IVF / ICSI - everyone welcome for questions, hand holding, and waggle dancing

[Gardenpixie]

Ladies, we ran out of space on the old thread so here is a sparkly new one with dedicated areas for waggle dancing, hormonal outbreaks of bonkersness, sniffing, injecting and progesterone pessary related fartiness.

For anyone thinking about starting IVF / ICSI or going through it at the moment, do come and say hello. These wonderful ladies have kept me sane through the last few months and are a source of all knowledge concerning tests, down-regging, ov stimulating, DIY injections and much more so if you need any info or just some company, do join us.

So here's a welcome for everyone and an enormous waggle dance for many many more BFPs to come

Oh ladies so much sadness today

ellan louise so very sorry for what you're both going through. This is all so terribly hard anyway and it's only the hope that it will all work out in the end that keeps us going. Look after yourselves over the next few days and glad that you both plan to try again some time in the future xxx.

GP so glad to hear that you have d&b onboard - they sound like goon-uns and I will be doing a little waggle dancing on the way to bed this evening.

Bodeccia fingers very tightly crossed for your test tomorrow and also to nocake when you do your's. I'm not OTD until Weds - very soon now!

(((hugs))) to all the fabulous ladies out there tonight - here's a little tune for you all

ellan Louise terribly sorry for what you are going through. Pls take good care of yourself. Big hug.

Well... There's a cross. A very faint cross. I'm calling that a BFP :)

Whoop, whoop Bodeccia!! A line is a line - CONGRATS! xx

Hi ladies,

Sorry I can t do bold text as am doing this from mobile...

Ellan I am so sorry to hear your news. As the others have said, there's not much any of us can say to make it better but know that we are all sending lots of love and hugs your way and will be here for you when you feel up to trying again xxx

Louise I can't imagine what you are going through lovely. What a difficult time for you. As with Ellan, we are all sending love and hugs and I hope you are able to be kind to yourself while you get over this. I second what the others have said re D&C vs a natural mc, one of my friends went for the natural option and really regretted it because it took so long and dragged out the pain. Hope you are looking after yourself xxx

Bodeccia wooooo hooooo for your bfp! Great news! I am doing big waggles for you and your mini bodeccia xxx

Big waves to everyone else, I hope you are all well. I am ok but trying to distract myself from thinking about anything ivf related and to convince myself that a bumpy car ride I took yesterday hasn't dislodged dandelion and burdock.

Have a lovely bank holiday xxxx

Bodeccia that's wonderful news! And an inspiration to my 'runty' embryos

Huge congrats Bodeccia , if you're anything like me you'll proceed to take 2 more tests just to make sure (not at all necessary, btw) then still won't believe it!!

Garden one of my best friends who had ivf remembers so clearly being in a taxi after her ET, with it flying over the speed bumps, in tears as it was so bumpy - she now has 2 DCs so they really are safe in there x

louise and ellan your news is heartbreaking. So sad for you. Look after yourselves and dp's/.

Congratulations bodeccia

Hi All

Back from camping in France - was very relaxing but I've discovered I'm not a camper!! Not going t do that again in a hurry but at least I tried!

Firstly Ellan and Louise I'm so sorry to hear your news. Sending big big hugs your way. There's nothing anyone can say to make you feel better so hang on in there, allow yourselves to cry for a few days and then get back up again and onto the the next cycle. Don't give up hope, it WILL happen.

No cake, Teds, Garden and Skitoo great news about your ETs, keeping everything crossed for you that they are snuggling in nicely and getting all cosy and settled. Keep busy over the next week or two to take your mind off things, lots of trashy films!!

Boddecia congratulations, fantastic news - mine was very faint to start with too so don't worry. Do you have to go in for a blood test anyway?

Welcome to Flyfox and Newroad, you've found the most inspirational thread.

Pumpkin, Blacktreacle, Danny and Jumping congrats on starting your cycles, time will go quickly now and you'll be having EC before you know it. Good luck with the drugs.

Womanly , Kool and Owl hope you're doing well. Great that you got to see a heartbeat Owl. I'm having my 9 week scan this Thurs, I'm kind of looking forward to it but also a bit nervous as I don't have many symptoms at all, no sickness, just tired and boobs slightly sore but much less so than they were.

Anyway I'm glad to be back and able to check in on you all.

xxxx

Hi everyone,

Congratulations bodeccia really lovely news for you!

