have totally irregular cycles, 44, 45, 43, 54, 86, 43, 41 days being the most recent set of statistics. Lots of friends having babies and I'm 32 so starting to feel I'm getting on a little now - sorry to sound negative

Welcome Cazbg, hope the Gyne appointment gives you some answers, this is a great place to come and off load!

Hello all , I'm having a crappy week so far. AF has pretty much gone but I have felt completely and utterly exhausted the last few days, it seemed much heavier than normal. I could literally have fallen asleep at my desk today. Team that with feeling just plain miserable about my inability to make a baby and all in all I feel just plain shit. :( I really shouldn't I know that but I can't snap out of it. I've got plenty to look forward to this year but I just am not feeling it at the moment. Someone please kipper me! failing that pass me the and

Glad your HSG went well Evil Did you get your results?

Welcome Picklestar I remember sitting at work my first month smugly thinking ?I?m probably pregnant now? How naive I was back then

Sorry for arrival of AF Rasp but hope your appt goes well

Fingers crossed CaveMum

Hi Cazbg, feel free to chat to us anytime

Sorry AF arrived Pinkflipflop

I had a bad appt at the clinic today. We?re starting ivf in the next couple of weeks, getting my meds a week tomorrow, but she said not to get our hopes up as she doesn?t think I?ll respond to the meds and if there?s only 2 or 3 follies after stimulation, which she suspects, they?ll not go any further, and basically that?s the end of the road for us. I?m absolutely gutted

Welcome newbies. Nice to have a little more aCtion in here now!

Josie, fingers crossed you get something good out of your appointment. Any thoughts on adoption?

Sorry about af too rasp! 11 days and counting until my dreaded af arrjval.

So my new years resolution this year is to eat fruit and/or vegetables with every meal. Any ny resolutions for you ?

Hi Beeble no resolutions for us, was gonna go along the lines of something vaguely healthy but don't really see the point. DH needs to lose some weight, I'll help him with that by eating a bit better. I've thought about adoption, it's an option if all else fails. It's not how I pictured the rest of my life. DH isn't too keen but I think if the IVF fails he'll start to come round. We'd rather have adopted children than no children at all. I've got to sit at work all day today and pretend everything is ok when really I'm just one 'are you ok' away from breaking down. Let's see how long I can last...

Bugger: Day 21 blood tests say no ovulation. Got to go back again next week for another test. The Clomid made me ov on Day 17 in the first cycle and Day 14 on the second. I'm now on Day 24 of my third cycle and no sign of ov to be seen! How am I supposed to figure out the best time for dtd if I'm all over the place like this??

Hi all! Welcome newbies and apols for radio silence.... not been much to say!

Been quite frustrated with a colleague who is the only person I've told about ttc- she had two miscarriages in the last 12 months (and has one child). I only told her about it all because she was probing and she's impossible to lie to . And now once a week it's "how's things going?". Grrr. I don't know if I'm even going to ovulate for another 6 months plus (due to coming off the depo inj for anyone that doesn't know!)! So I don't know how things are going let along being able (or wanting to) tell anyone else! She's also being v judgemental about a friend of both of ours who recently had a baby who was unable to breastfeed. She tried really hard but it just wasn't working, and she's devastated about it... so doesn't need people being judgemental about it. Grrr. Just a general Grrrrrrrr really.

I agree with your grrr CEDR She doesn't sound like the sort of person you can reason with either i.e. you can't say to her 'look, this is really difficult but it's worse when you ask me how it's going every week'. There's someone here like that too. She told me this morning that being given a 10-15% chance of our only IVF cycle working was good news I almost kicked her head in. I don't really feel like being cheery and happy about having to have IVF and the little chance it has of being successful. I wanted to find out I was pg by accident after a few months of trying and be extraordinarily happy. Instead I have had 2 years of misery and depression and it's set to get worse

Hi all! A real newbie here, just wanted to say hello, been following the thread for a while but plucking up courage to join in. I'm 34 and TTC since coming off Implanon in August, not long I know. Keep trying not to get my hopes up after first excited months (yes, JosieS, that smug feeling of 1st month is just about wearing off now!) and this thread has been really helpful reminding me that it can take a while....Loved reading yr postings, thanks all, and best of luck xxx

Sorry to hear all your news Josie hope you got through today ok and you never know what will happen. Someone has to make up the statistics of the ones who it worked for so there is every chance that you are that statistic! The friend I was meeting for lunch today (the one I was convinced would tell me she was pg and she isn't, she's decided to wait a bit longer before trying for no. 2) told me today one of her closest friends tried 8 years, had blockages, cysts, low egg reserves and years of drugs to stimulate this that or the other but always resisted full blown IVF then finally gave in, went for it and got pregnant naturally a few months later while waiting on the IVF list. It does all feel a little unbelievable but I for one need to hang on to that little glimmer of hope xx

cave what a pain not ovulating this month. Suppose the only approach if you can't get any regularity is to do it every other day if you can?

CEDR you have my sympathy, some people just seem to be able to make knobby comments with such ease :) I recommend you poke said colleague in the eye and promise you will do the same every time she asks how it's going!

I don't really do NY resolutions Beeble but if I do they've definitely usually worn off by this point in the year!

Hello nongoddess lovely to see you here :) Best of luck to you!

No news here. Getting quietly nervous about Friday more and more. Still feeling the need to hybernate. Spoke to mum last night, I reckon we might be able to move in about 7 weeks! Very excited

So..... who's going to be watching OBEM at 9 tonight?!

