TTC for 10+ months, part 4

[eurochick]

Time for a new thread as the other one is just about full.

Fingers crossed for lots of patiently-awaited BFPs on this one!

PS Ignore the incompetent spelling. Tis early and I was woken up

Loving the 4am shagging drizzle . respekt.

Thanks for the "not too old", and sorry about the rather down bit in my post last night, I suspect that should have stayed in my head. I will apply a stricter edit function from now on

Morning all! We're off on holiday to make the most of shag week, wohoo :)

Lemon V impressed at the 4am shag! And surely Kate M is too thin to get preggers so quickly?! Better get on, or I'll be in trouble with MrG. Have good weeks!

Ps Can't work out how to copy the stats, so please could someone more technologically minded than me add me? Ta lovelies

Gin ttc 16 months. Me 33, DH 32. My 21 day blood tests all fine. DH's SA disastrous! Count of 3 mil, very few normal and crap morphology. Urologists appt in Dec.

wine ttc 12 months, me 34, nothing appears to be drastically wrong yet bar a 9.5 fsh that consultant thinks was done on wrong day. Mr wine 32, 7% morphology which seems to be a problem and not a problem depending on who we talk to.
nelly ttc 15 months, me 37, blood tests show nothing major wrong, no further tests done on me yet. OH 33, first SA all normal. Still not organised enough to get second set done, or indeed get round to further investigations. So unexplained so far.
Pixiepops ttc 12 months, me 35 - blood tests all ok apart from low amh so time is of the essence. Starting clomid next cycle, if no bfp after 4 cycles our consultant's going to refer us for ivf. DP's 36, his only SA was good.
Karbea ttc 13 months, me 37 - blood tests all ok, not further tests done yet. DP's 38 - 1 SA done results "average" (whatever that means). Going to ARGC on Monday! Yikes!
LemonDrizzle ttc 16 months, both 32; all tests done at 12 months: nothing wrong with me (except slight irregularity, but we are talking a range of 24-31 days, with most 26-28), DH's SA okay but low volume and possible (head) morphology issues - after deliberation they sent us home to try more. Next step is IUI in Feb, then IVF in summer/autumn. Debating whether I want intervention yet, because it took my parents 6 yrs.
Gin ttc 16 months. Me 33, DH 32. My 21 day blood tests all fine. DH's SA disastrous! Count of 3 mil, very few normal and crap morphology. Urologists appt in Dec.
cakes82 ttc 13 months, married 18months. Me 29, DH 28. (af irregular range of 22-43 most around 25-26) DH's SA satisfactory bloods all fine apart from LH/FSH get retest results today still think done on wrong day tho. Clinic appt 22nd Nov.

No nelly don't edit more, please! I like the fact that here there is no need for editing. Just be yourself and so if you are feeling bitter or worried or miserable, you can show it. I ranted about SiL didn't I?

Which reminds me gin sadly no guarantees, if people are too heavy or too skinny, that they will join the back of the queue....

First ever post on MN but I have followed you through part 3 and want to say hello before part 4 is over! (I also read part 1 but feel that doesn't count as I never thought it would take this long then!)

On the topic of pregnancy jealousy I have to block thoughts about the possible children who might have been conceived by DH 15 years ago when he was a sperm donor (!!?). I don't think I would even wonder about it if it wasn't for our struggle (but thankfully it was all anonymous back then...)

I also don't know how to copy stats but here are mine:

citysnow ttc 14 months. Me 35, DH 35. Irregular and longish cycles before accupuncture started in May (now about 30 days rather than 38-44) so trying to pretend it has only really been 6 months...All tests done and show nothing so we are unexplained. IUI due to start in Jan 12 (with clomid?!)