Garden sending snuggly vibes to you, thanks for your message xx

Thank you for the messages ladies, feeling ok today as had lots of time to rest- roasts cooked for me etc. We planned a few treats for the coming months and have emailed the clinic today to plan forward for when Im feeling better, we have decided to get back on the saddle between Oct and December hopefully.

DH very quiet today, he says that he feels guilty (male infertility) for putting me through the injections etc, he will come round, they just sometimes need reassurance dont they? The strain of the injections, internal scans and EC ET soon disappears with a BFP and I will cling on to that.

Going to embrace the extra time I will have at work before hopefully being pregnant (god willing) made a list today of the things I want to achieve. Will be ready to apply for deputy head jobs soon so I am hopefully going to go on some training and also going to make time to go to the gym everyday so that a pregnancy wont be so much of a strain on my back (im not that big but a little weight loss would help!) Hoping that if I start exercising now I could carry on when pregnant again.
I am also a school governor and enjoy that role, going to offer my services to another local school as It will help to keep my mind occupied over the next few months.

Going to keep checking in daily ladies, you are all such an inspiration and we are all on a journey which is made easier and is more fun wih good friends.

Love to everyone xxxxx
ps thought I would have wanted this weekend but actually enjoying the new alcohol free me lol

Louise I am so sorry to hear your news but your approach to everything is really inspiring. To be able to move forward in such a positive way is brilliant and it's fantastic that you have got a time in mind to start again. Wow you'll be busy the next few weeks!!! I know I got to the stage I was putting my life on hold hoping to be pregnant next month or the month after that and it took me ages to realise it wasn't happening, that I just needed to get on with other things, and it has been so much healthier for me as well

Bodeccia wonderful news, I am so delighted for you!!!! And GP you must be so excited to have 2 little embies (love the names!) snuggling in in there, it's lovely to hear.

caramel, womanly, kool and owl it's fab to hear from you and good luck with your scan on Thurs caramel

Ladies please will you hold my hand for my first scan of this cycle which is on Wednesday morning, I am really nervous the naughty follicles will be small again, which is where it all started to go wrong last time....

Lots of love to all xxx

Louise just re-read my post and it sounds so insensitive...hoping to be pregnant doesn't even compare to what you have been through, I am really sorry....forgive me....am thinking of you anyway xxx

Evening Ladies

Louise, glad you're feeling a bit better and have been getting lots of TLC. Sounds like you've got a great plan sorted, some lovely things in the diary to look forward to and some time out before you cycle again. You go girl with the work and gym plans, you'll be smoking hot and full of confidence - BFP guaranteed . Poor DH, a normal reaction, as he just wants to protect his wife. Big (((((HUGS))))) to you both.

Ellan, hope you're doing ok today xx.

How many tests have you done now Bodeccia? And how did you manage to hold off testing early?!?

NoCake, am waggling like mad for you today/tomorrow, really hope it's good news for you sweetie.

And hang in there Teds, it's just 2 more sleeps .

Caramel I'm with you on the camping. Much to the disgust of our best friends who have just splurged on this ultra luxurious tent - but its still a tent, so no! Wow 9 weeks already, seems to have flown by, not sure it will have for you though?! Good luck for the scan, is that the last one you get before being discharged from your clinic to your GP?

Pumpkin, I'd maybe think about a different accu lady, as you certainly need someone who can make you think positively, not sure she falls in to that category . Hope DR scan goes well and you can start stims this week - time will fly by from then .

Garden, am sure D&B are getting snuggly and won't have felt any of the bumps. Have you got lots planned for the next week and a half?

Waves to Kool, Womanly and Owl, hope you are all good and not suffering too badly with early pg symptoms.

And here's a big box of yummy belgium chocs for all the ladies sniffing and injecting this week - it's helps with the ouchyness .

Did any of you ladies find the progesterone gave you really sore ? Mine are killing .

Hope everyone has good short weeks xx

Dannygirl your post does not sound insensitive at all!!! I thought it was lovely . You really have to be upbeat about this journey as Ive discovered locking myself in the house crying does not change the situation and I feel much better for planning forward for the next few weeks....back in the saddle! And you are definitely right with putting life on hold...I find planning nice things and getting involved with projects at work really takes your mind off things you cannot change by obsessing about them.
Sending you follicle growing vibes
Much love
Louise xxxxx
Ps got laptop back so I can finally flick through the pages on the thread

Big hug and hello to skitoo too this evening xxx

Big hug and waves to everyone xx

Congratulations bodeccia, wonderful news. Just goes to show it doesn't really matter what grade your embryos are, or what day they're transferred, if it's meant to be, it will be. Enjoy being pregnant, and bring on that ultrasound in a few weeks!!

