Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your leathers, black nail polish, air guitar and jump in the mosh pit for some serious metalling. All welcome! (Part 18)

[Summerbird73]

New thread for some serious metalling. We are ramping up the amps and churning out some Metallica, Nirvana, ACDC, Stone Temple Pilots... with the occasional 90's rave music!!

If you have miscarried and are ready to TTC again, come and join us in the WTF cycles with the odd VIP ticket to the padded cell for some serious mentalling (now known as Metalling)

Welcome!

Hi ladies - sorry I've been AWOL - had much catching up to do with DH !!!

Really can't name check as too much seems to have gone on but welcome back to our rejoiner (I don't think thats a word but I'm going to use it anyway), sorry the AF has got some of you but chin up for a Xmas TTC and festive baby making. really hoping baby is ok and just keeping my fingers crossed that she has some wonderful news!!

Feeling like a bag of hell at the moment - went in for my 25 week Dr's appointment and she has pushed all my insides around and now I feel really off colour. I explained before she started that I had a hernia but she looked at me like "so what". I explained that I had unbelievable pain when the baby moves against the hernia and she said maybe I was just "sensitive"......basically that I was being a wimp and needed to suck it up. I then explained that if lots of my intestine comes through the hole I feel really unwell when I push it back in - I get hot flush, nausea, feel like I'm going to black out. She said that "these types of things are perfectly normal and most women manage to cope with them and don't have any real symptoms from their hernias during pregnancy. I felt really small when she said that, like I was making it all up. I didn't bother to say anymore as she didn't seem to give a crap and just let her finish what she was doing, luckily all seems fine with the baby. Within 5 mins of leaving the surgery I nearly collapsed. I felt sick, blurry vision, tummy felt like it was on fire and just wanted DH to bash me over the head to make it stop. I still feel unwell, my stomach is really sore and uncomfortable. I'm off to see the midwife in a minute as im sure this isn't normal and want a second opinion!!!

Sorry for returning with a huge rant but no one else would understand why the Dr's treatment would make me feel so unhappy.

Love to all and hopefully will have something better to report later!! Xxxx

Oh no IQ that sounds horrible , I hope that the midwife is more helpful and that you feel much better soon!

bloody hell IQ. hope the midwife is more understanding. that doctor sounds like a dick!

not much happening with me. i haven't even been doing my charting this cycle. i keep seeing my thermometer as i am dashing out to work and realise i have forgotten to do it. must try to get back in the habit.

this time next month i will be ttc - woo hoo!! i actually can't wait to be pg again. that is a massive turn around as i said i am never doing it again after last time! just got everything crossed that it works out next time. not sure if i could face it going wrong again. just hope the treatment plan works.

hope everything is ok at the scan baby. got my fingers crossed for you.

wow pebs i can remember when you were all because you had to wait until christmas to TTC again - and here it is!!

IQ hoping your MW is a tad more sensitive, sounds like the GP has knocked you all over the place. oh and [nudge nudge wink wink] on the old 'catching up with DH'

baby hoping your scan went well, will check later for some good news!

blue at your bloody employer, however as an aside are there any cupcakes left?

waves to everyone else and welcome back jaffas i do remember you and welcome you back in to the fold (i was an interloper too and have just returned)

was at my parents on Friday and Saturday so was feeling a tad frazzled when we returned on Saturday. My parents are fine but i have a toxic sister who likes to stir things up a bit so was trying to ignore her whilst having a lovely time with my family

CD24 and 11DPO and not testing till Saturday. Definitely not as my parents are up on Friday for the night and if i do get a BFP i cant face telling her again after her fucking-useless-support slightly tactless comments in August (apparantly a MMC at 5 weeks is 'just a late period dear' )

So yeah i will not do a test, see if i am PG then i wouldnt drink on Friday night and she would guess anyway, so at least this way i will be clueless and just have a couple of glasses of redvino

However if AF comes before then i shall just get hammered! actually no i wont as i always get belligerent with her when i am hammered

just read that back and i had quite a little conversation with myself there!!

ooo and i have just noticed these

Gosh, martha just look at all the anger in your post - positively littered with At least with the festive emotions, anger doesn't seem quite so, um, ragey

How weird - I Do Not Like mince pies, really not. Yes, right now, I'm fancying a warm one, with double cream but it must be puff pastry and not short. Could this be my first ever craving? I have to say, I don't think I will kill someone if I don't have it (and I can't be arsed to trot out, so chances are, I will remain mincepie-less) so maybe not.

Perhaps it's just that this cold (which is damn awful, btw ) making me want some kind of comfort. But why something I've never liked before?!

Thanks all for being kind - the mid wife was fabulous (as ever) and very sympathetic to my pain and my problems. She has sent off a referral to have a consultant/specialist look at me.