Thought I should try again to add mine to a list (I hope that's ok?) - back to work now as I can see how additive this could get!

wine ttc 12 months, me 34, nothing appears to be drastically wrong yet bar a 9.5 fsh that consultant thinks was done on wrong day. Mr wine 32, 7% morphology which seems to be a problem and not a problem depending on who we talk to.

nelly ttc 15 months, me 37, blood tests show nothing major wrong, no further tests done on me yet. OH 33, first SA all normal. Still not organised enough to get second set done, or indeed get round to further investigations. So unexplained so far.

Pixiepops ttc 12 months, me 35 - blood tests all ok apart from low amh so time is of the essence. Starting clomid next cycle, if no bfp after 4 cycles our consultant's going to refer us for ivf. DP's 36, his only SA was good.

Karbea ttc 13 months, me 37 - blood tests all ok, not further tests done yet. DP's 38 - 1 SA done results "average" (whatever that means). Going to ARGC on Monday! Yikes!

LemonDrizzle ttc 16 months, both 32; all tests done at 12 months: nothing wrong with me (except slight irregularity, but we are talking a range of 24-31 days, with most 26-28), DH's SA okay but low volume and possible (head) morphology issues - after deliberation they sent us home to try more. Next step is IUI in Feb, then IVF in summer/autumn. Debating whether I want intervention yet, because it took my parents 6 yrs.

Gin ttc 16 months. Me 33, DH 32. My 21 day blood tests all fine. DH's SA disastrous! Count of 3 mil, very few normal and crap morphology. Urologists appt in Dec.

cakes82 ttc 13 months, married 18months. Me 29, DH 28. (af irregular range of 22-43 most around 25-26) DH's SA satisfactory bloods all fine apart from LH/FSH get retest results today still think done on wrong day tho. Clinic appt 22nd Nov.

citysnow ttc 14 months. Me 35, DH 35. Irregular and longish cycles before accupuncture started in May (now about 30 days rather than 38-44) so trying to pretend it has only really been 6 months...All tests done and show nothing so we are unexplained. IUI due to start in Jan 12 (with clomid?!)

Just popping in to say hello.

Nelly I don't think you should edit more. I totally understand that you would feel that way. And I'm sure you're not the only one. I was conscious of already having DS when we were struggling, and I totally understand it's a different thing when you're going for dc1.

I think the lovely thing about this thread is that people do say what they think. That's what makes it such a support.

I so wish I could take a magic wand and give everyone struggling that BFP.

We are away this weekend with some friends. Last time we went away I was feeling bitter about aware of several others being pg (who'd started ttc after us). This time I think there are one couple who'd been trying for 6 mths 6 mths ago (iyswim). So if no news, then I guess they've been going for a year. And I'm sad that I might be the one to make them feel worse this time. I did have a conversation with the husband last time and he knew we'd been trying for more than a year at that point, so maybe they know that DH didn't just wink at me and job done. But, as you say, I think our struggles would be scarce comfort for them as we already have DS. I just don't want to make them feel bad .

Anyway, I'm waffling now. Sorry to wibble on! xx

but - is she actually pregnant? Or does she just hate peanut butter, which is NOT peanut paste how silly AND the nhs says it is fine to eat peanuts now, which is good because WHEN I get pregnant I couldn't live without peanut butter. I am very thin at the moment and surprised I'm still getting periods. But if KM is pregnant I will still think she is too thin and it isn't fair. Although, it is 7 months now, so technically, she can join our thread in the new year as I bet the trying commenced in April.

I am liking the stats update, I do forget where we're at etc. Welcome to all new people citysnow the sperm donor is an odd one, does your dh think about it?

nelly you have voiced a quiet thought of mine but actually I think in the thread of olden days before I joined there were bfps of ttc no 1s? Who has been here from the start? And anyway, the odds are in our favour, it is almost impossible that we will all not be able to have babies. We may just be chatting on here for a while! I do feel like a lot of you are good friends now and I love that.

I am currently writing a book chapter. It is meant to be in by the end of next week and um, I'm very behind. So, me and dh, who is writing too are today following a rule of write for 30 minutes, have 10 minutes on the net. My ten minutes just ran out - but I will be back!