Will post properly later but just a very quick one as am on my phone.

You are very brave and inspiring Louise. I hope you and Ellan are doing okay at this difficult time. Thinking of you both xx

Hope you are okay too Garden, Skitoo, New Road and Teds - not long now, especially for you Teds - have to manage to resist the peesticks?!

Lots of love and positive thoughts to everyone else xx

Anyway tested today (OTD tomorrow) and amazingly it looks as though we have a BFP. If feels very fragile though and so am trying not to get carried away if that makes sense.

Morning all

nocake that is excellent news, congratulations!

Thank you everyone for your lovely comments, it is still sinking in for me.

louise and ellan I am thinking of you both. I hope you're both doing OK.

Good luck with your scan tomorrow dannygirl! Come on follicles, don't be shy!

(((((( hugs all ))))))

Congrats box and cake

Congratulations cake wonderful news!!!

I'm actually doing ok, emailed the clinic and hopefully if AF comes back within next 8 weeks we will get the ball rolling. Have been looking at new cars this morning too, its nice to keep busy. Back to school in 5 days arrggghhh. That will keep my mind off things as Ive done no paperwork for the last 6 weeks.

Apart from feeling very drained am feeling ok

Hope everyone is great today xx

* Takes big breath *

Hello There... can I join...? I am officially a MN hoverer and over the years have joined several threads - the 'first timers', then the 'I will have a baby this year' one, then the ' been trying for over a year and still nothing' one, then the ' I darn well WILL have a baby this year' one... and after 3 years, finally thought maybe it's just not going to happen on it's own... and decided to get checked out with DH.

I am sure my story is similar to a lot of you, but it helps getting it out, so I hope you don't mind indulging me!

So far DH and me have been for all of our GP tests and it did turn out we have some problems. I was convinced that it was all me, and then it turned out that DH has low sperm count due to an operation he had when he was little. I also have a border line thyroid issue... so we are not in great shape. It was really hard dealing with DH's issues... It is so gutting for boys to find out things like that, and so unfair, because he feels like it makes him less of a man, which is so not true.

Today is the first hospital appointment and I'm feeling scared about what to expect. I am actually not sure what they will offer us or talk to us about. I really hope they are nice. I'm 31 so quite young to be starting things if I need to, but I feel like the entire rest of the world is pregnant and feel very up and down about everything.

I'm also scared about what is to come... I know I'm probably only at the start of a big rollercoaster and so I thought I would join up here for a bit of support, expert advice, and nice company... I hope that's ok and nice to meet you all...

Congrats cake that?s lovely news.

I didn?t resist and it?s a bfn for us. We don?t feel too bad ? Guys (and google!) couldn?t give us a single example of a 2-cell or 3-cell 3-day-transfer success so we did our weeping on ET day.

On the plus side we can get on with planning the next cycle and hopefully we?ll get embryos that develop properly next time ? just getting an embryo at all this time felt wonderful after all the months of nothing. On the downside it really is my turn to clean out the cat litter tray and I?ve no excuses now!

Welcome milly, just so you know my DH has the same problem for the same reason, and his brother is in the same boat too. They will prob suggest going straight for ICSI, but at least know you have a definite diagnosis it is usually pretty quick going forward. Take deep breaths- the journey really is a proper rollercoaster, but as you can see from this thread there are some fantastic outcomes xx

Welcome Milly!

Congratulations on your first apppointment today (every appointment, scan, injection is worth congratulating during this process as you're one step closer)
Is it an information appointment? At the beginning it all feels like a minefield IVF/ICSI/follicle this and that but you soon get into the swing of it and it makes it easier to have a forum like this to chat on.
Look forward to hearing about your journey. I'm Louise- Im 30, DH 40's and it was low motility that was stopping up natuarally. We had a cycle of IVF/ICSI this summer resulting in a BFP which later turned to a MC. In the process of rebooking for later in the year, hopefully Oct, Nov, Dec sometime.
Good lucK!
Lou xx

Oh, just spotted nocakes news- that's fantastic good for you! Glad there's some happy news too- didn't want to bring the whole tone of the thread down
teds big hugs- I feel a bit the same as you- knew our situation wasn't right at the point of transfer too. Onwards and upwards eh?