Ladies, may I join you?
I'm an old timer (38) with 3 dc from previous marriage, currently deeply in love with fab DP of 3 years. Had mc at 9 weeks last December, and had hideous late mc on 25th Oct this year at nearly 19 weeks. Had pains for days, fobbed off by docs, one evening I stood up and out he came...alive...died in our arms. We called him Beau and buried him on Thursday. No explanation yet as to why it happened.
So we are trying again, had first AF since mc on 24th Nov, so dtd as often as possible this week, no hardship at the moment but hope it doesn't become another household chore in manner of hoovering or washing up.
I just want to ask...
Am I being greedy? I have 3 dc already, as pointed out succinctly by hospital doc. But DP doesn't, so fair enough to try for another, right? I wasn't sure at first though DP very keen, but since 1st mc and now mc 2 it's been a bit more of a pressing need for me too.
38 is pretty old (though I don't look it! Honest!) to be TTC and I feel a bit embarrassed about it in front of DP because he's a young whippersnapper by comparison (29). I want to be able to give him a child or two before it's too late - am I being naive? Am I just too old?
I have a pretty regular 28 day-ish cycle and fell reasonably quickly with all my pgs (2nd month every time) but worry that we might 'try too hard'. Heard this saying a lot over the years and never thought it might apply to me - ladies what are your thoughts on this? Is it just one of those things my older relatives said to my cousin to make her feel better after 10 years of trying?! She adopted in the end and fell pg straight away...
I sound like a bloody naive teenager I know but I can't help it..! I can hear this giant clock in my head 'tick-tock'-ing as the months go by and I get older and older and less likely to conceive. Baaaahhhh!!!!!!!!
Advice, hand holding etc gratefully received, and returned, as we embark on this precarious journey together. Good luck to all of you, may we all have bfp by January! 