Adding myself to stats update before posting:

wine ttc 12 months, me 34, nothing appears to be drastically wrong yet bar a 9.5 fsh that consultant thinks was done on wrong day. Mr wine 32, 7% morphology which seems to be a problem and not a problem depending on who we talk to.

nelly ttc 15 months, me 37, blood tests show nothing major wrong, no further tests done on me yet. OH 33, first SA all normal. Still not organised enough to get second set done, or indeed get round to further investigations. So unexplained so far.

Pixiepops ttc 12 months, me 35 - blood tests all ok apart from low amh so time is of the essence. Starting clomid next cycle, if no bfp after 4 cycles our consultant's going to refer us for ivf. DP's 36, his only SA was good.

Karbea ttc 13 months, me 37 - blood tests all ok, not further tests done yet. DP's 38 - 1 SA done results "average" (whatever that means). Going to ARGC on Monday! Yikes!

LemonDrizzle ttc 16 months, both 32; all tests done at 12 months: nothing wrong with me (except slight irregularity, but we are talking a range of 24-31 days, with most 26-28), DH's SA okay but low volume and possible (head) morphology issues - after deliberation they sent us home to try more. Next step is IUI in Feb, then IVF in summer/autumn. Debating whether I want intervention yet, because it took my parents 6 yrs.

Gin ttc 16 months. Me 33, DH 32. My 21 day blood tests all fine. DH's SA disastrous! Count of 3 mil, very few normal and crap morphology. Urologists appt in Dec.

cakes82 ttc 13 months, married 18months. Me 29, DH 28. (af irregular range of 22-43 most around 25-26) DH's SA satisfactory bloods all fine apart from LH/FSH get retest results today still think done on wrong day tho. Clinic appt 22nd Nov.

citysnow ttc 14 months. Me 35, DH 35. Irregular and longish cycles before accupuncture started in May (now about 30 days rather than 38-44) so trying to pretend it has only really been 6 months...All tests done and show nothing so we are unexplained. IUI due to start in Jan 12 (with clomid?!)

ladygee tcc 12 months. Me 29, DH 32. DH SA is below average on all counts (don't remember all the stats). HSG showed problems with my right tube. On IVF/ICSI NHS waiting list (13 months). Deciding when to take the plunge and self-fund IVF/ICSI.

wine ttc 12 months, me 34, nothing appears to be drastically wrong yet bar a 9.5 fsh that consultant thinks was done on wrong day. Mr wine 32, 7% morphology which seems to be a problem and not a problem depending on who we talk to.

nelly ttc 15 months, me 37, blood tests show nothing major wrong, no further tests done on me yet. OH 33, first SA all normal. Still not organised enough to get second set done, or indeed get round to further investigations. So unexplained so far.

Pixiepops ttc 12 months, me 35 - blood tests all ok apart from low amh so time is of the essence. Starting clomid next cycle, if no bfp after 4 cycles our consultant's going to refer us for ivf. DP's 36, his only SA was good.

Karbea ttc 13 months, me 37 - blood tests all ok, not further tests done yet. DP's 38 - 1 SA done results "average" (whatever that means). Going to ARGC on Monday! Yikes!

LemonDrizzle ttc 16 months, both 32; all tests done at 12 months: nothing wrong with me (except slight irregularity, but we are talking a range of 24-31 days, with most 26-28), DH's SA okay but low volume and possible (head) morphology issues - after deliberation they sent us home to try more. Next step is IUI in Feb, then IVF in summer/autumn. Debating whether I want intervention yet, because it took my parents 6 yrs.

