TTC for 10+ months, part 4

[eurochick]

Time for a new thread as the other one is just about full.

Fingers crossed for lots of patiently-awaited BFPs on this one!

this is where you can work out your success chances for free

www.ivfpredict.com/

I get 36.2%. Not sure if that makes me feel hopeful or not. I'd love to see 99%

Mm. I get 29% and 42 if I use donor eggs. Humph.

I really really wish I hadn't done that. 22.8%. I think I have literally just experienced my heart sinking. Given I put us down as unexplained, it must be my age.

Fuck.

36.2 for me too mrsd. Seems a bit shit seeing how much we're going to have to pay for icsi. Guess it's better than the 1% chance (or whatever it is) DH and I have naturally.

nelly don't take too much notice of it. It can't be v scientific. It knows nothing about your hormone profile etc.

Anyone know whether they give you a similar % at the clinics?

I scored the same as you Nelly. Try not to worry .

I kept messing about with the age bracket as it didn't ask anything about amh and it was the only way I could think to factor my low amh in. For me at age 40 it fell to 10% so I'm not sure I should have really.

Thanks - I will just put it down to a shit calculator .

I have just realised I need a new name.

Quick post for nelly

My cursor used to do that! I got it fixed last week by much research and a wee download. Try this it solved mine!

I tried a few different options on calculator and got between 30 and 36% :(

I wouldnt worry too much about it, i'm under 30 and have managed to conceive naturally in the past and STILL only got 34% !

Oh izzy thank you, I will try that. If that works, you will be my new best friend forever

Fingers crossed it works nelly. Mines was driving me mental!

OK well I think I have tried it so let's see if we have made it work.

Of course I need to go to bed so shouldn't be sitting typing all night, but hey so far so good, this seems to be keeping it in the right place.

WOW - 2 years of screaming at the netbook on a regular basis, and 5 minutes to fix it! Well if MN doesn't get me pregnant, at least it has solved this .

Ah who cares about shite IVF percentages, at least I have the internet....

Thanks izzy !!

I come out to 22.8% too. I'm not sure why so low. Age, probably. Meh.

(that is the one I had found before)

So I have caught up. Phew!

My percentage 32.6 - but not too shocked, as actually our gyn quoted something similar.

And having read back the past 10 pages I had loads of reactions, but didn't write them as I went along. So apologies about missing anything but the high/lowlights.

Big congrats again to snow and purple already for got one of you. I am so pleased as well by "longer term success" and encouraged that we won't all need IVF etc. And that you are both first time mums (to be) is encouraging as well.

My condolences for your mums boyfriend and many, many sympathies for the troubles you are going through with your mum pout. Also early/belated/no idea when in Jan you are getting married, but for about then/very much well-meant and excited CONGRATULATIONS to you too. I so hope the day goes well, you have a lovely celebration and do that (really annoying) thing of making a honeymoon baby. But I am sure I can speak for all of us, that that is something we would be very happy about. In this single special instance, I hasten to add.

On the topic of unpleasant pre-christmas surprises, hugs to wine for the results of your lap. I really hope you'll get to speak to your consultant soon (but it would be Feb, right?) and get a plan of treatment that will result in a lovely BFP later this year. How are you feeling about it all now?

Wonderful to hear about the all-clear for another year, stasi! Congratulations.

Lovely to read all the Christmas/New Year sentiments about having had loads of support here for the past year, just want to echo that. Wonderful to have you lovely ladies here to chat with, to off-load to and to learn from. You are FAB.

Right, big waves to all, apologies for limited name checking. I now need to finish my breakfast and get on the hideous early train I need to work Far Away from home today. Hoping for good days for all of you.

Ignore the part after purple's name, initially I had forgotten her, but didn't edit the post properly. It is early!

Thanks lemon quick wave to everyone else. Me me me post before work, got shocker of a preg announcement last night, I've cried so much my eyes are swollen this doesn't get easier does it? I needed that person to be unpregnant for just a bit longer. I feel horrible for being jealous and upset over something I should be celebrating. I am losing hope that it will ever be me and having nightly nightmares about hysterectomies. Big fat swollen sad face.

Morning ladies! Hope everyone is ok.

Thanks for all your good luck for ICSI - can't believe we'll be starting in just over two weeks.

