TTC after a Miscarriage - Dear Santa, beanies for crimbo, please!!

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Well here we are! Hopefully htis one will take us up to crimbo, althoughthe way we gas, probably not!!

Hears wishing all us TTcers all the luck in the world and all those who are PG already, lots of stretchmarks and piles!!!! hehehee!! Not really, lotso f luck to you too

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question...CD1 ...when do you count it after natural mc? Is it from first day of bleed on mc or day passed my angel or do we just wait until first AF arrives and start again? not really sure???

Hello all.

Thought I would just pop on to let you know I saw my GP today regarding the odd bleeding I have had the last couple of months.

Unfortunately she seems to think I have had another MC We can never be 100% sure as it has been and gone, but she says what I experienced last month is consistant with the signs of an early MC. I am going to have a scan soon (waiting for an appt) and I am contemplating having a D&C in the new year. I feel okay about it, just shocked. I didn't know I was PG although i did have a bit of spotting around the CD20 mark and was suspicious that it was an implantation bleed. But like i say, I will never know for sure.

oh ASH you know how i feel about this. i am always here if you need me for anything at all.
I hope you are coping ok with it, well as ok as can be expected.

Hi Ash,
so sorry to hear your news have been wondering how you are.

I hope your appointment comes through quickly so you can get yourself sorted.

You take good care of yourself and have a nice relaxing xmas with your family. x

Lets hope 2006 brings a lot of love and luck for you and the rest of the ladies trying.

Oh ASH how unexpected, can't believe this has happened again. how do u n dh feel? hope u r ok as can b, xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Oh ASH. I'm sorry hunny I hope you are ok, understand if you want to dissapear again for abit.

I'm always here if you need to talk as are all of us, you're in my thoughts and I hope you get everything sorted ASAP.

Love and hugs to you darlin'

ASH - So sorry, my love.
Hope you are bearing up ok. You are always such a smiley bedrock of support to everyone else so please know that there's TONS of love and support coming back your way.

Snowballstrike - have just caught up with this thread and reaf about your BFP. I'm truly delighted for you.

ASH huge (((((((())))))) hugs for you you know where i am anytime you need me even if its just for a good ol' moan or cry. Im sure i will be doing plenty of crying for this last year and everything that has happened
Sorry for depressing everyone hope you are all ok and looking forward to Sunday xx

ASH huge (((((((())))))) hugs for you you know where i am anytime you need me even if its just for a good ol' moan or cry. Im sure i will be doing plenty of crying for this last year and everything that has happened
Sorry for depressing everyone hope you are all ok and looking forward to Sunday xx

Hangar my lovely-sending you lots and lots of love and hugs (((((((XXXXXXX)))))))

mygarland-here's hoping for you hun. ((xx))

Thanks everyone for your thoughts. I'm fine, really. I had no idea I might have been PG so it doesn't seem so hard this time.

I am still going to lie low for a while. TTC is a bit too much to think about right now. But I wish all of you all the very best, and I hope you all have an amazing christmas and heres to a great 2006 - it has to be better than 2005.
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Hi ASH, and everyone
hugs to you ASH I think 2005 has been the shitest year ever for alot of people, most of us on here anyway, 2006 must be better! so i say baby dust to you all for 2006 and most importantly a happy year

Hello, guys sorry i havent been on today, bit hectic.
Ash i am so sorry and hope and pray that you are ok and that 2006 is a lot better.
Mums hugs to you and hope everything goes well.
Garland, good luck and i hope its good news.
Well i am going to bed as have rotten cold.
Did the xmas shopping i was meant to have done nearly 2 weeks ago today. It was really packed and horrid. .
Picking up turkeys 2morrow. (1 4 xmas 1 4 new year) and last minute food shopping then have family visiting to do for next 5 days!
Then i go back to work in the new year, dont know if im happy or sad. But im sure i will deal with it. So goodnight all.

G4P - sorry to hear about your cold.