Gin ttc 16 months. Me 33, DH 32. My 21 day blood tests all fine. DH's SA disastrous! Count of 3 mil, very few normal and crap morphology. Urologists appt in Dec.

cakes82 ttc 13 months, married 18months. Me 29, DH 28. (af irregular range of 22-43 most around 25-26) DH's SA satisfactory bloods all fine apart from LH/FSH get retest results today still think done on wrong day tho. Clinic appt 22nd Nov.

citysnow ttc 14 months. Me 35, DH 35. Irregular and longish cycles before accupuncture started in May (now about 30 days rather than 38-44) so trying to pretend it has only really been 6 months...All tests done and show nothing so we are unexplained. IUI due to start in Jan 12 (with clomid?!)

ladygee tcc 12 months. Me 29, DH 32. DH SA is below average on all counts (don't remember all the stats). HSG showed problems with my right tube. On IVF/ICSI NHS waiting list (13 months). Deciding when to take the plunge and self-fund IVF/ICSI.

joycep ttc 19 months (22cyles). Me 32, DH 29. DH SA fine (7% morph). 1 m/c at 7wks 17months ago. I seem to be fine with a low AMH level for my age. Shortish LP. Tried Clomid for 2 months. Progesterone Suppostories. 2 x IUI cycles. 3rd IUI cancelled.

karbea I love Candy Anthony. A friend of mine got married in a (leopard print) CA dress and it looked awesome. Have you tried to sell it privately? May I ask why it was never worn? Did you go for something else instead?

wine I'll know more about what the immunology tests involve next week so I will report back. I think it's mostly blood tests.

I like your discipline. I need to do that. I have sooooo much to do today and I am reading MN. ARGH.

here is my addition to the stats:

wine ttc 12 months, me 34, nothing appears to be drastically wrong yet bar a 9.5 fsh that consultant thinks was done on wrong day. Mr wine 32, 7% morphology which seems to be a problem and not a problem depending on who we talk to.

nelly ttc 15 months, me 37, blood tests show nothing major wrong, no further tests done on me yet. OH 33, first SA all normal. Still not organised enough to get second set done, or indeed get round to further investigations. So unexplained so far.

Pixiepops ttc 12 months, me 35 - blood tests all ok apart from low amh so time is of the essence. Starting clomid next cycle, if no bfp after 4 cycles our consultant's going to refer us for ivf. DP's 36, his only SA was good.

Karbea ttc 13 months, me 37 - blood tests all ok, not further tests done yet. DP's 38 - 1 SA done results "average" (whatever that means). Going to ARGC on Monday! Yikes!

LemonDrizzle ttc 16 months, both 32; all tests done at 12 months: nothing wrong with me (except slight irregularity, but we are talking a range of 24-31 days, with most 26-28), DH's SA okay but low volume and possible (head) morphology issues - after deliberation they sent us home to try more. Next step is IUI in Feb, then IVF in summer/autumn. Debating whether I want intervention yet, because it took my parents 6 yrs.

Gin ttc 16 months. Me 33, DH 32. My 21 day blood tests all fine. DH's SA disastrous! Count of 3 mil, very few normal and crap morphology. Urologists appt in Dec.

cakes82 ttc 13 months, married 18months. Me 29, DH 28. (af irregular range of 22-43 most around 25-26) DH's SA satisfactory bloods all fine apart from LH/FSH get retest results today still think done on wrong day tho. Clinic appt 22nd Nov.

citysnow ttc 14 months. Me 35, DH 35. Irregular and longish cycles before accupuncture started in May (now about 30 days rather than 38-44) so trying to pretend it has only really been 6 months...All tests done and show nothing so we are unexplained. IUI due to start in Jan 12 (with clomid?!)

ladygee tcc 12 months. Me 29, DH 32. DH SA is below average on all counts (don't remember all the stats). HSG showed problems with my right tube. On IVF/ICSI NHS waiting list (13 months). Deciding when to take the plunge and self-fund IVF/ICSI.

euro ttc 12 months (now on cycle 13). Me 35, Husband 36. Married 14 months. My blood tests fine, although I only just scraped a reading of 30 to confirm ov. TV u/s fine. HSG - tubes all clear. Hubby's 2 SAs fine -some below average scores but on different factors across the 2 tests so the fertility clinic thought this was fine. Now awaiting NHS IVF and seeing a private consultant for immunology testing soon. Would like to discuss with him the possibility of less "drastic" treatment before IVF.