She has suggested rest and pain killers but said that if it continues I should call the hospital delivery suite and have them see me and check me over to make sure that everything really is fine.

Martha totally love all your angry faces......that is exactly how I feel at the moment. Well angry and nauseous to be honest.

manda a mince pie sounds amazing - might have to send DH out for some if this pain in my tummy continues.......which so far it seems like it is!!

pebs whoop whoop for TTC soon - very exciting!!!

Big wave to poppy meant to say that your consultant appointment seems to have come up with some useful plans and hopefully this will get you on a positive path towards your BFP.......keeping it all crossed for you!! Xxx

Still waiting on baby for an update.........nail biting isn't it!!!

Hugs and kisses to everyone else!!! Xxx

Just jumping out out of the lurky lurk lurk corner to look for some news from baby ! Hope the scan went well my lovely xx

I do keep meaning to actually post to all but work is just so stupidly busy and inbetween that and Christmas shopping I don't seem to have much free time at all!

Hope everybody is well xxx

Hello everyone!

Guess what? Its ALIVE! And not only that but is offically 'a bit of a livewire' according to the sonographer! I am SO relieved! I actually cried, and felt like hugging the sonographer as if it was due to her that 'it' was alive! The chance of Downs is tiny according to the back of the neck and it took ages to get the right angle as the little bugger would not keep still. It really looks like a mini baby now too, which I wasn;t expecting as on the pics of scans it always looks far more fuzzy and vague. I could see arms, legs, feet and fingers!
Am SO massively relieved as I am sure you can all more than appreciate. Thank you so much for your support ladies.

IQ that sounds frigging awful. And the doctor is horrible being like that. Even IF they think you are hamming it up it's a bloody unproffessional attitude, and I am angry on your behalf. How you feeling now?

Off out for dinner but possibly around later, Bx

Woo hoo!

I may be lacking puff pastry mince pies, and I may be lacking the chinese food I was dreaming about (and woke salivating about) and I may still be FULL of this crappy cold... but couldn't be happier to hear your news, baby! I love the Horror Film annoncement style of It's ALIVE! Lovely, lovely news. Hope you can feel reassured now.

DF looked after DS2 whilst I slept. He just said he had THE most boring afternoon and doesn't know how I do it. I don't either! DS2 is poorly too, so literally all you can do is be with him here whilst he potters/ watches tv . I didn't confess MN is my saviour but I'm sure he knows regardless

Thanks Manda. I can't quite get my head around it yet, it still seems quite surreal (but in a good way.) Livewire indeed!

Yay Baby so pleased to hear your news, that is just fantastic! I'll admit I did keep popping on here to see whether you had posted yet - so I can relax now too

Hope you got some copies of the lovely scan pics

Thanks Poppy. We have one pic but it doesn't look half as clear and obvious as it did on the screen, it's a lot more 'vaugely baby shaped' when it's not moving. Still, its better than nothing! The scan was in two parts as s/he didn't get in the right position so I had to leave and go to the loo and come back when she'd scanned someone else. This gave DH chance to go and get a voucher for the pic, we didn't want to buy one before as we did that last time and, er, it didn't get used. He still has it in his wallet but didn't want to use it. Weird how all this makes people who are usually so rational turn into superstitious freaks!

baby, I'm delighted for you!

Yeah fantastic news baby!!!

IQ so glad the MW was nice after the doc was so awful at the way they treated you!! How are you feeling now?

manda glad you got to rest this afternoon!

marthas I think your POAS plan is a good one and definitely one of self-preservation too!

Oooh....just noticed we're at 943posts so we're going to need a shiny new thread and title soon...not that my brain is capable of thinking of anything right now....any suggestions ladies???

hehe - i looked back at my post and i am rather working through some 'ishoos' arent i?!! honestly i go all when i talk of DM and Dsis and turn into a petulant 14 year old!! the sis has just FBd me to say how much she loves us all

anyway - woo hoo to baby for a fabby scan result and IQ for kicking ass with the MW and last but not least blue for having a male boss who is clearly lurking on this thread

Delighted for you baby, that is such wonderful news! You were in my thoughts today.

IQ what a shocker of a doctor, glad you have a sensible and kind midwife.

Off to bed now, sending you all best wishes

Firstly - YAY for baby so pleased everything is going well and just hoping you and the minisauraus carry on like this......fully agree on the superstitious thing - haven't worn the outfit i had on when we MC'd since that point and actually refuse to look at in the wardrobe when I go in there just in case it sends bad vibes towards the bump!!!

