Sixth Form Common Room part IV - ttc and pregnancy post mc

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This is the place to be if you are ttc post mc / pregnancy loss and need a little spot to call home.

Hey ladies

it's been jolly quiet here - hope that means you're all ok. Fun weekend planned with my parents coming up to visit. The plan is that DH is going to sleep on a campbed in our room - apparently this is going to be a big adventure!!

hugs and waves to you all

It has indeed been quiet in here! I'm just waiting for my AF to arrive next week so I can properly start on the TTC rollercoaster again!

In the meantime as well as all the supplements I'm also trying to eat super healthily so I'm in prime condition to grow a baby (and maybe lose a few lbs before Xmas!)

Hope all you ladies are well and have a lovely weekend xxx

Hello all, it has indeed been quiet in here!

edwards fabulous news re scan

tomboy hope your cycles settle down soon, that must be so frustrating!!

Best of luck to tomboy and moomin and anyone else in full ttc mode...

knitter great to hear you sounding so positive, hope you have a good weekend

ladymb are you out there? How are you doing?

I'm getting some promising pre-AF symptoms (cramps, slight metal mouth, yelling at the dog), so hopefully my cycle will be back in business in the next day or two.

I've also had my 37th birthday, which is depressing me mightily. We started TTC just as I was turning 35, we've been at this for two years now, and we have nothing to show for it.

knitter did you mean your DS will sleep on a campbed, or is your DH unusually excitable?

tomboy the symptoms are promising, here's hoping that AF is just around the corner. Happy birthday! i hope you were spoilt rotten, sorry that you're feeling a bit down about it.

lily! Lovely to have you back proper for the full on mentalling that is TTC. Hope you're ok.

green that sounds like a plan, and I'm sure it can only be of benefit either way!

Loving the Mo talk. I am finding all the mo's I come across hilarious. Although it's much funnier when you don't have to kiss them, I feel your pain moomin

In other news I only have 11.5 more days to work. Unfortunately this equates to nearly 4 weeks, but we will gloss over that part. I have done my xmas shopping and only need to buy wrapping paper and cards. Am starting to feel festive, or at least I will after ds's bday on the 30th of November.

I've fell off the thread, sorry ladies!

lily lovely to hear vpfrom you and thsr you're now ready to jump back into ttc! I really hope a bfp is just around the corner for you!

Lots of great scan news!!!

knitter excellent scan news so so happy for you!

Edwards great news on your scan too!

mouse yay for booking in and good scan!

moomin glad to hear your wtf cycle is finally over!

tomboy your short break sounds lovely! Not in your van though I assume? Our is poorly now too....doesn't start and has a leak!!!

olives hope your AF comes soon

yrmotb 11.5 days left of work!!! That's nothing! Those 4 weeks will fly! I'm impressed with your preparedness (is that a word?!) for crimbo!!! I just about got most of my Christmas gifts on Friday although I still have some small bits to get and I have nothing for DH!!! Although to be fair we bought a new expensive camera and said that was our gift to each other, but I still need something for him to open on Christmas day!!!

Tina hope you're ok Hun?

It's my EDD today!!

Collie how exciting! I await news!

Oh, and sorry to hear about your van. We went on holiday in ours, though we didn't camp in it. All was fine on the way there, but we broke down on the way back. DH has had a look and doesn't think the problem is major, so that's at least a silver lining.

(DH suggests you might want to replace your gaskets and make sure there's compression if your one is leaking. I sort of know what that means...)

Still no AF here. Just a single solitary spot yesterday. This is most unlike the way I normally come on. Could I have ov'ed and conceived despite not having a period last time it was due? I know it's not likely, but I do wonder...

I fell off too!

tomboy you know the answer is yes of course you could have conceived! Fx here!