I crossed posts with joycep so can whoever adds next please capture both of us? Thx.

Joyce - may I ask why your 3rd iui cycle was cancelled? Hope you're ok my lovely?

Apologies in advance for what is going to be a me me me post. I'll catch up properly later on but I would really appreciate your perspectives on something.

We're just back from the hospital where we discussed next steps. In a nutshell, the consultant said there are a number of issues (blocked tube/below average SA) accumulating that point to IVF/ICSI being the best route for us. He said there was a chance of conceiving naturally eventually but that right now we?d be good candidates for IVF/ICSI success.

We can go for it straight away (well, in 3 weeks time and then start injections after Christmas) or wait until next year ? I genuinely don?t know what is best. I can see the arguments for waiting until next year but I can?t get past the fact that if we wait we?ll be running into several milestones that I know will knock me for six if we?re still in limbo. The main ones being that my sister will have her baby in March, my 30th is next Summer and then not having a baby by the end of 2012. (Not to mention K-Mid and any other people that overtake us in the meantime!)

I know this is stupid and that having milestones is a dangerous game as there are no guarantees in any of this. But I think I was at my lowest a couple of months ago when I knew things weren?t right and there was nothing we could do about it but wait for results of tests etc. Now we have IVF there as an option, would I have the strength to wait and see if it happens naturally in the next few months or should we just get on and start IVF?

I?m not sure if any of that will even make sense to you all but any advice/opinions would be much appreciated.

And that took me so long to write that I missed euro's and joycep's posts...

Hello lovelies! An away at the moment helping with wedding preps for a dear friend and am desperately trying to keep up on my phone. Massive waves to you all-loving the chat! Can someone add my stats in so I don't get left behind?! :) thanks!

kitty 32, DH 33. TTC #1 for 15 months. DH's first SA showed poor morphology (2%). Second one count and morphology better (7%). As wine said, some people think that's fine and others not. Day 21 test done, confirmed ovulation (60). No other blood tests done yet; consultant deemed unnecessary as ov response so strong got my HSG next week. Next appointment in Feb and a could be a straight referral for ivf. Considering self funding a few iui cycles in the meantime if tubes clear though.

By the way, nelly you are not the only one to have had that thought. I try and put a positive spin on it by thinking, well' those lovely ladies already knew they could make a baby, and their bodies knew what to do, but it STILL took ages, and for no discernible reason either.

ladygee my 2pnth? You are 29 - you have plenty of time. So the only "deadlines" you face are the ones you are imposing on yourself, and that way madness lies.

When do you want to do IVF? I mean in your heart of hearts, not when your head tells you would be the best time to compete with people around you and various public figures. Are you ready now? If so, go for it. If you need a few months to get your head around it, wait. It is a stressful process and it will be a bit easier if your head is in the right place when you embark upon it.

Here is a list with me, joycep and kitty all in the same place to make it easier for others to add theirs:

wine ttc 12 months, me 34, nothing appears to be drastically wrong yet bar a 9.5 fsh that consultant thinks was done on wrong day. Mr wine 32, 7% morphology which seems to be a problem and not a problem depending on who we talk to.

nelly ttc 15 months, me 37, blood tests show nothing major wrong, no further tests done on me yet. OH 33, first SA all normal. Still not organised enough to get second set done, or indeed get round to further investigations. So unexplained so far.

Pixiepops ttc 12 months, me 35 - blood tests all ok apart from low amh so time is of the essence. Starting clomid next cycle, if no bfp after 4 cycles our consultant's going to refer us for ivf. DP's 36, his only SA was good.

Karbea ttc 13 months, me 37 - blood tests all ok, not further tests done yet. DP's 38 - 1 SA done results "average" (whatever that means). Going to ARGC on Monday! Yikes!