Josie so sorry you're feeling so down about it all. It's shit, isn't it? There are only a few people who know me and DH are TTC, but thankfully they are all quite ok about it and don't ask too much. I find the most depressing (but obviously wonderful as well) thing is that my friends who are the same age as me are having babies left right and centre which is unsurprising, wonderful, and I seethe with jealousy when I'm on my own...

The HSG was normal, by the way, forgot to mention that when I reported back. This is a good thing I suppose as it means I'm physically ok. So why am I STILL not pregnant?! I'm having an ultrasound next week to examine my ovaries etc so maybe that will find something. I'm fully expecting that to be normal too and for us to be left high and dry with an "unexplained" diagnosis...

Good news about your HSG results Evil although yes it does now leave you with the question of why! Hoep you get some answers soon

Raspberry good news about hopefully moving soon! Thanks for telling me about your friend. I won't have that chance of being able to get pg naturally while waiting for IVF because it starts in a couple of weeks and AF is due tomorrow (just another kick while I'm down). I fear that if the IVF fails, they won't try anything else Although I'm considering asking to try again even if I don't respond because I'm sure someone said they know someone who didn't respond first time but did the next time

You should have seen the state of me last night. Has anyone ever cried till you can't feel like you can't breathe? I have now. Then I looked through the IVF stuff, got really panicky and upset again and sometimes I honestly don't think I can go through it, it's such an awful process. Then other times I feel stronger and like I can do it, it's all very confusing and upsetting, I'm cycling very rapidly through a range of emotions that I don't understand

Thanks raspberry for your greetings! Much appreciated, feels good to be a part of things. And somehow a bit more constructive than slowly obsessing on my own... Still in the "oooh, could be?" bit of my cycle, but no high hopes this month. And it seems like so many of my colleagues are off on maternity leave!

Sorry, Josie to hear how difficult things are for you. Horribly upsetting and you sound like you are doing so well. Really brave. Keep going and good luck.

And Evil all the best with the ultrasound - good news about the HSG!

Now off to zumba... will it atone for earlier Quality Street?

oh Josie I know that kind of crying :( It's horrible and I usually end up feeling or being sick and then feeling absolutely dreadful the next day. Perhaps while all this is going you should should seek some counselling to help you through, it's a traumatic time and you need some good support? Could you speak to your GP?

My pleasure on the welcome front Nongoddess. I do think that zumba atones for everything chocolatey!!!

Hope the ultrasound goes well and you get some answers Evil I suppose having 'undiagnosed infertility' is almost as bad as finding something wrong, if not worse because if somethings wrong at least you can fix it or decide on a route to take, if they can't pin it down its just left in limbo where we kind of feel at the moment. This TTC malarky is just a nightmare isn't it.

Well, still bricking it about tomorrow. So worried that he's just going to say 'you just need to try harder' and send us away. I know I'm going to dream about it tonight and I've not been able to concentrate on anything at all these last few days :( oh well, wish me luck!

Hello All. Just found this thread and would love to join on.

TTC for first time. Been discussing with DH for the last 6 months but started actively trying from 1 Jan (New years resolution!)

Was feeling nervous earlier today as a month off the pill now and not come on yet but from an earlier thread looks like 2-3 months fairly standard.

Great to have a place to safely obsess about discuss TTC

Today I am so far mostly feeling:

A little sad
A little scared
A little worried
THAT I WILL NOT BE BEATEN

Hugs to everyone. We truly are the strongest women in the world

P.S. Welcome Hippolyta20 (waves)

Thanks Josie. Fingers crossed for you .

I know what you mean about the range of emotions. There is so much pressure on women to just produce a baby like we pick them up from Tescos or something!

My FIL knows we are TTC and talking like the baby will be hear in the next few months already. Great he is excited but probably shouldn't have shared our plans so soon. Feel like I need to "perform".

He is also saying "my grandson" because he really wants a boy (again no pressure ). I'm sure he would love a girl too but still a bit off-putting.

Thanks for the warm welcome. It is really nice just to be able to chat to other people going through the same thing.
I am just angry at the school system at the moment - they drum into you that you need contraception or you will get pregenent and you are taught the idea that no contraception = baby straight away! Just iritating!
Went to see a friend today who is my motivation - she tried for 3 years no success, then had one round of IVF that failed and 1 month later she fell naturally and now has a two week old little boy... so miracles do happen!
Keep rushing home from work to see if my gynie letter has come. I am pretty sure they will put me straight on Clomid (which is what the doctor said they would do) just frustrating that the doctor cant just do that!
Well have fab weekends : )

So sorry to hear you are having a hard time josie I hope you have lots of supportive people in your life to help you through this. It's not the end though, we all have our fingers and toes crossed for you. Big hugs.

Cazbg totally agree that what they teach you at school is irritating, I figured I would be pregnant in the first month! It makes you wonder how 'accidents' happen, if it's so hard when you want them! Makes no sense. Well it probably does since you are usually lot more fertile in teens. But hey ho.

Welcome hippolyta We told my parents we are TTC but my brother and his partner are due their baby in about 3 or 4 weeks so that will keep them busy for a while :)

How did things go today raspberry was thinking of you.

I will be testing in 6 days, so next Thursday. Not sure when I'm due on as came off pill and have had one period so far which took 6 weeks to arrive. So I'm testing on day 28. Got some symptoms but could be AF. Slightly sore boobs, crampy, feeling queasy sometimes, heartburn. Will see!