Hellooo everyone

YRMOTB - good spot. Yes the plan was that DS was going to be on the campbed... In the end he managed half the night in the campbed and half in bed with us on Friday. Then last night half in teh campbed then he transferred in with us... at which point I cunningly shimmied out and into the campbed :)

Weekend went well - we may repeat the trick at Xmas when my parents are back up for a few days.

hugs and kisses to all

at Knitter and DH / DS mix-up, had me wondering there too - glad the weekend went well.

Tomboy have you tested yet, its entirely possible. I had a bit of spotting with my last bfp exactly when AF would have been due, aparently its quite common.

Collie any news yet? Been lurking on the grads thread for you too, just in case.

YRMOTB wow not long left at work then, sure it will fly over. Very organised with the xmas stuff, I've yet to get started.

Tina & Falcoln hello if you're around x

Thanks all for the welcome back, all good here so far.

Now you see I did think it was a bit odd that knitter's dh was so enthusiastic about the campbed but didn't like to say anything as he seemed so excited

Hello lovely ladies!

Have had a little giggle about Knitter's DH/DS camp bed excitement, although I actually think that my DH WOULD be excited about a camp bed, mo n all. Some people never grow up, we bought a tent last year, and I thought he was about to burst with excitement when we got to to the campsite.

This first post AF is dragging on and on. On day 11 now, although it's just the yucky tail end of it, it feels that there is no end in sight! I just want to get on with TTC, am getting impatient now. I used to ovulated around days 10-12, so my cycle is obviously out of sync. I've got a feeling it's going to take my body a while to re-establish itself.

Please all keep everthing crossed for my lovely SIL this week, as she completes her first cycle of IVF after trying for DC no 2 for 3 1/2 years. I really hope that it works for her.

Hi Ladies, hope you are all well, weekend sounds great Knitter, camp bed and all!

Hope you're feeling relaxed and prepared for your imminent arrival Collie, very exciting!

Tomboy I'm sure it is entirely possible to get a BFP in this bizarre cycle - gotta be worth a test?! And belated happy birthday

YRMOTB I'm in awe of your xmas organisation! And 4 weeks left at work will fly by I'm sure.

I have everything crossed for your SIL Moomin and for you getting rid of AF (hopefully for the next 9 months!)

Nothing new here apart from sore boobs which means AF will shortly follow then I can crack on with operation TTC yet again! Depressingly it has now been 2.5 years since we first started TTC no.2 (sigh) and it's getting boring now! Still the mood DS has been in for the last 2 days its probably just as well I don't have a sibling to cope with too - think he must be having some sort of testosterone surge or something!!

Big waves to everyone else.

Moomin my first AF post-mc was a long and extra-heavy one as well. It's perfectly normal for things to be rather abnormal for a while. (Says the current poster child for abnormality.)

Olives thanks for the birthday wishes!

I've been resisting POASing because I don't want to see yet another BFN on this ridiculous cycle, but I suppose I should take the plunge. If nothing else, I've been drinking and caffeinating as if un-pregnant on the assumption that I won't be fertile again until AF shows up, and if I'm not un-pregnant, I should obviously stop that.

Well, stick said no. Again.

Please mister, can I have my cycle back please?

Boo to stick and to crappy ridiculous cycle Tomboy

Thanks Tomboy, AF seems to be getting stranger by the day. Today a lot of dark, watery stuff (sorry if TMI!!), just want this one to be over so that I can wait for the next cycle, am pretty sure that I won't conceive this month! Hope that you get your cycle back soon.

Hello all,

We're back from 9 lovely days in the Maldives which was lush, hence no communications for the past two weeks! Finding these dank Autumn days a bit of a comedown since we got back and struggled to get my head around singing 'rudolph the red nosed reindeer' in DD's toddler group this morning. Is it really that close to Christmas?

Tomboy and Moomin I hope your bodies get back on track v soon. The wait after mc is so, so hard. I found that acupuncture and reflexology helped to regulate things after both losses.

Digi Did I read that you have your anomaly scan coming up? Fingers crossed all is well, that's a huge milestone x

Izzy Could you erm, give birth pretty much any day now?!