LemonDrizzle ttc 16 months, both 32; all tests done at 12 months: nothing wrong with me (except slight irregularity, but we are talking a range of 24-31 days, with most 26-28), DH's SA okay but low volume and possible (head) morphology issues - after deliberation they sent us home to try more. Next step is IUI in Feb, then IVF in summer/autumn. Debating whether I want intervention yet, because it took my parents 6 yrs.

Gin ttc 16 months. Me 33, DH 32. My 21 day blood tests all fine. DH's SA disastrous! Count of 3 mil, very few normal and crap morphology. Urologists appt in Dec.

cakes82 ttc 13 months, married 18months. Me 29, DH 28. (af irregular range of 22-43 most around 25-26) DH's SA satisfactory bloods all fine apart from LH/FSH get retest results today still think done on wrong day tho. Clinic appt 22nd Nov.

citysnow ttc 14 months. Me 35, DH 35. Irregular and longish cycles before accupuncture started in May (now about 30 days rather than 38-44) so trying to pretend it has only really been 6 months...All tests done and show nothing so we are unexplained. IUI due to start in Jan 12 (with clomid?!)

ladygee tcc 12 months. Me 29, DH 32. DH SA is below average on all counts (don't remember all the stats). HSG showed problems with my right tube. On IVF/ICSI NHS waiting list (13 months). Deciding when to take the plunge and self-fund IVF/ICSI.

euro ttc 12 months (now on cycle 13). Me 35, Husband 36. Married 14 months. My blood tests fine, although I only just scraped a reading of 30 to confirm ov. TV u/s fine. HSG - tubes all clear. Hubby's 2 SAs fine -some below average scores but on different factors across the 2 tests so the fertility clinic thought this was fine. Now awaiting NHS IVF and seeing a private consultant for immunology testing soon. Would like to discuss with him the possibility of less "drastic" treatment before IVF.

joycep ttc 19 months (22cyles). Me 32, DH 29. DH SA fine (7% morph). 1 m/c at 7wks 17months ago. I seem to be fine with a low AMH level for my age. Shortish LP. Tried Clomid for 2 months. Progesterone Suppostories. 2 x IUI cycles. 3rd IUI cancelled.

kitty 32, DH 33. TTC #1 for 15 months. DH's first SA showed poor morphology (2%). Second one count and morphology better (7%). As wine said, some people think that's fine and others not. Day 21 test done, confirmed ovulation (60). No other blood tests done yet; consultant deemed unnecessary as ov response so strong got my HSG next week. Next appointment in Feb and a could be a straight referral for ivf. Considering self funding a few iui cycles in the meantime if tubes clear though.

oh i seem to only have bolded my own name above...oops!

welcome city. Oh are you worried you'll be getting some knocks at the door in a few years?! I kind of like that idea for some reason...

I think egg is right. I don't actually think we 've had anyone who has been trying for over a year conceive their first on here yet.

Hi mrshy1 , my fellow short LP buddy. I'm so sorry about AF and that excuses any bitterness.

wine - i have been considering for some weeks now that i have immune issues after reading one person saying that the only clue to her immune problem was her not picking up any bugs. Well I don't seem to any more and I haven't had a cold in years. NOw that may be because i wash my hands now everytime i get off a bus or tube since the Pig flu scare. It costs a fortune to get tested though. Something like £3k.

I have no doubts Middy is up duffed. She wouldn't be allowing Willy to go to the falkland islands if she wasn't. And some of those pictures of her looking at him tell a thousand words. And not to be rude, that is the main aim of an heir's wife. I clearly think i'm a royal expert and an expert in body language too. What ever next!