Welcome back lemon - glad you had a lovely time over Christmas.

cakes - so pleased your HSG went well and you got a good result

gin - it took me a long time to tell anyone, my sister's pregnancy was the trigger for us telling my mum, dad and sisters but I'm so glad that I did now as they've been a real support. DH's mum and dad know too now, we told them before Christmas so that we wouldn't have any awkward questions

fatima - we're doing ICSI in Manchester too! We're at Care Manchester. Sorry you might have to wait another few weeks, hope that gets sorted soon.

wine - your weekend sounds fab, just what you needed.

I did that calculator thing and come out at 35.7% - don't know what to think about it really but it can't be very scientific.

I'm off to head office today to sort out time off work for ICSI. Whilst the MD and HR know what's happening, I still need to decide what to tell all the nosey buggers that I only see once in a blue moon when they ask why I'm having time off... time to think on the train though.

Waves to everyone else.

Oh wine - I missed your post as I spent so long typing mine.

I'm so so sorry. It really doesn't get easier so don't be hard on yourself for feeling like you do. Your time will soon be here.

I know what you mean about having people who just can't be pregnant at the moment - I have an old friend from school who is that person for me. I know that the announcement will come soon but I also know that it will flaw me when it comes.

Take care of yourself today x

I am so behind and will catch up properly later but just wanted to pop in to give wine a quick virtual hug. Am so so sorry about the preg announcement, I totally get what you mean about people you need to not be pregnant. I really hope you feel better soon lady, we all know how you feel so please vent on here x

My number is 33%. so three goes and I'll definitely have a baby, right?

The ivf stats are not brilliant but if you've followed the ivf threads on MN you'll know that lots of the lovely ladies get bfp's.

Morning everyone. Well, DH and I managed to get up and along to the hospital to do his SA. He asked me to come with him, even though all I did was sit in the waiting room. I found it kind of sweet though. He was saying afterward that he wasn't sure how long he should take.. would the nurse notice if he was too quick, or too slow?? I have to admit, I couldn't imagine going into a room in a ward and being told to orgasm on demand, and come let them know when I was done.

Still no AF today, but another temp drop so I think it's on it's way for sure now. If I don't get it by tomorrow though then I'll POAS so I have some idea before my appointment.

Wine so sorry you've had a bad pg announcement. I count my lucky stars every day that I don't know anyone who is trying, or likely to try soon. Although, it also shows how few friends I actually have.

ladygee I'm really excited about your starting your ICSI for some reason, I hope you're more excited than worried.

I also got some low percentage for the IVF predictor survey. The questions are very vague as far as medical detail is concerned. I fiddled through all the options for the cause of infertility, and the success rate for multiple factor was higher than the success rate for any of the others

Morning ladies!

I tested this morning (as I need to know if I can stop the steroids) and got a BFN at 12dpo so I know it is all over now. I didn't feel at all pregnant this month anyway. ERTD due tomorrow or thereabouts. On to cycle 15 of "concerted efforts". I'm a little down but not too bad, although I am disappointed that the first assisted cycle hasn't ended differently to any of the unassisted ones.

I think that calculator is a bit odd and it so depends on the clinic and the skills of the docs. If you look at some of the stats it is shocking that for example you have 65% chance of a live birth at the ARGC and less than 20% in other places!

wine we all know the feeling, its gutting isn;t it? And then you feel guilty for feeling that way in the first place. The girl next to me at work is beginning to show. Its her 2nd (an accident!!) she only came back from Mat leave in the summer. We used to be really close and I was so interesting her pregnancy the first time and this time I can barely look at her. It has really affected me and I am afraid I am feeling all bitter and twisted about it. I feel like a right caw.

I'm sorry if I've upset anyone by posting the calculator . It seems very rough, so I wouldn't take too much notice of it. I guess it's good for reminding me not to pin too much hope on ICSI working first time though. I think we need to remember that it might take a few attempts but that if we can afford to keep going we will get there eventually.

wine I'm so sorry you are upset. I know exactly what you mean about some people you really didn't want to get pregnant first. I have had a few of those moments over the last year, two of my best friends and my SIL. I now have one other friend and DH's sister that I really don't want to get pregnant before me but I think they will now. It's so hard and I don't have any advice on how to deal with it other than to say don't feel guilty, it's a perfectly normal response to be upset and jealous.

I can't remember who said about ewcm and bad period pain. I had loads of ewcm this month and AF turned up last night and is very painful. I had to get up in the night to take a painkiller because of cramping and now it's so heavy and I feel bleugh. Roll on home time.