I've been wondering if anyone has seen/heard from AandR? I'm guessing she's probably taking a break and will rejoin us when she has some good news.

I have my scan on Friday morning to try and rule out the same problem that we had last time, v anxious. I'll be 10+5 and that's really the absolute earliest they can check for neural tube defects with any sort of certainty so I feel like I've just been in denial since the bfp. Haven't allowed myself to bond in any way and we've only told our parents so far this time. I'm not sure I'll even be able to look at the screen. It feels like there are so many hurdles to jump. I'd just like to see a hb, then I'll look away and cover my ears while the consultant looks at the rest. Not sure if they'll do nuchal or not on the same day or if I'll have to wait, all being well, another two weeks til my routine 12 week appointment. I told a friend today and she asked at which point I thought I could relax and I honestly couldn't answer.

wiggle I'm 39+3 so guess it could be any day (eeek!). Glad you had a good holiday and I'll be thinking of you on Friday - it's sooooo nerve-wracking isn't it . I hate scans now, even if I can actually feel the baby moving I still can't look at the screen until they say they've got the heartbeat. I'll be keeping everything crossed that you get some reassurance, you're definitely due some good luck x

moomin and tomboy I hope your bodies start cooperating soon

Ooh, wiggle, best of luck for Friday then. I'm sure it will all be well. I'm very jealous of the maldives.

moomins my first AF after mc was 9 days long(!) and really lumpy, sometimes watery, sometimes dark, sometime bright. Over the next 8 periods it got lighter until back to usual 3/4 days of medium/ light flow. And then I got pg.

tomboy that's shitty. Sorry.

Waves to everyone else.

Hi all,
Just wanted to say hi as thought it would be rude not to! I've been lurking since my mmc early September at 11 weeks. I tested friday and got a bfp but finding it much harder than I thought as I've not told anyone yet (last time it was heart breaking untelling everyone).
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ostrich WELCOME... lovely to have you here with us :) Congratulations. I know exactly what you mean about telling and then untelling people... It's such a horrible experience - I've got a bit of a fear about it this time...just can't bring myself to put it on FB...

Amusing week here - seem to have been doing lots of things that are giving me the fear... Got maternity clothes out of loft. Sorted through maternity clothes. put maternity clothes in wardrobe and put clothes that require having a waist in box in loft. Started wearing maternity clothes. Realised had to explain suddenly very obvious podgy belly - tis' not doughnuts it's a baby. So have now told work, friends, family etc...

At each step of the way I've been convinced that I've jinxed things but then have to have courage and remain confident that these things cannot be jinxed.

Have also bought myself a doppler... obviously expect freak-out messages from me soon when I, through my own incompetence, cannot find HB once it arrives...

Hugs to tomboy your WTF sounds very WTF :(

Just popping in to say hi as have been lurking for weeks without posting, hoping tina and falcon are out there? There's lots of positive stories on here and so many BFPs it's great but as we've been ttc since mc in Feb/March I feel a bit out of place as a "long termer"so have found a 10+plus thread. Will keep popping in and reading all the good news and hoping fo rlots more x

Hello ostrich- welcome! For some reason I always want to spell Ostrich with an extra T in it. I shall have to purge myself of that. Congratulations! I essentially played Tetris whenever I had a spare moment in my first 12 weeks and DP thought I was depressed . Really, I just couldn't deal with thinking about it.

knitter I found myself thinking of having jinxed everything only 2 weeks ago (32 weeks) after having washed the baby clothes in neutral from DS and picking up the cot from my SIL. So I totally understand.

loup I hope you keep popping in, it will be lovely to hear when you get your BFP. Hugs x

Hi ladies, hope you're all well. Those due dates have come round fast!

Good luck for the scan wiggle I hope it all goes well.

Well done on telling people knitter. I had to tell too as I'm already in that too big for a lot of my clothes and too small for mat clothes (was starting to resemble a scarecrow).

Good luck too all who are on WTF or ttc at the mo. This has been an incredibly lucky thread (touch wood) and I hope it continues for you all.