Just had another scan and gynae has cancelled IUI as all 5 eggs are ready to go. So she has over stimulated me a bit! And apparently i'm going to be very uncomfortable when i ovulate. My boobs are really painful already which apparently is all the oestrogen. I'm producing ewcm by the bucket load (sorry tmi) as my body is in over drive. She has told us to wear protection actually which i said we wouldn't do because after 19months of trying , i can't believe we would get pregnant with 1 , let alone 5! Anyway she said if did get pregnant, 1 in 100 chance of triplets and she said if that was to happen, she would highly recommend us to get rid of 1 at 12wks. I was just lying there thinking , the chances of me suddenly getting pregnant with one, let alone twins or triplets just seems preposterous.

Then just had a conversation with her about my GP telling me that i should just relax and she said, well 97% of people would have conceived by now anyway. Thanks for the reminder! She said i'm not ready for ivf yet.

Just missed a bunch of posts and it took me an age to write above. lady - i echo Euro. You have to do it when you're ready , when your head is in the right place. Don't rush in to it jsut because your sister is due. I know that feeling though - it's awful and i think the pressure we put on ourselves because we feel competitive with others often adds to teh stress.

I managed to do the same thing, joy. The bolding does not copy across!

ladygee I am sure that 30 looming feels big and having pregnancies looming is hard..but 29 has time on your side. I personally feel (and these are my personal thoughts) that IVF is a mahoosive thing to do to your body, let alone the cost side of things. I'm almost 35 and not ready for it yet. My advice would be to give yourself time, at least to get yourself mentally and physically ready.

joycep are you pissed off it has been cancelled with your 5 lovely ripe eggs? I wouldn't wear protection, I'd just think of it as having lots of targets to hit. It is nice your gynae has such faith though. It shows that it is a real concern to her which means or happens. I'm at advice if it was triplets though..I so hope this gives you a good chance and that it isn't too painful. Also, I'm not sure I agree with the 97% thing either. My gp said from his pamphlet 80% in one year 90% in two and 95% by three years in the age bracket 30-39. Then, if you factor into that 5% people who have major probs (no sperm/totally blocked tubes) I really do think that if we all just waited and time wasn't an issue, that we would get pregnant. I just think it just might be a long wait! My acu said that after 30, you have just a 10% chance each month even if everything is spot on - she had an ace diagram I've not been able to find online. I find her to be very wise. Felt wary at having the Dr Beer book waved at me though. I can't buy it or read it, it would frighten me. But not as much as The Hunger Games which has actually made me jump.Well actually it would probably scare me more.

I think people lie a little about how long it took. Turns out my friend who got pregnant on first cycle had actually been off the pill for about 5 months and just counted that as first month because her period had felt normal again. I know thats still quick but I reckon exaggeration happens because there is an odd shame in taking a long time. So, tosh to your gp! And - you have conceived before. You can and will do it again

When you lot do get pregnant I would like to send you something when the baby comes. You're up first biscuits!! I will settle for e-card if people want to stay anonymous!

My ten minutes are up!

wine ttc 12 months, me 34, nothing appears to be drastically wrong yet bar a 9.5 fsh that consultant thinks was done on wrong day. Mr wine 32, 7% morphology which seems to be a problem and not a problem depending on who we talk to.

nelly ttc 15 months, me 37, blood tests show nothing major wrong, no further tests done on me yet. OH 33, first SA all normal. Still not organised enough to get second set done, or indeed get round to further investigations. So unexplained so far.

Pixiepops ttc 12 months, me 35 - blood tests all ok apart from low amh so time is of the essence. Starting clomid next cycle, if no bfp after 4 cycles our consultant's going to refer us for ivf. DP's 36, his only SA was good.

Karbea ttc 13 months, me 37 - blood tests all ok, not further tests done yet. DP's 38 - 1 SA done results "average" (whatever that means). Going to ARGC on Monday! Yikes!

LemonDrizzle ttc 16 months, both 32; all tests done at 12 months: nothing wrong with me (except slight irregularity, but we are talking a range of 24-31 days, with most 26-28), DH's SA okay but low volume and possible (head) morphology issues - after deliberation they sent us home to try more. Next step is IUI in Feb, then IVF in summer/autumn. Debating whether I want intervention yet, because it took my parents 6 yrs.