Must update you on yesterday's shannanigans (this may not be the correct spelling but you get my meaning)........so after taking the paracetamol and rest as suggested by the MW I still felt like a bag of hell and so decided that I needed to be seen in hospital. Off DH and I went, with my hospital bag (yes I've packed my bag but in my defence after the last emergency visit and stay at hospital I wasn't taking any chances and that bag has been ready for over a month).

Got to hospital at 4:45pm and didn't leave until 10:00pm, didn't think this was too bad but DH was "shocked" by how long it all took. I had to remind him that the wheels of the NHS turn slowly and luckily I wasn't the emergency person being dealt with which had called away a team of surgeons. He did agree and calmed down a little after that. We had the usual "pee in this pot" and explaining to 3 different people "what the problem was", a dr did come in and poke around quite hard with it all but funnily enough after he did that i felt much better. He wasnt sure what it was, between the worry and watching me rolling around in pain DH lost his patience a little and demanded answers. He said to the Dr that if it wasn't a hernia what was it and why had no one looked at his daughter.........yes ladies he referred to the LO as "his daughter" - I did find this very sweet but was in a bit too much pain at the time to say anything. The poor Dr looked a bit scared (DH can pull his 'military' voice out when he gets annoyed and it is a little intimidating) and he said he would ask a senior collegue to come and look at me.

Eventually a very nice (and pregnant) surgeon came to speak to us on her way home as she was worried we would be waiting all night. We went through everything and I have been given some good advice and a firm diagnosis, i do in fact have a hernia and the feeling I was getting yesterday was because it was strangulated. The first Dr had in fact accidentally pushed it back in and helped me to avoid emergency surgery........DH did feel bad for being bossy once we heard this. The senior surgeon explained that the pain I was having during the day wasn't directly because of the hernia but was braxton hicks and the squeezing of my uterus was 'disturbing the defect in my stomach'........couldn't believe it - I thought braxton hicks was in the last few weeks. Apparently my rocking and breathing was exactly the right thing to do and this will give me a gauge on how I will feel during 'the real thing'. I'm not going to lie - if this is fake labour I will be asking for drugs as it is bloody awful. But with mild exercise and taking good care of myself I should be able to make it through to my due date without surgery and she was hopeful that things would return to their original state once the baby is here which pleased me. DH was able to ask and get answers for all his burning labour related questions and was satisfied so all in all we left the hospital happy.

DH has finally stopped snoring for a minute so I'm off back to bed to try to get some rest - love to all!!
Xxxx

IQ bloody doctors (and i happen to know due to my job that a lot of them are crap!). Hope you are getting plenty of rest and am so glad you are ok. Hopefully things will be a little - erhem - calmer for you now...

Right i am going to make a confession - i have been all 'yeah yeah i am totally coooool with the whole TTC thing - i mean TTC? - whats all that about anyway yada yada'

BUT

i am TOTALLY metalling this week! i am CD25 and 12DPO. Now by my calcs i shouldnt have an AF until Saturday but bloody hell, how many more times can i prod my (.)(.)s and be obsessed with potential metallic taste in mouth (oh and sickness which is actually due to a huge cream cake from greggs!). I had the BFP cold that i am sure Blue had.

I have got DAYS to go yet but am on full metallic throttle.

Oh marthas

Ohh baby that is fab news, hooraaayy you must be so so relieved!

I am trying to catch up with everyone's news so briefly -

poppy I am really sorry about what happened, you poor thing but great that you have found a good consultant and you have a plan.

IQ you poor thing but so glad you are all sorted now and that you won;t have to have any surgery pre your daughter arriving (your DH sounds wonderful!!)

martha we are cycle buddies I think, FX for you this month.

Holiday was brilliant, very relaxing and I feel restored. Lots of SWI but sadly have AF cramps and spotting today so gutted we did not manage it this month, I really thought being on holiday would help. My luteal phase has also gone up the creak again as I am only on day 22 and I think I ovulated on day 13 (I think just based on body signs as I decided to totally leave the pee sticks behind!)

I hope everyone else is happy and well.

Will be back later!

Whoop whoop for baby's baby

Thanks everyone, once again! I couldn't sleep last night, despite being knackered, as I couldn't switch my brain off. I think you have to have had a miscarriage to understand properly the stress these things, ie scans, can cause. My RL friends who have been through similar 'got it' immediately while those who have never had a miscarriage were far more blase - not that many knew before I went for the scan, I mean in our conversations afterwards (hope I am making sense!) It it still quite mind boggling how clear it all was, all the wriggling and, er, smacking itself in the face. I could have watched it all day!

Marthas DON'T TEST! Saturday is a while off, but not too much of one! I had the metallic taste too, so it could, eeek, be a sign! I also got so pissed at a friends house the weekend before I tested that I fell out of bed in the night