I finished my xmas shopping on monday but i've gotta go back again to get some cards and more wrapping paper and of course some selotape so maybe I havent finished. lol

morning all, well the kids have broken up here now, i have 7 today so will be busy busy. going to have a really festive day today. loads of art and cooking and eating going on!! can't wait. could do with some happy days

hope everyone is ok x x x

Morning all, diddle u poor thing I've only got 3 at home and it's hectic! Means our schools go back on 4th. back home they're not breaking up til fri .
Well still no af but bfn on test I'm still hoping so I've decided to get a more sensitive test (last one was 25U/mL) and do it on Fri. But to confuse matters think I had some more EWCM this morning!!! I'd love some news to tell family over xmas.
G4P think I know what u mean about family. We've gotta visit them all 24th, 25th and 26th before we come home. I'm from BIG family, mam and dad were each one of 7 children, and then there's dh family!
Well gonna put xmas tree lights on, xmas songs and watch watership down (on this afternoon) while doing housework and trying to sign in to msn!
x

mygarland - hmm watership down haven't seen that for years. yep got a heavy day planned, alreayd done xmas hats now, all up to date. got crackers to make now and biscuits, and have a snack.
think i must be the only one with a working msn, i'm the only one online

good luck with you testing, should be here firday so will be keeping an eye on you!

Hi all, very busy today, picked up turkey and last minute wrapping then out tonight, so wishing every one of the best of luck. Finish my antibiotics today hoorah! Do laproscopy scars go hard? mine seams to be very thickened. Anyway going to get my hair done so see you soon.

Have a wonderful night G4P

I feel like whispering I'm so nervous, but could I maybe ask for some advice? I was on one of the antenatal threads, but I had a missed miscarriage. The EPRC was 3 weeks ago, and I know I'm still grieving and raw. But we're ttc again (with the blessing of my doctor) which is about all I can hang onto for hope right now.

But ever since the miscarriage, I have no appetite. I know that emotional disturbance is making me this way, but I had an eating disorder back as a teenager and it's all getting horribly familiar. I'm 28 in a week's time - this feels ridiculous. But I'm struggling to eat at all (so far today, a mince pie. wahey), have barely done so for 4 weeks now and weight is just falling off me, which isn't great given I was size 10 to start with. Thing is, I couldn't care less about the effect on me except that it might hurt any baby I concieve when I'm like this. Not that it helped when I ate properly and avoided everything you're supposed to last time of course. I'm taking prenatal vitamins and folic acid, but I'm worried I'll hurt it. Is there anyone else who's been here and can reassure me that it will be ok?

p.s. no way on earth am heading to my gp, as the surgery was a nightmare with the miscarriage. next time am planning to avoid them until as late as possible and just see a private clinic for scans etc.

Hi muppet,

Sorry to hear of your loss .

I read if you are under or overweight there's a risk.. and certainly a mincepie is not enough for you let alone a baby. The baby needs you to eat well so they get all the right nutrients from you whatever you do effects the baby. Maybe its a little too early to ttc and you need to concentrate on getting you better and grieve a little.

I understand about your teenage problems too and think you need to think of yourself and come to terms with things and try and eat a healthy meal plan. If you feel good then your body will be in better condition to receive.

I do hope you feel better and well enough to eat properly .... I am now concerned for you..x

Hi muppet, sorry for your loss, I'm sure every1 will b sympathetic.
Maybe the appetite thing is just temparory and when u r feeling better then u can ttc, u don't have to just because u physically can. If u really have no appetite then I'm sure in time u will get better but if u do have an appetite and r not eating then u've got a problem. You may blame yourself for the mc (even tho it's not your fault) and whether u have an appetite or not u might b doing this as punishment to yourself.
As nikki said being underweight is not beneficial for having a baby u need to eat properly to ttc so u've gotta decide if u wanna carry on like this and not ttc or get some help/help yourself and if this carries on for too long then u need to get help however u did last time u got over your eating disorder.
If u do get pg again then u will pretty much need to go to a gp private or otherwise and not just for scans for bloods too.

Hi Muppet,

I remember reading when you had your missed mc, I'm really sorry for your loss and I hope you can get over this.

I understand if you dont want to go to your GP esp if you've had a bad experience with them. Can you go to counselling? Or just talk to a family member. Your DH perhaps?

Dont think of it as a disorder, think of it as. If I dont eat I cant have a baby.

I've got the opposite thing going on at the mo. If I eat this crap i cant have a baby.

I dont know if that helps at all, but I wish you all the best and hope you come back to talk to us.

muppet3 - have done some research and for the sake of your baby think it might be worth you reading the link.

hope this helps

morning ladies - can't believe how close xmas is getting!!!! how exciting, went to get a few drinsk and nibbles for the festiev seasona nd ended up spending £80, theres only two of us and we're not here xmas day or boxing day think we got carried away.

How are we all today???