Gin ttc 16 months. Me 33, DH 32. My 21 day blood tests all fine. DH's SA disastrous! Count of 3 mil, very few normal and crap morphology. Urologists appt in Dec.

cakes82 ttc 13 months, married 18months. Me 29, DH 28. (af irregular range of 22-43 most around 25-26) DH's SA satisfactory bloods all fine apart from LH/FSH get retest results today still think done on wrong day tho. Clinic appt 22nd Nov.

citysnow ttc 14 months. Me 35, DH 35. Irregular and longish cycles before accupuncture started in May (now about 30 days rather than 38-44) so trying to pretend it has only really been 6 months...All tests done and show nothing so we are unexplained. IUI due to start in Jan 12 (with clomid?!)

ladygee tcc 12 months. Me 29, DH 32. DH SA is below average on all counts (don't remember all the stats). HSG showed problems with my right tube. On IVF/ICSI NHS waiting list (13 months). Deciding when to take the plunge and self-fund IVF/ICSI.

euro ttc 12 months (now on cycle 13). Me 35, Husband 36. Married 14 months. My blood tests fine, although I only just scraped a reading of 30 to confirm ov. TV u/s fine. HSG - tubes all clear. Hubby's 2 SAs fine -some below average scores but on different factors across the 2 tests so the fertility clinic thought this was fine. Now awaiting NHS IVF and seeing a private consultant for immunology testing soon. Would like to discuss with him the possibility of less "drastic" treatment before IVF.

joycep ttc 19 months (22cyles). Me 32, DH 29. DH SA fine (7% morph). 1 m/c at 7wks 17months ago. I seem to be fine with a low AMH level for my age. Shortish LP. Tried Clomid for 2 months. Progesterone Suppostories. 2 x IUI cycles. 3rd IUI cancelled.

kitty 32, DH 33. TTC #1 for 15 months. DH's first SA showed poor morphology (2%). Second one count and morphology better (7%). As wine said, some people think that's fine and others not. Day 21 test done, confirmed ovulation (60). No other blood tests done yet; consultant deemed unnecessary as ov response so strong got my HSG next week. Next appointment in Feb and a could be a straight referral for ivf. Considering self funding a few iui cycles in the meantime if tubes clear though.

mrsden 30, DH 31. ttc 16 months (18 cycles). Tests show I have PCOS but think I ovulate most months but not all. DH has very low count and poor morphology. ICSI recommended, saving up to start summer 2012 and praying for a natural BFP in the meantime.

I hope you don't mind me popping back, but I graduated pregnant for the first time (now 35 weeks). It only took 10 months but I had spent over a year before that fiddling about with medications to try and balance out my health problems before being allowed to start. I think I was really lucky to have a head start on what was wrong though with doctors on board from the start. I was completely rattling with steroids and started the IVF process when I got my BFP. I was the fourth graduate I think, so there might be a baby by now.

There are some people here worried about rushing into IVF and possibly regretting not just trying unassisted for longer, or regretting not going for it. I think once you are pregnant, you start to bond with that specific baby and it is impossible to regret how it got here. Had I got pregnant straight away, it would have been a different baby so I don't wish it had been any easier - I love this one with all the characteristics I have attributed to it, that might not have been there through a different route or a different month. I don't know if this makes any sense, but I just hoped it might reassure anyone that is worried about regrets whichever route they choose. My neighbour had IVF and has said very similar things. I know, technically, I would have loved whatever baby I got but that is like imagining DH away through circumstance and I don't think these emotions are completely rational - it is just really hard to regret a real baby, I think, and I know that everyone on here will have one at some point, it's just about finding the right route.

Good luck stasi with the possible honeymoon baby and good luck to everyone else! When I see this thread in active conversations I always hope I'll click on it and all the people I recognise will have left, has pout graduated? Hope so!